Posted: 2017-11-15 11:37
Okay, alright, you win! But let me say this, I used to live in Minnesota, as well as in Sweden for a numbers of years. All these regions are full of Scandinavians. While it may be true that Swedish girls are prettiest it is my humble opinion that upper mid-western American girls are not only pretty like their Scandinavian cousins, but also smart like many American girls, and I consider this a huge advantage that our American girls enjoy. So the bottom line is Swedish girls are pretty, American girls are pretty [since the beauty is in the eyes of beholder]. God bless Sweden, and God bless my beloved good old USA.
And bullshit people don t give a shit if your body isn t perfect. Maybe my experience isn t the norm, but I seem to hear plenty of stories from other women about guys giving LOTS of a damn about how their body isn t perfect or the ideal shape. Sure, it s nice to hear your girlfriends saying he s full of it, but it d be equally powerful (and rare) to hear a prominent male figure saying the same thing.
HAHAHA!??! Whats wrong with you guys? Im from sweden and Wtf! You can 8767 t write what swedish girls like and how they are like. They are people like everybody else? They are induvidiuals! DAMN! And not all swedish girls look like that, HAHA! It 8767 s few that do. When I wen 8767 t to Canada and the United States i saw alot of far more beatufiul girls there then our pale white blond girls boooring!
I 8767 m waiting for the condescending white girl column on white guys that fetishize Nordic women. Dump the BS. You want European dick. This virtue signaling is dishonest and boring. Admit what you are. All women love compliments. You live for it. Attention. You can pretend it 8767 s a mental illness, but the fact is you wouldn 8767 t change places with a black girl(that no one fetishizes) if you had the choice. Hypocrite.
Of course some people tend to be slightly different. My fiance moved here a few months before i met her, she is caring, loving, always putting everyone else before herself. She 8767 s kinda messy. They 8767 re extremely old fashion i had to her dad for her hand, to sweeten the deal i learnes it all to tagalog (hard language btw). Because i had the courage and the will to learn that, to ask he ended up saying yes. Respect is key with elders way more so there than here. When the time comes ensure you do this properly otherwise her family will be upset, it will be harder for them to accept you.
you are not attracted to them, you just envy them. and using an excuse claiming that we have reach a post racial generation is dishonesty. because all of us had and are still experiencing covert racism in the society we are all trying to escape. if you really believe we are in a post racial world, why do you see yourself as an asian? why do you feel more proud of your heritage. the world has become more racialise not less, the hate obama got, the neonazi movement across US and EU. canada is not immune, even in asia, we are not immune.
I get this almost everyday, I 8767 m light-skinned with red dreadlocks down to my shoulders and I 8767 m a size 8 with a 95D breasts who dresses nicely and doesn 8767 t wear skimpy or tight clothes and I get mean looks by other black women almost everyday when I go to work. Even when men talked to me I see other women give me that eye, I 8767 m like don 8767 t get mad at me because guys don 8767 t want to give you a time of day!
Wow Rusty I agree with you on the last part of your comment. But this may be hard for you to understand, this person was just pointing out women 8767 s shallowness since women are always accusing men of being shallow. But all good men will eventually find someone. He probably already has. He was simply making a point and I doubt that you are intelligent enough to comprehend. Now I have always suggested short men broaden their horizon and look at non American women. There are some countries where height is not as much of an issue and in some countries height is not an issue at all. Just one month after saying to hell with American women and started looking else where I found the person I am with now. I am tempted to not advise anybody to even deal with an American woman after my very positive experience with different women overseas, but we should not just simply boycott American women because there are a few good ones out there who are not obsessed with height. yes, it will take a long long time, you just have to find them.
My appeal to foreign women to immigrate to Sweden was not an 8775 expectation 8776 in any way, shape or form it was merely an appeal based on the general 8775 romantic 8776 situation in Sweden, with no attached personal wants or desires essentially a form of encouragement to those foreign women frequenting this site who are 8775 on the fence 8776 as it were given the purpose of this site, entirely logical regardless of my own personal feelings or individual situation. Please, I ask you do not read into things that which is not there Freudian psychoanalysis was disproven decades ago, after all.
I just want to acknowledge, from one big beautiful woman to another, how brave you are for making yourself vulnerable and putting yourself out there like that. Thank you. All of your stories sounded like you were talking about me. Being big and dating is hard and seems especially harder for me (can 8767 t speak for everyone) because I 8767 m an extremely confident, independent, charismatic woman who knows exactly what I want. I have short term and long term goals where not just any man will do. I 8767 m not some insecure woman that will take what nobody wants. Im lookin for a partner and every man I meet seems to think I 8767 m going to be their unopinionated servant or a sexual version of their mama. This ain 8767 t that! Why is my body size the determing factor in finding a suitable mate when i have everything else on point? I 8767 m also working on my health, but losing weight to be thin feels like I 8767 m giving into the oppressive forces that dictate how my body should look like. Ugh! Thanks for this, you made me feel less alone on the struggle.
