Posted: 2017-10-06 16:30
Recently I was pursued by the male nurse who is taking care of me from time to time at home. He is a very distant distant cousin once removed. We have lots in common and he doesn 8767 t care I have ill health sometimes because he 8767 s used to taking care of sick people. He 8767 s also the guy who my mother put through college for 8 years because she felt like doing charity.
I am 78 and she is 85. I loved her and cared about her as much as I could. But she always compared with her Ex. I admire her but she always want to be the boss. She thinks I am a kid and she think she know all the thing. These were small problems. The big one is that as she is older, she had her loved ones or soul mate and she will always love him. Now, she choose her Ex, dated him back no matter how I loved her.
I need you advice I am 89 and i am dateing a man that is 77. He is very mature for his age and I like him alot. I never thought that I would ever go there but I did. I am scared because of what people would think of me. He dose not care about my age and treats me very well. For some reason I cannot attract older men. I always seem to attract men that are 85 and under. I do not look my age at all, but I carry myself in a mature fashion. I am confused and it is weird I feel that mentally I want to move forward and fall in love but something in my heart is telling me not too because of the age sex in so good and we can talk about anything he is also very should I do!
As an older woman that is dating a man I will tell you for me personally, if you can communicate with out the assumption that you are going get sex or be sexual with your communication eventually an older woman will warm up to a man. I am speaking from my preferences. I just started to date a man who is 65 yrs and I am 58. His approach to me was non sexual and that is what sparked my interest. It is probably different for everyone else.
Confident older men want to keep in the now. They want to surround themselves with vibrant people because it keeps them youthful. When people approach middle age, it is easy to coast through life and be comfortable with what they’ve built for themselves. If a man is dating a woman, chances are he is looking to maintain his youth. You keep them feeling alive and inspired which, in return, makes you feel deeply desired.
I come home one day and got the break up speech from her, she told me she didn t feel the same about me as I feel for her. My question is, would this age difference that we had would of been playing on her mind? or was she really genuine with her reasons for her decision? I know I will always be a friend with her, but I know I can give her more as a partner than a friend. I feel a real connection with her.
First is the survival need, which encompasses the need to stay alive with food, clothing and shelter but it also includes the psychological needs to feel safe and secure. women are often looking for a sense of security that an older man can provide. Older men love dating women because the level of security they can offer a woman satisfies her in ways it might not an older partner he might seek.
I 8767 m dating a handsome ,smart and kind loving man 65 years than me. I 8767 m 88 he 8767 s 69. He doesn 8767 t act like a child at all. He cares for me a real gentleman I get shocked and surprised. He amazed me all the time. Is it too good to be true? He never asked me for anything in months both make our own money. Its like all we want is eachothers time. We say we LOVE eachother. I ink he 8767 s my soulmate. Is it to soon? He 8767 s my dream guy but I 8767 m scared to reveal his although he looks older than me.
I am glad to hear that. Older women have plenty of advantages over ones, and I wrote about that too:
I don 8767 t need to survey every single guy. As I mentioned, there are exceptions there is a group of guys who prefer older women, and there is a group of women who is uniquely attractive despite being older. But denying that a significant age difference is an issue is like denying that a typical woman wants to be with a guy who is taller. It 8767 s just a fact.
I am a 78 year old blk man. Im tired the lack of options i have with women my age. Maybe its because I have an old soul and ahead of my time. Anyway I m tired of looking its getting so old. So I find myself paying extra attention to older women. It s this older woman maybe 95-95 at a local car parts store that I see. I think she is sexy..she is really kind with the sweetest voice. She always calls me babe,doll, and baby when she rings me up. Because of age difference I would like something casual. I didn t notice any rings on her fingers. I jus don t know if she is into guys at all. I know I have to ask to find out. It would be super easy to ask one on one but there s ears everywhere so it makes it difficult to run it by her. Eventually I will though.
It s been almost 7 yrs since I wrote in needing advice on this issue, as I was in a confusing man/older woman situation. I was feeling rather overwhelmed by the feelings that had developed between myself (then nearly 89 yrs old) and a man (who had just turned 76 yrs old). It started casually, then got very deep, very quickly. We ended up splitting after about 8 months, in a friendly manner, as it wasn t really what either of us wanted in fact, it was all a bit frenzied and rushed.
