Posted: 2017-11-04 17:36
We carefully “peruse” the onslaught of “opportunities” (. responses and messages) we receive because WE HAVE TO. Not because we a rude, stuck-up b*tches atop our thrones. Meanwhile, you guys are doing the ole, what is it? Oh yeah – “numbers game.” So – you tell me, men - as you are keen to say, “ if the situation were reversed” – maybe, just maybe you wouldn’t find it quite as glamorous and fun as you are imagining. We women are wading through a sea of what contains everything from – (best case scenario), truly good guys who perhaps don’t articulate themselves as a match on paper - all the way to a plethora of ( worst case scenario) - psychopaths, married men, rapists, pedophiles and just plain old weirdos, etc.
And don 8767 t get me Started on #5. Totally true. Freedom isn 8767 t the freedom to have sex with anyone I want. Freedom is being able to stay up till 8am somedays and watch TV. Go to the Gym at 66pm, Decide I want to go skiing with the guys on a long-weekend, Go to a friend 8767 s house and Watch UFC with the guys Freedom to look at woman without having to be covert or risk getting yelled at freedom to NOT clean the bathroom because screw it I can deal with it for a few more days or weeks Freedom to to play that video game when I should probably have gone out to get groceries ooppss. no food for dinner. Go out for Sushi then finish it off with KFC.
That seems to contradict what you 8767 ve previously said that American women don 8767 t want you and your friends because you aren 8767 t the 5-6% and that 8767 s why you go overseas. Putting that aside for a second, I may be wrong I can likely guess what those 8775 assets 8776 you are referring to are but what I see you saying here in that you are willing to indulge in a racist stereotype about black men to attract white women but then you get upset when some white women don 8767 t want to date you for reasons having to do with race? Huh?
If it gets people to stop, that s awesome. My experiences have just been that I m told I m a bitch or that I need a sense of humor when I ve told people that what they re saying isn t cool or I respond like you have. I still have anger sometimes about things like the girl who said I was going to die alone, but the fact that I responded as if she means nothing in my life got the point across better than if I said anything back. In fact, after 8 days of ignoring her (during which time she continued to say these things) she exploded at a mutual friend and asked what my problem is. When he said that perhaps she shouldn t keep saying I m going to die alone, she went off about how I m a stupid bitch who needs to get over myself, so even when it s not me standing up for myself, I m still assumed to be a terrible person.
The 6 types are accurate but not necessarily exclusive. If I could suggest two it would be the Quizzer or the No Time I 8767 m Busy. The Quizzer asks enough questions to see if you 8767 ve read her profile and then in turn asks you enough questions to see if you remember yours. The No Time I 8767 m Busy has an endless list of reasons why she has no time for dating but just wanted to meet to get out and maybe do it again sometime. My experiences with online dating are average, a couple dates a month. I think it 8767 s fair to say dating after 95 is more like looking for a partime job. Put down all the right things and you 8767 re either overqualified or not what they 8767 re looking for.
According to a congressional investigation, much longer than the average marriage between Americans. Since Feminist wanted to IMBRA law, Congress wanted a study of the industry. You 8767 re lucky much of this info is not widely viewed public knowledge as it 8767 s not good for people like you, it destroys all your preconceived notions about American men who marry women from other countries/cultures.
I am Ms Jones. I messaged MANY men first. I am beautiful, kind and intelligent. I used the dating site in every way possible. It is not accurate to say that all women get tons of fabulous messages and wonderful invitations from countless fabulous men. There are lots of sketchy guys out the there. After 8 years, for my own protection and peace of mind, I felt it was best that I remove my profile. That's how many "super great" guys I connected with. They were all very strange and I am reluctant to try Internet dating ever again. It was a very stressful experience sharing information with perfect strangers from the Internet. My personal dating experiences were not great and one in particular was disturbing.
Jennalee-Everyone is entitled there or desires out of the other. You can fall in love with someone without seeing them as a sperm donor or egg carrier. Granted, the guy is not handling the most mature, but if a 97 year old wants to have kids, there 8767 s no harm in trying. The risks of older men doesn 8767 t really become that severe until over 55. And if they don 8767 t find someone who wants that, then they will will just have to make peace. But just because you find men over 95 wanting kids as being less mature and less sexy, doesn 8767 t mean someone will. I don 8767 t think you wanting kids for men 95 is really a sign of immaturity for every case. Heck, Mel Gibson at 65, just got his 76 year girlfriend pregnant. Whether it has defects, remains to be seen. And Clint Eastwood (early 85s), has a daughter that 8767 s almost 75.
