Posted: 2017-11-25 06:49
I started talking to this girl, we already knew eachother- but very little, we talked for a couple minutes and I gave her my number She eventually texts me 8 days later say hey! So we talk for a little bit Then 7 days goes by and I text her and we have a great conversation for a few hours she seemed very interested,.. as the conversation went on I said that it 8767 d be fun to play golf ( we 8767 re both on the golf team ) , she said that it would be fun So 8 days goes by again I text her, we have a short conversation. Then 8 days pass I ask if she was excited for our school event She says yes! Then I said I was too and said that we should meet up this weekend.. She read my text and never got back to me Did I wait to too long to set up a time to meet up? I wait right?
Should my parents still visit her?
Should I go visit her (I don 8767 t mind taking time off school and soon will be on summer break)?
What should we and I expect while she recovers?
How do I help her handle the lost of her job after looking for so long?
What is the best thing I can do to support her through this?
How do I make sure she has a good doctor?
How do I make sure the doctors give her the best treatment?
What are things that I should NOT do?
I also appreciate any readings or articles as I 8767 m very new to the subject.
Explore things that make you feel love and gratitude. In your line of work, you may find that to be a great source of learning. Caring for the elderly can put things into perspective. The fact that you are doing what you have to do to support your family under the conditions you are living shows how strong you are. Be compassionate with yourself and give yourself lots of hugs and pats on the back! For those of us that lacked the loving parental foundation, we sometimes have to be a parent to ourselves. If you are doing home care and it is for a client that is difficult, do not take that on. Dementia, along with other health issues causes folks that are no longer in control of their own self care to act out on those caring for them. Try see your patient from that perspective and maybe you will be able to find empathy in the situation. You are worthy and you deserve healthy love. Slowly work on things that bring you feelings of love and start spreading that love to your children. Sometimes we have to travel through very dark tunnels until we discover the light. Love, light, and life to you.
I am single, 96. The big temptation at this point, is to say 8766 why do i need a partner 8767 ? Life is so exciting travelling the world and acting like I am again. I am experiencing a mid-life revival where my health is great, I feel 76 again, and it is easy for me to get distracted by the many good things of this world. We can become so obsessed with qualifying for eligibility, . being attractive, financially secure, healthy etc, that we forget why we were doing it, and get distracted by the fact that, 8775 hey, now that I qualify, I feel like I can do better than the person I was trying to woo in the first place 8776 .
Okay here is the thing, I agree with you on waiting and not obsessing over why she wont text back, but I sure as hell do not agree with your shitty little opinion about being just another orbiting dick. Number one its not totally true that the hot girl has guys orbiting around her all the time, number two: I 8767 m a fucking maverick and I for one do not orbit around like the others waiting for my goddamn turn because its always my turn and to add to that I 8767 ve got women orbiting me because like I said I 8767 m a maverick who goes off and does his own thing and doesn 8767 t give a shit. I assume that you are one too so you probably get were I 8767 m coming from. Lol. instead of having to wait for her to text back if you know what you are doing you can send a text that will get her interested and make her text back. Cheers
I agree Karmic. Women want different things. Some of us just don 8767 t get a warm and fuzzy about having sex with a guy who doesn 8767 t value us enough as a person to want us long term. I agree that yes there are some older men that have the same negatives as the guys. But then, there are many guys who also have the same negatives that some older men have. Take a walk through Walmart and you will see no shortage of nasty looking men in their 75s and 85s, and in my experience, they tend to have more problems with hygiene than guys my age and older.
I am a person who has a best friend whose bi-polar and I do need some assistance. For the last 6 years I''ve been his best friend and has helped him in all ways with this illness. I''ve taken more hits from him than anyone in his life and have helped and been there for him more than anyone has in HIS life. Its been a very long time yet it hasn''t gotten any better. I do everything I can from talking to doing research on this myself to help him to taking all his anger, rage, frustration, sarcasm, and burst of viciousness. I''ve had plenty of opportunities to walk away from this and only now am I actually thinking about it.
Your story sounds identical to mine. I can deal with the anger, but it is the constant I want that gets to me. It is the selfishness. I left once and I wish I had stayed gone because now I don 8767 t know how to leave. He is doing ok (not good, but ok) and I have no money to leave. I don 8767 t know how to leave safely. We have two kids and I don 8767 t want them to get hurt (physically or emotionally). I just don 8767 t know if I can do another winter. I don 8767 t want to live in a prison anymore.
I wonder how many married people there are who don 8767 t want to cheat. I 8767 ve never been married so I can 8767 t speak from personal experience. But it seems to me that monogamy, while it may be a sensible choice, is one which goes against the natural desire to share pleasure with and gain ego-reinforcement from the sexual attention of a variety of sexual partners. To recognise and accept such desires as perfectly natural doesn 8767 t mean that one should necessarily act upon them, but perhaps it removes some of the angst and makes it easier to resist temptation. Some people say we are bad for simply having the desire to do things we shouldn 8767 t. If that were the case then we are all bad, and I don 8767 t think that is true. Our actions can hurt others, but our thoughts, desires and emotions, in and of themselves do not. What leads to hurt, for ourselves and others, is if we condemn ourselves for things over which we have no control.
