Posted: 2017-10-12 16:09
Most single mothers are single mothers because she chose to get with a lower earner or deadbeat bad boy and have kids with him in the first place. It is easier to be a loser and get an attractive women because a lot of women are drawn to worthless she gets sick of him after she 8767 s had a couple of his kids, then she comes looking for we successful guys and wants us to be the breadwinner and pay she and her brood 8767 s bills. No thanks.
Liz am in the same situation except he is 68 and am 85, i do have the same cncerns as most women the age gap thing, in the begninng i started it casual i wasn 8767 t looking for anything serious just to experiment and to think i am desired by such a person peak my interest, we became intimtate within weeks and found out am his first now its going on six months now nd we are very attached but he has became very jealousful of me nd naggs all t time and argue however we are very much inlove
I am 97 and my ex-husband is 78 we been together for six years hasnt been in our second year of actually getting a has no children,my tubes our tied but he doesnt cate about that a black woman and he is can tell his family tolerates love family but its been desires for him is to have a family they seem to think im too old,but i love use to have a blast together but we work alot and i struggle making him says he is happy but my fear is he will leave sooner or dont show s love unconditionally but i dont know how i not worry?we both have our relaxed buisness we do that not off the ground yet but were doing good to be thought it would atleast be good in his family s eyes but they simply dont just want him happy perferably not with me.
Seems a bit shallow to only really care about her looks and surely every woman has a 8766 womanly voice 8767 ? How will you cope when you find a woman your age and you 8767 re together for a while and she starts ageing at 99? Would you leave her then? You didn 8767 t know your ex 8767 s age in the beginning. If she continued the lie, you probably would 8767 ve stayed with her and just ignored her ageing body. I do understand where you 8767 re coming from to a certain extent.
I had this one single father I was talking to who was about 85 or so. I wasn 8767 t feeling him when he said he was still living with his wife whom he was divorcing, had 9 kids with. I 8767 m like no. So I told him kids are a turn off and no matter how many times I said that he let that float in one ear and out the other. So he wanted to hang out with me one day. Once he realized I have a house he was quick and ready to move in with me and how we can put OUR NAMES on all of OUR STUFF (my stuff) like the house, my car, and how the KIDS will love OUR BIG BACKYARD.
I tend to be attracted to different (age, race, not values, but hobbies etc.) Sometimes the differences bring you closer together if you are able to talk about things with one another. The coupe tends to not fall back on assumptions as much. You as the older woman may or may not want more children which is usually a deal breaker. You or he may be looking for long term versus a fling so find out. I think every one and every couple has fears. Just being able to voice them kindly often relieves pressure. If family and friends will be a hassle they aren t very good friends.
The breakdown is this. Her children are all under 9. She and I can 8767 t seem to go a full day without getting upset over something the other does. At this point I 8767 m almost expected to be a father to these children. Now don 8767 t get me wrong, I care a lot for them. She and I just have two completely polar methods of parenting, her being more passive and relaxed while I 8767 m much more active and strict. This tends to cause us to butt heads (not to mention the outside opinions we get). My only explanation and means to justify this being that a majority of the time there were scheduling conflicts and her job has always paid better than mine, so I wound up being stay at home dad for about a year. Anyways .
Dating stinks. Not all guys are arrogant, self absorbed jerks wanting one night stands. So, it seems all men are thrown into the same mix of dirtbags. I''ve dated a lot of ladies and yes I have my standards. Who wants to settle. The gals I''ve dated were attractive and my ex wife was good looking. The head games played by women, empty profile or blatant ignores makes online dating a serious crapshoot. "Lets go for coffee" crickets.. very frustrating.
Here is my story. I believe in God first and foremost in my life. Because I have put him first in everything, I have asked him to bless me with a husband that will love me deeply, a man that has a strong sense of self confident, a man that is strong willed (to handle me), a man that has integrity, a man that is financially stable, a man that will love my child, and a man that is very pleasing to the eye. I told God that I didn&rsquo t care what color this husband would be. I meant every bit of that. Not only did he bless me with all I ask, but he gave me a man that met all of the criteria that God (himself agreed with) knew would make us a loving and passionate couple. He is over 85. My man is Caucasian and I am Black. I am never concerned about his race at all. He is everything I asked for and then some. I am an educated and professional woman. He is an educated and established professional man.
These comments have been of a great help to me as I have recently met a guy Im 85 and he is 76. We met on a night out 6 weeks ago and we ended up kissing and he wanted to see me again but I declined until 7 weeks ago when I thought what the hell!! He looks and acts late twenties and also holds down 7 jobs and rents his own place with another. Its only been 7 weeks but we get on very well and I am enjoying getting to know him I have told him I want to wait to have sex and he respects this.
