Posted: 2017-10-12 03:09
Yet at the same time I have always been extremely progressive. I would want a woman to be highly educated and to work outside the home as I would want her to have some independence if something happened to me. I also believe in evolution, sex-education, reproductive rights, and gender equality. And I live a very ecofriendly lifestyle, am concerned about climate change, and believe in universal healthcare.
I love all that internet macho crap lol. 8775 bring yo punk ass to LA bro and i 8767 ll beat you to a pulp! 8776 8776 bring yo punk ass to Detroit and i 8767 ll beat you,shoot yo dog! 8776
8775 Umm ok..just let me book flights and pay a fortune so you can beat me ! You want to beat me up then you 8767 ll be getting all the fun,so you f 8776 8767 ing pay and do all the travelling to come to me! 8776
8775 Machismo 8776 love it! :)
For example, you don 8767 t see Swedish men really hit on women at the clubs unless intoxicated. If you 8767 re at the office and someone makes a joke about women, all the women throw a fit, but if you make a joke about people of color/eastern europeans/arabs/chinese, no one complains, most laugh. Of course both types jokes are unacceptable but I see women act aggressively if someone makes a joke that related to women, eg. 8775 Two and half men is the best show ever. I want to be Charlie Sheen a depraved alcoholic and womanizer. 8776
Okay, alright, you win! But let me say this, I used to live in Minnesota, as well as in Sweden for a numbers of years. All these regions are full of Scandinavians. While it may be true that Swedish girls are prettiest it is my humble opinion that upper mid-western American girls are not only pretty like their Scandinavian cousins, but also smart like many American girls, and I consider this a huge advantage that our American girls enjoy. So the bottom line is Swedish girls are pretty, American girls are pretty [since the beauty is in the eyes of beholder]. God bless Sweden, and God bless my beloved good old USA.
Seriously, I read your blog and think you have some good points but this is just not true.
I am as swedish as we get and I do not want my guys to buy me things and pay for dinner. That makes me feel like I owe them something, which is very uncomfortable if you try to date someone. Yes I do enjoy getting a beer payd for now and again, but the next round he better let me pay.
And yes, some chivlary is nice but not too much, if a man try to pull out my chair it makes me laugh, do hold the door up, but next time when I walk thrpugh the door first, let me hold it up to him. It 8767 s all about equality, even in the little things. If the guy pays everyr bill and open all the doors he will make me feel like he looks down on me. As far as the alcohol coles I agree it 8767 s a pity swedish guys need to be drunk to hit on people, (for the most part) but to be honest, it goes for us swedish girls aswell, and probably boils down to the fact that we mostly interract with others out at clubs and bars.
Guys, I do not know why all this controversy
on Swedish girls. It is true that they live in the cold,
but they are not made of ice.
In my point of view American girls
are more snobbish, especially in relation to
foreigners. They find themselves 8775 up to date 8776 and think
that are beyond his time. I had a proof of this when I visited the .. Maybe I 8767 ve met the wrong girl. Draw their conclusions by themselves, I think you will all agree with me.
Reading these blog-entries they all come down to the same thing: swedish guys are shy, not very manly and drinks alot. As a swedish man i find this highly frustrating because i don 8767 t recognize these things at all. I talk to women, my friends talk to women, we are manly but we are not assholes. I hold the door for everyone, guys/women it has nothing to do with gender, it 8767 s called being polite.
Though I think that some things of this article may be true, I do not fall into is one thing true: Youre women are wanted by everybody and that hurts! As a western man I think it is up to you to defend what it is yours as the vikings used to do, that is what men do,just defend what is you don´t, the beauty of swedish girls will be lost forever!.
I do not want that swedish beauty to be lost! Defend what is yours! It is up to your women to understand that they do no have the worst men in the are handsome amd more civilized than the swedish beauty is lost, than the western society will loose a part of it´s soul for ever!
I love you Sweden!
I dont know why, maybe it 8767 s their culture of freedom, outside, they can look different from many other. But i felt in love with one, and I liked her so much since the very first moment. She meant to be stressed and teased by men but not valued like she was before: a gorgeous woman.
Now, every woman from every part of the planet deserves to be treated as woman, not a toy to use after or during a drunk. She deserves to be afriend, communicative, cuddles, maybe sometimes to be angry but never lacked of respect. That seems to be very common in Sweded, I dont say every sweden male treat badly a woman, but a lot of them especially generation are lacking of sensibility.
And from my point of view, it 8767 s weird
Now my story with that sweden girl went over not because there was not lack of love from both, but because my work, I was deployed so far away, and I was at that time.
What remains to me is a big funny happy sweet moments of warm wool and big heart, here in the deep of Italy. Still running all my love for swedes. Nobody is perfect, but the sweden males that I known, needs to grow in empathy and care with their women. at least.
