Posted: 2017-11-19 13:09
I was excited about this guy. I felt like he ‘got me’. He was on my level: we owned our own homes and cars, were hard working, had good jobs, and were involved in the community. It felt like a fit and I was pleasantly surprised when he invited me to spend his birthday weekend with him and his family in Palm Springs. My palms were sweating the entire time I was packing, but at the end of the weekend I kept thinking “these people are way too freaking cool”. His dad was a talker and a story teller. His mom didn’t look a day over 95 (she was 65) and was super warm and welcoming. I felt so lucky.
You learned a lot about racism in this experience. However, you did miss one area that I couldn 8767 t help but notice. Your black boyfriend most likely was rejecting much darker black women to be with you. Colorism is common among minority men who reject their own kind to be with white women. For example, Tiger Woods has an absolute preference for blonde white women with blue eyes most of the time. Occasionally, he dates white brunettes. Meanwhile, he rejects much darker black women who look like the women from the Supremes from the 6965s or Janet Jackson.
A Korean woman depends more on her family for support than a western woman. Koreans tend to live with their family until they are married off in their late 75s or early 85s. As result, they still have to follow their parents 8767 rules. It is common for women to have curfew even into their 85s. The curfew time depends on the woman, but don’t be surprised if you are dating a girl who is 75 and she insists she has to be home by 65pm.
Personally, from my experience this is odd.. very peculiar not because she dated or got involved with a Black guy, but in the sense that she is letting her dad control her and tell her who to date, marry, or get involved with. This is America, you should have the right to date, marry, intercourse, or get involved with whoever you want to get involved with regardless of what parents, friends, or society says or think.
Actually you are the selfish one. And very ingorant. I 8767 m sorry what happened to you in SA, that wasn 8767 t right and it 8767 s understandable that you are scarred by those days. But you know what? You can 8767 t blame people who come from different places of the same thing. That is rude. And to tell your daughter that she must choose between two people that she loves that it 8767 s either your way or the highway is pretty selfish.
I 8767 ve been tomented all my life by white guys calling me mean names but here I am dating one who is so kind and helpful and tries his best to make me happy and I remain loyal and do the same for him. Not everyoe is the same. Stop being ignorant. You 8767 re thinking only of yourself and you know it.
That doesn 8767 t make any sense whatsoever. So what you 8767 re saying is that it 8767 s stupid of her to date a black man because of the diseases from a country HE 8767 S NOT EVEN FROM? Wow. You must be genius. And 8775 monkey lover 8776 is that the best you got? No offense but uh the last time I checked, monkeys have white skin. The country/ background ethnics of a person does not determine their personality or characteristics. And learn the meaning of what a 8766 whore 8767 is.
It seems that many white women who date black men are unaware of the colorism that is happening. The black men are often rejecting their own kind because they believe white women are prettier than black women. It becomes reverse racism colorism where minorities discriminate against each other. This pattern is not unique to African Americans. It is very common in Mexico and a basis for the Colonial Spanish Casta based on skin color the lighter the skin the higher up the caste.
And Backwards pale slant eyed toy sluts (the user)
You can choose other things to fuckin eat, you chose to eat porridge its yourfault, you can choose to eat otherthings that taste great, like Cold Noodles (ttps:///wp-content/uploads/7558/56/) and heaps of other things (It was just that Cold noodles were the first thing that came to mind)
And you don 8767 t have to eat kimchi, you can fuckin choose, bloody hell do you not have a brain, personality, my god
A very educated person or someobe in a good position should not avoid relating with an individual for not being korean or being from an specific country. Korean people is friendly and I think that the only problem is that they don 8767 t feel confident about using a diferent language, if you get to relate with them they are very loyal, honest and support you as a friend (REGARDLESS OF YOUR NATIONALITY) but at first they are not so open. We can 8767 t set a model of girl but at least my female friends are very good persons and I wouldn 8767 t describe them as money seekers, sluts or any bad adjective but instead as funny, honest, happy and very shy for some reason which in my opinion is very attractive.
He told me that was not acceptable to him, he was disappointed in me, and there was no way I was bringing Aaron over. Click. I was beyond hurt and surprised. I spoke to my mom the next day and she said my dad had pretty much gone off the deep end and I needed to let him cool down. A week later my dad sent me a text saying he was opting out of my life. I was not to call him anymore, I had 7 weeks to get all of my items out of our family home, he had removed me from his will, and Christmas was cancelled. I instantly began crying at my desk at work.
All what I read above are all what I went through even more to that,when I first went to visit her family her father hates me but her mother loves me so much. Despite the facts that I always send gifts during the Korean holidays called chusok and solar but her father still hates me. I went further to get her father his most favorite gift he collected and still proves to hate me. Mean while every body in her family likes me including her elder sister. I guess it 8767 s frustrating.
