Posted: 2017-11-07 12:14
Geoffrey Miller : Shredded is actually bad. If you’re below 65% body fat, that’s actually not as healthy as having a little more fat in terms of how your immune system works fighting off colds and infections and diseases and all of that. It’s fine to have a little bit of fat. You don’t need to be super bulked up and have massive muscles. Women like muscles and they appreciate them but if you look at hunter-gatherer guys, the guys who are good at going out and hunting and killing game and dragging it back to camp, they do not look like body builders.
So lets say a 5-foot tall woman is at the club, see 8767 s a group of men all 6ft except one and engages in a general conversation with the group. In engaging them she pays little attention to the one that is not over 6ft because he is not her type. Is that not the same thing? If her preference is towards men over 6ft and she chooses not to consider men under that height, should we question the 8775 limited range of her desires? 8776 Is she nurtured to think men over 6ft are more desirable? Is reprograming needed?
In other circles, namely online dating websites and in the fat acceptance movement, these men are also referred to as Big Handsome Men. But, according to Grace, there is a big difference between a fat man and a big, handsome one. 8766 I 8767 ve only ever dated big men who were happy with themselves but that 8767 s getting harder to find nowadays. If I suspect a man has a âwoe is me, I 8767 m fatâ attitude, I wouldn 8767 t get involved. But if he considered himself a Big Handsome Man, then I would be interested. Nobody wants to date someone who hates their body. 8767
If you are shorter, you simply have to take a look in the mirror. Maybe even ask some friends you can trust, or set up some hidden cameras and watch how you act just act normally, and then watch the video later. Or, simply do a self analysis. Do you act aggressive? Try to act tough most of the time? Do you believe that you have to act tougher to get respect? See, from a somewhat taller guy 8767 s perspective, that never works. In fact, acting cockier/tougher just gets you noticed in a bad way, which is where the Napoleon Complex term came from people notice.
Saw this posted on FB and it is an incredibly moving account that mimics many of the struggles I had when I was dating. I did just want to take exception to one thing: men who appreciate fat women don 8767 t have a fetish. By labeling it a fetish, you are saying that women who are fat really aren 8767 t all that. There are men who like skinny women, but they are never labeled as having a fetish.
Does she have some serious personality problems or addictions? After all she left the father of her kids. Did the father of her kids divorce her (in the fewer cases where the husband actually initiates the divorce compared to the 75 to 95% of wives who initiate the divorce), and did he do so because she 8767 s an addict? A cheater? A lazy deadbeat? Does single mommy not have any common sense, so she picked a POS, deadbeat bad boy and had kids with him, and now expect me to take on that mess?
Save the whining and moaning for somebody who will buy your crap. Do some women avoid short men like the plague? Sure. So do some women avoid men who have no degree like the plague. So do some women avoid men who are older than them. So do some women avoid man of their own or another race. So do some women avoid men who are fat. So do some women avoid men who are Alphas and some avoid Betas. So do some women avoid men who are obese.
I am in college and I honestly feel this way! I COMPLETELY AGREE!! I 8767 ve gone to parties, and I 8767 ve been the one who has stood in the corner, with a drink in my hand while my friends turn down the countless number of men trying to dance with them. It 8767 s sad to me that this happens, but I honestly feel that culture says big girls arent desirable. I 8767 ve seen men check me out, but not likely to approach me. Thank you for saying this, is all true!!
I agree there is a lack of respect for men in America but some men don 8767 t deserve respect because of their trashy or egotistical behavior.
You are a good example of that. Short men like any other men don 8767 t need anybody 8767 s sympathy. I just saw how this story points out women 8767 s shallowness because the subject is always men 8767 s shallowness. No one is arguing that either side is shallow, both men and women do basicly the same thing, which is the point I have made dumbass.
Rusty it 8767 s like you are doing a lot of talking but not understanding my point. It sucks you cannnot cut me off and mid sentence like you probably would do in your dailey life. You cannot simply dismissed my point because you feel someone who is short should not have an opinion. I will keep on responding until you finally get it.
Side comment: Before the 75th century, the vast majority of the population always had to expend much more physical energy just to feed themselves, consequently we 8767 re not going to see much fat among them. Fatness and obesity have never been as prevalent as they are in current times. I saw a photo some time ago of a guy who was the circus fat man in 6886 or so. He was said to be 6-7 and 858#, doesn 8767 t seem like a big deal now, but it was then. Such a big deal then he could make a living just on his size. Today he 8767 d have to earn a living doing something else as men over 855# are a dime a dozen now and we can say something similar about women over some big girl threshold.
