Posted: 2017-12-07 04:44
6) Get into personal development or therapy NOW. This can be an absolute life changer. The best 8 I know of are Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (scientifically proven, results in weeks), Landmark Education (most affordable, huge results in 8 days but may not be appropriate yet as you 8767 re suicidal), and Internal Family Systems therapy. Get money by working or do whatever you can to get money from your family and friends to pay for this, your insurance may also cover it. It is all designed to challenge the attitudes and fixed beliefs and conversations you have in your head that have you not believing in yourself, feeling hopeless, insecure, and especially any stuff from your past that may have contributed to this.
Then one morning, I vomited.
I went to my doctor,and took a urine test.
I was pregnant. We saw the heart beat and the look on his face..it was as if he was disgusted with me for having such a thing in me.
The next week , he snapped and started hitting me, screaming at me, spitting in my face, laughing at me while I cried. Threw my stuff down the stairs, threw things at me , threw a soup can at my head. He choked me, slammed into walls, put a wallet chain around my neck until I almost blacked out.
He constantly put me down ,
tore me apart infront of coworkers, friends, family.
I was so isolated and alone.
At the time my mother and grandfather were living in Florida and were both very ill. So when I was six months pregnant, I thought well 8776 maybe we need some time to ourselves..and maybe he will change for the baby 8776 . I went down to Florida to help my mother, for a week he talked to me..we seemed fine and that the time was working in our favor.
he snapped again
for almost two months he ignored me. No contact , nothing whatsoever.
I am married to a person with all these signs I got married 8 months have had serious fights since i got married every time he is wrong and puts the blame on me i had left home 5 times and stayed at my parents everytime people tell me that I need to compromise because it happens in a newly married couple and secondly they( one of his friend) tell me that He cried for me and he is missing me but he actually never did I know,anyways then i move back to him because i feel that he is broken and solo so he needs me maybe I could Fix the flaws in his life as i love him to thats another thing. Now I am pregnant i feel like Im trapped badly now and i have to live with him I dont know what should I do please suggest me I dont want to take the wrong decision because I dont want any regrets in my Life please if there is any way he could get better then Im ready to do that but please help me
Sorry to hear a women abused you!!!! It hurts no matter who is doing to a human being or animal. But we we must pray lefting our hands to GOD thee almighty he loves us and never leave or forsake us. He will heal us, we have to seek him, he is closer then a have been abused BAD I would never treated my DOG like that, it breaks my heart when I have flash backs. If I would have done it to my DOG it would never survived!!! I 8767 m happy I was the victim not the abuser!!!! I rather kill myself thats the most horrible person to be I hate how he abused ME Bad, even wanted to crash his CAR into truck on the highway. BUT GOD heard my cry and threw his GRACE I 8767 m hear to share my Story! !!! He committed GOD give us all wisdom and protects us all Lift your hands to the Almighty read your Bible, Believe he loves us he would never hurt us DON 8767 T give your life away like this RUN DON 8767 T look back GOD BLESS US All!!!!!
I cant b too hurry and later i can explain am with a man who is the posterchild for all of these examples kmow people sayto just get away from me if it was that easy i do love him and we hav a 8 but he is never wrong and always has an xcuse for his sisters r the time i took a friend to church shes married to preachers of introducing herself and welcoming ignored her and asked her brother(one im with)who she was and how nasty she looked bcuz she wore makeup and had some tatoos!!!!they all claim to b i truly believe hitler and manson hav a better chance at cant tell u how much it hurts to feel like u r trapped n a horror ever knowing wat the day has n store 9 i cld tell my story but ran outa time gotta hustle on the !!
All of this is true of my husband except he is very good to animals and people except immediate family. He always tells strangers how great I am and then at home it 8767 s how great I 8767 m not. He treats my parents dogs better than he treats my parents. He 8767 ll go above and beyond fir strangers but can 8767 t do simple for me. I chalk it up to selfishness, but I feel abused. I always have to explain where every penny goes but he gets hundreds of dollars he takes for himself and everything he gives me for bills he says he is just 8775 giving away tome. 8776
WOW and OMG!!! You said it perfectly! I have been with an Iraqi Muslim man for over 8 years and going on 9 (also dated another one prior to the current) and everything you said is exactly right and TRUE!!! I wish I knew what I was getting myself in to however I don 8767 t regret what I 8767 ve been thru with him although it 8767 s a 8775 never ending story 8776 . They will keep beating you around the bush (. strung along) with commitment promises that will NEVER be fulfilled get used to it or end it!
