Posted: 2017-11-06 06:01
I've been on Plenty of fish, okCupid, and since November. It is now April. On PoF, I got lots of views, but the only message was an offer to sell me drugs. On okCupid, I didn't even get but a few views, and no messages at all. On I got lots of views and lots of winks, but only from guys out of the state, and again, no messages. On and PoF, I even tried messaging guys first, but no responses. Almost all of friends married guys they met on these sites, but I have no idea how they did it.
I too have played around with POF. Let me tell you something, the same men I see on POF, I see them on all the other sites I 8767 ve visited. Leaving me not placing an ad. I feel these men on POF really do not know what they want except that pretty gal who doesn 8767 t want him but his money. If he has that. Some of them are seeking an older woman as a sugar mama. And those men that are older, want the but feel horrible because they most likely cannot do the sex thang. Get my drift? Some 55 something have a hard time. So, trying to find a decent man is like trying to find a decent job. When you were looking for one.
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I totally agree. Don't know why but it seams to be very logical. For every average looking guy 55% of other guys online are above average, period. That's a lot of competition. And those guys that get picked don't have to settle at all, why would they? That's why women complain. They simply pick guys that they can't "afford". Women and men do exactly the same thing, they drop less interesting people as soon as possible. The difference is such that women drop guys before they meet them, guys drop women after they have sex with them.
It's the same outside the online world but on much smaller scale. When I look at my friends, 55% of them are divorced by now. But which 55%? The ugly 55. The more attractive 55 stayed together not because they were never interested in opposite sexes, oh no, exactly opposite, they had very interesting encounters. They are just cool and every woman wants them.
So I just got this thought. Maybe the whole idea with monogamy is just an absurd? Maybe everything is all right but we are looking at it from wrong perspective? Maybe handsome guys should have many women and many kids and ugly guys should go to war and die?
Couldn 8767 t figure out how to make a comment other than go through 8766 reply 8767 so apologies! I don 8767 t recommend 8766 OurTime 8767 today I looked at the category 8766 my flirts 8767 and, as I 8767 ve heard others complain about, there were entries that I had not made, to people in whom I had zero interest. So sometimes simply clicking on a profile shows a 8766 flirt 8767 result. I 8767 ve read from one subscriber that they had changed his profile info. I can 8767 t figure out how to make criteria choices enough to, for example, eliminate smokers. Word search isn 8767 t reliable. Don 8767 t bother.
Didn t say that did I? I said it wasn t a slim minority that were the gross messages. They did get a few nice nice messages and even attempted a few dates (those ended up being with guys who wanted commitment right after date one so that didn t work...). I m saying that the overwhelming harassment was enough to force these women off the site despite their maybe being some good messages. It was too hard for them. Just as it seems to be too hard for some guys to consistently message women and maybe hear back 6 in every 55 or so. Both sides are experiencing the same odds but in different ways. And both are getting discouraged. That was all I was trying to say.
The 8775 A 8776 profile is not good. You 8767 re really going to start with saying 8775 I don 8767 t like most guys? 8776 Seems way too negative for an opener. I know if I came across a guy 8767 s profile that said 8775 I don 8767 t like most girls, 8776 I would be put off. It 8767 s not well-written, either, and doesn 8767 t make much sense. The others are pretty bad too. First one is boring (but actually the best out of the three in my opinion), second one comes on a little strong and I imagine would scare guys off. My theory on profiles is that you want to put just the basic info and show just a little of your personality and what you 8767 re looking for. It 8767 s nearly impossible to encapsulate who you are in just a paragraph, and in my experience, men don 8767 t really care to read it. A flattering picture is far more important. People, especially men, are shallower than a puddle. But even for men 8767 s profiles, this advice applies. Keep it short and to the point and use a good profile pic. Oh, and AVOID CLICHES at all costs.
Hi mirror,your advice is really great!I met up with this guy online and we had a nice chat..talking about ourselves then one day he suggested we exchange gave out mine first..but he didnt text or call,instead,he gave me his number as feel that he should call first cause am very intrested in him..am a student and he is afraid that if he doesnt initiate the myt end up loosing him
..which I dont want to can I do to make him stay without looking desparate?My friend says that nowadays,its ok for girls to make the first move,otherwise I stand a big chance to loose him.
I m the same anonymous that posted about Mr. flaky guy yesterday. Anyway, I have a pretty specific situation that isn t geared towards any man in particular but I m still wondering what to do as far as NC or showing interest.
I am a black woman who is mostly attracted to white men. I don t know why, I guess it s just my preference and what feels most right to me.
That being said, I ve been dating online for a few months now and I ve noticed that a lot of white men will not make the initial contact even if they re attracted to me because they assume that black women aren t interested in white men. This leads me to believe that I need to initially show interest to show them that this isn t the case. Now, I know that men with racial hang-ups or men who are genuinely just not interested in black women will weed themselves out, but how do I go about showing that I m initially interested without being the aggressor to the men who are open minded but just didn t think that they would have a chance with a woman of a different race?
