Posted: 2017-10-25 10:54
It seems that many white women who date black men are unaware of the colorism that is happening. The black men are often rejecting their own kind because they believe white women are prettier than black women. It becomes reverse racism colorism where minorities discriminate against each other. This pattern is not unique to African Americans. It is very common in Mexico and a basis for the Colonial Spanish Casta based on skin color the lighter the skin the higher up the caste.
I grew up in a wonderful and loving home in Southern California. I had an older brother and sister 67 and 65 years my senior respectively, parents who were happy together, and my aunt and cousins lived one street over. I had a lot of attention growing up being the baby and all, but my main source of affection came from my Dad. My mom began studying for her Bachelor’s degree when I was 7 so I spent most of my free time watching WWF and eating Doritos with my Dad for nearly a decade.
It 8767 s especially obvious with Africans, whereas other groups and sub-groups of racial demographics can integrate and form some sort of cohesive, symbiotic and functional society. We see time and time again that Africans simply can 8767 t, sure this Aaron guy might has been an exception to the (well earned) negative stereotypes, but I doubt it and it really sets a bad example. The statistics are what they are, you can 8767 t really argue with numbers. Crime, corruption, economic growth and activity, IQ, scientific output per capita, and so on, all get affected negatively by black demographics.
Let me end my rant by saying this
Ashley, please feel free to date who you chose regardless of race, background, or color. There are good and bad people that come from all walks of life and all colors.
You lead a much different life than that of your parents, forefathers, and friends.
Your happiness is what really matters and those who don 8767 t understand that 8767 s their fault. You deserve to be happy and with someone who supports that unconditionally. Be you and respect your own judgement. Because I 8767 m sure if it were a Mexican guy and he treated you badly people would probably be okay with it because he 8767 s not black.
Do as you please dear, it is your life and no one else 8767 s. Think of the bigger problems we 8767 d have in this world if every just blindly followed behind what others did simply because they share a complexion or racial background
I cried and cried and cried ahead of time both by myself and with friends hoping to ensure that I wouldn’t have a complete meltdown in front of Aaron. My legs were shaking under the table and my teeth were chattering as I explained everything. All I can say is that I got through it only by the grace of God and I have no recollection of my words. There was a pause, followed by “I wish you wouldn’t have told me that so I would still think the world is a cool place”. More awkward silence, lack of eye contact, blank face. He had every right to be sad, angry, pissed off, frustrated, or just instantly “over it”. The conversation quickly fizzled and I walked away knowing my pain was now his too and there was nothing I could do to fix it.
It is my decision, as an adult, to remain happy and not compensate my ethics and morals for someone who refused to even give someone important to me a chance. Many people will tell you that in life there is nothing more important than family. But you have a responsibility to ensure that your family is healthy for you. Dr. Phil often says “sometimes you have to give yourself the love and care you WISHED you got from others.” Amen.
RUN YOUR RACE! In life, people will try to pressure you to become what they want you to be. But don’t let the criticism or peer pressure of others keep you from becoming all that God has called you to be. You simply need to run your race to the best of your abilities and let God bring you to the finish line. The goals He has placed in front of you are too important to let others lead you away from them. Don’t worry about what everybody thinks and stay true to what God has put in your heart.
To the guys who said black never built an advanced society.
Does Egypt/Khemet not count? That 8767 s pretty advanced if you ask me considering his 8775 high IQ 8776 white guys still cannot remake the Pyramis or Sphinx with the equal proportions and accuracy TODAY with their 8775 advanced societies 8776 lol.
How about the fact that the people you praise like Plato, Aristotle and Alexander the Great went to Egypt to LEARN EVERYTHING THEY KNEW FROM BLACKS. And the monuments built by people of color are still intact but the Greek monuments again, built by 8775 civilized advanced white men 8776 are already falling apart and they aren 8767 t even a fraction of the age of monuments built by blacks. Everywhere the European (Oh btw Europa is the name of a BLACK woman/goddess. Look it up loser) has gone has been followed by violence and destruction. Wars, bio warfare, mass shootings, bombings (name 5 committed by blacks)
Let 8767 s see, we have Egypt, black Wall Street in Tulsa OK, which was destroyed by jealous white men.
All of the key players in my life had very different reactions to me having a black boyfriend. My siblings were very torn. My sister pulled away from me in a big way after this incident fearing also being exiled by my father. My brother stepped up and tried to be my pseudo Dad by doing things like fixing my broken faucet and expressing his discontent being the executor of the will now that my name was removed.
i 8767 m sorry you were and i don 8767 t mean to sound unsympathetic, but you could have been by just anybody of race or any color. There are evil people everywhere. You had a bad run in with some terrible people and i 8767 m sorry for what you went through. When i was a child a white man tried to me, luckily, i was able to fight him off an make a run for it, i was terrified to go out for awhile, i told my mother but she wasn 8767 t very supportive, she made it seem like it was my fault. My experience doesn 8767 t mean i see white people as evil because of that, I see no color. I only judge people hearts and actions.
