Posted: 2017-11-15 01:07
I 8767 m dating a handsome ,smart and kind loving man 65 years than me. I 8767 m 88 he 8767 s 69. He doesn 8767 t act like a child at all. He cares for me a real gentleman I get shocked and surprised. He amazed me all the time. Is it too good to be true? He never asked me for anything in months both make our own money. Its like all we want is eachothers time. We say we LOVE eachother. I ink he 8767 s my soulmate. Is it to soon? He 8767 s my dream guy but I 8767 m scared to reveal his although he looks older than me.
We have lots in common and traveled together lots and have lots of fun. The problem is that he is 67 years 7 years He 8767 s 78 and I 8767 m 95. He wants kids and I 8767 m not sure about having them at my age and in my health conditions. We talked about getting a surrogate. We talked about marriage. He 8767 s not ready to get married yet, but he wants us to be together, like living together. He 8767 s ready for us to move in together.
Or the women at my age 8775 98 8776 can 8767 t keep up with me and i want a women who can I hike ski shoot guns lift weights run I like to get out perhaps 98% of all women at the age of 98 are n longer interested in those things as for myself I crave activity so yes while I look for a woman my own age I never find one that meets me on all levels woman do
Interesting article, fascinating comments. As a 65+ year online dater (I even used dating software [no "apps" back then] on Bulletin Board Systems), at the end of the day I think the biggest problem I've encountered is a complete lack of tolerance from women for anything less than *funny* or *lazer-focus-on-the-girl's-passions* messages.. POF is right on the money at least as far as their advice goes "talk about her interests, or these topics.." In real life, I'd say that a woman will give you at least 6-7 minutes of her time to make your "elevator pitch". With online dating, in the vast majority of interactions you have *one* message, and then maybe a second one if you're lucky. Granted, I'm a superficial bastard, and I own that. There are lots of women who've reached out to me who I'm sure I could have easy, stress-free conversations with. But I've tried dating people I'm not attracted to, and I've never been a good/strong enough person to overlook it, so I'd rather be honest and only date women I find attractive.
On the other hand,I do completely disagree,that the looks are always a perfect indicator of real age.
My both parents looked always 65 yrs than they actually were,and I think i have inherited that gene too.(the reason for that is also a very healthy life style)
I was looking at my high school graduation photo recently and I honestly looked like I was 67 or 68!
Even now as mature woman I look about 65 yrs often people compliment my complexion and it is mostly women,and let me tell you, I am so, so far from being narcissistic I would say I almost have no self confidence,but I do look maybe 5 yrs for some maybe 65 for others..and I have seen many people who do not look their age,and I have met many..
I am 99 year old man, seeing a 59 year old woman, been together 7 years and just engaged. Although she has wrinkles and definately looks her age, I find her incredibly sexy and attractive. The sex is incredible, best ever for both of us, I was attracted to her instantly even though I was seeing someone else when I met her, I knew I could not be without her. She has met my kids, and will be meeting my entire family this weekend after 7 years of being together ( we live in another state). I think my family will be surprised, but I dont care, I love this woman and she has stood beside me through a lot of stuff. I never think of her being too old, or what if in 65 years, all I know is she makes me happier than any woman I have ever been with and I 8767 m having the best time of my life....
Yeah while I have some sympathy for the douches you guys have met I still feel the need to say cry me an ocean to this article. I stopped reading at the point she said she had 897 messages and didn't reply to any of them. Yep think about that for a second and welcome to the other side of the dating game! You know how happy I or most guys would be to have so much attention from girls on dating sites lol? Tell you what why don't you just try it from the mens side. Get a decent picture of one of your guy friends, go and read some profiles of girls you see on there, what little they put down outside of I like friends family and traveling. Now try to send them a message about something you have in common. Then just keep a tally of every time you do that and repeat the process about 555 times. Why 555 times you say well because I can almost guarantee you no matter what I say she isn't going to respond. Hell I'm kind of wondering why I'm not asking women for naked pics right up front at least they get responses it would seem!
However it's the same for me dudes, if you are tall nowadays you're not creepy and slimy, you're creepy and threatening. I don't have the greatest social skills but I've been out with friends at bars/clubs who were 5'5 and my same weight and they were just happy cheerful butterballs and could get an entire table of women warming up to them, the same women that gave me the bad boy looking tall dude who women have told me I'm on the Brad Pitt scale on looks basically the cold shoulder.
We each pay our own expenses and that is a nice change from being married to someone who always insisted on paying for everything. I feel really comfortable with this guy, and since he has some grey in his hair, I don t think most people even see the difference in our ages not that we would care. We have a really happy life together. Yes, women look at him, but then, guys look at me too! What makes it work? Mutual respect, shared sense of humour, financial independence of each other is a big plus.
My situation is very thought provoking. I 8767 m 76 about to finish trade school and my girlfriend of almost a year has a 8 year old. We liked each other in high school but she stopped talking to me to get with her baby daddy who left her and doesn 8767 t do anything for the child. We started talking as friends after high school and became serious shortly after. Her daughter loves me, I love her and her daughter, it just bugs me because I never wanted a woman with a baby but I love her a lot. I wanted to start my own family from the ground up. What should I do?
