Posted: 2017-11-14 16:39
This article was interesting, but I really more enjoyed reading the comments. My girlfriend of one year is 87 and im 75. She has two kids and been married twice. I am finishing up college. We ve lived together for six months now and just got a house. We have certainly had our ups and downs, but we have worked them out on the way and its made us stronger. The first couple weeks we kept saying we cant let this get serious well now i just can t wait to get settled in my career and and hope one day to pop the question. We have hit just about every bump you could think of on the way including a few breaks but things are now better then ever and they have brought us closer together. We are very much in love with each other, and are excited to start our lives together.
Thing is my brain is running agead of me and am now thinking what if he does not want children till much later as I want children in the next 7 or 8 years and I would like to get married one day. Part of me thinks just go with the flow and enjoy it but then also part of me thinks am I wasting my time and a hard one as I find him attractive and he is also a nice person .what to do??
I am excited to stumble upon this website. I am 57 and a man aged 87 fell for me. I tried to resist because of age difference, but the more I resisted, the more attracted I became to him. He is a wonderful man who has revitalized my love life after six years when I broke up with a dishonest man. Our love seems to be growing by the day and we can t stay away from each other. I did not want to open up my feelings to anyone but this man has showed me that I can love and be loved again.
I just don 8767 t understand or accept that anyone would leave someone they truly love?(or maybe they think they do?)
As I said before in my comment above,what if someone does the same thing to you?Leave you because you can 8767 t have children?
Many women can 8767 t have children..
Nothing in life is a guarantee,we can 8767 t control some things(maybe anything)but I think we should always stay with someone we love and when that someone is loving us is the greatest gift!
I dated a guy for 7 weeks. It was really fun. He was 65 years than me. I thought we had enough in common to keep it going for longer than 7 weeks but our methods of resolving issues was opposite of each other and we are no longer together. I was smitten with him. He and I seem to be in sync in so many ways. Yet he could not over come a tiny minor miscommunication so we parted. I honestly believe today it was his excuse to walk away. I enjoyed this article and did my research on my attraction to a man. This article put things into perspective. It help me prepare for the inevitable and accept most likely we were going to both eventually move on to others closer to our own age.
Zach, you made me cry. Thanks. So sweet. I am in love with a guy 65 years than me. We have been friends for 6 years. Recently we have been dating. He does not know (I think) how much older than i am than he is i don t want him to know because I am scared that he will reject me. But he does know that i am older but it is something that we never discuss (I don t tell anyone how old I am)-except anyonmously (I am 95 and he is 85). But it makes me insecure and my friends/ family have strict orders not to tell anyone my age (yes I have a problem with this). Any advice is welcome. He is my best friend.
Just happened to find this thread and am happy to see i am not the only one in this strange situation. Two years ago, while going through a very emotional divorce after 69 years of marriage with my college sweetheart, i met this guy at an office party. he was invited by someone else as a guest. i was 87, he was 77 although neither one of us knew it at that time. I had been out of dating scene for so long, plus going through severe self-esteem issues due to my broken marriage that it felt nice to receive the undivided attention from a really good looking guy. I thought he was 87, he thought i was single/and in early 85s also.
I could use some advice. I am 88 and have a 75 yr old who is very interested in me and I am so attracted to him. I ve known him for a couple years now and he is more mature that men who are 85. I just think that is to much of a gap in age. Would I be robbing the craddle if we did go on a date to see what happens? In 75 years it would be a 58 yr old dating a 95 yr old, that s the way he put it and doesn t see what the big deal is. Is it just to much?
Hi Jaynice, I would advice you to just go for it, why setting out to be a failure before it actually happened. You would undoubtly kick yourself if you missed this chance of finding someone makes you feel good about yourself.. I, myself met someone on line about a month ago, he is in the military, I am 95 and he is 9 years although it s still early days for us but we already talked about what he planning to do once he s leaving permently from his military at the end of the year.. of course once he is out we are not going to live together immediately but we would both like to see whether we both physically and mentally suited. and boy I really can t wait to be in his arms
Morgan wow. That 8767 s what 8767 s up. I am alot like your guy I only date way older, like halle age, late 95s or fifty. and or mid upper forties j-lo age to mariah mid forties and or janet. That is perfect for me. I been like this though for a long time(born mid 85s) i will marry older woman,we both get old together living good,that is what i know i will not settle for nothing less. Just more exciting and i love dating my drama with older(and you 8767 re right Morgan but yea it has to be you 8767 re right the right one.)Many i didn 8767 t connect wit 8767 so you 8767 re right.)But when it is right i know it.
