Posted: 2017-11-07 16:41
I was an awkward and creative kid. I wore the same pair of vans tennis shoes to school for 5 years straight, had long un-brushed hair, and wore oversized sweatshirts and jean shorts to school. I was chubby. I had braces. Name some nerdy quality and I probably had it. I was naturally a very inclusive person. I 8767 d say it was bad experiences throughout school which probably made me much more accepting. I was also a dancer and heavily involved in the performing arts which attracts a wide variety of characters. I always made sure everyone felt welcome and included.
No matter who we conceive with, the kid will look more black than anything else. That 8767 s UNIVERSAL LAW not man made rule my friend.
Every thing in nature says that people of color are far more suitable and sustainable for life anywhere! That can 8767 t be said about those who lack color lol. But continue to spew your non factual, baseless hatred. I will stick to facts that 8767 s my forte.
Everything in nature with color continues to live on but those without color such as white whales and animals born without pigment must be captured and protected and are viewed as defective!
People of color are less susceptible to natural illness and diseases. And ironically more susceptible to MAN MADE illnesses such as HIV/AIDS
I’m a deceivingly outgoing introvert, but it was noticeable that I became withdrawn. I had no appetite, no interest in going out, being with friends, and definitely neglected my boyfriend in pretty much every possible way. I was emotionally drained and therefore emotionally unavailable and I think it became obvious I wasn’t being honest. My Dad’s birthday was in January so I decided to reach out and try to get a conversation going, even if it was awkward. He responded saying he wasn’t my Dad anymore and there was no point in trying to correspond with him. Clearly we were not making progress. I had no more options. I had no more time. I had to break the hurtful news to Aaron.
Actually you are the selfish one. And very ingorant. I 8767 m sorry what happened to you in SA, that wasn 8767 t right and it 8767 s understandable that you are scarred by those days. But you know what? You can 8767 t blame people who come from different places of the same thing. That is rude. And to tell your daughter that she must choose between two people that she loves that it 8767 s either your way or the highway is pretty selfish.
I 8767 ve been tomented all my life by white guys calling me mean names but here I am dating one who is so kind and helpful and tries his best to make me happy and I remain loyal and do the same for him. Not everyoe is the same. Stop being ignorant. You 8767 re thinking only of yourself and you know it.
Also white people act out in public all the time. As do Indians, Asians, Middle Eastern persons of varied ancestry. You only notice because it confirms biases you already have. You 8767 re a racist and a terrible person. Accept it and stop pretending you respect your black 8775 friends 8776 you don 8767 t. On some deep level you hate black people and don 8767 t trust us. Do yourself a favor and stop pretending.
Worst culture on earth? Hahahahaha.. this crap makes me sick! Believe it or not there are many more good black men than bad. I know you probably all think the we live on the 8775 hood 8776 and listen to rap music while drinking a 95. We all hate our 8775 baby mamas 8776 .. and have criminal records.. we hate the police and all have 79 inch rims on our car right???? Lol oh yeah and we are also somehow less than you.. Because of the natural melanin we were born with?? Man I 8767 m so glad you have your stats but did you know that 65 out 65 ppl are born human. We are literally the samething. She 8767 s not the horrible person.. YOU ARE!
It 8767 s especially obvious with Africans, whereas other groups and sub-groups of racial demographics can integrate and form some sort of cohesive, symbiotic and functional society. We see time and time again that Africans simply can 8767 t, sure this Aaron guy might has been an exception to the (well earned) negative stereotypes, but I doubt it and it really sets a bad example. The statistics are what they are, you can 8767 t really argue with numbers. Crime, corruption, economic growth and activity, IQ, scientific output per capita, and so on, all get affected negatively by black demographics.
tests or SAT scores are thought to be indicative of pure intelligence and capacity to learn, but it is generally accepted that these are flawed interpretations of these tests. However our view of education is that arising out of the industrial period, so we believe we can quantify everything ultimately this just hurts our understanding of learning in general, and prevents us from truly examining and discussing the historical, political, and economic impacts upon various ethnic groups. These tests do measure a knowledge base and a skill base, however without interpreting these things through what students bring into the classroom and the world they come from they are ultimately pointless.
I grew up in a wonderful and loving home in Southern California. I had an older brother and sister 67 and 65 years my senior respectively, parents who were happy together, and my aunt and cousins lived one street over. I had a lot of attention growing up being the baby and all, but my main source of affection came from my Dad. My mom began studying for her Bachelor’s degree when I was 7 so I spent most of my free time watching WWF and eating Doritos with my Dad for nearly a decade.
You seem extremely level headed on this topic. I 8767 m impressed. I wouldn 8767 t say that anybody in your story is good or bad, just human with the prejudices that come along with being born at a time we did. The father disapproving of who the daughter is dating probably started with Adam and Eve. Interracial dating has a stigma that may in all actuality be rooted in something as simple as the father may see you dating somebody so much different than he sees himself and this is you actually rejected him. The argument using stats and that he is looking out for your best interest may be half a ruse. He has only seen life through his eyes and he probably thinks that because he loves you, the more the guy you date is like him, the more likely they will be to treat you right. Is that logical??? hell no but love and hate are not really dependant on logic. BTW I 8767 m not making a judgement saying what you Dad believes is correct, just throwing our guesses of why he is doing what he did. I 8767 m also extremely confused to how I ended up on making a comment.
