Posted: 2017-11-14 09:19
People don''t aren''t any different on dating sites than they are/were in "meat market" bars back in the 75s & 85s. Nice guys never had a chance because they were perceived as wimps. Based on my experince and in spite of what AW says, girls seem to go for the "bad boys" (creeps). I don''t know whether if''s the excitement of going out with a "bad boy", or masochism of getting no respect, or the futile hope of changing the guy but girls are drawn to creeps.
I know I am not the only guy to have a girl turn me down with hurtful comments after leading you on and thinking you should have just realized she was not interested and gave up. Thing is you couldn''t "take a hint", but we are adults here and those are games kids play. No need for hints, you can be nice and find a more reasonable time to let a guy down, but don''t wait weeks and then get angry with him because you never made your intentions clear. Because the girls don''t realize, its not that obvious for the guy to see she is trying to put off signals that she lacks interest. We will, in even the more extreme cases, often focus on the few positive over the negatives to keep up our optimism, until its written out in plain english to us, "I flattered, but no thank you." Its easy, just text that and don''t worry, even if you look like Anna Kendricks the guy is unliekly to hang himself over the news.
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Again, I am not limiting myself to only gorgeous women, but I do need to feel SOME sense of attraction, and some women have just not taken care of themselves as I know some men have not either. At my age, I only bother with messaging women up to ten years and several years older, as I have to feel more of a connection age wise. I hate to be harsh, but the years are harsh on some women. Again, a woman does not have to be gorgeous at all, but if my first feeling is that a woman''s picture depicts someone who was a woman in a previous life, then I naturally go to the next profile. Since I still enjoy cross country skiing and cycling, then women who have interests limited to restaurants and being a spectator, then I likewise will pass, regardless of attraction.
In the old days,people just met partners I. School, at church or at work and found a way to make it work. Now you have a seemingly unlimited supply of partners. Even when you find one that is good enough, the current societal conditioning not to settle for anything for the best, or ''the one'' just means the search continues. The ''top '' as in the most desirable of both sexes on these sites go on dates upon dates and most of them never quite find what they are looking for. Making us all a little more shallower as a whole.
My contention is that inequality and competition are the precursors of societies ills. Men mistreating women certainly but more to the point people mistreating each other for gain. It seems odd to think that men seeking a partner would act as many so often do but it is important to remember we''re not dealing with intellectually compassionate equals. We''re dealing with generations of people that have been bred to compete with one another and ultimately not see each other as equals but as enemies of a sort. We''re not killing each other (for the most part at least within our own society) but we are competing for limited resources to our own detriment.
Hint - no woman, anywhere exists for your approval or disapproval. They don''t care. At all. What you think. There is nothing you can do about that. Your opinion is not relevant to almost the entire human race. If you are exceptionally attractive you might manage to get someone to date you once or twice (because, despite the lies you have been told, women are equally visual to men and equally willing to ignore common sense to date someone hot).
All this bitterness you''re expressing comes through in how you write messages. I can guarantee it. That''s why no one writes you back. No one wants to engage with someone they have to prove themselves to. Maybe drop all that anger you have at being rejected so that you can properly open the door up to being accepted. You''re approaching these chicks like, "dumb bitch isn''t going to write me back anyway why am I even wasting my time." You''re reaping what you sow.
I don 8767 t think the people are catching on the reality of the fact these are reasons for a male human to justify cheating in their cheating mind. As women are able to do the same, this is an article driven by the thoughts of the man. Yet, all you pea brained humans will attack the notions it contains as if they are not actually justifiable, when in reality they very much are. Doesn 8767 t have to be that complex and yes it can be sexist it 8767 s primal as Anonymous 67 stated and yet it seems like people are mad that it 8767 s attacking the female partner. Well no fucking shit. You can switch it with a gay man and it can be the same shit!!!!! Why are you complaining. The female one is just as bad and you will be like yeah sister fuck that boring poindexter! But, as soon as a male driven article comes up you feminazi 8767 s need to attack. Guess what, you guys can cheat because a man has zero sexual performance or no money or car or something and take advantage of us too. Shut the fuck up. Good people will be good, ignorant will SPREAD IGNORANCE, and bad will be the shit beneath the rubble rotting.
Eric: It&rsquo s not. I spent hours trying to create a profile that shows people what I&rsquo m really like. No dice. Sure, I get a lot of profile &ldquo views&rdquo , but no messages. I&rsquo ve scheduled about an hour a day to browse through profiles and I look for several things. Most importantly is that she likes doing similar things that I do. Secondly of course is that the profile gives me some feeling that there could be chemistry.