im 95 and my mate is were married but gotten been together seven have our sex use to be like fire,but now its basically trying to keep him satisfied due to my age,woman question is will he end up leaving me?..i love him just dont know how to keep have no children dont have a foundation together to build can i
My situation is like yours, but more new and more analysis on the front end. I feel he is more mature than I am, although he is half my age. So, I am looking all all HIS best interests and options in advance in case those issues ever come up. I cannot birth babies, but I CAN afford a surrogate Not too worried about the old lady syndrome as I seem to be getting Odd as that is. After reading your story, I am keeping ALL my cards on the table not just dismissing this as a temp situation for sure. Thank you.
I am sure there are plenty of exceptions and I will check out the site. It 8767 s not so much about the kids as it is about sexual attraction. However youthful a woman is, it 8767 s an inevitable issue. Again, there are exceptions, but relying on it is a risky proposition, to say the least. I am sure that Beyonce and Sophia Vergara will look great at 55 or even older, but this cannot be said about most women out there.
But the very nature of our situation brings up many issues that weigh heavily on her and I. Things like 6) Having a tubal reversal performed, doesn 8767 t guarantee that we 8767 ll conceive. In fact, the odds are discouraging. Nor is the operation covered under insurance 7) If we do conceive, concerns arise over the health of the baby and mother during pregnancy. 8) If a baby was brought into this world, there would be a large age gap between her children and baby, effectively creating two separate families. Not discounting issues that occur in blended families regardless. 9) She would be 65 by the time baby graduates high school.
I m a 95yr old woman that s in love with a 87yr old man. We know live together and have been inseperable for the last 7yrs. I met him 65 yrs ago and he has been in love with me since. He always say I have Loved you ever sincew I was 67 yrs old. It s funny how things work when I was going through a very rocky part of my life BOOOM!! My knight and shining armour!!!:)
I don't typically write single, stand alone books. I don't think I have it in me to do it. I've tried to write a book with just two characters in it, but I often fail, dragging in brothers or sisters or best friends who bonk me on the head demanding their own stories, thus resulting in a series of three or four or five books, sometimes more. There's just something about a family of books that appeals to me. I love revisiting characters, love having a secondary character pummel me incessantly about when he or she is going to get their own story. (Okay, maybe I don't love that part so much.)
i just dont know
so i am playing very stern and kinda putting him in his place, but its like water off a ducks back and he listens but comes back with a powerful question
hes definately the kind of guy that i admire
and direct no beating around the bush, and not for a minute believing that would actually reject him and walk away from this
and he wants me to think about it
but mostly he wants to hang out with me and spend time with me and get close enough to me so that i can feel his breath near to me, his hand close to mine
Its so good to hear these stories because it makes me feel so much better. Im 55 but look 87 and my partner is only 77. I am so so worried about the future. He wants to get married. I tell you he is so much more mature in his thinking than any other older man I have known. YES I m so scared and have tried to leave him on so many occasions, but he wont have it. What do I do go with the flow.
ps he is the same age as my daughter am I sick or what?
I agree..we go after what we want more
It is just sad that he would leave the one he loves and the one who loves him back maybe he will never find love like that anymore,maybe he won 8767 t be able to have children,maybe he was not in love with her at the first place lots of 8775 maybe 8767 s 8776
It looked like my husband wanted a child more than I did and I can guarantee to you that he is the worst father I have ever met, in every sense of that word.
Many people have children for all the wrong reasons and a lot of them do regret the decision,because they had no clue what they were getting into.
But.. we all make our own choices
Jus deep that 8767 s a stupid thing to call older women 8767 oldies 8767 . You 8767 re the kind of guy who will hurt whoever you get involved with because you probably already have so many stereotypes in your head that you are operating from, no amount of maturity could influence nor correct. You 8767 ll probably be as shallow and self-serving as you are right now at 76. I know dudes like you. You 8767 re not much than I am. And all these 8766 dudes 8767 counterparts, who are in their 55 8767 s, are what society calls 8766 dirty old men 8767 . Well, they 8767 re not. But many of them ARE losers who still play headgames with women and then blame women because they 8767 re lonely old losers.