Posted: 2017-09-25 17:46
Of course it 8767 s not too much to hope for, Josie!!! I see proof of that every day. Thing is, if you 8767 re not meeting the right men it 8767 s because you are choosing and attracting the wrong ones. The man you describe most definitely exists! So think about what you might do differently to start attracting quality men. I highly recommend that you watch my Grownup Girls 8767 Night Out webcast for this month. You can find it here it 8767 s free 8776 http:///ggno This could be something you can shift that will make a huge difference. Stick with me. I will help you! He 8767 s out there for you. Hugs. Bp
In comparison to the work nice guys have to do, women (particularly average to good looking women) absolutely do appear to have all the advantages. Average nice guys are competing for attention from the creeps, the jerks, the ugly guys, the good looking guys, the hookup bad boys, even other women. All the cards are stacked against us. It's like a message in a bottle or winning the lottery to catch them at just the right time at just the right moment to get a response.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons. Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person &ndash you&rsquo d probably have 9 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night.
living in regional NSW, its so hard to find someone without the use of dating sites. I have used them all and have found that free dating sites like OASIS and pof are full of of insincere people who just want "fun with no strings attached". A lot of these people who contact me, tell me that all the single parents they have been talking to, ALL just want one night stands. So when they contact me, this is what they think I'll offer them and they get shitty when they find out that I am not that kind of person.
There's no point in lying or hiding things about yourself if you're after something genuine and lasting &ndash whatever it is it'll come out eventually, so you just have to be true and with a bit of luck, life and love will happen :) Sure, there's still such thing as tact and presenting things in a good light, but any outright deception only sets you up for something potentially really good to get sabotaged later on down the track by whatever secrets come out.
My pleasure. I feel sorry for Indian guys in a way they come here just like any dude they want to bang some chicks. Hey we all do. They dont realize with White women they will be taking black dudes sloppy 897th. I couldn 8767 t have anything to do with a white woman agaian ever. I know how many black dudes they have banged and they probably have aids. A white woman is only going to leech off of an Indian to work and pay for her, she will be sneaking around behind his back banging black dudes while hes working, Ive known many white women this is the fact. Sorry I dont think even these loser dorks have any interest in overweight old white chicks that have banged hundreds of black dudes.
As to the creepy responses. Some may be legit creepy but a lot of them are jaded men who know that writing a well thought out response is an utter waste of time for them, especially older men. That said the older men are just living in denial about the reality the women by in large do not want them all. Same for older gay men. Yes it's partly ageism "Ewww he could be my father". But that's because they are an don't understand that really what would you talk about, you pop culture connections would be so out of date for them (unless you luck out with an old soul). Also another reason for short messages is because guys HAVE ALWAYS by in large done it short and sweet. Think about the cheesy pick up lines or conversation starters at a bar. They are not deep probing question that want to know more about why you are in medieval crossbow shooting.
Sometimes you have to prime the pump to get things going again. So you give him a call, send him a message, tease him a little, and make it playfully but clearly known that his company would be welcome: “So. When were you planning on taking me out again, big boy?” Then step back, and wait for him to do something. If he takes the bait, game on. If he doesn’t, give it a couple of days, then try again. If he’s tone deaf after three tries, move on.
You are not the top 65% of women. You've deluded yourself into getting it the opposite way around. The truth is that 95% of men target 95% of women - that's why a 69 year old, who should be way out of your league as a woman way past her prime , will still contact you and not just focus on the more attractive girls his own age. Meanwhile, 95% of women really do target only 65% of men. You are looking for nothing but hot, single men in their thirties, and so is every other woman on the website. Goes to show what primadonnas women on dating sites are when you can get it all this wrong.
JJ, This is an old post so I hope you see this You, and countless other woman have learned the hard way that you can 8767 t force a man to do something he 8767 s not ready to do. He has to arrive at the decision on his own. It 8767 s all about not over-investing in a man and mirroring his actions. If he 8767 s still on the dating sites, you have the right to be dating sites also, even if you 8775 don 8767 t want to 8776 . The point is, you arrived 8775 ahead of him 8776 and should mirror his actions for your own protection. He will let you know when he 8767 s ready to take his profile down. If he hasn 8767 t, it simply means he 8767 s not 655% invested in you yet. Lean back and mirror him, observe his actions and act accordingly. Don 8767 t nag. Take care of yourself first, and when he 8767 s ready to step up all the way, he 8767 ll let you know. For more detail on this I highly recommend Katarina Phang 8767 s blog, . She shares Dr. Ali 8767 s eastern philosophy. Good luck.
