Posted: 2017-10-12 19:10
I am a 79 and have always attracted much men. I have found the real love of my life in a 99 year old Jamaican American who determinedly pursued me and won me. He has no ulterior motives our sex life is unbelievably wonderful and he is intelligent, funny, deeply caring and my dearest friend. I am oblivious to the opinion of others..I live for my beautiful guy and we know that we have few years left but we 8767 re gonna live until I die and that, God willing, will be in his loving arms. Love doesn 8767 t recognise chronological differences or social mindsets.
Marni, I think that women have it way easier than men. Most of the time the situations I see involve extremely capable gentlemen, like myself who are just a little shy, who build up a crap-load of courage to ultimately end up getting rejected by a woman who just wasn 8767 t open enough to give him a chance, and didn 8767 t care either because the jerk at the end of the bar was a 8775 hottie 8776 . Then when they end up with the jerk, and get treated badly, they automatically label every guy after him a jerk, even though they turned down the gentleman, who would 8767 ve been a better fit. I don 8767 t think its right but that 8767 s just how things are. And that makes it difficult for guys like me.
I can dig what you were trying to say here. Cause there is a lot of substance. But some of what you say completely contradicts the evidence that has been compiled on this subject. The fact is. A lot of women only talk to/give a reasonable chance to the top 6% of attractive men. This isn't an opinion. They've done studies. So while I appreciate your input and I do feel there was a lot to gain from it. You are completely wrong in your assessment that women aren't as shallow as men. If anything because they have so many choices. They filter them by looks. It's sad but true.
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Life too short to 8775 Settle 8776 so remember that ,when you 8767 re next time at a standstill in not going after the 8775 love 8776 you really want. With older lady you 8767 re getting it all imo and that is again most important mature conversation outside AND in the bedroom/in the sheets,and loyalty. You can 8767 t go wrong there ya know. and a mature partner in life unlike games drama that type drama filled chicks bring. GLAD i am wise enough since teen to know the 8775 best 8776 type of lady out here for me is not older.
Korean women are the most spoiled, bratty and demanding women. The reason many Korean women can 8767 t get married is because they all demand that their husband be good looking, graduated from a top tier university, have a good job and make lots of money. It 8767 s funny noting majority of the women that demand these don 8767 t even have a job or barely have any money, got plastic surgery, etc., etc. Did I mention Korean women are the biggest gold diggers in the world? They even demand the men pay for the meals even on the first date, even if they barely know each other bahaha.
I wouldn 8767 t suggest putting money out there before yourself. It will make good women who appreciate hard work and finances less interested in you and the women looking for nothing but money go right for you. Maybe pay for dates, maybe a small gift. Let them get to know you before you use money to make up for other insecurities. I imagine if you made money your smart if you want to share hard earned income your kind if you get these girls your probably attractive too. You seem to be worthy of being appreciated for you not just what you give. Besides these girls end up finding there don juan and your money can 8767 t compete with true love. So maybe let someone in be vulnerable and let someone love you for who you are. Good luck. Just a thought if you could use a females perspective.
Hahaha, as a Korean woman, I 8767 ve enjoyed your paean to Korean women and most of the reasons you depicted were quite true 😉
I simply think Korean men don 8767 t deserve these wonderful ladies. They are still complaining about Korean women because they don 8767 t want to pay for the dates. There is even an offical crazy losers 8767 organization called 8766 male solidarity 8767 . They believe that all the western ladies out there pay for the dates every time (they insist that 8767 s the real gender equality) and women have to work as well as do take care of all the household (it also includes caring for 8775 their 8776 family, mothers/fathers/sisters and brothers in law, Oh My effing God). The hatred to women is really popular for no reason, they just don 8767 t know how they are blessed.
Hello! What about the other way around? I 8767 m a 76-year-old American girl who is blonde and white. I 8767 m going to Colombia next month. Are Colombian guys as interested in American girls as Colombian girls are in American guys? Will being American work to my advantage or will it just make me stand out? Should I expect to be catcalled while I 8767 m there because I look foreign (I 8767 ve heard this is very common)?
Hi! I appreciate your note and completely respect where you 8767 re coming from. We don 8767 t mean to use that term in a derogatory way we reference it because it 8767 s a buzz word widely used in pop culture. What 8767 s more, many of my clients consider themselves proud cougars! They wear the title with honor, and don 8767 t consider it derogatory at all. While I know that 8767 s not everyone 8767 s point of view, it does work for some people. Keep reading and commenting!
