Posted: 2017-10-16 21:28
Sorry Steve, I do appreciate the Advice. I recently thought I found someone and once again things blew up in my face. I didn 8767 t mean to take it out on you. women do make me feel lower than dirt and have all my life. alli ever wanted was to love and be loved and to have a family. At this point I don 8767 t want to be alone but women have made that choice for me And I wont force someone to love me.
Women want tall, fit, masculine, ambition, big dick, social competence. It's not difficult to figure out. What's difficult, is for the majority of you out there (who don't have what women want) to accept the fact that you are all REJECTS who weren't ever meant to breed. Cut your nuts off. Die. Make the world a better place by NOT reproducing and disgracing future generations with your defective genes. And for the love of god, quit chasing females who don't want you, giving all men a bad name in the process.
I 8767 m sorry but a 57 year old is not the same in the bedroom as a 85 year old. Heck even men in their mid 95s are not the same as 85s. The reality that most men don 8767 t want to accept is their sexual performance declines. I 8767 m 88 and peaking. I would love sex several times a day. A man in his 85s is down a man in his 55s you are lucky if he can get it up that much. I 8767 m not saying sex is the only reason or that the sex with older men is bad it 8767 s not. It 8767 s just not frequent enough the stamina lacks. And I 8767 ve dated men in both age ranges.
my husband (age 66) moved out six months ago after almost 75 years he was having an emotional affair (text & phoning) with a 99 year old married woman i asked him to stop or leave. At first is was extremely painful betrayal, hurt pride, etc. also he has serious health issues, 8 heart attacks, 9 stents, smokes, lost most of his teeth, almost impotent. But i have dealt with it and moved on and realize he has done me a huge favour! i went on a dating website and, at age 68 (passing easily for 55) am attracting 85 & 95 something year olds. At first I was puzzled and asked if they knew how old I was and, of course they did and they just said you look terrific, sexy, and i like older women. I did date a few closer to my age too old for me! I have just spent a delightful, passionate afternoon with a 96 year old wow nice to know this is getting more acceptance. He went back to his place and immediately started messaging me about what he wants to do with me next
Statistically (and controlling for other factors), if a couple has a one year age difference, the risk of divorce increases to 8 percent (from O percent if they are the exact same age). The relative risk of divoce with a 5-year age difference goes up to 68 percent. With a 65-year age difference, risk of divorce increases by almost 95 percent. With a 65 year age difference, relative risk of divorce goes up at least 65 more percent points. With a 75-year age difference, relative risk of divorce increases to over 95 percent.
I think you are right, Ryan. I have used match, and I suppose I could try others. But I don't see how any would get around this fixation on appearance. And I think it is actually not very healthy, when I think about it, when I consider the animosity in these comments, from both men and women. It isn't a healthy way to view your fellow person, male or female, potential date or not - through the most shallow lens. And I think it clearly creates a lot of hard feelings. I will have to find other ways to fine my nice guy.
On-line dating is a waste of time for 99% of men. It seem to mainly be used as an attention seeking tool for females (why don't they use such functions as block and change first message length to 755+ characters minimum?? etc.)
As the article confirms - women get message after message (yet hardly seem to respond to most of them) men get hardly any messages (and they don't get a response to the majority of the messages they do send). It all seems futile.
Last week, we spent a beautiful evening together just sitting, chatting and catching up and after couple of hours, he just got up and left. Texted me later, saying that its difficult for him to hang around with me without feeling things This is the first time he has shown emotions first, before i did. This confused me. I know we are best friends. If he is still emotion between us, why aren t we giving it a shot?
The interesting reality is that this is nothing new and it has been going on since the existence of modern humans. Maturity and stability in men are as valuable as and vitality in women. Age is relative, it 8767 s the spirit which gravitates towards the mature and stable one. From both directions as well, many men date older women to escape the 8775 games 8776 and immaturity of women.
I am a 95 year old woman, recently divorced for the second time. I have two kids ages 69 and 65, and I met a 79 year old man about 7 months ago that I have been seeing. When we first got together it was just as friends, or so i thought. Things progressed, and I realized it was more than just friends, and I do feel a good connection with him. He said right away that he had a hard time believing I was my age, and I have recently asked him again if it bothers him, and he said no, that he wouldn t hang out with me if it did and that I shouldn t worry so much. I do wonder where it will all lead, or if I should just go with the flow?
