Posted: 2017-09-11 11:08
I like this guy who 8767 s cautious about women cause he got hurt badly. Anyway I notice when I text him, his replies are mostly one to three words long, but when we meet up, we usually have an hour and over long conversations. It 8767 s the same when we talk on the phone. I 8767 ve realized that he 8767 s not really talkative via text but my situation is a bit complicated cause I 8767 m splitting from my husband but haven 8767 t left the marital home as yet. He 8767 s the most supportive guy ever but I understand him now so I just text him maybe twice for the day, miss couple days and then arrange to meet up. He 8767 s still around so I must be doing something right, right? We haven 8767 t had full blown sex just messed around a little at the beginning and I don 8767 t mind cause I need to sort out my life but him being there has helped me a lot.
I recently moved one state over and a guy I used to work with said he always liked me and we 8767 ve been talking a lot. We went on a date and it was awesome. Now he 8767 s talking about coming to see me. When this first started he was texting nonstop and now it 8767 s less but he still checks in, likes my stuff on FB and Instagram and is making plans to visit in a week. So I need to quit overthinking everything and just calm down.
I have a very specific set of ideals. If a woman is not able to give me space, it signals to me that she has no life. Because my work (my writing), my freedom, and my solitude (when I desire it) are the three most important, most fulfilling aspects of my life, I expect any woman I 8767 m with to have goals for herself as well. When a woman begins getting hung up about every little text and phone call and what the tone of my voice means, then I know emphatically that she is weak, that she has no life, that she has no goals. I believe that no one can possibly over-think that much about mundane shit unless they simply don 8767 t have anything going on in their own life. I mean really who has the time to think about all that and obsess over it if they have actual goals they 8767 re trying to accomplish in life? S
I don 8767 t ever feel racialized or stereotyped around Adam or his friends (I 8767 ve read quite a few articles with other girls claiming this) – but that could just be because Toronto is such a multicultural place, and our generation is much more accepting than the generation before us. We once overheard a comment from a stranger saying 8775 where do I get myself a hot Asian girl? 8776 but he was obviously from a very different generation.
You come off as very arrogant, selfish and immature. Real strong, stable and independent women will not want men like you. Why? Because you don 8767 t understand real women. You project your own thoughts onto women and disrespect them without trying to understand. The irony here is the fact that you diss women because they lack self esteem and 8775 need 8776 you for validation but apparently you have so much self esteem that you come to a site like this to validation your own.
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My lover (I don 8767 t considered her as Girlfriend) had a discussion and she told me all her dislike/like, and I did told her mine as well, after sometimes when I run out off credit should will never call me nor text me during the day, but when ever I have credit I will always wake up early morning and time text her sweet messages that would make her smile before she wakes up, but when ever I 8767 m out of credit and she has credit she will never call me nor text me during the day until 6685pm at night and we 8767 ll only talk for like 67 or 75 minutes and she 8767 ll fall asleep on the phone. So I 8767 ve decided to ignored her, plus through our two years of dating she has been cheating on me and yet still, I still go on loving her but she still treat me like shit (sorry about the expression) but that 8767 s how I feel. So I believe she loves me no more.
Asian-American men are also the most educated. They have the highest rate of college graduation. They are also the most over-represented demographic at elite universities (being 9-5x over-represented at schools such as Harvard, Stanford, Yale). Even with racial quotas within the ivy league that heighten standards and limit enrollment of Asian-Americans, they are still over-represented at these schools. At elite universities where these enrollment quotas are removed, it goes to being 65x more over-represented (ex: Asian-Americans make up 9% of the . population but are the majority at Berkeley).
I guess the bottom line is that people will always judge you- if you date outside of your race, you 8767 re an internalized racist if you date only within your race, you 8767 re just a plain racist. So don 8767 t ever let people discourage you being with who you want or writing about what you want. Honestly, I am so glad you decided to write about this (apparently) controversial topic, because it 8767 s so important to get the conversation started to combat these negative, backwards opinions out there. I wish you the best of luck with everything, girl! Keep blogging and thanks for the amazing content!
My ex boyfriend cared about texts, he lived by texting. Our entire communcation was based on texts. When I called, he didn 8767 t answer nor did he call me back. It was a huge problem for me and it helped my decision to finally end it (after a year +). Even after ending things, he sent an apology via annoying! I have never felt so disregarded before with other boyfriends (by means of communication). Am I to assume he just wasn 8767 t that into me, or just immature?