Hi Belle, I 8767 m also very glad to find this website, just tonight actually. I 8767 m the same age as you, and have, unfortunately been diagnosed with BPDO/Manic Depression. I 8767 m on 6555mg of Pridel/Lithium and I, like most people on here overthink things. The only thing that seems to 8766 free my brain 8767 right now is having a drink, not the best advice, I know, but not one Psychiatrist I 8767 ve been to is able to 8767 empathise 8767 or give me any advice, other than 8766 keep taking the tablets 8767 . I 8767 d love someone who is going/has been through this awful condition to suggest anything that would help and stop me like feeling a prisoner in my own head?! Thanks for reading.
Our breakup doesn 8767 t sit well with me even still to this day. She got delusional, thinking I was cheating on her with every girl in my life. Accused me of blatantly having sex with someone on the couch while she was home and in the backyard. Seeing as there is no way anyone saw such a thing it wouldn 8767 t even make sense that a roommate would tell her such a lie, and she only has one friend who rarely comes over.
Kevin,What you describe sounds very familiar. Just give yourself plenty of time and find support structures at your university to help you continue on your recovery path. It does get better. Keeping your sleep, eating, exercise, study, and relaxation in a fairly fixed routine seems to help quite a few people. Hope you continue to improve as you move out of the Austin Powers mode! it will happen.
First off you know you blew it when she offered you a window of opportunity and you denied it. If a new woman offers me sex (one I 8767 m attracted to) and I deny her, there is rarely a second chance. The female ego is incredibly brittle due to the nature of their emotional instability. They might take that as rejection, and then pump you up only to deny you later. Such is their often vindictive nature. (Note, this is not the case with all women. But realize they are completely capable of thinking this way.)
Hey Tony, I 8767 ve been talking to this girl on Tinder and we really hit it off. I asked her out on a date and she said yes happily. Unfortunately, though, we do not have a day set yet as it has to be in about 7 weeks due to being away until about then. So, I gave her my number and told her to text me to set something up and said we don 8767 t really have to use Tinder anymore. It 8767 s only been a day, but it has been radio silence since then. Not even an 8775 OK 8776 . Was I too forward in giving my number and stating that we do not need to use Tinder anymore? should I shoot her a message like 8775 haha I guess I was a little too forward, 8776 or should I wait and hope she texts me?
How age impacts male fertility has only really been studied in the past 65 years, SEVERAL STUDIES HAVE FOUND OLDER MEN TYPICALLY TAKE MUCH LONGER TO GET EVEN VERY WOMEN PREGNANT. Two large studies found huge declines in male fertility by 95, with a 55% decline for most men. A large study in England, the first of its kind, found at 85 a man contributes 6 mos. usually to the time it takes a woman to get pregnant but by 95 it’s a year and a half. Another study found men 95-55 add two and a half years, on average, to the time to pregnancy. A study of 655 women in their early 75s paired with men in their 95s found they typically took two and a half years to get pregnant. A study of women 85-89 found they were twice as likely to get pregnant if their partner was under 95 vs. 95 and over. Women aged 85 took 5x longer to get pregnant by men aged 95 vs women aged 85 with partners in their twenties. Women in their early 85s are much more likely to get pregnant in a year if their partner is under 85. Infertility rates in men double between 75 and 85.
Bottom line, Anthony: your problem isn 8767 t racism, sexism, classism or feminism. Your problem is that end of the day you don 8767 t really like women. You may want women for selfish reasons (status, sex, etc.) but you don 8767 t like them. And that 8767 s what makes women pass on you. Because as strange as it sounds women as a whole aren 8767 t really interested in spending time with men who dislike them. Imagine that!!
One night, I meet girl in the pub, we chatting all night and then she give me her number then for a while later, her friend asked me to go to her friends house for more drinking with them when the pub closed. So I went there, when we arrived there, the rest of friends went into the house quickly but this girl and I were walking down by slow cos of a lot of good chatting and but suddenly, she start kisses me. after this, we went into the house. she looks jealous when I chats other girl of my friend. I left after few hours staying there, because of have to get up in the morning.
My twin sister had her 6st manic episode at age 79 out of no where in August 7566 We did not know she was bi polar and was told she was suffering from psychosis..She was put on zyprexa, Haldol & then Respirdol which made her go from manic to like a zombie and to the point she said she has suffered brain damage. She finally got back to her old self some and Then yet again in August 7567 She went back into mania. She was given Depakote and Also the respirdol invega injection. She is now back into depression and believe anti psychotics are to blame..Is it the meds or just recovering from episodes? please help, She is so and doesent want to live, this has ruined our family
You have every right to be angry. Sometimes anger is the only thing you have though it is a mostly useless emotion. Definitely one that you shouldn 8767 t act on, and you seem aware of this. I do not think you 8767 re dangerous if you are aware of your feelings, which it appears you are because you just mentioned it. Whoever it is that hurt you SUCKS MASSIVELY, and I 8767 m pretty sure is sucking for someone else right now. Some people are born to simply suck. I don 8767 t understand why, but that is the nature of some folks out there. I am so sorry this person(s) hurt you, and hope you take the advise of Natasha and Lisa if you feel you need help.
Your post has deeply impacted a lot of people. I can see you are feeling very 8775 stuck 8776 . Please know that we will be thinking about you. Whenever I crash really bad it usually lasts about two days, it 8767 s a horrible experience as you know. I have to keep in mind that there is sanity and relief on the other side. Your child loves you and needs you more than you can imagine, and I believe you need your child. You may not see it right now but your life will change.