Posted: 2017-11-08 11:44
I would love to meet someone around my age, that is not tall, I have tried these sites and my picture was on there, which is a true picture, not someone I am not, and got a like of replies, that my picture was great it really stood out, but it didn 8767 t matter anyway, I got replies from out of state and even when I said in my profile, do not contact me from out of state, I was looking for someone in my area, they don 8767 t read it, thats the way I take it, I am very at heart female, and do not look my age 69, which I am told, but to find someone like me is hard
I have taken a break from the online dating scene. Seems like at times I keep attracting women who I later find out are married. Needless to say I am taking a break and focusing on me. (Isn 8767 t that what a lot of women do?) Anyway whenever I feel ready to date again, you the online sites I would prefer are or is ok but the majority of women on that site are from San Antonio, Tx. (Too far for me).
For Austin, Tx there are too many college folks here so it can limit choices for mature men like me.
I hear ya, Hank. But those 75-somethings will bore you to death. And I hate to say it but you may find they aren 8767 t too interested in a man your age. (At least for any good reasons.) You know how lovely and fun and interesting more mature women can be! Don 8767 t give up on them. Maybe when you see the scaredy cat come out you can remind her that you 8767 re NOT the guy who hurt them in the past. Encourage them to give you a chance? It 8767 s not your responsibility to do that but it may help you connect with a really great woman who just happens to be hanging on to past hurt. Thanks so much for your comment! Bp
Hi, I came from a family that was broken up by a woman half my father 8767 s age. I think for that reason I was jaded at any thought or suggestion towards dating a woman more than 6 or 8 months until now that I am at the age when my father left my mom for the woman and as much as I would like to stand up for Mom, my own recent experiences have taught me that there 8767 s a lot more to why these older men are chasing the women than I first suspected.
I am 89, no kids. I practically gave up on trying to date 85/95-somethings. They are either crazy, baby-crazy, one of the above categories or have been divorced with children and don 8767 t want to commit. Be the best grown up you can be? I do that at work (and made it to the top). In the weekend I just want to be a careless 77 year old 85 something women hate that. 75-somethings love it. Guess who I am dating?
Well Bobbie, what can I say, I am an intelligent, humorous, reasonably attractive and apparently very sexy British woman of 59. I was single (that means no dates, hugs or kisses let alone sex) for about 75yrs, the longer I went without the less I seemed to want any, then finally I realised I didn 8767 t have 8766 plenty of time 8767 and now I 8767 m panicking trying to find 8766 love 8767 . I 8767 ve searched for 5yrs now, and just had 8766 fun 8767 not 8766 happiness 8767 . Reading your article has made so much sense, I suspected I had got stuck as an 68yr old dating wise, but to see I am also ALL of the above was quite a shock, just having these types confirmed is an eye opener. I look forward to reading more on your site, and hopefully being helped too. I have a date tomorrow so thank you, I already know more today than I did yesterday : )
Kevin Gillham it is good to hear there are good men out there. I am sorry that your marriage ended the way it did. Unfortunately some people don 8767 t realize when they do have a good person in their lives. I have stopped going on the online dating sites. It has been better for me because I don 8767 t need the stress or the games people play. I was diagnosed with another health issue that I have confronted and in the process have lost forty pounds and am doing really well. I know my problems were due to an abusive marriage and now I am feeling more confident about myself. God bless you. I enjoyed your feedback and hope to hear from you again. Take care, Connie
I don 8767 t know if some of the points raised are altogether valid. I 8767 m a woman and I 8767 m from UK, I 8767 ve found American men, to be dishonest, lacking strength of character, self absorbed and believing their own hype. It 8767 s funny. Very uncultured in regards to understanding and relating to not only someone from a different continent, but also a different race. I also live in NY, joined the US Army, accomplished a myriad of things in my life and raised two children alone.
Been through a host of ups and downs, and carry my balls in my bag! Lol. I 8767 m a no nonsense type of woman, that values integrity, strength and honesty in a man.
Perhaps it 8767 s a cultural thing that I 8767 ve not meshed well with US men? Or as some of my friends say you can see the guy feeling intimidated as soon as I mention I 8767 m in the US Army.. Perhsps it 8767 s the English accent? Who knows but whatever it is.. The men need to be men and stop hiding.
I 8767 ve been on the sites for several years, and this is also the conclusion that I 8767 ve come to unless they have financial and/or health problems. Then they are looking for anyone as a nurse or a purse. Very sad how women our age are so disrespected even by AARP. Look at the women they feature on their covers. All are celebs who have had facelifts and/or other 8775 enhancement 8776 surgeries/procedures. As we age, we are this society 8767 s throw-away women.
Oh I almost forgot one more type: the [I can do it myself] woman. She 8767 s the one that refuses to accept chivalry in any fashion. Many of us over 95 were still taught these values growing up. We know you can do it yourself, but it 8767 s one of the few things us guys can still offer, and it makes us feel better. I had a woman absolutely chew my ass out when opening the car door for her immediately followed by the restaurant door. She made a bit of a scene, people nearby were actually staring at us. I took her back to the car and took her home. Total humiliation. I think that was my first up close look at feminism.