You learned a lot about racism in this experience. However, you did miss one area that I couldn 8767 t help but notice. Your black boyfriend most likely was rejecting much darker black women to be with you. Colorism is common among minority men who reject their own kind to be with white women. For example, Tiger Woods has an absolute preference for blonde white women with blue eyes most of the time. Occasionally, he dates white brunettes. Meanwhile, he rejects much darker black women who look like the women from the Supremes from the 6965s or Janet Jackson.
Honestly, what woman in her right mind would want to be owned by a white man who compares dogs to humans. Maybe you are losing women because you are treating them like your servants like we owe something to you. That 8767 s also how the white man lost their slaves. Before you know it, you 8767 ll be alone and no one will give a shit about you. After all, what will men like you do when fundamentalist, sexist religions die out? Those poor brainwashed women are the only girls who will have you, and they are already in the minority. You can call women whores, but you are just pushing them even further away from you. I assure you that being called a whore by some sexist man is nothing new to us. You are probably abusive to any women in your family, so don 8767 t be surprised when they leave you for someone else.
I read your very long many paragraphed attempt to rationalize your behavior. It still boils down to the fact that you spread your legs for something that looks nothing like you or your family, and I 8767 m guessing continued to do so after the strong criticisms from your father who loved you. It indicates you are dysfunctional and a drama queen. Make some changes and good luck finding someone respectable who won 8767 t find you disgusting now 😉
Personally, from my experience this is odd.. very peculiar not because she dated or got involved with a Black guy, but in the sense that she is letting her dad control her and tell her who to date, marry, or get involved with. This is America, you should have the right to date, marry, intercourse, or get involved with whoever you want to get involved with regardless of what parents, friends, or society says or think.
I have friends who have been and assaulted. All by white guys. I 8767 m talking 85% of my female friends. Further white men systematically my ancestors and the ancestors of those who look like me on a regular basis without blinking and then came up with a dozen stereotypes to justify it. By your logic I should then dump my white boyfriend history shows white Europeans and their descendants are hyper violent. Everywhere colonialism has been there has been theft, mutilation, apartheid etc. Almost every single mass shooting in America has been done by white men. Historically Blacks, Indians, and others have more reason to fear whites than the opposite. However, this has nothing to do with your daughter dating a black man. You have decided that you believe all black men are vicious, and all black men are exactly the same. That is racist, that is bigotry. There is no way around it in the slightest. Having a black person you call 8775 friend 8776 does not eliminate the fact that you have a problem with black people.
It is my decision, as an adult, to remain happy and not compensate my ethics and morals for someone who refused to even give someone important to me a chance. Many people will tell you that in life there is nothing more important than family. But you have a responsibility to ensure that your family is healthy for you. Dr. Phil often says “sometimes you have to give yourself the love and care you WISHED you got from others.” Amen.
Because I wasn’t popular and because I was picky, I didn’t go on a single date until I was almost 75 years old. He was a tall, blonde, surfer that ended up moving to San Diego for college and that was the end of that. My dad wasn’t a fan, but I knew he wasn’t going to truly like anyone anyway as no one would ever be good enough for me in his mind. My next boyfriend came about 7 years later. He was Italian, passionate, and handsome with dark features. We had a great run together, but in the end saw our futures differently and went our separate ways. I’m sure my dad didn’t think he was good enough either.
You talk about this woman not giving her dad enough thought for why he feels this way. But you turn around and decide, just like this woman 8767 s father that, somehow you 8767 re feelings and stereotypes trump any actual person your child is involved with. Your daughter probably lied to you before she started dating this man, and she probably lied about that because she knows that you are a 655% racist and it 8767 s not because you were It 8767 s because you were already racist and this horrible event very loosely ties into what you already believe. Your daughter, or Aaron, could be the nicest, most polite, human beings, but you have no respect for black people don 8767 t see black people as being as human as you see yourself.
That doesn 8767 t make any sense whatsoever. So what you 8767 re saying is that it 8767 s stupid of her to date a black man because of the diseases from a country HE 8767 S NOT EVEN FROM? Wow. You must be genius. And 8775 monkey lover 8776 is that the best you got? No offense but uh the last time I checked, monkeys have white skin. The country/ background ethnics of a person does not determine their personality or characteristics. And learn the meaning of what a 8766 whore 8767 is.
Your dad was kind of a dick, but in the end he was right. As soon as there was an out, your boyfriend took it. Even as you were begging him to work it out, even as your Dad removed himself from your life(The racist is gone, you and the BF are free to live as you please without intervention from Dad), he decided he 8767 d rather split.
Thank god you didn 8767 t have kids with this guy before he left you. I don 8767 t know, maybe he was truly destroyed by this, but being the same gender as him, it 8767 s MUCH more likely he was just tired of you and wanted a guilt free reason to leave. Then you displaced all your anger and disappointment on your Dad.
Hell, if I met a girl I liked as much as you said, and her Dad hated me that much, I wouldn 8767 t leave her. Hell, I 8767 d be happy he was out of the way.