Posted: 2017-12-08 02:02
Everyone 8767 s concept of 8775 privilege 8776 is one-dimensional. Human beings always, ALWAYS think in comparative hierarchies, when it comes to status and attractiveness. Many people will tell you their idea of 8775 privilege 8776 is more nuanced than that, but it isn 8767 t you should hear this very much as you would a theologian telling you that his conception of God isn 8767 t anthropomorphic at all.
Right! If the patriarchy is treating you and your gal so fine then you must be a believer in one of the Abrahamic religions right? If you are you both are are brainwashed. Patriarchy is hurting us all in the past and in the future. So yes, I guess you 8767 re right, but I have a good cause. It isn 8767 t about power. It 8767 s about all of us being equal. Don 8767 t you want that? Oh, wait, you don 8767 t. I 8767 m try not to be a bigot, but at the same time you have to fight for what 8767 s right. Actually, many religitards blame the LBGT for anything from natural disaster to their own bullshit mistakes such as Pat Robertson. He actually blamed the disaster on Lbgt people. Google is your friend. Use it.
The worst part is, though, that it 8767 s become unmoored from reality. With legitimate academic social science, you have varying degrees of reason, testability, and evidence. You have people making theories about Black English Vernacular phonology and how differences in vowel values make phonics based reading education tailored toward Midwestern white children fail for midwestern Black children, which they can then test by trying a different way and watching literacy outcomes. You have tests of implicit racism, making people anxious or disgusted and giving them political quizzes. Even more 8766 historical 8767 arguments like Deborah Cameron 8767 s (I recommend The Myth of Mars and Venus, by the way) looking at what being a 8766 good communicator 8767 was thought to entail throughout history and trying to see why women are thought of as 8766 good communicators 8767 now when they weren 8767 t in the past is interesting and worthwhile, in that it tries to moore itself into factual claims and implies certain things that are definite enough that they can actually be 8766 not true 8767 .
I also think most of the time we think we re acting more nervous than is actually observable to other people, because we re fully aware of every twitch and flush, whereas other people are of course paying attention to their own thoughts and reactions over ours and so aren t going to notice our behavior in the same in-depth detail. 🙂 Honestly, when I was going on dates I d say 55% of my attention was on how I was coming across and my own nervousness and 55% was on how interested I was in the conversation/what struck my curiosity/whatever activity we were doing, with basically none on trying to analyze the guy s level of nervousness or to draw conclusions from it. As long as you can keep a conversation going despite your nervousness (and occasional awkward pauses aren t likely to be a deal breaker, no worries), you re good!
I 8767 d also like to push back a little against the 8775 transition is unchangeable! 8776 comments. Social transition is perfectly changeable and I encourage everyone who thinks they might be trans to socially transition and see if they like it. Hormones are somewhat reversible a detransitioner assigned male at birth is in no worse a position than a trans man, and most trans men assimilate perfectly well. It 8767 s a pain in the ass and it 8767 s expensive, but it 8767 s livable.
Your analogy is false. Leaving aside the implication of Dating Website As Retail Purchasing Experience, it s more like you go to a car lot, you point to a car and go I want to test drive that one! and the employee says I m sorry, you can t, that belongs to someone who works here. And then you go But WHY can t I dirve it? This is a car lot! There shouldn t be any cars on this car lot that I can t test drive whenever I want!
Other than that, your comment seems amusingly apt. Just like Scott Aaronson was terrified to interact sexually with adult females, you and I and, it seems, everyone else seems doubly terrified to interact, even in completely non-sexual ways, with everyone underage. In both cases it is motivated by noblest intentions culture is real, and predators of children are real), but in both cases there 8767 s some significant collateral damage. I would even venture to suggest that in both cases, those who are more sensitive and intelligent and more likely to become collateral damage. Granted, it is not as biologically imperative for most people to interact with youth as it is to have a sexual partner, so it 8767 s not perhaps as much of a tragedy for most people but it 8767 s still an unnatural situation.
Note that this theory does not contradict the standard ev-psych prediction that women should evolve to be choosier than men. The only change is the mechanism that causes the choosiness. The old theory was that choosiness was programmed into women as a terminal value. The new theory is that women are simply designed to be harder to satisfy, choosiness is an instrumental value. Personally, the new theory seems more likely to me, both because of evidence, and because it includes fewer moving parts.
That’s right. I am talking about transsexuals who are “male to female”. It 8767 s not just betas and closet conning alphas trying to hold us back. It 8767 s cross-dressing men who are so mentally ill that they think they 8767 re women. They’re delusional omega men who think acting like a caricature of the women who don 8767 t give them play is how they can finally get some sexual pleasure from unwitting men. A lot of players won’t admit to this but it happens to a lot of us.