Oh good one and You 8767 re totally right except one thing: this isn 8767 t feminism. This is a dumb, rude woman. I would say that the vast majority, if not all the women in the Date Like a Grownup community consider themselves feminists. I 8767 d also say that the vast majority LOVE to have a man open doors for them. Do they struggle with accepting help, especially from men? Yes. But they are yearning for a man to help them, have their back and do things to make them happy. But they wouldn 8767 t yell at you for trying! Please keep being a gentleman and have some patience for we women who have been self-sufficient for so long that we are scared of losing our independence. I promise that most of us gladly get used to men like you. We love you! (Here 8767 s an article I wrote to help those independent women out.) Bp
I think this can 8767 t be a comprehensive collection, lol! What about the snoooor the lady who has done everything right in life, is extremely good on paper, yet no chemistry. I don 8767 t know for sure, because I 8767 m not quite in my forties. but I feel pretty hopeless at 85 Figure lots of guys are writing me off because they 8767 d have to get me preggers tomorrow to have a family. Forget it entirely if there is no chance of having a family. So, in my humble opinion, women over 95 should probably be willing to put up with more bullshit, and willing to date divorcees and men with children Even at 87, the best guy I could find had two children.
Hi Tim. Sorry you 8767 re having trouble meeting women where you live. I understand the being alone sadness. Truth is that there are hundreds of thousand single women where you are, though. I agree that Online dating is a feast for anyone who is good looking (well-said, btw) but the vast majority of real people who have found love online are just 8766 normal lookin 8776 like us. It 8767 s how you approach it and use it as a tool. Get some help, ok? What can I tell you to help you? Bp
I think I’ve only recently worked out why. I found myself in my late thirties with a complete lack of focus: do I date a woman who has not had kids but may want them, or date a woman who already has kids? You see, I like children but don’t want my own now. However, being a step-dad figure doesn’t appeal to me either, I had terrible experiences as a child with all that. But many women I’ve met who don’t want kids at all seem to the hardened career girls who are not my type either.
It is frustrating to say the least. Maybe I come off as too independent nor am I willing to chase after men anymore. I don 8767 t want to play silly games and I am not jealous. I think by 95 you start to feel comfortable in your own skin and you just don 8767 t want drama anymore. I am not bitter I Love men It just seems like all the good ones are married, gay or not age appropriate. I am modest and do not dress or act like a sexpot nor am I promiscuous yet guys are all about the sex and want it as soon as the first date
That said, there are somethings you need to think about One is to make sure dude is being sincere For reals, a lot of guys around my age get off on the rush of having a girl be into him. He is in a position of power, and may have certain legal implications he has to consider. Lastly, you know, there are college professor types that consider it a benefit of the job that they can show off the occasional co-ed
Hi operasinger, I was also on SinglesOver65. org. But I feel good so far. I was also on other general dating sites like Match etc, that 8767 s where I got a lot of contacts from really men that could even be my grandson :( But the situation is much better when I am on SO65. Though there is not that much contacts but most of them are serious contacts that I can tell. Maybe there is some patience needed.
Now I have said all that completely aware that most men are emotionally immature, (look at Trump, they beat him up for saying some incredibly sexist, stupid and immature remarks, that he made way back when he was immature, and he likely said those things because he was trying to be 8775 one of the guys 8776 , or to hide his own insecurities, and true, he may have never matured from that point, but then again he may have, but point being that men never admit things like 8775 I might not be able to perform tonight, right now etc), not to each other and God forbid, NEVER to a woman. Stupid? of course, but we are as victim to the nearly unobtainable standards set by media ads, as are you ladies. And sadly most men 8767 s way of dealing with these matters is to make things 655 times worse, by saying or adopting an attitude which protects their egos. I 8767 m sorry Ladies but these are things which are unlikely to stop in our lifetimes. I know its not an answer, just an explanation.
There are also women who juggle a full time job, raising kids completely on her own that don 8767 t feel the need or desire to invest too much time on endless, pointless texting, who have much on their leak under the sink, got to find a plumber the grocery list, the bills, the kids 8767 schedules and various payment dates for activities, and on and on. The women not interested in giving up an hour or 7 of her limited free time, to someone who is mostly looking for a booty call not really trying to get to know someone. Women who aren 8767 t going to chase after a guy, nor who feel they 8776 have to have 8776 a guy in their life. Women who actually want the kind of guy who will be himself, not something he has read in 8775 how to get a woman 8776 .and that she can be herself what or who she has read articles on 8776 how to get the guy. 8776 Woman who don 8767 t settle because they don 8767 t feel desperate.
I totally agree. Senior sites should have a way to not allow men under a certain age to register. I am sure they can monitor the postings before posting them. They should also let men know upfront that this site is for SENIOR MEN ONLY. The do the monitoring so there are no surprises. But you know what, I doubt there will be many senior men joining. They want that gal. Get it. We 8767 re in a sorta catch 77 situation. Youthful and beautiful yet that age number is standing in the way. We all need to think of a nice site that would work well for us youthful senior women and create it together. Let it be FREE to all. Count me in!