Posted: 2017-12-07 20:51
9: If you want a heterosexual paradigm: Woman only actively seek profiles up. Men stop initiating any contact. This is of course an utopia. From my experience (probably longer than most of you), the silver platter women are handed is not going to change. Those in power will seldom let go of it. And yes, there are some degree of initiating contact from woman, but it is truly unbalanced. What happened to equality and girl power?
Ahhhh Yes it does jack ass! WE, the readers look at this grossly slanderous written article as an extension of the writer. We never asked you for your advice, yet you post this sh*t here so people can view your opinion. You 8767 ve managed to make an assessment of Portland 8767 s women and generalized the whole state based on your lack of being a human being. You knew what you wrote was not right to begin with that why you don 8767 t have a picture posted along with your credentials. Even so,doesn 8767 t matter that someone looked you up and posted your picture here for everyone to see. What does matter is that everyone who read this garbage already knew you were an ugly person on the inside, as well as the outside.
I don t believe it works that way.
I think what needs to be done instead is to accept some base truths. You got to accept that you are equal to others. We are all good enough (or suck equally, depending on how you look on it). And because of that, you don t have to cover up your weak sides, you don t have to act in a way that seems foreign to you, and you don t need to fear people being critical about you.
(If they are, you can cooly judge if they got a point or if their criticism is ridiculous.)
I feel for your situation and the lack of support. I can relate to a lot of what you 8767 ve said. I feel different from most women for many reasons, and the online dating scene just doesn 8767 t appeal to me. They take your money and you get no satisfaction. I tried it and found it to be a waste. I contacted four guys through this venue and received no response from any of them. I even went out of my comfort zone a bit to give these guys a chance to just start a conversation. I am comfortable in my own skin and I know I am a quality person. It hurts when nobody gives you a chance.
To answer the first question, a bit of both. On the odd occasion I 8767 d find a second wind (or a guess a third or fourth) and send some messages, the only ones that got replies were from people who made it a requirement that you have a photo online so it would automatically add them to the start of the message. I remember a couple that were a fairly polite 8775 I think we 8767 re looking for different things 8776 and the like but it was mostly abuse centred around my appearance in the photographs. The one that springs to mind immediately and I 8767 ll self-censor it as I 8767 m not quite sure what the language rules are on here was along the lines of:
I think it is a mistake to limit the age of women you may choose to date. What if the perfect woman for you turns out to be 99, 55, or 56? I would look at it this way, if you meet a mature, kind woman who is interested in you, don 8767 t focus on her age. Focus on what her interests are, what her values are, and how she treats people. I don 8767 t mean that you should date women who obviously are in their 75 8767 s. You can feel it when someone is mature and has lived enough of life to be compatible.
You are absolutely right. There is nothing quite like having that chemistry with someone, knowing your partner has your back and will stand by you no matter what. It 8767 s a rare thing these days it seems, especially the older you get. I can tell you right now that I have never felt as connected and peaceful to the core of my being as when in the arms of my partner. Just being quiet together is like nothing else in the world. Deep down don 8767 t we all want to feel a deep connection with another living soul?
As far as attractive women not responding to messages - the anonymity of the keyboard and screen have emboldened hordes of men to approach these women, when in the past the scummy ones would''ve just been the guy in the corner of the bar staring, the guy randomly bumping and grinding on women on the dancefloor, but their masses would''ve been guys just sitting at home, in their basement, peeling wings off flies or whatever. But the internet and online dating have bridged "desire" and "action" so that with virtually zero effort, lots of socially-maladjusted misogynist a-holes can dump their trash anywhere without the consequences they''d face trying to do it in person. So I do think that women are embittered by the vast deluge of BS they have to sift through, and it drowns the more nobly-purposed attempts.
im 95 and my mate is were married but gotten been together seven have our sex use to be like fire,but now its basically trying to keep him satisfied due to my age,woman question is will he end up leaving me?..i love him just dont know how to keep have no children dont have a foundation together to build can i
Certainly this could be attributed to my actions. However having lived through the experience I can attest that I strove to make her feel loved and accepted as she was. Ultimately what I''ve come to understand is that she has not yet learned to accept herself. I believe this is incredibly common in our society. After all our marketing systems have done a very thorough job of setting impossible and often inane ideals and as we are both aware the primary victims are women.
Also, your little detective work would screw you out of some great guys if you are too harsh. I can totally understand if the guy pops up with a history of violence or drug arrests, but my friend is a member of a not so exclusive club. See, many men here in Florida get a restraining order put on them. It pretty much goes like this women here often use them as power plays. Men with no history of violence end up with them. Biggest reason is that they don 8767 t think they need to get a lawyer. Without a lawyer, a judge will almost always grant it.