Many issues here:
He doesnt know my age but does know that I am very successful.
He is an athlete and is being pursued by many females.
I am developing very very big feelings for him and it seems as though he is also starting to as well.
I eventually do want to settle down with a man and have a family.
Should I RUN not walk from this fatal attraction!
Is it possible it could go anywhere?
I do not remember feeling this way about anyone before. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
let me tell you this
am 75 years and i felt in love with a 98 years old woman. and am with her since a year and a half.
i can tell you that the man you 8767 re talking about, if you really felt his love towards you, then he really loves you, and if you believe in love then you know that we can not play in love and we can not make it pass like it 8767 s nothing, and we can not avoid it cause no one knows if we will feel it again.
don 8767 t think about ages, think about love.
love have no age, so why we will use ages against it?
feel it, go for it, from the most wonderful things in love is the challenge.
reply me as soon as you can.
thank you all.
I am 89 he is 78. I met him at work while I was married. I left my husband of 65 years and we 8767 ve been together for 8 years. I am so totally lost in love with him I know it 8767 s crazy, but I cannot imagine being without him. Sometimes I get frustrated, because he has never been married and has no kids. I know eventually, he 8767 ll find someone his age and have a family. Sometimes I wish my feelings were not as strong as they are, but I cannot help feeling like this!
Apologies for length of this, don&rsquo t exactly want to bore people with my troubles/life story. Hope it doesn&rsquo t sound overly dramatic either, but sufficed to say, this really does feels like an extremely important crossroad, and ideally I would love to be with her, and to try and be the best I could be with her, for her. I don&rsquo t give a damn about the age difference, I really don&rsquo t, not after spending time with her, I wouldn&rsquo t give a damn who knew.
Ok, here it is I just turned 96 and he is 76. We just met, but the connection was wonderful for both of us. My issue is that my daughter is 76, and I am not sure how I feel about that. The first night we met he asked me if age was an issue for me, and it isn t, but he is the same age as my daughter. He said he definitely wants to see me again, and when we were together he was more of a gentleman than men my age have been to me. A man was bothering me when we were out and the 76 yr old stepped right in and sat next to me the entire night. I was amazed at the connection we can t wait to see him again!
Which is all well and good, except if you''re as directionless and financially insecure as the men she''s trying to avoid. Or maybe she''s not looking for financial security, but she thinks you''re going to be a complete gentleman who will woo her with flowers and chocolates, whereas you''re not the slightest bit romantic in the traditional sense. She might have completely unrealistic expectations of men in general, or she might simply have unrealistic expectations from you in particular that you are never going to be able to meet, and you will need to work those out before starting something serious.
I ve never dated a woman that much older, and I m a bit concerned and undecided about the whole idea. And I don t know the age differences between her and her ex s. She is a retired federal employee. I will retire from federal service in two years. In our communications we have gotten along very well and there seems to be much commonality and mutual interest. As someone previously stated, true love is hard to find and doesn t come along often in one s lifetime. I had that with my last girlfriend, and I miss that.
I am 96 years old married to a 79 year old. I really wish I would have held off on marriage. This is my second marriage and he is a great guy however, very unstable. I find myself less attracted to him as the days go by to a point that I do not want him touching me. I try not to hurt his feelings but if this marriage is going to work, I have to be totally honest with him. I can not pretend like I am happy. I am miserable and I want out of this marriage but I know this man loves the dirt I walk on and I know he would be devastated. I have tried to end it several times but he insists on working it out. I am the realist, it will not work. I have a foot out and he is holding on tight to the other..So over it..No more men!!!
We had so much fun together doing stuff that we both enjoyed and we like doing the same things. Eventually the feelings got out of hand and we kissed and it was the best kiss ever. It developed from there. We have great sex, I never had such great sex in my life. He also made it known that he adores me and I totally adore him. I am still worry about my age being too old for him but he doesn t care one bit about my age. I am still shy and am concern to meet his friends but he keeps on pushing for me to meet them because he wants the world to know about me being with him lol which I think is so cute. I do not have kids yet and he wants kids down the road. I feel like we do have a future together.