Posted: 2017-09-11 11:02
So I met this girl through a good friend of mine, we talked for about 9 days and then I asked her out, and we kissed, the following week she came over and we made out and stuff, then we went out again 9 days later and kissed again, its been a month since the last time a I saw her, I 8767 m kinda trying to ask her out, but she made up some excuses about studying or having a busy weekend, I kinda dropped the ball for a week and then started to talking to her again, sometimes she responds nicely and sometimes she ignores me, what do you think I should do? really weird because everything was going great and suddenly it just went kinda bad.
Russians, I must say, have everyone beat when it comes to emotional warmth and depth, and quality of conversations. With the exception of a few of the people, who can be very jaded and materialistic, they make everyone else in the West look shallow, lol! And they 8767 re FUN and energetic! I did find the concept of 8775 fun 8776 to be a bit lacking in Sweden. Even though there were plenty of opportunities for enjoyment, there seemed to be a certain level of inertia or lack of imagination on the part of my hosts. Maybe that 8767 s part of the Scandinavian 8775 reserve 8776 the blog talks about.
I just have 7 questions. First of all. Are you ready to move to sweden or are you preying upon the swedish males that are visiting your country=P. Are you ready to move abroad if you find the ONE guy?. If you are ready to move abroad then things might be easier if you are hellbent on meeting a swedish guy. Because otherwise you would have to find someone online that is willing to move to venezuela, it is a big step for either of you.
So I guess my question is this: If a woman is considered a 8775 prize 8776 based on the fact that she has many suitors and chose this one specific guy, how do you make yourself look like a prize without involving all these other men in your life? Is it enough just to look extra good when the 7 of you go out just so that men are gawking at you, or must you actually have a line of pursuers? (Which ends up looking like a bit of game-playing when you 8767 re only interested in him)
I met a Swedish girl last week and I thought she was 76 but she turned out to be much older. I was amazed because she looked amazing! I never would have thought she was the age she was. This was my first time going out with a Swedish girl and she is very tall and beautiful. I was pleased that she was so nice and down to earth. When the bill arrived she offered to pay half, but I payed for it because it is the man 8767 s duty to pay for the first date. It 8767 s refreshing to go out with a girl who has traditional values and not the baggage that American girls have. Hopefully, we will go out again and she can stay in the . with me. :)
i have read your post and think its very interesting. I am Irish and have a swedish Girlfriend. i think the fat that i have that so called 8766 irish charm 8767 really helped! but having been in sweden a few times, i notice the swedish guys, in general, are really nice and down to earth! unlike UK guys. i dont see any agression or fights and everyone seems chilled out!i dont know why swedish women love foreign guys, its true in part, but swedish guys are noce too. i do know quite a few
I understand it is good fun to chat with Swedes, but Mötesplatsen is legitimate dating site that is seeking to keep their client base happy. Letting foreigners in to flirt with women who will never be able to meet them, and in the scenario in which you do decide to meet them requires either you to ask her to fly to you or you to fly to her is the type of thing that annoys people and causes the loss of clientèle.
Tony, thanks for your responses. Its really cool you do that on here. Many 8775 gurus 8776 don 8767 t do that. I have read a few of your articles and lots of what you have to say seems to click with me. It would seem that your style is more down to earth, and about being yourself, then about specific methods and routines. I like that! It would also seem that your material is less misogynistic then a lot of what is out there, which is great. Anyway, about this situation:
Im from fort lauderdale I went up to FSU for the weekend..I met this girl at FSU shes a freshmen who lives in west palm beach.. danced wit her kissed..than we have been texting for like 8 weeks intensely wit smiley faces haha w/e.. she comes down drove an hour to pick her up take her out..than she goes back up to FSU 5 days later she stopped texting me..wats the problem here..I think she might be in her period maybe or too many guys.
Honey you need to take care of you! Let him do his thing ignore him if he comes back and makes an honest effort he is worth it but if not then it 8767 s his loss. I know how being pregnant with a non committed man feels and you are too good for that and not only that you have bigger things to worry about. It is very true you don 8767 t know love u till you have a child of your own, though it 8767 s not the only love you feel you need, it is. Take my advice and enjoy being pregnant even with the sickness and the pain in the ass of it all because when it 8767 s over you won 8767 t be left with a heart ache of this man, but a beautiful child to love and you will never want your child to waist time feeling the way your feeling now. Conga durations and I wish you the best!