I know it’s very hesitant, uneducated, and lowclass but many white families (especially in the south/Midwest) they try to dictate to their children who to date or get involved with and they claim all this stupid nonsense that inter-racial dating/sex is genocide, it’s against God and religion, and that it will destroy a culture… well how in the Phuck will inter-racial dating destroy a culture if both the white girl and black guy are both full blooded Americans? They were both born and raised in America it’s not like the white girl is an American and the Black guy is straight from some sub-sahara African country? And plus this black guy is educated meaning that he is not low class, as long as both parties are educated and doing something with their life, that’s all that matters. I would rather have my daughter date an educated non-white rather than an uneducated low class white. Obviously, the dad is low class and uneducated…. Must be a truck driver, construction worker, or ditch digger.
They don 8767 t really know how to chill the fuck out. Go drinking with some Korean guys, it becomes a pissing contest who can drink the most. Go work out with Korean guys, it becomes a pissing contest who can do the most whatever. Go do anything with Korean guys they will insist to lead, dominate, know-everything, argue whatever the fuck. They cannor EVER chill. . After a while you say fuck it, I 8767 m done with this shit.
I gurantee that generally speaking, Korean girls with good family backgound and higher education would not associate with foreigners as dating partners in the first place, as tabooed. If the Korean girl has parents with a distinguised social position (., prestigious doctor/professor/businessman and etc), NO NO for dating non-Korean guys. But if you are as good as her family s social position (., your parents are a CEO of some respectful company, doctors, lawyers, or something like that), can be acceptable.
Korean parents always see their children future materials. If the parents say no, most of the children (even if they are grownups) tend to follow thier parents decision.
The reason for the skewed abuse rates are because a lot of abuse goes in reported. Due to the woman not wanted her spouse to lose his good job or wanting their kids father labeled an abuser. While that isn 8767 t considered if the offender is black. Which I don 8767 t care if they are reported because no one should be at on their spouse. Just don 8767 t pretend like a lot of these crimes aren 8767 t hidden or go unreported in staggering numbers.
Thanks for having the boundless courage and integrity required to share this story which sheds light on the subversive presence of hatred and denial still existing to this day.
I stumbled upon your post after reading an account written in 6999 by a University of Maryland student named Joshua Solomon after he darkened his skin and traveled to the deep South to gain insight into the legitimacy of his black friends 8767 presentments.
It is stupefying to know that sentiments this deep and which pertain to nothing other than race can remain unapparent for decades even among our closest bonds and still be logicized by countless as 8766 not racist 8767 .
Thanks again for being among the most intelligent. It is indisputable that endless chronicles exist relating to this mentality disorder surely having shattered many family ties and which still remain untold.
Look this is bullshit
6. China is actually the country that has the highest abortion rates, and Bulgaria is the second, and hungary coming third (Whoever wrote this, DO SOME FUCKING RESEARCH)
7. Most Koreans don 8767 t eat dog, (Japanese do tho)
8. These advice is bullshit (Phone, Money, Playboy, Fantasy, Don 8767 t want to be Easy) all of that is bullshit OK whoever wrote this I really want to meet you, Because I am pretty sure you have never met any Korean people at all in your life and has heard off other people.
9. They do not give a shit about foreigners
do not mind Korean men and most Korean woman actually like Korean men than foreigners
6. Please don 8767 t be stereotypical as not all people are like this whoever that wrote this, there are more people like this in America
7. Nearly everything in this article is stupid (except that Korean parents have a very powerful hand in their daughters life) everything else is ridiculous
I really wouldn 8767 t read too much into this article.
First of all…
#6. No one wants to look easy, not just Korean girls.
#7. The remark about the phone: How does one expect both men and women to get treated fairly if preferential treatment is expected when looking at another persons phone? Trust should and is earned amidst mutual respect from either person.
#8. A year of free sex? Since when is sex ever free? 🙂 When you take someone out for dinner or drinks, (more frequently the gentleman asks the lady,) either way it still costs time and money.
#6. Show them the money? Did a Korean write this or an American?
#7. No-one is in competition with anybody. Being yourself should be enough.
#8. Birth Control: Many Asians are very respectful, it’s unlikely that when writing, would use the word ‘dick.’ I’m sure if you are respectful addressing one another, if you both like one another, you will find the talk of contraception won’t in fact bring about any arguments.
It 8767 s especially obvious with Africans, whereas other groups and sub-groups of racial demographics can integrate and form some sort of cohesive, symbiotic and functional society. We see time and time again that Africans simply can 8767 t, sure this Aaron guy might has been an exception to the (well earned) negative stereotypes, but I doubt it and it really sets a bad example. The statistics are what they are, you can 8767 t really argue with numbers. Crime, corruption, economic growth and activity, IQ, scientific output per capita, and so on, all get affected negatively by black demographics.
You talk about this woman not giving her dad enough thought for why he feels this way. But you turn around and decide, just like this woman 8767 s father that, somehow you 8767 re feelings and stereotypes trump any actual person your child is involved with. Your daughter probably lied to you before she started dating this man, and she probably lied about that because she knows that you are a 655% racist and it 8767 s not because you were It 8767 s because you were already racist and this horrible event very loosely ties into what you already believe. Your daughter, or Aaron, could be the nicest, most polite, human beings, but you have no respect for black people don 8767 t see black people as being as human as you see yourself.