People like who they like, ya know? I haven't dated a regular vanilla white-boy type, well ever, closest was probably my first boyfriend from high school who was I-talian. My boyfriend now is white, but Jewish and from Iran. People from other races and cultures are often just a lot more interesting. There’s no prejudice, only preference.
We launched a blog recently, Racy JC. It focuses on dating within different races and cultures (Asian, Black, Indian, Jewish, Latino, among others) and ap
My mom has been in the middle the entire time. I think she feels like my Dad’s intent was to protect me from a bad situation, but also acknowledged that Aaron was a good guy and I was an adult capable of making my own decisions. My good friends stood by me 655%. They were surprised by both my Dad and Aaron’s reaction. The reactions of my black friends and coworkers were the most interesting. Some shrugged it off as being a typical reaction and just part of the everyday racism they experience as a people. Others said Aaron and I should have known what we were getting into. But across the board, there seemed to be a shocking lack of surprise making me realize in the weeks following that racism is alive and well.
Actually 8775 empirical 8776 evidence is variable and depends on the study and where it 8767 s from. There is no study that proves inequality among the races across the board because that 8767 s impossible to prove. All ethnic groups, not racial groups, vary by race, geography, history, and culture. Ultimately that is the problem with many of these studies with so called 8775 empirical evidence 8776 much of it can be warped to whatever ends people want. That 8767 s the folly of scientific evidence human bias and narrow mindedness that can dictate interpretations of data.
No matter who we conceive with, the kid will look more black than anything else. That 8767 s UNIVERSAL LAW not man made rule my friend.
Every thing in nature says that people of color are far more suitable and sustainable for life anywhere! That can 8767 t be said about those who lack color lol. But continue to spew your non factual, baseless hatred. I will stick to facts that 8767 s my forte.
Everything in nature with color continues to live on but those without color such as white whales and animals born without pigment must be captured and protected and are viewed as defective!
People of color are less susceptible to natural illness and diseases. And ironically more susceptible to MAN MADE illnesses such as HIV/AIDS
We have so many examples of this on every level, from neighbourhoods to towns to cities to countries. Same thing every time. I think we should treat people as individuals, a black guy completely removed from black culture can achieve just as well as any other person in every field, but African communities destroy societal infrastructure that buckles under their weight with their culture of crime and underachieving and professional victim hood.
You learned a lot about racism in this experience. However, you did miss one area that I couldn 8767 t help but notice. Your black boyfriend most likely was rejecting much darker black women to be with you. Colorism is common among minority men who reject their own kind to be with white women. For example, Tiger Woods has an absolute preference for blonde white women with blue eyes most of the time. Occasionally, he dates white brunettes. Meanwhile, he rejects much darker black women who look like the women from the Supremes from the 6965s or Janet Jackson.
That doesn 8767 t make any sense whatsoever. So what you 8767 re saying is that it 8767 s stupid of her to date a black man because of the diseases from a country HE 8767 S NOT EVEN FROM? Wow. You must be genius. And 8775 monkey lover 8776 is that the best you got? No offense but uh the last time I checked, monkeys have white skin. The country/ background ethnics of a person does not determine their personality or characteristics. And learn the meaning of what a 8766 whore 8767 is.
Most white people were raised like that, according to me that is not a problem. When you 8767 re still under your parents roof. To me, the racist comments starts when you 8767 re an adult and you can make your own decisions and you still cringe when you see black/white couple, even though it 8767 s not you. Why do you care so much about it. If you 8767 re like that, then yes you 8767 re racist, because it 8767 s none of your business what other people do with their lives. People have choices and they choose to do what makes them happy. If dating black man makes them happy then why do you care. If to you color surpasses everything then by all means you 8767 re a racist.
Don 8767 t feed the trolls. You do you. Your story is great. Focus on making yourself a better person! You seem awesome and don 8767 t let the trolls get to you. There is a ton of hate from ignorant, less than adequate men it seems. Most are cowards, sad little men and women who do nothing more than foment hate. I kinda feel sorry for em as should you. Keep doing you and I hope it works out! ACC
The reason for the skewed abuse rates are because a lot of abuse goes in reported. Due to the woman not wanted her spouse to lose his good job or wanting their kids father labeled an abuser. While that isn 8767 t considered if the offender is black. Which I don 8767 t care if they are reported because no one should be at on their spouse. Just don 8767 t pretend like a lot of these crimes aren 8767 t hidden or go unreported in staggering numbers.