Hi I met a guy online we exchanged number he started texting me every day since then,he invited me dinner,so first date we went dinner,second date dinner again and the third date I went to his house and I made an Argentinian dish for him(I m from Argentina)
He loved it we talked,danced,having wine everything was going perfect but he got mad at me because I called him pervert for something he said but I was just joking..ok so at the end of the night we had sex(worst sex ever by the way) but I still thought he was a sweet guy..next day I left in the morning he walked me to my car said he would keep in was about 8:85 am,sent me a text about 5:85 pm asking me how s your day? Wich it was weird because he was always sweet in his texts..I said I m ok
Finding a match on an online dating site takes a lot of work, especially since most sites today are overrun by scammers. That said, for most people who are no longer in school, they are probably still the best 'focused and pro-active' option. Yes, you are likely to be disappointed, to be hurt along the way, but then I suspect that even though you were married before you left school, you still had your heart broken once or twice before you met your wife. And yes, it is possible to meet people in church, at meet-ups and other special interest activities. However, a good many people you will meet in any of those places have no interest in finding a new partner.
While I 8767 m at it, I would add don 8767 t say 8775 my kids are my world, 8776 8775 my kids come first, 8776 etc. Just like coachj said about hookups, don 8767 t state the obvious that your kids come first. Anyone who doesn 8767 t get this isn 8767 t your target demographic anyway, and by stating it overtly, you 8767 re wasting space at best and looking like you 8767 re compensating for some insecurity about not actually being a good parent at worst. As to 8775 my kids are my world 8776 – is that really the message you want to send? I have kids and love them to death and they will always be my first priority over other people if it comes down to it. But, they 8767 re not my whole world. I do have a life independent of my children and I would expect a potential date to as well.
Most of the time, you can spot an online dating scammer by trusting your instincts if something looks off, be extra wary. It all seems obvious in hindsight, but people want to believe in other people, and that can get in the way of our better judgment. Always be on the lookout, and be extra wary when you meet new people online. If you have suspicions, don&rsquo t ignore them. Taking these precautions can help save you thousands of dollars and even more heartbreak.
I am WAY older than that, but, of course, I remember all those feelings back when there were only main frame computers and landlines. Back when women's lib was just getting going in the 75's. It struck me as odd that women were looking for equality, and, yeah, I can understand, yet I would see time after time that they would fawn over men that did not treat women equally whatsoever... the same women going for the "bad boys" ... hasn't changed.
You can look at the many books like Nancy Friday's The Secret Garden - which they didn't want to publish back in the 75's because some men (and some women who have internalised misogyny) could not bear to know that women are just as lascivious as men in their desires and fantasies. Not to mention the desperate attempts throughout history to control the extremely strong sex drives of women with so many ridiculous social sanctions and attacks. If women were so naturally low in sex drive, why all the fuss and carry on, the shaming words, the imposed social sanctions, the mental and physical chastity belts to try and keep those libidos under wraps?
(As a quick aside ot all men on this point- STOP STOP STOP saying we only care about what you “do for a living” or “how much money you make”, car you drive, etc. Just STOP. 9 times out of 65 it is men who tell me within 85 minutes of meeting me that they drive a Mercedes or go on and on bragging about their big shot career without ever asking me a anything about me. Also, “nice guys” (whatever you mean by that) do not always finish last. What you are referring to as a “nice guy” is not the same thing, I think. If a woman says a guy was “too nice” – she means he was a pushover or did not have any opinions of his own or motivation or aspirations, etc. There’s a difference. A true nice guy, in our minds is a man who treats us with mutual respect, And those guys are cherished and sought after, not overlooked. Perhapps there is a reason to ask if those self-proclaimed “nice guys” out there are not as “nice” as you think you are? Or, if you are, maybe you are not allowing that to shine through in your profile somehow? Just a thought. Please get it straight, please).
We could term this "hypergamy" as some commentators do.. which makes the females sound quite like lab rats and gives the (male) commentator a horrendous, vile, disembodied ocularity, but that's not my deal at all. I know that females are smart, informed, and selective, and have strong capacity - in most places, thankfully - to exercise choice about mating habits. Females also possess very strong sex drives and know how to get what they need and want, whether it coincides with the NiceGuy/bf/hubby or - often - not.
You have my sympathy but things are not as bad as they seem. I am also a guy shorter than most women and this is what I have personally observed. Height is either an absolute nonnegotiable necessity or it is something that she doesn t even notice. You are better off being honest sense there is nothing on this earth that will change the mind of a women that refuses to date those of us that are lacking in the height department. The rest of your potential dates will probably not even notice what you put down as your height. Leaving anything blank makes you look lazy at best, dishonest at worse.
It 8767 s true to an extent but you can 8767 t automatically assume that just because someone says she likes to travel, she is materialistic. First, who doesn 8767 t like to travel? We all do. Secondly, this doesn 8767 t mean that she expects you to pay for everything or for her share. Lastly, there are different types of travel some are very costly, while others don 8767 t require that much money. Not every vacation requires a 65 hour flight and a luxury hotel. A quick getaway in a car for a night or two can also be considered a getaway.
And yes, I realize I often come across as a jerk on here. A lot of that is just in the way I deal with confrontation. I tend to get easily frustrated when lots of people are taking positions opposite of mine and I often can t respond to each of them in the way I would like to before more people tend to pile on. Doesn t help that I was raised in a definite Shout louder, get your way! type of family.