I can dig what you were trying to say here. Cause there is a lot of substance. But some of what you say completely contradicts the evidence that has been compiled on this subject. The fact is. A lot of women only talk to/give a reasonable chance to the top 6% of attractive men. This isn''t an opinion. They''ve done studies. So while I appreciate your input and I do feel there was a lot to gain from it. You are completely wrong in your assessment that women aren''t as shallow as men. If anything because they have so many choices. They filter them by looks. It''s sad but true.
But the reason women always slept around is they''re wired that way. As well as the evidence accumulated by Bergner you can look at "sperm wars" and paternity testing for proof. Why do sperm fight and kill one another? They have to if they want a chance at a fertilising an egg, because women have always slept around. And there were a lot of surprised people around when DNA testing of children first became possible.
The point is this - they don''t have to WORK to get attention. Attention comes to them, both good and bad. If they post a picture with them in a swimsuit, they are going to get some pretty bad attention. If they instead post of picture of them praying in a church, they are likely to get a different kind of attention. They do have some control, and some means of filtering and directing what attention they want, at least to some degree. Nice guys don''t have that option. We have to put our best pictures out there. The most attractive. The most interesting. Our profiles must be perfect. Our messages must be interesting, eye catching. It''s pretty unfair when you really think about it.
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Ladies really take that to heart. While I did hear the advice to 8766 man up and stop sucking 8767 please throw me a bone. If I read one more profile that is more or less 8767 empty 8767 except for cliche and photos and an admonishment that I have to do better than, hi, hello, you 8767 re hot or lame PUA schtick, I 8767 m going to have to struggle mightily to not kick a puppy. Give us something to work with.
And note how few unsolicited approaches men receive and send out a few of your own.
First off it is important to recognize that those in positions of prestige will seek to maintain their position and furthermore will seek to promote the inclusion of their offspring into similar positions. Secondly our education system isn''t so much a system of learning as it is a system of training. For our society to function we require managers and workers. If our education system really sought to equalize knowledge our current system would cease to exist. Instead our education system is designed to separate gifted from normal students as potential managers versus the working class.
I never go for 9"s, or 65''s. Usually, they have issues. They know their "hot". I, one time met a above average looking woman and she ended up being a compulsive liar and had other issues. Another one used guys for their money. I''m older 56 and go never go for any women below 99. It appears that you women want tall, dark, handsome CEO types of men, or looking for Brad Pitts''s of the world needs to get realistic. Also, I notice the shorter the woman are like 5''5" are wanting these 5''8 tall or taller guys to feel "protected" are overlooking us shorter guys who can make them feel secure and protected. I was a successful wrestler and coach. And can provide that.
ARRGGGH! If any woman is reading this please do not believe the man like the one described by 8766 ex muse 8767 . I have known a number of women who have had affairs with married men. They all said they were unhappy in their marriage, sex starved, their wife didn 8767 t look after herself or their marriage and felt alive with their new lover. All this is very often untrue and the men are having an active sex and love life with both women. Do not be fooled and fall for men who are unfaithful to those they made a commitment to. Do you really believe that a man proving unrestrained lust will be able to refrain for your sake in the future?
He does exist. He comes to the village, impregnates all women and goes away. To another village. Then he comes back next year. Women are programmed to have children with the best men they can find. That''s natural selection. I''m not blaming anyone. The rest of life is a bunch of different stories, some are funny, some are happy but half of them are sad. And now because of the computers are running dating scene, we have data to prove it. I think that this is first stage, we just noticed that something is wrong.
Finding a match on an online dating site takes a lot of work, especially since most sites today are overrun by scammers. That said, for most people who are no longer in school, they are probably still the best ''focused and pro-active'' option. Yes, you are likely to be disappointed, to be hurt along the way, but then I suspect that even though you were married before you left school, you still had your heart broken once or twice before you met your wife. And yes, it is possible to meet people in church, at meet-ups and other special interest activities. However, a good many people you will meet in any of those places have no interest in finding a new partner.
I get turned off by guys base jumping, skiing in the Swiss Alps and all that jazz, even running, because that''s just not me. None of that stuff would interest me. If you play a sport like soccer, baseball, then perhaps. I am sure though there a lot of women into that sort of stuff. It''s just about odds really. I guess a lot of women just don''t care that men run around the block and jump out planes! But then again I''m sure there would be many women into that.