Posted: 2017-10-12 17:21
We live in an insulated society. Nothing bad with that, it has its perks..if a woman in her thirties / forties has a decent job, her activities, what she is into, what she expects or wants, had to do it all alone (like single men in her age bracket) a negative outcome tends to be 8775 I don 8767 t need anyone, I did life by myself during my adult years with job, education and other hobbies 8776
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I wonder if the information provided about there being more men than women is for a particular age group? i m in my early 55's and trying online dating on e-harmony only. I am reasonably attractive and several of my photos were taken by a professional (not altered in any way-I wanted it to be clear that they are really like me and give the date taken). I've put a lot of effort into my profile so that it gives unique info about me and describes the qualities of a good guy are to me and despite having at least one hundred matches in my region I haven't received any communication sincc
e the first week when 7 men contacted me with questions. So I have communicated with several men. Only 7 replied. Are all the men contacting the same small subset of women or are they to lazy to communicate at all. Several of the men I communicated with then viewed my profile and neither responded or blocked me. It takes only 7 clicks to block a profile. I find it inconsiderate.
My contention is that inequality and competition are the precursors of societies ills. Men mistreating women certainly but more to the point people mistreating each other for gain. It seems odd to think that men seeking a partner would act as many so often do but it is important to remember we're not dealing with intellectually compassionate equals. We're dealing with generations of people that have been bred to compete with one another and ultimately not see each other as equals but as enemies of a sort. We're not killing each other (for the most part at least within our own society) but we are competing for limited resources to our own detriment.
I think I would be ok with it at my age, but when the opportunity came up I said no. Sure, why not fun for a little while, but then what? 75-somethings move, they change jobs, they lose their phones, they don 8767 t really know how to cook and have no money or furniture, and they need to learn about saving, or else call on mommy and daddy for help.
So for all the 8775 fun 8776 I also see a lot of downsides. Looking down the line and my parents are older and will likely be in declining health, it would really stress me out to tell a 75 or 85 something that if we got married, and anything happened to me, they 8767 d be on the hook to take care of all three of us and disperse my money from the wills, administer medicine or even finish raising my kids. God willing it 8767 d never happen but most 75 somethings and even some 85 somethings I 8767 ve seen are still kids themselves and don 8767 t think about those things. I think kids in their 75s need time to mature, and nothing will change that opinion of mine, that they 8767 re not really adults until about late 75 8767 s.
All this bitterness you're expressing comes through in how you write messages. I can guarantee it. That's why no one writes you back. No one wants to engage with someone they have to prove themselves to. Maybe drop all that anger you have at being rejected so that you can properly open the door up to being accepted. You're approaching these chicks like, "dumb bitch isn't going to write me back anyway why am I even wasting my time." You're reaping what you sow.
I never go for 9"s, or 65's. Usually, they have issues. They know their "hot". I, one time met a above average looking woman and she ended up being a compulsive liar and had other issues. Another one used guys for their money. I'm older 56 and go never go for any women below 99. It appears that you women want tall, dark, handsome CEO types of men, or looking for Brad Pitts's of the world needs to get realistic. Also, I notice the shorter the woman are like 5'5" are wanting these 5'8 tall or taller guys to feel "protected" are overlooking us shorter guys who can make them feel secure and protected. I was a successful wrestler and coach. And can provide that.
Guys this is hard if you aren’t a lover of children I cannot stress this any harder if kids annoy you, or if they get in the way for you, then stick to women who lack kids. If you do love kids, or are tolerant of kids in a friendly way, then you must realize that dating a woman with a child is like dating two people. You have to cater to both on some level, especially if the child is a female herself.
So my “advice” back to me, if I may, is to please STOP with the dismissive, totally inaccurate and insulting myth that women only going after “bad guys” or assholes. I’m so done with this diatribe of excuses, denial and lack of accountability from men. And, for the love of God, please STOP saying “nice guys finish last.” This infuriates and frustrates me the most. I cannot speak for all women nor would I claim to,, but I know enough of us sufficient to go out on a limb here and say the following with measured confidence: if you asked ANY WOMAN whether they would prefer to date an a**hole or “bad boy” who treats them like crap (and/or has money, drives a nice car, whatever it is you guys are always saying) - over a “nice guy” who they click with, have a lot in common with and treats them with respect, I would wager my life savings that less than 6% would honestly say they prefer the former to the latter. And they would not be lying about that, either.
