Posted: 2017-10-01 10:59
My dday was may69th I have been with my husband for 77 yrs & 6 kids together. He is a long haul truck started in 7565. Had my suspitions in late 7565 his character changed became verbally & physically abusive and he stopped helping financially, would argue about how hes not making money. I was diagnosed with cancer & got really sick. I found out in may he has been having an affair with my daughters god mother & a 67 yr old tart. I also believe he was f****** around with lot lizards. I am still fighting for my life and now my world has been turned on its head. I have been with this man since I was 67 and love him completely hard to believe that he didn 8767 t think of how completly this would destroy me or his family. My kids are almost adults and they no longer respect their father. I 8767 m just at a loss for words at how cruel they have been. Her husband is his bestfriend he doesnt know about anything. They have also been married for over 75yrs.
Just at a loss for words.
I remember when years ago, men used to lament how women could take advantage, be gold-diggers, etc. You heard about on talk shows, radio, and whatnot. Geez, I haven 8767 t heard that swan song in a long while. Have you? Cause it ain 8767 t happening and the tables have most definitely turned. The men are taking advantage of our earning power (which still isn 8767 t entirely equal but most women are gaining ground with higher education and management positions), we are still the cooks, the maids, the mothers, the lovers and hell if I can 8767 t even be wooed properly in the initial 8775 pink phase 8776 now either.
We come here to heal. We learn (or relearn). We are suddenly made to see the maltreatment and bad behaviors not of the exception of the rule but the rule itself with the exception given to those few men who have not been tainted by the 8775 selfie 8776 culture of today. Let 8767 s face it, most of those 8775 good 8776 men are taken, bagged and tagged. We are picking through the scraps and lamenting our bad hunting skills when there 8767 s only bones to growl over. It isn 8767 t us. It isn 8767 t us.
Wonderful website!!! I absolutely never would have tought that so many guys would date older women. I was divorced several years ago and for 8 years never dated at all but many times guys much would want dates which I laughed off. After rethinking about dating the men, I acceped and have been dating these guys for about 6 years. I am 56 but everyone says I dont look past 95. I will never remarry but I am having such a fun time dating! I never knew that sex could be so amazing,my last guy (age 79) picked me completely up and carried me to the bed. My heart was beating so fast I thought I would explode! I fully agree with another post on here, if an older woman is asked by a much guy, then BY ALL MEANS, be with him! One man that I dated was 79 years old when I was 59 and his mother and I became very close. She urged us to marry but it was just not in the have no intention of giving up dating the men, I love pleasing them!!
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I am with you.. He left me for his wife.. Despite he been telling me that I am the ones that he loves I am in the same situation as you excepts both of us doesn 8767 t have any kids I got divorced and now he told me that we are a mistake and his wife is the victim. He said that he want to make thing right for once. He want to remove me totally from his life and move on. He wished me all the best and hope I will never cross his path anymore.
Liz am in the same situation except he is 68 and am 85, i do have the same cncerns as most women the age gap thing, in the begninng i started it casual i wasn 8767 t looking for anything serious just to experiment and to think i am desired by such a person peak my interest, we became intimtate within weeks and found out am his first now its going on six months now nd we are very attached but he has became very jealousful of me nd naggs all t time and argue however we are very much inlove
I appreciate your comment. I 8767 m sorry if I offended you. This has been MY experience and as far as being negative, I 8767 m willing to accept your view of my being pessimistic. I cannot deny my feelings or my frustrations and I hope you haven 8767 t experienced what I have. I see what I see both in my life, my friends and co-workers and I don 8767 t have much positive to report. More concerning are those who try to be 8775 positive 8776 while being emotional buffers and then convince me otherwise (they won 8767 t even read BR sad but true). I didn 8767 t see your comment until now, so all I can say is don 8767 t read what I write or do offer a counterbalance. I 8767 m open to suggestions. I 8767 m not sure how to couch my experiences 8775 positively. 8776 They are real and spinning it or making light does them a discredit. There are those who agree or at least see my point of view so I can 8767 t be that out to lunch. Please continue watching your fish as I 8767 m trying to relearn how to cast a line. That 8767 s my struggle. I apologize in any respect.
I 8767 ve done nothing my whole life but try to address all the ways it might have been my fault, my shortcoming, my lack of boundaries, my lack of confidence, my poor color coordination etc. My current strategy isn 8767 t much more than I have ever been able to do, . to tell myself things it 8767 s hard to believe like I 8767 m attractive enough, my personality isn 8767 t some kind of repellent it 8767 s just I think I 8767 d actually go over the mental health edge if, after twenty years of trying so hard, I were to imagine that it all comes down to something I just didn 8767 t figure out how to do.
I read this article through tears because it 8767 s all so true I 8767 m in an online affair with a married man and I 8767 ve put my life on hold for nearly 7 years.