Thank you for sharing. We came across your article in an attempt to handle my son 8767 s crazy girlfriend,meeting for the first time,after she made our family vacation a nightmare. Our hope in sharing this information with him after he dumped the crazy one, we realized he needed a warning check list in order to avoid this type of girl in the future. You information was spot on. We found out from him that this crazy one had more than 8/9 of the 55 things you listed. Thank you so much this information saved my son. Signed a very grateful mom
For once I 8767 d like to see an article with the solution that men should be more considerate of women by showing their feelings, being willing to talk about problems, and recognize women need a lot more love and attention to feel wanted by their spouce, then giving them that love and attention. Although this is the exact way articles are normally written, but for males gain, try posting stuff like this and watch all of the men who would fear a world ruled by changing for women freak out. Redirected name calling, bullying, bashing, and out right unfocused anger because they have no logical reason to be upset.
if u love a guy and he call only when he need something from you and you be the one that will call him all the time and he did something to me by invited me to come and see why his father is around but sometimes he will call but our conversation will not last about 65mins and he dudge some of the things i want him to do for me but he always show concern in my dressing and if i did not dress very well he will tell me do you think he likes me or love me
I 8767 m waiting for the condescending white girl column on white guys that fetishize Nordic women. Dump the BS. You want European dick. This virtue signaling is dishonest and boring. Admit what you are. All women love compliments. You live for it. Attention. You can pretend it 8767 s a mental illness, but the fact is you wouldn 8767 t change places with a black girl(that no one fetishizes) if you had the choice. Hypocrite.
I could have written your post. Same situation here. I 8767 ve been loyal to him for 7 years but I 8767 m lucky to see him once a month, sometimes it 8767 s months. But when I do it 8767 s usually beautiful and wonderful, but then he disappears. Guess he can 8767 t handle intimacy with a woman. I do most of the things suggested in this article, I give him space, no longer get upset about his poor correspondence and communication skills, and I 8767 m beautiful and intelligent while he lets himself go, and yet I still love him dearly and struggle to walk away, when other men would love a chance with me. This article doesn 8767 t do many women any favors, when the fact of the matter is a lot of men out there are selfish and live in the now, and you are there at their convenience only.
The truth in all this? I 8767 m currently living in China, my girlfriend is a professional cosplayer with well over half a million followers on Weibo, mostly men, also girls. And yet she is with me, a White guy, not because of the color of my skin but because I fell in love and took an opportunity when we met through a common friend (a cool Chinese dude, not hating on our couple) and it took a lot of courting to win her heart, it didn 8767 t happen over night, also speaking the language helps (I 8767 m fluent in Mandarin).
It may sound like an immature game, but why would he (or should he) put in more effort when he can get the exact same reward? If you find a Chanel dress on sale for $75 would you absolutely insist on paying the original market value of $7,555? I mean, that 8767 s how much the dress is worth. The obvious answer is no, you wouldn 8767 t. If you can get something for less, you will happily take it and would be a fool to offer more than the minimum amount.
These men have no shame calling you their little yellow geisha fucktoy. And you 8767 re proud of it too. In fact they are the only option you will ever have, bottom shelf white boy after another and another. In the end, asian females always end up marrying racist trash, turns out all the high status whiteys she were with only wanted to fuck an asian, not end up with one. You are their proud-to-be last resort, their plan B if they were hopeless, sexless, white losers. They know you 8767 ll be there for them. And you 8767 ll be there for them, with your ass up in the air. Please, wake up.
Have you heard of the clarks doll experiment? It 8767 s a classic child psychology experiment from the 6995s. Little kids don 8767 t lie. Internalized white supremacy/oppression began at a age. That 8767 s why I always tell the Asian community to teach their kids their native Asian language and culture, if you go whitewashed, if you assimilate into the white culture, you will only hate yourself and your own race. When you assimilate, you are telling yourself that you are go by the white standards. And it 8767 s a losing battle, you 8767 ll never win, you 8767 ll never be white, you 8767 ll only be second to whites. At the same time, you have rejected your own ethnic culture because you find it inferior. You don 8767 t speak a lick of your Asian language, so you have trapping yourself in limbo with lots of psychological issues. Rejected by both worlds. And that 8767 s why I see so much self loathing in Asian Americans. They don 8767 t know who they are. Asian Americans are a big group of confused people who want to be white but not white, who is Asian but dislike their own kind.
If a guy says he 8767 ll do anything for you and then calls late at night and begs you to come over, claiming to be too tired to make the drive over to your place, then he has a very loose definition of anything ! If he says he really cares about you and misses you but then goes days or weeks without calling or making time to see you because he 8767 s swamped at work, or some excuse along those lines, what he 8767 s really saying is you 8767 re not important enough to make time for.
Well they 8767 re not naturally mutually exclusive. An Asian woman, or any woman, can find men of her own ethnicity/skin color attractive just as much as she finds men of other ethnicities/skin colors attractive. Simply because she likes a man that happens to be white doesn 8767 t mean she can 8767 t like a man that happens to be Asian. This is more subjective than we make it and sometimes we just need to stop projecting our views onto others. IF she genuinely cannot see color or doesn 8767 t care about it then fine, IF she is personally rationalizing her feelings or is trying to seek validation then she knows that in her heart and will have to deal with that burden on her own for the rest of her life. That 8767 s on her and it 8767 s not your issue to have to deal with. There are bigger things to care about life, especially in your own life. Don 8767 t worry about whether other people are being true to their own morals and ethics. If they live lies, then they will have to deal with the consequences. One important thing to note is that she is fully aware that many non-Asian men out there simply want to use her for her body.