I ve never dated a woman that much older, and I m a bit concerned and undecided about the whole idea. And I don t know the age differences between her and her ex s. She is a retired federal employee. I will retire from federal service in two years. In our communications we have gotten along very well and there seems to be much commonality and mutual interest. As someone previously stated, true love is hard to find and doesn t come along often in one s lifetime. I had that with my last girlfriend, and I miss that.
heres what you don't understand. you and other women have the luxury to sit there and say "EVERY person who wrote to me" men are putting in ALL the same effort and then the added effort of being the one who has to scroll through profiles for hours and send the messages. worry if they are saying the right or wrong thing. meanwhile you can sit there and judge all the men and all the messages you are receiving. the hostility comes from the blissful ignorance that women have about this. it comes off as something like going to the sudan and telling the starving people living there why you don't like tacos or that if a waiter brings you a steak medium rare you send it back. try to wrap your head around that.
It was actually really interesting. The study showed men consistently rated themselves too highly, went after women right out of their league, got knocked back. Women consistently rated themselves as less attractive than they are, went after men well within their league, fewer knock backs. However, the more attractive men did not mis-rate themselves and did not have this problem. Average men consistently tried to latch onto women they had no realistic chance with.
What I totally don 8767 t understand is the difference in their stage in life as mentioned before and how that should make much of a difference. Whether a woman stays home or works outside the home, both a man and woman most of the time spend most of their time separated, seeking differing individual goals in the individual work they do daily. Regardless of age, they still both eat and seek entertainment in between the time they aren 8767 t working separately. They still, regardless of age, go to movies, attend entertainment venues that they have in common, take care of their pets and children, etc, etc. So if they determine that they have many similar interests, why would age make a difference considering men and women are, by nature, very different to begin with? Seems to me that any differences between an older man and woman are very often common among men and women of similar ages, considering that all men are different and all women are different. So why couldn 8767 t women find older men who are very compatible with them?
Dating sites don't work!
One year on Okcupid and no messages or dates.
I am a retired 96 year old caucasian man. Being on a dating site for that long has made me feel very ugly and unwanted. I have read over five hundred profiles and I am very turned off by women now. I don't find women attractive anymore because of internet dating sites. I will more than likely be single the rest of my life now, Thank you internet dating. I give up!
Im one of those who are dating man and for me it was a problem cause it took me along time to accept it,even now there are somewere I dont want to go with him and him said he is not ready to introduce me to him family cause his mother wont approve this so sometime I have douts that he wants me or mybe he is just keeping himself busy til he find someone his said he wants me to be his wife and he wants to have kids with love him and he loves me so what can we do about all have two kids and separated with my husband for five years now an I dont c myself with my ex 95 years old he is 79 so what can I do cause we need each other.
She has no kids and I don 8767 t want them. Please don 8767 t give me that crap about me wanting them later. I like kids, but not everyone WANTS their own. People with kids or who want them can 8767 t believe anyone wouldn 8767 t. Get off our backs, ok? Some of us are perfectly content not to have them. Not everyone wants what you want. And this also is a 8766 benefit 8767 , if that 8767 s the word, in being involved with an older woman. She 8767 s made most of Life 8767 s Big Decisions already and OK with them.
Hi I 8767 m 86 my girlfriend 89, with two kids different fathers, 8775 I 8767 m not done, read my story as still proceeding. 8776 goes like this,,my girlfriend has two kids two years older, first kids she got at 69 years,she said she was by her boyfriend at time that 8767 s why she had early kid and the second is 7, everytime when I visit, they be happy at me and want to more closer to me,why? Because when I 8767 m around their momma we don 8767 t exclude them, but me and their mom don 8767 t play touching games and or way of intimacy, we never go in a room and shut down the door,for respect they do know that me and their mom are lovers,our space we can rather go stand by balcony and speak if we think it will be more sensitive to the kids,and funny part is that they do know I 8767 m not theirs,,,,adding on they deserve to be loved, ladies with man 8767 s having different perspective on woman 8767 s with kids ,i think the world is lost in love,we don 8767 t know what is love that 8767 s why most woman had kids with wrong guys,,,,remember kids are biggest blessings but biggest mistake is who you do them with,,happiness is what we want at last
I've never understood why some guys even bother using online dating websites. The odds are clearly against you. It's actually easier to just talk to a girl IRL than to go through the monotony of carefully constructing messages using information and references that you got from the profile of the girl that you're messaging and hoping that they respond to you. Which they usually don't. Sometimes they won't even read your message.
We carefully “peruse” the onslaught of “opportunities” (. responses and messages) we receive because WE HAVE TO. Not because we a rude, stuck-up b*tches atop our thrones. Meanwhile, you guys are doing the ole, what is it? Oh yeah – “numbers game.” So – you tell me, men - as you are keen to say, “ if the situation were reversed” – maybe, just maybe you wouldn’t find it quite as glamorous and fun as you are imagining. We women are wading through a sea of what contains everything from – (best case scenario), truly good guys who perhaps don’t articulate themselves as a match on paper - all the way to a plethora of ( worst case scenario) - psychopaths, married men, rapists, pedophiles and just plain old weirdos, etc.