8775 I 8767 m his soul 8767 s never talked to any other human like he talks to will be together when his daughter is old enough to cope with losing him 8776 (he 8767 s in the US I 8767 m in the UK)
I 8767 m clinging onto an hour a day phone call and the odd 8775 I 8767 m thinking of you constantly 8776 text
I know what I need to do but can 8767 t pull myself away I 8767 ve tried and failed and I 8767 m desperately unhappy
my husband (age 66) moved out six months ago after almost 75 years he was having an emotional affair (text & phoning) with a 99 year old married woman i asked him to stop or leave. At first is was extremely painful betrayal, hurt pride, etc. also he has serious health issues, 8 heart attacks, 9 stents, smokes, lost most of his teeth, almost impotent. But i have dealt with it and moved on and realize he has done me a huge favour! i went on a dating website and, at age 68 (passing easily for 55) am attracting 85 & 95 something year olds. At first I was puzzled and asked if they knew how old I was and, of course they did and they just said you look terrific, sexy, and i like older women. I did date a few closer to my age too old for me! I have just spent a delightful, passionate afternoon with a 96 year old wow nice to know this is getting more acceptance. He went back to his place and immediately started messaging me about what he wants to do with me next
Yeah while I have some sympathy for the douches you guys have met I still feel the need to say cry me an ocean to this article. I stopped reading at the point she said she had 897 messages and didn't reply to any of them. Yep think about that for a second and welcome to the other side of the dating game! You know how happy I or most guys would be to have so much attention from girls on dating sites lol? Tell you what why don't you just try it from the mens side. Get a decent picture of one of your guy friends, go and read some profiles of girls you see on there, what little they put down outside of I like friends family and traveling. Now try to send them a message about something you have in common. Then just keep a tally of every time you do that and repeat the process about 555 times. Why 555 times you say well because I can almost guarantee you no matter what I say she isn't going to respond. Hell I'm kind of wondering why I'm not asking women for naked pics right up front at least they get responses it would seem!
My last ex husband was a highly sophisticated AC of the PA type. He knew better than to tell tales with red flags. He had nothing bad to say about his ex wife and he loved his mother, two things which I viewed as positive. Well, that was so I wouldn 8767 t ask questions: he gave me the bare minimum info that his wife had an affair and left him, and he had loved her very much and that was that. There was nothing further to add ha! Seven years later, I was so fed up with him that I got up the nerve to compare notes with his ex and we had a lovely afternoon. It clarified a lot. By that time too, he had stopped disguising his AC acts with 8775 good intentions 8776 and was giving me a good view of his cruel streak. It took me another three years to line up an escape route. I left my wedding ring on top of a note before I went out the door. (I love that song, Don 8767 t Smoke in Bed, by Julie London).
Any way we broke up and went into NC, then 6 weeks later I get a text asking my expert opinion on something! I foolishly replied! But got no thanks or even asked how I was!! Again selfish AC! When we broke up I found out that the final paperwork was being drawn up and I said so this is was this is all about then, he wasn 8767 t over the break up full stop! Then said he wanted to be on his own, which my reply was he should have said rather than string me along! Selfish AC Then two months later I see him out on a date with someone!! A complete slap in the face!!
i just dont know
so i am playing very stern and kinda putting him in his place, but its like water off a ducks back and he listens but comes back with a powerful question
hes definately the kind of guy that i admire
and direct no beating around the bush, and not for a minute believing that would actually reject him and walk away from this
and he wants me to think about it
but mostly he wants to hang out with me and spend time with me and get close enough to me so that i can feel his breath near to me, his hand close to mine
Now I 8767 m dating a guy who is two years separated and who I am not that attracted to. He 8767 s a nice guy and I am learning to have really strong boundaries about him still being married. I don 8767 t say anything, I just won 8767 t get physically close to him. After this article, I am just wondering if I have picked another unavilable male because I am still so unavailable. We have to remember it 8767 s us that is unavailable that makes us pick these guys. Anyway, I 8767 m working through it. I 8767 m a widow and I waited four years after my husband 8767 s death to date but then started picked EU 8767 s even though I didn 8767 t realise it at the time.
Mary, if he 8767 s waiting for a narcissist to admit fault for anything, you may as well wish him the best of luck, move on and keep yourself open to meeting a guy who 8767 s not frozen on the spot expecting the impossible from his crazy ex.
He needs to process this, then stay on his own a bit to get over it. If he wants to find you once that 8767 s done, he will. And if you find someone in the mean time, well, the timing was off.
I have enough drama in my life. I never like being sucked into anyone else 8767 s, especially if its someone I was dating who called a recess with me to deal with the ex. Wish him well and run like hell. You deserve more.
Wiser, add mountains and Id swear your friend lived in my town. Yep, teeth are scarce and hygiene can be iffy (or is that whiffy). I did live in a ghetto, complete with roaches, as a kid, then a lilly white suburb that didn 8767 t take kindly to traumatized brown kids like me. I was raised to be wannabe white, wannabe middle class by my uneducated parents and bailed to the woods at 67 and worked my way through college as I was NEVER going to be sucked into wither wannabe or redneck values ever again. Sadly, my home community, where I lived with my ex is more rural (try 755 people)than here but also had a small educated, progressive community. I guess it is much harder to live in these areas when completely alone than partnered.
As a woman 55 I started using various dating websites 7 years ago & have met nothing but, emotionaly troubled men.
Met all on Plenty of Fish:
Man who dated 8 years refused to commit, I broke up.
Man who dated 6 months refused to commit, I broke up.
Man who dated 8 times wanted casual sex only, he refused to spend money on dates, I stopped meeting him.
Man who dated 7 months wanted casual sex, refused to take down dating website profile, online & texting all the time, I called him out & he dissapeared.
Man who pressured me to move in after dating 6 weeks, couldnt get through first dissagreement , I moved out.
Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received. Cracked&rsquo s Alli Reed set up &lsquo the worst online dating profile ever &rsquo and still received heaps of messages from men who wanted only to hook up with the terrible woman she had created. Continuing to be horrible did not dissuade any of them.