Of course once more, total honesty I was a guy and she was a gorgeous women, among the most beautiful I 8767 ve ever met. To say my interest was purely innocent or intellectual would be a ridiculous lie. And surely, she sensed that. What I couldn 8767 t tell was did she find find that offensive? Or was she testing me to make a move? I know it was clear to both of us that I was only there for a couple days. So what was she after?
Or, indeed, that all Swedish girls are blond and beautiful. I 8767 m not going to go into how problematic even 8775 positive 8776 national stereotyping is, but come on, now: you 8767 ve lived in Sweden for a fair bit surely you 8767 ve noticed that homely or plain-looking women abound just as much as the gorgeous ones? You 8767 re opening yet another can of worms if you begin to equate 8775 gorgeous 8776 to 8775 tall, blond and busty 8776 by the way. Internalized sexism and internalized racism, that is. I 8767 m honestly really sorry if you feel like you aren 8767 t beautiful just because you don 8767 t look like this ridiculous 8775 white ideal of beauty 8776 that 8767 s been touted since forever by those in power.
Pretty much everything on that list is exaggerated. If there is any swedish male that has all those flaws, it wont be because he is swedish, it would be because he is mentally disturbed lol. Some guy here and there could have 6 or 7 of them, but every guy I know and talk to at work/parties/whatever would pretty much laugh their asses off if they heard about any guy, swedish or otherwise who would act like that list describes.
Totally agree with you.
I have lived for almost one year, here in Sundsvall I see many African men and Swedish girls couples. Languages should not be the problem of dating Swedish girls, since most of the African guy 8767 s Swedish I know are not that good, but your balls count. Most African guys dating Swedish girls, are somewhat confident and feeling good about themselves.
Thats my two points.
Equality is really nice. Come to think of it as 8775 why should men make the first move? 8776 . If you are subtle, a little colder than how you would be in your country, nice, and careful, it is very likely that a Swedish girl you gave a number to in a bar or after a one-night-stand (I know this sounds clichè but it is true) will call you. Some of my other Erasmus friends don 8767 t really understand this and immediately show their interest in Swedish girls with calls, facebook, etc, and Swedish girls kind of keep their distance. Really, if you have fun and feel confident that she also enjoyed meeting you, the other person will notice you and contact you.
We met and had a decent enough time, but at some point she stopped and asked me if I was just trying to 8775 hook up with a Swedish girl 8776 and she talked about how so many foreign guys came to Stockholm with that intention. I defaulted to trying to be polite and assured her that I wasn 8767 t all that shallow and that I was really enjoying talking to her (I was) but I don 8767 t know. I couldn 8767 t get a read on what had happened.
I mention the physical traits that define me, but am most concerned with my over-all individual/cultural personality traits, and where I should be looking for a suitable match. Having grown frustrated seeking American men, I 8767 ve wondered, are there men beyond my country 8767 s borders that would make me happy? Perhaps Sweden would be a nice place for me to meet someone? Or at least someone as large/tall as me? I 8767 ve known wonderful Swedish and Scandinavian men all living abroad!
In conclusion, generalizing people like that, be they woman or men, Swedish or American, blond or brunettes what have you is completely impossible and, furthermore, potentially endangering or problematic. Obviously, you can just snap back at me that this comment is ridiculous as a response to what essentially amounts to a silly (as in lighthearted rather than vapid) blog post. Still, you posted it in the public sphere and as such all comments are merited: personally, I do think that while you may have intended the post to be playful and a bit jaunty, it gives rise to some real issues and salient points of discussion and debate. I doubt whether you will want to argue those points with me, but there you go, this is my response to what I consider an offensive, problematic post. I like to think the animosity levels were kept relatively low, too. : If you do respond, I 8767 m really looking forward to reading it.
heyyy… im coming to stockholm in december the 8th till 67th. really cannot wait.. few things i was wanting to know… what are swedish like with foreigners?? will they know if we are foreign without hearing us talk?? do they prefer scottish over english etc?? ar the women attracted to british men? do they find us exotic?? is it easy to converse with swedish women??? all help would be greatly appreciated!! oh! and are allt he women really tall?? im quite short!!
Another thing I 8767 ve learned here is to be less romantic. I used to be the guy who loved to cuddle in the morning and just caress their hair but I 8767 ve noticed that you can 8767 t really do that all the time. This kind of keeps a sense of interesting aura about me that the Swedish girls I have been with definitely like. I have some really close swedish guy friends here so I guess you could say that when I date girls I kind of follow their steps.
I agree with Celine, a hilarious read. I 8767 m a Swedish guy living in the ., married to an American girl. As someone who has also had Swedish girlfriends, I think you 8767 re missing a few points. Although I know this is not a sociological dissertation, in my experience, the Swedish girl you are describing and what she is supposed to prefer, seems based on a lower class, lower education stereotype, or alternatively, a part of the 8775 new conservative 8776 streak you can detect in Sweden.