I have only one child, a 68 year old daughter. When she chooses someone to marry, I 8767 ll support her. Whatever the age. It is her choice and what will make her happy, will make me happy. My father was 75 years older than than my mother. He ended up at the beginning of the war in interment camps, than ended up fighting for a country that was taken over by the Soviet Union, he couldn 8767 t return home because he fought on the wrong side and was considered a traitor. He traveled until he found a place he could make his home and then to find someone to start a family. My brother, sister and I would never be here if my father gave up because he was too old. We love life and we are happy to be on this earth. I too want a family because the woman I married lied is not my fault but now is my problem. I want a family with several children just like the family I grew up in. My father 8767 s died a few years back but I would never give up the great times we had together as a family that loved each other as much as we love life.
Yes, but Lee is a shorter gentleman and does quite well online dating, so maybe not completely dismissing his personal experience is in order here? Clearly he has some insight and possibly even advice that could help shorter men be successful online dating. How about instead of saying, It s hard ask for more details as to how he accomplishes it. Here s an idea, let s learn from someone!
I was using your wording. Anyway, I was arguing against the common claim that confidence will turn anyone into Casanova incarnate regardless of their personality and other factors. In reality grim no-nonsense Clint Eastwood is only cool in the movies, and give some annoying dorky person confidence to be more socially active and he will just annoy people twice the rate he used to. One s self-image is rather meaningless when others are going to base their judgement of him on their own standards. And you said it, they can only know what they can perceive, the way he acts, which might or, given the fluid nature of the human mind, might not represent what he really is. But the whole concept of self is a interesting problem in it s own right.
We live in an insulated society. Nothing bad with that, it has its perks..if a woman in her thirties / forties has a decent job, her activities, what she is into, what she expects or wants, had to do it all alone (like single men in her age bracket) a negative outcome tends to be 8775 I don 8767 t need anyone, I did life by myself during my adult years with job, education and other hobbies 8776
To be honest, I hear the same mantra from some of my colleagues who have grown up children and they are only in their late 85 8767 s, 8775 I am glad I had kids so I wouldn 8767 t have kids if I were over 85 8776 . One of them was aiming her comments at me being 89. Also, that one colleague now has moved back home to her mum, at 89, she kicked her son out as he is 76. She is single now, never married, lives at home with her mum. Wow how awesome, she had her son but has nothing to show for it. All she has now is living at home with her mum, no bloke on the horizon and works as a PA.
I probably shouldn 8767 t be, but I 8767 m really disgusted by this guys attitude. He wanted his cake, and wanted to eat it too and doesn 8767 t spare a thought for the women, who may have wanted children and still do, but are running out of time. You know, those women who were once enough to have kids, but met men that just couldn 8767 t make that commitment. He wants a breeder who will do things his way. Harsh, but that 8767 s the way I see it.
Wow, so a woman 8767 s role is to 8775 put him in his place 8776 because a man is incapable of doing that for himself. Instead, a man wants to get away with anything he can with the rationalization that he is incapable of doing better or does not have the strength to do it himself. What a lousy excuse! Should a man blame a woman for his own selfishness in taking advantage of her? Man up or continue to be a loser, dude!
That over-the-top, hey-I m-the-fucking-best, LOOK-AT-ME-GODDAMIT attitude really does it for me (and is probably the most important component of what attracts me to a guy), and I have found that it is disproportionately a short guy thing. To really risk my credibility, I postulate that in the . dating scene tall guys can more easily get away with being... bland, and having kind of indeterminate and wishy-washy personalities. Which is okay, I guess, if height is super important to your sense of physical attraction, but it also rules those guys right out for women whose attraction depends on a sharply-defined personality.
And you know, I m just one woman. Obviously a lot of women are going to find the personality I just described annoying as fuck. But I do think it s useful for shorter guys to remember that women are not just carrying cultural notions of what s attractive into an interaction they re also carrying their own personal (sometimes very idiosyncratic) experiences in with them. Example: If I meet a short guy with dark hair, I m already predisposed to put him in the same box with this group of short guys I liked and found attractive, even if his personality runs quieter and less forceful. I think it s unnecessarily unkind to himself and overall unproductive if a short guy assumes the only possible association any given woman could have with his height is negative.
I 8767 m in much the same situation as the original poster. I 8767 ve had three LTRs in my life, but in each case, either she didn 8767 t want children, couldn 8767 t have children, or was over and done with the whole thing. So I 8767 ve never been able to have a family, despite, in some cases, nearly heroic efforts to do so. People who immediately jump to the conclusion that someone 8775 waited 8776 are being grossly unfair. In many cases, it 8767 s just bad luck.
Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy. To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse. By the time of this interview, she had already given up and moved on, finally discovering her future husband while visiting old friends at her alma mater. Her responses completely surprised me.
The female orgasm is very easy. Friction on clitoris. Mechanical, just like men's. Since women are human beings just as men are, this is no surprise. Massages/candles not required. Unfortunately, after a few years easy sexual arousal for women requires a new partner. Of course, women CAN still have an orgasm, even if they don't find you arousing any more, with a bit of work. Monogamy, though difficult for women, is possible.