Agree totally. The way women present themselves provokes how men will react. When I see genuine and cute profile, I try to be as well mannered as possible, I don't want to loose this opportunity. But when I see a woman that I don't like and she's a bit off, like desperate or bitchy, then my first idea is to ask her if she agrees to have sex with me, nothing else. I don't do it because I'm fully aware that it doesn't work that way and I simply don't message her. But this illustrates the difference between my messages based on women's profiles.
To summarize some of the highlights of what we discussed: When a man loses interest, most of the time, there wasn’t much you could (or should) do about it anyway. You guys weren’t a good match, or he was bad news. Sometimes, you really did pick your nose or rhapsodize too enthusiastically about your machine gun collection on the first date, so he legitimately ran. Other times, you just didn’t do an optimal job of presenting your scintillating personality to him, and an opportunity for a True, Everlasting Love Connection with Mr Darcy was lost. It 8767 s okay you 8767 ll get better at this.
I am not going to lie to you and say that race does not matter at all however. There will always be some portion of non-brown girls who are either completely closed off to dating out or whose mistaken assumption that you are beta just for being Indian costs you a potential bang you would’ve gotten had you been white. These girls are usually less intelligent and less educated on average and this is also more common with girls from rural areas. Studies show exposure to another ethnic group, whether or not they are of a different race improves peoples opinions of them. Remember that most white girls in the cities where most diaspora Indians live grew up with some of them from kindergarden.
Most men i have met,soon as i introduce myself and telling them i have kids,theyre like "ooohh hectic!!"" what was that about? Its great you think that way but unfortunately,a lot of them arent very welcoming at the thought that i come with why i hid for a while..for years..it kinda dampens your spirits..
But I cant rush these things,it will come when the time is right..
I have gone out,some offers to buy me a drink but if they are going to expect sex afterwards,i can afford my own drinks..
Thing is,aint getting any but if they cant accept my kids,id rather grow old want someone that i can be proud of and accepts me with my extra baggage.
Only then,he could take my heart :)
yeah so many bogans especially in WA. So many girls want guys with tats and love V8s and are complete bogans , or are gym freaks who are obsessed with gym work and work out everyday like maniacs but Ive seen them on oasis for over a year. Then the ones or say there busy ALL THE TIME with work and friends and just dont have anytime which is why they are on oasis. Most girls dont even look at my profile when not accepting. That says to me they have literally hundreds of requests. I asked one girl who I dated , who want that particulary attractive and she got over 655 request each week. No wonder girls hide their profile on there. They have so much choice that decent guys get the flick.
When I was living in southern Oregon, the dating scene at my college wasn&rsquo t that great. A lot of people, including me, turned to online dating, and OkCupid was all the rage. As I was serious about finding someone, I uploaded a lot of pictures of myself, had a very thorough profile, and received a lot of attention. A lot of it was like the above. Eventually, it got to be too much and I closed my profile. I haven&rsquo t used dating sites to try to find men to date ever since.
You guys have done more than enough to help Indian men out there. At the end of the day, some people 8767 s mindsets are so fucked up that no amount of help in the world will do them any justice other than just doing the shit. It is up to Indian readers and other minorities to get off their ass and take action. Quit worrying about what other Indian guys are doing and JUST DO YOU. 8 posts about Indians are more than enough and certainly losing you guys A LOT of readers who think you are obsessed with race as this IRT you claim to be.
What do you reckon as some of the best dating sites to hook up with people?
The free ones are best if you have financial struggles. Eg.
However, when you use free ones, they attract people who may not have such good character foundations. Cheap people with a flawed character will many times use free websites to save a few dollars. But this tells a lot about the person. So the quality of people may not be as good as the paid dating websites.
I honestly think a lot of the problem has to do the massive amount of attention the women receive. They might claim everyone on there is "creepy," but I think the problem lies more with the fact that they receive so much constant attention, that those of us who are decent just simply get lost in the shuffle. The girls I work with use online dating basically describe it like looking through a catalog. They constantly get bombarded with messages, they quickly glance at the profile, make a quick (often shallow) judgment, and then move on to the next one. Some have been on the site for several years now and I feel that the more attention they receive, the more unrealistic their standards become. It reaches a point where I'm not sure that ANY guy is good enough for what these women are looking for.
I've recently created a profile and played around a bit on - which is kinda cool in that it does a lot of the filtering for you with the match algorithms - but (like pretty much any dating site I guess) it's much more useful for females and not much use if you're a guy. The average response rate people seem to be reporting is anything from 6 in 75 to 6 in 79, on average, for guys sending any kind of messages to girls, and actually getting a response.
It also seems to have a strong geek bias (not a negative thing, just saying).