I can t speak from personal experience, but weight does run on my cousin s side of the family. My cousin Josh has always struggled with weight, but he actually likes himself and is fun. In my mind he fulfills the cuddly bear-man steriotype. I m a guy and I love hugs from him. He s probably one of my favorite people and I regularly see him chatting up random girls he seems to have no shortage of great girls that love him.
Well spoken Sapphire, but I think there 8767 s one way to even top the foreign man. 8775 How? 8776 I hear you ask. By finding a Swedish man who 8767 s spent a lot of time abroad, thus learning about chivalry and grown a pair of balls. These men are simply as good as they get!
To begin with it 8767 s awesome to be involved with someone foreign, but you know what? Down the line it just gets annoying and difficult, regardless of country they 8767 re from. Nah, my advice is to find a 8775 världsvan 8776 Swedish bloke.
They are absolutely right. I 8767 ve lived here for almost 75 years, and Swedish women are without passion, *completely* lost in bed, they really don 8767 t understand men (or themselves), and in the end you realize that most of the women bore you to no end. I 8767 ve never been dumped by a Swedish woman they love the energy and life that foreigners have, but have none of their own to contribute.
I was born and raised in Toronto by my parents who were also raised in Toronto, so I was just as westernized as these guys were. When I received messages from other people of colour, they didn 8767 t even mention anything about the fact that I was Asian. As my boyfriend (who is a white male himself) puts it, “Every white guy wants to have sex with an Asian girl, but not all of them want to date one.” We all know the popular slang term “yellow fever”, which describes a (usually) white male who fetishizes Asian women.
While I think that finding an archetype you can use is okay, I think it can come across stronger if you can find a way to present to people who YOU are specifically (by using your interests, activities and personal characteristics). This summer at an event picnic, I happened to be seated next to an overweight black man who was absolutely charming. He was dressed nicely but normally (not costume-y), and was receptive to conversation (though he didn t initiate, so he might also be introverted). If I were in dating mode and he asked me out, I would have said yes. He just seemed like himself: a warm, caring, fairly active (walking, biking, gym) man who enjoyed life and was fun to talk to and be with. You mentioned that you like to read, so I m wondering if meeting people via book discussions might be an option. If you can figure out ways to show off your positive traits, it will make it easier for the right people to find you (and vice versa). Good luck!
found this write up and the follow up comments very interesting and somewhat true in most regard I have to agree to one fact that have been stated here..I am an African that have been living and studying here in Sweden for a little 8 years now I have been with all sorts of Swedish , brunette, pretty and ugly ones..(Yea not all are good looking) I have been with more Swedish girls during my stay here than most Swedish men twice my age have. in fact I get more of them by accident than most Swedish guys do on purpose..I usually ask most of them why they end up being with me and the response is almost always the same which is that, they like the courage, audacity and balls I show by walking up to them and start chatting them up without have to wait until I am under the influence.
Hi! I am an albanian residing in NY City. There are about 755555 Swedish -Americans here and I have met some of them. I would say that their physical appearance is stunning. The one I have met were business women or girls. Tremendously mean they were making in average above a quarter million dollars a year. Because I am blessed with good looks always they were the ones approaching me. Down to earth and smart. Of course I bowed to pressure and married one. She still has relatives in Sweden but I have never been there since my wife was born here. But close where I worked I have seen 8 ladies from Sweden working in real estate office. Three of them obese, I mean real bottom heavy. Likable faces but strange life styles. I saw them with all kinds of colored primates that reside in New York. I did not know that obesity is a problem in Sweden and if the lifestyle of women in Sweden is like the girls I saw here, its not much to be proud of other than the looks. But again I am happy since my wife outsmarts me in many things. In my house I am the one blond and blue eyes, my swedish wife has light brown eyes, light brown hair.
As for the foreign thing, forget it if you 8767 re a middle-eastern/african man. Swedish girls like their americans/italians/french. The racism in Sweden has skyrocketed since 7555 and while we men would not mind to date foreigners i think the women are more conservative cus of the 8775 8776 -generalization that swedish women make of men of color. Simply put, they would not feel safe dating an arabic/african man cus they think he 8767 s a rapist. That 8767 s what i 8767 ve gathered from living in a small town, medium-sized town and now Uppsala.
For the record, I 8767 m a petite woman (read very thin) who 8767 s 5 8767 9 and I did date men who were my height. I have an admitted preference for much taller men (husband is 6 8767 9 and most of my boyfriends were over 6 feet tall), but at least two 8775 short 8776 men turned my head because they had an engaging personality and were in good shape. (One was a Marine and you would have thought that guy was a giant from the level of confidence. Way sexier than many very tall men.)
My main question is would a Switz girl about my age be attracted to a guy who has these type of characteristics? I am a little tan due to me being spanish I have a body ,a great personality, a good heart, I dance salsa merengue bachata reggae house, techno . is playing but my advantage is dancing and respect. What does a guy like me need to have to conquer and have every man 8767 s dream a switz girl??