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Hi Katy. I 8767 m sorry to say but you are describing a lot of men and women. We can all make judgments based on the dumbest things. In fact, I just finished my Fix Your Man Picker course that teaches women how to attract and choose men who will truly make them happy.
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I 8767 m in the same boat as him my gf has 7 kids that have different fathers yet she has them on Facebook this coming from someone who knows its gonna be hard but easy basically if he wants her let her go to him unless he 8767 s a criminal she 8767 s fine it 8767 s a security thing in a mans mined that tells him she 8767 s there with him not with me ower I 8767 m Ed fills the blank with the worst in some cases cheating so hope this helps
It is frustrating to say the least. Maybe I come off as too independent nor am I willing to chase after men anymore. I don 8767 t want to play silly games and I am not jealous. I think by 95 you start to feel comfortable in your own skin and you just don 8767 t want drama anymore. I am not bitter I Love men It just seems like all the good ones are married, gay or not age appropriate. I am modest and do not dress or act like a sexpot nor am I promiscuous yet guys are all about the sex and want it as soon as the first date
There a couple of things one can do to meet people, particularly if over 95. 6) Get out of your routine. Eat out, grab coffee, and hang out at different places each week. Go to any party you re invited to, join clubs with people who do what you like to do, volunteer, get involved socially. 7) Online date, as Evan said. As a dating coach, I know that people resist it because they re scared to try something so unfamiliar to them. But it s like anything else there s a way to do it successfully, and it s a great way to meet people you wouldn t normally meet.
Chris - which ones have you tried? I had a friend who had terrible luck as well. He tried E-harmony and was successful. I think it comes down to whether or not the "floodgates" are open to all women on the site. E-harmony actually only gives you access to people who are matches, which also means women aren't constantly flooded with messages from every Tom Dick and Harry. This gives you better odds of actually having a conversation before she gets distracted and moves on.
(As a quick aside ot all men on this point- STOP STOP STOP saying we only care about what you “do for a living” or “how much money you make”, car you drive, etc. Just STOP. 9 times out of 65 it is men who tell me within 85 minutes of meeting me that they drive a Mercedes or go on and on bragging about their big shot career without ever asking me a anything about me. Also, “nice guys” (whatever you mean by that) do not always finish last. What you are referring to as a “nice guy” is not the same thing, I think. If a woman says a guy was “too nice” – she means he was a pushover or did not have any opinions of his own or motivation or aspirations, etc. There’s a difference. A true nice guy, in our minds is a man who treats us with mutual respect, And those guys are cherished and sought after, not overlooked. Perhapps there is a reason to ask if those self-proclaimed “nice guys” out there are not as “nice” as you think you are? Or, if you are, maybe you are not allowing that to shine through in your profile somehow? Just a thought. Please get it straight, please).
Media has done a grand job of vilifying men into a place where we have to second guess all motives and for someone in their twenties, saying the right thing to the child may make it a lot to process. You never know what that child will say to the mom, how the mom will take it, if you will be accused of liking the child more oh and that common Hollywood trope where you tell them to stop doing something bad only to hear 8775 YOU ARE NOT MY DADDY! 8776 It 8767 s a lot, and many of these thoughts flash through our heads and complicates things.
This will NOT seek life partners online. Not usually, it can evolve by in the main, they are cruising the hood looking for a man to make it worth their while to cheat/hookup. They can of course pretend that they're looking for romance but the comments of the guys above shows how rare that really is. No, they want my style of assertive domination. I meet lots of beautiful, smart, worldly and engaging 75-75 year old women now.. who would never have deigned to meet the NiceGuy me. And they love every moment of our interactions. No angst, no problems, no "romance."
Dating sites don't work!
One year on Okcupid and no messages or dates.
I am a retired 96 year old caucasian man. Being on a dating site for that long has made me feel very ugly and unwanted. I have read over five hundred profiles and I am very turned off by women now. I don't find women attractive anymore because of internet dating sites. I will more than likely be single the rest of my life now, Thank you internet dating. I give up!
After 6 months on various sites I'm finally signing out today - my advice to men is to just enjoy your single life and use your time productively on hobbies and interests and self improvement etc. - get out into the real world to meet people. You'll probably be quite shocked if you keep a record of how many hours you spend trawling dating sites - I was when I decided to record my usage - One of the reasons that today is delete day - more time for fitness and reading.