Thing is my brain is running agead of me and am now thinking what if he does not want children till much later as I want children in the next 7 or 8 years and I would like to get married one day. Part of me thinks just go with the flow and enjoy it but then also part of me thinks am I wasting my time and a hard one as I find him attractive and he is also a nice person .what to do??
Ultimately, no one can objectively advise a woman whether she should date a man, as only she knows what her goals are, and only she feels her needs and desires are at that specific stage in her life considering the unique circumstances of her present emotional state and her dating past. An intense physical affair might just be something she needs to enjoy your life and to be distracted from her previous break-up or disappointments in men.
As you said, everyone has their own experience, and from a language perspective, I find it interesting that, while it is my case (we speak French at home, as we ended up moving here well before I knew anything about the Japanese language), every other bi-national couple that I know in town speak Japanese at home, regardless of who is the foreigner in the couple.
I guess it may come from the fact that most foreigners who end up living in Takamatsu are not your 8775 usual foreigner in Japan. 8776 (those live in Tokyo or Osaka, they don 8767 t even know that 8767 s in possible to live somewhere else in the country)
And it 8767 s true that my wife takes care of many things I 8767 d take care of if we were anywhere else (like buying a cell phone) and while I wish I could do it, it 8767 s just easier that way. Concerning managing the budget, she does it, has always done it, and I don 8767 t remember if I asked for it, but I 8767 m pretty happy about that and this is not an issue at all. She can manage a budget, I suck at it, it makes sense that she do it.
I have one child I am a single mother I am not on food stamps and any government assist, and I do not receive child support I am a nurse the father does not help with nothing however because I am a single mom, men look at me like they look at any other single mom. We all just looked at as if we are worthless. But that 8767 s fine, life goes on view me is worthless that means you missed out on a good person. Some will say well if you are a good person why are you left alone with a child? He 8767 s 69 now, I am 87 so I had him at 69 very I was pregnant and so was 7 other women I decided to leave and they decided to stay with him. But I guess that makes me not good enough because I am a single mom.
First, I’ll start this article by saying, “just kidding.” I have immense loyalty to black women, and that’s all I’ve ever dated in my adult life. But after reading the article “ 8 Reasons to date a white man ,” I just had to respond for the brothers. We know white men are just as imperfect as the rest of us. But the idea that the author decided to put white males on a pedestal above black men without considering the challenges of being black in America had me fuming. So, here are some reasons that those brothers who date white women might have decided to do so:
I m 79 and dating a 88 year old. The age difference isn t crazy but she s decided that its not a good look for her to date a guy 9 years than her. We haven t slept together (fully) but are still hanging out, and are quite close to one another. In spite of her kind of calling the fling off, we were holding hands, touching one another, gazing into each others eyes lots on a date just last night. I wanted to kiss her the whole night but didn t find the courage. I did give her a hug and kissed her cheek when I left, she seemed happy with that.
When dating someone with children, don&rsquo t assume there is drama with the other parent or that you&rsquo ll be expected to play a parental role everyone&rsquo s different. But I&rsquo d caution people against having a revolving door of romantic interests in their children&rsquo s lives. Similarly, I&rsquo d advise against completely shielding children from the fact that you have an active dating life. Each parent has to find the happy medium and make it work best for all parties involved.
I am proud to say that I am a very looking 85 y/o woman. I started dating an amazing guy who is 76 year old two weeks ago. We couldn t be happier except for his mother. She hates me because of my age and acts like I m such man-eating tramp. It is already starting to turn into this huge drama. The problem is that I have fallen hard for this man. We really are just so perfect for each other. I don t know how to handle the whole mom situation since he still lives at home. I would try talking to her but just last night she was on the phone cursing at me. I just don t know what to do! Why do some people have such a problem with us? We couldn t be happier dang it! 🙁
Bud, you 8767 re really putting too much thought into this.
It was a wedding shooting. I don 8767 t know the couple.
It might be that they are both into classical music, maybe they both play instruments, maybe they met each other at a classical concert.
This is most likely all rental stuff, only for the shooting. You 8767 d be surprised to see how much money most couples spend on their wedding here in Japan. )
But this has made me realize that perhaps I am not as smart as I thought and am falling for him. I thought that he was so special that if he found someone more suited for him and he could start a family with in the future I would be OK with that. He is very smart and mature and doesn 8767 t like when people lead other people on, He 8767 s honest and full of character far more than any 95 year old I know. Otherwise I never would have gone there, seriously.