So first and foremost, finding a way to 8775 be OK 8776 internally (that is, not react to his behavior) is an important skill. It keeps your mind open and clear and when you 8767 re open and clear, a lot of the time the 8775 problem 8776 ends up dissolving or even not becoming a problem in the first place The big lesson here: In almost all cases, it 8767 s the 8775 problem 8776 that 8767 s the problem it 8767 s our reaction to it.
I actually was on a date with this lady, but she was kinda getting too close to me. I thought she liked me.
The next day she asked me to meet her and have a drink with her but I couldn 8767 t because I was caught up in work.
Since, that day, she has been far too unresponsive and never starts a conversation unlike earlier.
I asked her what was troubling her (was obvious that something was) and she replied that she felt that I was offended by her the night we were out. I replied that I wasn 8767 t and that it was a great night but again since that conversation no response.
What do you suggest I do now?
Great article. I really understand everything you wrote about. I 8767 m dating a guy and I may have messed up the last thing you mentioned. I am on the same page as him with what he loves. We see concerts together, movies, I 8767 ve met his friends. However, two months in I was honest and I told him I was looking for something serious. I should have continued to keep it fun and I messed up. We are still hanging out a lot, but we backed off a little. I 8767 m not sure if I can fix this. In the mean time I 8767 ve started to date other guys, but I really want him. All these thing we are supposed to follow are so confusing. I really wish a guy had to follow all the guidelines to keep my attention instead of the other way around!
theres this girl im texting and we get along well have stuff in common and we are supposed to be hanging out on Friday 7 days from now!! last week she texted me first everyday and this week I had texted her a couple of times and right in the middle of the conversations she just stopped texting me in some of them. she tell me she wants to hang out and is looking fwd to it but if I cant text her long enough to have a conversation how am I supposed to finalize the plans !?!?! I really need your help !!! please respond to this question soon!!
When people are at a place of being OK in their situation, they cut off these destructive cycles at their source: the fear. Whether that fear makes them inwardly destructive (feeling unworthy and rejected, constantly trying to prove herself) or outwardly destructive (being bitchy, conceited, mean, entitled, etc.) is just a surface level problem the root of it comes down to her feeling 8775 not OK 8776 with herself and then the off-putting behavior is her reaction to that fear.
I agree with Celine, a hilarious read. I 8767 m a Swedish guy living in the ., married to an American girl. As someone who has also had Swedish girlfriends, I think you 8767 re missing a few points. Although I know this is not a sociological dissertation, in my experience, the Swedish girl you are describing and what she is supposed to prefer, seems based on a lower class, lower education stereotype, or alternatively, a part of the 8775 new conservative 8776 streak you can detect in Sweden.
I have a big question, I have heard from all my buddies that when they go to Europe the most delightful and beautiful women are all either from Greece, Italy, Germany, Australia and their personal favorite Switzerland. I am 77 years old about to graduate college I 8767 m 5 8767 66 Dominican descent (Spanish) I weight 685 and have mainly muscle in my body. I have a good heart and a set mind to become successful. I am always afraid to talk to women like these because I am afraid to get rejected for being Spanish and white girls wanting to stick to their own.
Hey Eric, great article. Thanks. You 8767 ve touched upon an area in which I feel many women fail to understand, which is the psychology of a man, his inner workings and how he thinks. I only came to understand and realize some of the points in this article after making many mistakes with my ex. I think it 8767 s wonderful that you can produce articles with practical and reasonable advice like this for women. Especially bc there are so few resources out there with such straightforward, clear advice. Thanks again.
The problem with men is, It takes 65% of them 55-years to grow up, wake up, and feel comfortable in their skin. The other 85% never find themselves. The first thing we men need to understand is that women are no aliens. They are females of the human species with the same emotions, desires and needs you have. Read something intesting to talk about and then meet some women and be interest in THEM, not their bodies. Show your sincere interest in the entire package and one day she 8767 ll say, 8775 I 8767 m falling in love with you! 8776 Dr. Steve Newdell
As for the foreign thing, forget it if you 8767 re a middle-eastern/african man. Swedish girls like their americans/italians/french. The racism in Sweden has skyrocketed since 7555 and while we men would not mind to date foreigners i think the women are more conservative cus of the 8775 8776 -generalization that swedish women make of men of color. Simply put, they would not feel safe dating an arabic/african man cus they think he 8767 s a rapist. That 8767 s what i 8767 ve gathered from living in a small town, medium-sized town and now Uppsala.