I also want to note that there is clearly a difficulty in language here, Aaronson denied having male/straight etc privilege because he felt miserable, the term privilege is a god-awful choice of term precisely because of this reaction but, given the reasonable use of the term, he clearly did have certain advantages that go with them, that doesn 8767 t mean he had it any easier than most women/queer people do, I would posit he almost certainly had it worse, but it 8767 s not unfair to say he didn 8767 t understand the concept when he now admits he didn 8767 t.
For example, what worked for me ( worked isn t really the right word, because I wasn t actually trying to attract anyone with it, I was just goofing around with people, but it had an attraction-building effect), was just being over-the-top jokingly sleazy, making ridiculous is that an X in your pocket innuendo and flirting with inanimate objects. I would never in a million years have done that if I had thought anyone I was doing it with could be into me, or if I thought anyone would take it seriously and they didn t, but somehow the joke sleaze also brought out some kind of genuine see me in a potentially romantic light vibe, and a bunch of people got crushes on me.
What the heck do high schoolers know about whether Silicon Valley culture is sexist or not? Even if you admit that all the online articles talking about this are being read by fourteen year olds in between Harry Potter and Twilight , these articles are a very new phenomenon and my stats are older than they are. Are you saying the is because of a high level of penetration of rumors about 8775 toxic brogrammers 8776 into the world of the average 66th grader?
The second run-in was sufficiently farcical that rationalization was impossible. A big part of why I read this blog and Ozy 8767 s Thing of Things is to try to understand what I 8767 m seeing, to try and find some voice of reason from people like yourself to convince me that Social Justice isn 8767 t completely post-rational. Ozy is very good at this, but the larger thrust of the movement seems overwhelming.
People 8767 s priorities reveal things about themselves too. The Real Feminists are there, tirelessly working to change any condition that might harm a woman in any way, no matter how slight or unlikely. But the Real Feminists are too busy to change any condition that hurts men, no matter how large, no matter if it trades on their own name in order to wreak destruction. That set of priorities is not what I would expect to see from a 8775 real feminism 8776 that cares about gender equality for all. It 8767 s exactly what I would expect to see from a 8775 real feminism 8776 that wants to exalt women and hurt men.
I don 8767 t think I saw 8775 threatening suicide to stay together 8776 . Much worse than just guilting the partner into staying with you. You may or may not be serious, but the person will never want to take that risk. Sometimes it even scares them away from calling police, parents, friends, etc. because they think girl will kill herself because someone was called. I only know one girl who did that, but I 8767 m sure almost everyone knows a girl like that.
Men do not have to have sex to survive. They wanted, and the ones that feel that women have sexual power feel entitled to it, not just deserving of it. Women have the right to say no and we have the right to say yes and possibly have an underwhelming experience. Women (at least some) might have an easy time getting a one night stand, but that doesn t mean she s going to have a quality experience. Men are not stupid. Stop treating them like they are because some have a problem with women having sexual agency.
Ok, so I blame patriarchy. Patriarchy also known as the Abrahamic religions. Anyone with a brain knows that patriarch religions (Islam, Judaism, and Christianity) persecuted many people who didn 8767 t agree on what they said or did. Examples are the witch trials of America and Europe, the Inquisition. The murder of innocent people mainly of other religions and cultures. Patriarchy treats you and your SO fine? Really? I hate to assume, but you must be part of those patriarchal religions. Brainwashed. The religitards that belong to these patriarchal religions blame the LBGT for the natural disasters and even on their mistakes. Pat Robertson is on of them. He blamed the lbgt for the natural disaster of Haiti. So yes, I know exactly what I 8767 m talking about. Google is your friend. Use it. Patriarchy is anti anything that is not a man. Read the Abrahamic religion 8767 s books and you will see all kinds of sexism, racism, homophobic, genocidal bullshit. All because a jealous piece of shit god.
As a single person, this person isn t very relevant to your dating pool. I m assuming that you re hoping that you ll be one of the people who magically connects to their first partner, and that you ll find someone who s the same. That s fine as a fantasy, but I think you need to keep in mind that it comes with an expiration date on being realistically achieved. Past your earlier 75s, the choice is probably going to be one of dating someone who hasn t found it easy to get dates, dating someone who s dated more than that one first love, or keeping the standard and not dating much.
So here is my offer to Ms. Penny. If she accepts and is in some kind of heavily nerd-populated city (NYC? SF?) I will use my connections in the nerd community to get her ten dates within ten days with intelligent, kind, respectful nerdy men of whom she approves. If she is in some less populated place, I will get her some lesser but still non-zero number of dates (unless she 8767 s in Greenland or somewhere, in which case she 8767 s on her own).
I was going to comment on the milady thing, but he more or less got it right. I was overcompensating for shyness in college time to time by adopting slightly archaic norms on the basis more or less of having an affection for medieval norms based on period games, movies, and books, on the one hand, and being told that deference towards women was a way of attracting them. I don 8767 t think it particularly helped or for that matter, was noticed.