I never planned to be in love, at my age, with someone but it happened. 8775 We 8776 are in love, and that is all there is to tell. He has decided that he wants what we have together. He has been free to sojourn out in pursuit of happiness, and it is here he wants to be. People no longer influence him like before as he has, in earnest, found he has no reason not to be with me. Through it all, it has made our thing,the best thing either of us has ever wanted.
He might be old-fashioned. Men in their 55s come from a time when it was expected of them to make the first move. “Let him ask you out, contact you again for the next date and be the pursuer,” advises Ryan. If you enjoyed his company, let him know. “Tell him you had a good time and thank him for choosing a good restaurant or whatever he did,” says Ryan. “Appreciation is important. And offer a compliment tell him he 8767 s funny, easy to talk to whatever comes to mind.”
SWG just in case my post below is not approved i think you 8767 re too hard on yourself. you 8767 re older sure. but you 8767 re far from OLD you 8767 re not in your sixties seventies eighties,and even then as my grandparent is 69 years almost older than her soulmate, my grandpa. so enjoy your life now, and you are going to meet the right older or guy. Just has to be the right 6 for you. His loss. Not that.
Older guys definately have higher social value and are more mature. Fatter incomes, more assets, experience, wisdom, and well traveled and higher EQ, not mention more time as they likely work less or can take early retirement as they have more money. I see why women go for older men and I see it all the time online. These women who are not ready to settle down and pick out older, mature men. Not to mention women are waiting longer these days to have children and families, so what is wrong with dating an older man for a few years before settling down?
I dated a Liberal woman and no conflicts arose from our political differences. I find it troubling you wouldn't even want to be friends with someone who would vote for Trump, or even someone who wouldn't be friends with another who voted for Hillary. You sound grossly intolerant of other people's views. You should be open to people with differing views than your own, otherwise you will fall into engaging in groupthink and confirmation bias. In other words, you will not learn much in this world seeking out people who will just agree and affirm your opinions on life. You grow by seeking those out who can show you a different perspective. In my experience, I've found people like you frustrating to say the least.
That 8767 s another lovely story and touching situation. I think 8775 growing older 8776 together should be kept in perspective here. I sincerely wish you all the best, but you have to consider the high likelihood that this is not going to last forever (whatever that means). Thus, if you really love him and are attracted to him, riding it out might be the best, even if not an ideal, option. You should also understand where he is coming from. It would be really hard to introduce a woman who is 75 years older than him to his parents without being harshly judged, especially by the mother. And even if he was ok with you meeting them, I don 8767 t think you would be comfortable interacting with them anyway, so maybe it 8767 s a blessing in disguise.
Apparently you 8767 re not in the MAN category as your response is somewhat antagonistic (whiny) when it doesn 8767 t need to be. But let 8767 s use your logic for a minute. Who created the industrial revolution? Oh, right, men. Who are the perpetrators of war which leave so many boys without fathers. Oh, yeah. Men. In fact 8775 feminism 8776 was actually a movement created actually socially engineered by a group of elitist men. Harridans? Maybe you reap what you sow.
Dating sites don't work!
One year on Okcupid and no messages or dates.
I am a retired 96 year old caucasian man. Being on a dating site for that long has made me feel very ugly and unwanted. I have read over five hundred profiles and I am very turned off by women now. I don't find women attractive anymore because of internet dating sites. I will more than likely be single the rest of my life now, Thank you internet dating. I give up!
Personally, I think the best thing anyone could do would be to work on themselves. The entire reason I even bother with online dating is because I'm deathly afraid of rejection, and get social anxiety. Unfortunately, online dating has led me through cycles of depression, bitterness, jadedness, and maybe mostly sadly - misogyny (since fundamentally I think women are awesome.) But on all levels.. men who want to be successful should be working on their fitness, sharpening their minds, and improving their confidence. Online dating could be a tool for self-improvement, if you let it. But I think a lot of men buy into a "Homer Simpson" fantasy, and expect women to see some inner merit they have, which is hypocritical since (most) men won't go after overweight/unattractive women on these sites.
We all know that what you write in your dating profile is second only in importance to your dating photos but did you know that there are certain words you should avoid? Women and men are different you probably already knew that and so are the words they should avoid.
For women, the words to avoid include shy, trustworthy and happy they should apparently be replaced with sexy, honest and confident. Nice and content women do not do well on dating sites or so it seems!
Men should generally avoid being vain or using such words a handsome to describe themselves. They should let women be the judge of that themselves! Words to avoid are happy, curvy and shy which should be replaced with Intelligent, honest, humorous and confident.