Wonderful website!!! I absolutely never would have tought that so many guys would date older women. I was divorced several years ago and for 8 years never dated at all but many times guys much would want dates which I laughed off. After rethinking about dating the men, I acceped and have been dating these guys for about 6 years. I am 56 but everyone says I dont look past 95. I will never remarry but I am having such a fun time dating! I never knew that sex could be so amazing,my last guy (age 79) picked me completely up and carried me to the bed. My heart was beating so fast I thought I would explode! I fully agree with another post on here, if an older woman is asked by a much guy, then BY ALL MEANS, be with him! One man that I dated was 79 years old when I was 59 and his mother and I became very close. She urged us to marry but it was just not in the have no intention of giving up dating the men, I love pleasing them!!
The internet is the number one reason for the rise of sexism on the modern age. Women see men for what they are and vice versa. Women ignore most men and clump them all together as pathetic or creeps in broad generalizations and only go for the male model looking profiles. Result is good looking men with professional grade photos and the women willing to have casual sex with them are the only ones getting what they want. Meanwhile other women despise that, the ones that arent interested in casual sex. They see the guys they would want to be with acting like apes because they get an all you can eat buffet while simultaneously ignoring men they could have chemistry with, because meeting people in person is very different from online.
You are not the top 65% of women. You''ve deluded yourself into getting it the opposite way around. The truth is that 95% of men target 95% of women - that''s why a 69 year old, who should be way out of your league as a woman way past her prime , will still contact you and not just focus on the more attractive girls his own age. Meanwhile, 95% of women really do target only 65% of men. You are looking for nothing but hot, single men in their thirties, and so is every other woman on the website. Goes to show what primadonnas women on dating sites are when you can get it all this wrong.
Meanwhile in MoF cheating, the worst that happens to a woman is that her partner might start spreading his resources to other women. Of course, it is advantageous for women to prevent this, preferably by blocking cheating completely. This is why women 8767 s reactions to cheating are more 8775 how dare you, ya son of a bitch! 8776 than 8775 oh the agony. 8776 Physical access may take up some of the male 8767 s available resources, but continuous support for other females requires emotional investment, which is why men tolerate emotional infidelity more easily than women.
When I first got curious about online dating and started browsing free ads on a site that appropriately rhymes with Dregs List, I was stunned at how many w9m ads included the almost verbatim request You must be 5 65 or taller. Sorry, just a preference! And among women who screened for height, that 5 65 cutoff point was SUPER consistent across the board (unless they went for the full-on 6 ). It was just weird to me, because it seemed so arbitrary to be that common. And frustrating because I m 5 9. 🙂 (On the other hand, that one inch might have frozen me out of some really ill-advised hookups.)
Because of my butt kicking on more than one front, I am pretty accepting of people and their unique differences. I am also one who is not into drama, and I prefer a simple life with some periodic adventures. I am a nature girl with one horse and two dogs, but my days of raising animals is over. If it wasn 8767 t for the fact that my ex-husband wanted the dogs I wouldn 8767 t even have them. He gave them to me after the divorce even though they were supposed to remain with him. If he could throw me out of his life like trash I should have known he would throw away the dogs he wanted that I raised for him. The dogs will be with me until they leave this world because I believe in owning up to my responsibilities, but after that I am done with dogs.
It might very well be your neck of the woods, but who knows. I will point out though 7 items I gleaned from your mention of those 7 players. One is, they seem to have preselection working for them. Other women have sung their praises, which inteague others. So these guys must have something that allows them to do well with women. My guess, they have a reputation of being very good in bed. I have known players that have nothing going for them other than a reputation for being well hung. I am curious to know what these women who go home with them look like though, but that 8767 s beside the point.
I am 99 and he is 79, we are deeply in love for 8+ years! I am married/live with another, but there is no love, only live in the same house due to money obligations. I spend most of my time with my boo. We vacation together, 8 yrs in a row. He believes that his family won 8767 t agree and will possibly disown him. So I am a secret. Even if family plan to visit, he takes everything of mine(which is a lot) and will hide it in a closet so no one know that a woman is in his life. I find it very difficult!
Yep. I always felt awkward around my first boyfriend (who was about 7 inches taller than me) and thought that I could never wear heels, even though I kind of liked wearing heels back then, because he was pretty insecure and would probably have said something in that mean-but-oh-so-innocent way that he always used to cut me down.
So the next guy I dated was a foot taller than me, which I thought would get rid of all of the weird insecurity. But it didn t, it just popped up based on other things. And after we broke up I basically started ignoring height as a factor when looking for other dating partners. And I met my fiancé , who s basically the same height as me, when wearing 9-inch heels at a party. The fact that he didn t shrink away from my arctic gigantism took him up many notches in my book.