Posted: 2017-10-29 10:47
I mention the physical traits that define me, but am most concerned with my over-all individual/cultural personality traits, and where I should be looking for a suitable match. Having grown frustrated seeking American men, I 8767 ve wondered, are there men beyond my country 8767 s borders that would make me happy? Perhaps Sweden would be a nice place for me to meet someone? Or at least someone as large/tall as me? I 8767 ve known wonderful Swedish and Scandinavian men all living abroad!
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Did you know that yoga is not a hobby? Did you know that wine is not a hobby? Sure, you may really like both, but men don 8767 t give a shit. Seriously. We care that you are fit. We want to know what your interests are. But when 99% of the women say they like 8775 yoga/pilates, wine, travel, laughter, and a real man who know how to treat a lady 8776 , you simply aren 8767 t being a real person. If you like to work out, and it is something that you expect a partner to join you with, then say it. If it is something you like but don 8767 t care if they do or not, then say it. Just be real about how you like to spend your days and don 8767 t. OVERSELL IT.
If dating Swedish men was confusing enough, then dating Swedish women must be more so. I 8767 m a girl, an American-Indian girl, and therefore am not Swedish. But I have a few Swedish girlfriends and they all have opinions of their fellow male counterparts. Some comments are downright ballsy. Swedish guys have done a good job of losing their balls over the years, part thanks to feminism, part thanks to super tight jeans that served as self castrating devices.
First off, if you are man, Swedish, French, American, British, you have to learn how to smooch and booze with those hot Swedish women. A lot of booze, it helps. Second, it seems that foreign men in Sweden have an advantage over the Swedish men. Be happy and use it wisely.
Ok guys. I have no idea what the other women's profiles look like. I post decent pictures but average on purpose. All I seem to get are the men who I wouldn't ever go out with. Don't take this wrong but their photos are terrible. Maybe good for a desperate woman. Fix yourselves up! Look good. I mean really it is hard to judge a book by its cover but you can at least try. Enough with the bathroom/gym selfies. Macho look at me or a beard down to your chest and beer belly aren't going to cut it no matter how awesome your profile seems. When you message us be cool about it. Don't come across as desperate. My problem is I'm good looking and they won't look past that to see the real me inside. You know the type. The women that you say: you are so beautiful. Why are you still single? Because no one takes a chance to get to know us except for the creepy guys. I don't understand it. Maybe the guys I'm attracted to don't want someone like me. They want an average woman. Can anyone make sense of this? If one more guy asks for a nude photo or worse sends me a pick of his junk I'm going to scream!!!
Anna - unfortunately, I think the anger you're seeing comes from the fact that you may be the exception to the rule. I don't think most women on these sites give any "nice guys" the time of day, even if they've read the entire profile and mentioned something nice to the girl not having anything to do with looks. Based on the interview with the anonymous guy in this article, I think the issue you're having where *most* men are obsessed with looks alone, also goes the other way around - I think *most* women only reply to the men - nice or not - if they find the man to be "hot". I think everyone is to blame for being overly superficial, to be honest.
Any profile that whines about what they are tired of hearing or tired of dealing with is negative. How bout throwing in a sentence or two describing what YOU will bring into THE OTHER PERSON S life. Not lamenting about how awful you ve been treated in the past. After all, we all train others to treat us as they do. One of life s most bitter pills we all must, myself included.
Finally many many people trying to trash another nation here and I mean Americans included, are way off. The facts are just so wrong and inaccurate that I had many a great laughs. It would be best to listen to those who have been foreign countries and respect their opinions whether or not you agree. All those who comment on how terrible a country is and then list numbered facts that can be googled away as nonsense in 5 seconds make your contribution invalid. Also you are spreading lies into others who may believe you. Seriously why do people have to be an expert about a country they have never been to and are obviously filled with useless propaganda? I 8767 d say every nation seems to have serious education issues.
“A profile would not be a reliable indicator if a woman has it in her.” This article is about what women should say on their profile. As a male, I am recommending that if she does hold some traditional views (enjoys cooking and is willing to clean) then she should clearly state them on her profile as these traits will be highly desirable to males. It will also change her original persona from the usual narcissistic woman to a “nice girl with traditional views.”
I think its the wrong question to ask. because the challenge are different due the differences of the two sexes. we learned that women think and communicate differently -thanks to Marni- and we -men- had difficult time in dating because we weren 8767 t aware of that fact. the same applies to the women who aren 8767 t aware that we think and communicate differently ,therefore the dating is not easier for women.
Talking to a friend of mine recently who lived in Sweden. He said sex is easy to find, but love is not.
Apparently if you meet a women in a bar, if the conversation is going well after a few drinks, it 8767 s perfectly fine to say 8766 you 8767 re cute, let 8767 s go back to my place. 8767 I 8767 m told they prefer that instead of, 8775 let me get your number, or let 8767 s have dinner sometime. 8776 I wouldn 8767 t be that up front with an American women due to the inherent 8775 I 8767 m not a slut 8776 mechanism developed from our Puritan ancestors. But with a Swedish woman, should I be that forward? I 8767 m going out with a Swede tomorrow, who 8767 s visiting the states for a few months, and I 8767 m simply looking for something casual.