8775 You 8767 ve argued on here before that the person who has to sit back and
wait to be approached has it easier than the person who 8775 has 8776 to make
the approach. This simply isn 8767 t logical. The passive person has no power
to change their situation. They are at the mercy of events and of other
people 8767 s actions. They cannot change their fate. The active person who
approaches has the power to effect his situation. The active person who
approaches can influence his fate and therefore, logically, must have it
7) Reconnect. We humans are hypersocial creatures. And yet, as books like Robert Putnam’s Bowling Alone show, the sense of community in America has been eroding over the years. Singles living alone are now the biggest demographic group in America, and nothing about the 6 million year history of hominin evolution prepared us for living by ourselves. So get together with people. Organize a movie night, go watch sports together in a bar, go dancing, have a dinner party. Good company is healing.
Women (statistically speaking -- not meaning to generalize too much here), are very emotional and social. By emotional, I don't mean crying all the time, I mean they read very much into every little statement and facial movement you make in order to draw as much meaning as possible out of what you're expressing. There are two disadvantages guys have in the scenario where you're only offered writing as a vehicle to impress a woman.
I am Ms Jones. I messaged MANY men first. I am beautiful, kind and intelligent. I used the dating site in every way possible. It is not accurate to say that all women get tons of fabulous messages and wonderful invitations from countless fabulous men. There are lots of sketchy guys out the there. After 8 years, for my own protection and peace of mind, I felt it was best that I remove my profile. That's how many "super great" guys I connected with. They were all very strange and I am reluctant to try Internet dating ever again. It was a very stressful experience sharing information with perfect strangers from the Internet. My personal dating experiences were not great and one in particular was disturbing.
Then I get down to the decent messages. We chat. I have to ask where they live and work and I flag with them that they are my standard initial questions due to my situation. I don't mind where they live, but where they work is important because I only have lunch times during work days to do initial coffee/meet-ups. My daughter lives with me, but alternate weekends she is with her father. I don't want to commit my free weekends to anyone until I've met them first and have decided that I would like to progress. My free time is scarce so I'd like it to not go to waste.
7) Be grateful. Let 8767 s try an experiment: think of something you 8767 re grateful for. Could be your family, your health, your car that gets you around. Now notice that while you 8767 re feeling gratitude, it 8767 s impossible to feel demanding, slighted, indignant or otherwise grumpy. I mean, you 8767 re here! On Earth! With free gravity keeping you from being flung into space, free atmosphere giving you oxygen courtesy of plants, and a magnetic field and ozone layer that deflect cosmic and UV rays so we don 8767 t get baked. Pretty sweet, eh?
If you asked the OKCupid people about this, they would say that all of this is fine and normal on both sides of the coin. Users can filter their contacts to a tremendous degree using tools on the site and in fact they are encouraged to do just that, and people who don't get interaction are essentially told to lower their standards. In the end there are just some things that having a massive pile of quantitative data can't fix.
Hi Kevin, I 8776 m sorry that 8767 s happening with you. There is a reason though. If you 8767 re not getting any responses then I recommend you work on your ad. (Do you mean profile, btw?) Google 8775 good online profile men 8776 or this type of thing. Get some ideas to help you better express yourself. Go out and smile, be open, start conversations. be social. There 8767 s no reason to be single so long, my friend. You can make some specific tweaks to change that up. Go for it! Bp
Dude, so are you saying when a woman gets pregnant it 8767 s her fault? Well I am asking because that 8767 s what it sounds like. That is the lowest thinking, did it cross your mind that maybe, she insisted on using protection n the guy didn 8767 t want n told her how everything will be alright n shit like that? You have a girlfriend n am sure u jump in with no protection, if she falls pregnant, will you blame her?
I 8767 m not even going to address how screwed up a guy must be to somehow feel 8775 less masculine 8776 by virtue of learning that a woman found him too attractive to just sit back and risk letting him walk away without at least making a try for his attention. Myself and a great many other men actively fantasize about having this happen. There are entire programs dedicated to teaching men how to get women to approach us. Ladies, 8775 the approach 8776 is always a risk and you can get hurt. At best, it 8767 s a matter of playing the odds. That said, nothing happens if nobody makes a move. Men are really, really bad at catching and interpreting what you might consider very clear signals. Either dial it up a few notches or make a move yourself. You at least have one more option than we do.
I know women must have to wade through a lot of crap but the positive messages they get too are still so much more than most guys get. Even if half are from creeps, every message is from someone who finds you attractive and girls get a steady stream of admiration with literally no more required work than a picture. I would love to have people messaging me telling me that I'm attractive, that would be a great feeling and I'd be willing to ignore some nasty messages to get to receive complimentary messages too. Instead I have to work really hard on my profile and my messages to get a single response and I envy the steady compliments and reassurances of attractiveness that women get on online dating.