9. Having intimate relations with you then either disappearing for a few days or forever. This happens often and for a lot of reasons. Women in the Arab culture are highly respected and taught to respect themselves. Being intimate with a man before marriage is almost unheard of. So a woman who doesn 8767 t abide by this rule is often seen a a woman who has no respect for herself by an Arab man 8767 s standards. She 8767 s certainly not marriage material. Keep your panties on, women!
Short and sweet the silent treatment is what takes place when he knows he 8766 has you 8767 . He doesn 8767 t have to work to get you anymore so he turns the tables and makes you work to keep him. Easy fix stop calling, texting, or responding to him. Ignore him for about 8-5 days. He 8767 ll learn the silent treatment doesn 8767 t work on you and hopefully it will stop. Yes, immature and childish but sadly that 8767 s somewhat typical. I say if he does it again dump him and find someone who has an adult mind. Don 8767 t let him play games with you.
He always leaves me marks like if he owns me and im obviously im ok with it cause i love him and i dont have anyone to hide them for but yesterday when we spent the day together i felt like he was hiding something on his phone. Yet i was the one posting pictures of us not him. I post a picture of us from his phone which got deleted right away behind my back. He is the nicest arabic ive ever met and he is not afraid to treat me like a queen in public he sweaps me off my feet all the time and swears how diffrent he is. Im scared of getting more deep into this whatever we are and being that girl left because of not meeting some arabic standard.
All their past trauma and pain is linked to you and your love (or proof that they are unlovable). The smallest perceived slight triggers them and the self-hatred they are so desperately trying to rid themselves of. It 8767 s probably the most heartbreaking disorder there is because the more you care for them, the more they hurt and push you away and/or become abusive. Many are so hopelessly lost in their internal loveless void that they never seek treatment. Dealing with their trauma would feel like they are showing someone they actually deserved it.
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He always says his mom was set on him marrying a girl within the country but his father insists on that he could marry anyone as long as she is a Muslim, he would ALWAYS say this, hinting that I should become Muslim. Other evidence he was hinting at it, following the 8775 as long as she 8767 s Muslim 8776 statement he would say 8775 Then you would just have to get the tattoo on your foot removed and the one on your finger could pass as a scar if you put some make-up on it. 8776 First of all- hilarious. Secondly, let me mention the tattoo on my finger is tiny, but its a Cross. Also let me mention that he is 655% serious.
One night, when I was eleven days away from giving birth to our child, he smashed me across the face(breaking my nose) , slammed me into a recliner ,smashed all my expensive called my mother in a panic thinking my child was going to die if he continued anymore abuse towards me. She called the police and showed up to the apartment. He smiled in her face , and said 8776 yeah I hit her 8776
My husband and I met through a work thing. He never had rules for me and I never had any for him. From the beginning to now. We simply respect one another and always have each other 8767 s best interest at heart. If your boyfriend has 8766 rules 8767 you need to get away from him as fast as you can. If his family doesn 8767 t accept you then move on. Otherwise you 8767 re only setting yourself up for hurt and disappointment. There are plenty of people out there, dedicate yourself to one who meshes more with your lifestyle.
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dated a woman who showed all those traits, I never knew such people existed. 9th year she cracked, that 8767 s when things went really bad, lasted 7 more years with the last one where I was actually scared for myself and child. long story short I ended it, blaming me. I am financially ruined now, but no worries, it won 8767 t be for ever. Oh i have read many articles now concerning those types. believe me the radars are up. run as fast as you can, see the signs, know them, be aware.
There is no help for people like that, been there done that. people that are like this, they think that everyone else has the issues not them. My ex was real good at putting up a front you would have thought he was the perfect gentlmen. when he got me home he done a 865 then asshole mode kicked in. he was mean to his pets, his kids and me. You have to make a descion stay and deal with it because they dont change, or get out before it gets worse.
Even though she has said she’s fine with just sex, I feel like she wants more. It’s been over a year since we first started talking and I’m starting to believe she thinks we are more serious than we are. I’ve never been great about breaking up and so I’m curious what this type of situation requires. Can I text her? A phone call? An in-person awkward conversation? I want to be respectful but I also don’t want it to seem more serious than it is. I feel like if I talk to her in person I’m somewhat acknowledging the “commitment” that I’ve never truly felt.
I 8767 m not sure how it works for Arab guys who have no feelings for a woman, but I know in Arabic culture the women of a man 8767 s family are the people he holds in the utmost highest position in his life and therefore guards them against outside women if he has feelings for her. I know that probably seems backwards, but there 8767 s a lot of things that are the exact opposite in a Arabic culture from American culture. But from what you said it doesn 8767 t seem like he has any interest in you in that way so take AG 8767 s advice and be wary of his proposition.