Body Again, it is nice to see you in your Yoga pose, or standing in front of some amazing scenery. However, is you take up only 5% of the photo, we cannot really see you. If you are wearing ugly baggy clothes, we cannot see you. We want to know what to expect when we see you. Show us a full body picture where you can actually see your whole body. Avoid using too many pictures with your friends. Sure, you are super popular, but often times we cannot tell who is who.
Men have it easier for sure. They are in complete control of the direction of which things are going to go. If I was a guy I 8767 d be having dates lined up every week because if all I had to do was ask someone out and then pay for it that is so easy. But women on the other hand have to wait to be asked out by a guy she likes because if she tries to take the reins and does the asking it kills the chase. I know maybe a few guys might go for that but honestly in my opinion guys are the ones in control.
Interesting article, fascinating comments. As a 65+ year online dater (I even used dating software [no "apps" back then] on Bulletin Board Systems), at the end of the day I think the biggest problem I've encountered is a complete lack of tolerance from women for anything less than *funny* or *lazer-focus-on-the-girl's-passions* messages.. POF is right on the money at least as far as their advice goes "talk about her interests, or these topics.." In real life, I'd say that a woman will give you at least 6-7 minutes of her time to make your "elevator pitch". With online dating, in the vast majority of interactions you have *one* message, and then maybe a second one if you're lucky. Granted, I'm a superficial bastard, and I own that. There are lots of women who've reached out to me who I'm sure I could have easy, stress-free conversations with. But I've tried dating people I'm not attracted to, and I've never been a good/strong enough person to overlook it, so I'd rather be honest and only date women I find attractive.
Thanks for your thoughts. I don 8767 t know if we can assume that just become a woman says she likes to travel, she expects a guy to pay for everything. If that 8767 s the case, then it 8767 s terrible and no guy should allow to be taken advantage that way unless he does this knowingly. But if a woman says she likes to travel because she really does and she also wants to sound like an interesting person who is into broadening her horizons, then it 8767 s a different matter.
Where? I 8767 m from Cali and I 8767 ve lived in a few other countries besides. A girl down here who takes her pick of the crowd and never stays single for long is called 8775 popular 8776 . A woman who says 8775 I don 8767 t need a man 8776 is celebrated. (Whereas a man who proclaims that he needs no woman is simply mocked for the presumed inability to get and keep one). 8775 Slutty 8776 is a title related to how many guys she sleeps with, not how many she talks to. I assure any woman who wonders, men are very clear on the difference between having a conversation and having sex. Is it other women who are throwing this pejorative around so freely?
The 8775 A 8776 profile is not good. You 8767 re really going to start with saying 8775 I don 8767 t like most guys? 8776 Seems way too negative for an opener. I know if I came across a guy 8767 s profile that said 8775 I don 8767 t like most girls, 8776 I would be put off. It 8767 s not well-written, either, and doesn 8767 t make much sense. The others are pretty bad too. First one is boring (but actually the best out of the three in my opinion), second one comes on a little strong and I imagine would scare guys off. My theory on profiles is that you want to put just the basic info and show just a little of your personality and what you 8767 re looking for. It 8767 s nearly impossible to encapsulate who you are in just a paragraph, and in my experience, men don 8767 t really care to read it. A flattering picture is far more important. People, especially men, are shallower than a puddle. But even for men 8767 s profiles, this advice applies. Keep it short and to the point and use a good profile pic. Oh, and AVOID CLICHES at all costs.
Kind of reminds me of how every Canadian airport sells Maple Syrup in gift shops but that if Canadians want to buy real Maple Syrup instead of Aunt Jemima 8767 s flavored corn syrup locals must also travel to the airport gift shops to pick it up it 8767 s not readily available on the grocery store shelves haha fake 8775 Canadian Culture 8776
I don 8767 t even know what Canadian Bacon is BTW. What is that? I 8767 m told it 8767 s not just regular bacon (which we do have) That 8775 Canadian Bacon 8776 is similar to ham. I don 8767 t know I 8767 ve lived here all my life and I 8767 ve never tried it.
Don 8767 t start with open-ended questions like 8775 how are you doing? 8776 There are way too many ways to answer that and most of them will seem wrong to him. Concrete questions like 8775 So, what 8767 s your favorite TV show this season? 8776 or even 8775 Hey, are you single right now? 8776 are better. Feelings are an extremely vulnerable area for men and if it looks like a stranger is trying to draw them out we are likely to shut down fast. Really, most guys don 8767 t even have the emotional vocabulary to answer 8775 How do you feel 8776 with something that isn 8767 t along the lines of 8775 cold, I guess 8776 . Think of it like a random guy walking up and asking a sexual question of you. It 8767 s a very loaded topic and this person, however otherwise attractive, has not established any reason yet to be trusted with such sensitive information.