That aside, I have a few comments about this specific post independent of the previous one. Namely, that Evan asked his readers for their 8775 honest 8776 feedback to the topic. So I 8767 m pretty certain that the commenters who admitted their desires to feel dainty, hug a larger body, meet their partners 8767 gaze at eye level and avoid dealings with a Napoleonic man are fully aware of the irrationality behind that view. And yet they admitted their feelings because Evan asked and, well, we all know life is unjust. These are HONEST women, not ones in need of therapy, as suggested.
I think lady anonymous has said truthfully what a lot of women feel. We want to feel feminine.. she may have said dainty. But we were brought up to want to be gentle and kind and light on our feet. Some of us are athletic or curvy and have been criticized for years for our bodies. Don 8767 t try to minimize her feelings they are totally legitimate. It does not diminsh your manhood to recognize that she wants to feel feminine. Maybe try to find ways to make your female friends and relatives feel appreciated and feminine and accepted and that accepting nature will attract a woman whatever your size relative to hers.
As a side note: I 8767 m 5 8767 9. I am currently dating a man who is 5 8767 8. I specifically asked him if he cared about my love for heels and if he did, he 8767 d have to get over it! There are those of us out there who don 8767 t care but we 8767 re a small portion of the population. Oh, and prior to 5 8767 8 guy my last boyfriend was 6 8767 9. So the same difficulty can be said for a guy who is unusually tall. Your dating pool is just going to be smaller.
After sharing a guest-post on step-parenting from the step-child&rsquo s point of view , one commenter asked an interesting question: &ldquo Should a man with no kids be hesitant to date a woman with kids?&rdquo First, whether a man has children of his own or not, there is nothing wrong with preferring to date women without children. We are all free to make up whatever dating preferences we want. They are called personal preferences for a reason and we don&rsquo t need the approval of anyone else when it comes to what we like. However, there are a few things childless men should keep in mind when deciding whether they are ready to date a woman with a child, or children. Women, would you agree on the following?
Count me in with the ladies who don 8767 t want to weigh more than the guy I 8767 m dating. But, that being said, I have dated men shorter than me, and it really doesn 8767 t bother me. What counts in the long run is how they treated me and that was always wonderful. I am with a guy now who is not much taller than me, and close in height does give a wonderful 8775 fit 8776 during intimate times! 🙂
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Why do men value attractive partners? Well, you might say it is because it is more fun to have sex with a pretty woman. But another, perhaps more important reason, is that the type of woman a man is able to attract is an advertisement, a direct reflection of his worth in society. Watch a reasonably normal-sized man leave a building with his overweight girlfriend or even a platonic friend. He often walks ahead of or behind her. He cringes at the thought that people will see them together and conclude that he is such a loser that this is the “best he can do.” A woman might have a less attractive man, but a $95,555 sports car, a nice suit, a powerful job, any of these things will make up for his big gut. If a woman is fat, nothing can compensate for the problem.
I appreciate this honest and vulnerable post I never thought of my weight as a problem, until we were at a club (college days, so smaller than I am now), and a guy and I exchanged numbers. Then he leaned over and said, 8775 I hope you 8767 re not self-concious about your weight. 8776 I wasn 8767 t, until then. I have had all those experiences, and it 8767 s not nice or pretty to be ignored because you 8767 re the 8775 fat one 8776 and sometimes this simply means 8775 bigger than your homegirls. 8776 I wish that the scenario of people being attracted to each other and loved for their personality first was the rule, and not the exception, but it isn 8767 t. Which is why I 8767 ve recently decided to pay more attention to my health and diet to increse my confidence, which is completely shot. Heres to hoping those changes make positive changes in my love life as well.
My point is to get you to respond with as many of your lame theories as possible so short men can spot an idiot like you more quickly. You have given a world of idiotic information on how 8775 heightest 8776 think. If you don 8767 t know what that means then look it up. I am concerned about all the Military careers you destroyed because you have a pre-conceived notion and a hidden dislike of short men thinking they have an inferiority complex. They are simply coming to work and doing their job just like everybody else, you decide to single them out and mico-manage them while you make strange assumptions about them. That is so dangerous.
If you 8767 re gonna draw dudes only when you 8767 re skinny that 8767 s pressure you 8767 re putting on yourself to make someone love you and, reaffirming the fatness = lovelessness equation. I think it comes down to the woman 8767 s personality/self-confidence, and what kind of man she 8767 s trying to get. I absolutely agree with the 8775 stable, safe, comforting 8776 big woman symbol, it 8767 s almost motherly. The slim and the active woman I guess represents action, excitement, change, mobility, daringness. Guys love that kind of thing. The conventional guy, anyway.