Posted: 2017-09-11 21:16
I m with you on the similar visions of life/lifestyle, but I don t think it makes sense to act like one person is just better than another person (leaving aside people who are genuinely horrible people, which I think is kind of a special case). You could say different people are in different leagues (like say, I m in rugby, she s in soccer) and therefore are less likely to work out, but ranking leagues as better and worse seems both simplistic and harmful to me.
It s important to remember that women are every bit as individual and varied in their tastes as men. What the media represents as attractive to women is no more representative of the full spectrum of women s tastes than a movie trailer is representative of all literature, and for a similar reason: it s what s being marketed (or who s being marketed to) this year, and nothing more.
I am currently on Tinder, and have been for about a month. All of the messages I have received from men have been respectful so far. I'm not sure why, but I'm guessing it has something to do with how I wrote my profile, as well as the pictures I chose to show. My profile is pretty straight forward, without being bitchy. My pictures are tasteful, and there are also some that show I am pretty jacked. I swear that after I have become more buff, men have gotten a ton more respectful. Ridiculous, but true. And no, I don't think I'm special because I'm fit, it is just a physicality.
I met this girl in line in a movie theater and we started talking for a while until the movie started. afterwards she gave me her number and business card so we can catch movies some other time. i asked her to come out again for another movie and she said she it sounds fun wasnt sure can she make it. i texted her back the next day and told her just lemme know can she make it or not. she never responded back.
Thank you for sharing your insight and reasoning behind your disinterest in online dating. In regards to myself I have done a lot of work to understand the world in my own fashion as opposed to what I was taught. My dating profile is quite lengthy and is intended to share who I am as a human being in hopes of finding someone that has done similar work. What I have shared of myself also has the benefit of eliminating a lot of potential conflicts that typically arise in conversations with people as part of the process of getting to know one another.
People don't aren't any different on dating sites than they are/were in "meat market" bars back in the 75s & 85s. Nice guys never had a chance because they were perceived as wimps. Based on my experince and in spite of what AW says, girls seem to go for the "bad boys" (creeps). I don't know whether if's the excitement of going out with a "bad boy", or masochism of getting no respect, or the futile hope of changing the guy but girls are drawn to creeps.
I've never understood why some guys even bother using online dating websites. The odds are clearly against you. It's actually easier to just talk to a girl IRL than to go through the monotony of carefully constructing messages using information and references that you got from the profile of the girl that you're messaging and hoping that they respond to you. Which they usually don't. Sometimes they won't even read your message.
Finally, six weeks after I had gotten her number, we matched up schedules and I suggested we do the group thing again. She agreed and told me she was excited. My brother and I met up with her and her friends that night and we all talked as a group. She kept bumping into guy friends she knew (she even knew the bartender, who kept giving her free drinks, making it difficult to buy her one), but we eventually separated from the group and picked up talking where we left off, totally interested in each other. After an hour, she went to check on her friends in the bathroom and then came back out, annoyed that one of her friends thought it was just going to be a girls 8767 night and that they wanted to do something just the three of them. I said that its okay and we agreed to meet for coffee the next day. We then embraced twice (long hugs, lots of back rubbing) and I gave her a long kiss on the cheek.
Dancing is another talent that often overcomes looks. I challenge you to visit any Latin club and watch the amazing dancers. Some of the most talented dancers, the ones who are most in demand when the merengue begins or the salsa music starts to play, are often the older men they may not look like much but to watch them dance is to watch someone be transformed. The grace and skill with which they move can be mesmerizing.
Now I'd ask that you reconsider your question. If your question was based upon a society of equals who were all knowledgeable, reasonable, autonomous and yet cooperative we could easily reason that people would treat each other with kindness and respect. However we've created a system of inequality in which the common citizen holds little if any power and instead lives by the whims of society at large. This system promotes competition as it is undeniably preferable to gain power and move up the social ladder.
I work with a girl. I really like her I was confident told her my feelings she said I was really cute and wanted to take things things happen naturally I been trying to ignore her a little off and on. I message her on facebook she rarely messages me will always. smile, glance at me, try to bump into me, come to my room to speak to me, but then she doesnt. What do you think is going on or happening? It 8767 s very confusing and I cannot make sense of it when I told her I liked her I made direct eye contact and she looked at me 8767 m just confused and have no clue what to do.
All human beings.. and I mean ALL.. including feminist retards like this one know it is MEN who are NOT WIRED for monogamy.. and women are the ones who nail men down.. it is GENETIC. Females often died from childbirth.. and once knocked up, they were out of commission for a year.. while males mated with as many females as possible. look at Ghenghis Khan.. half of Mongolia's and China's population carries HIS genes. not "hers" sweet silly thing.
Went to a club and chatted up a really nice girl. After a couple of minutes she started grabbing my arm and mirroring my body language so i knew it was a score. So she ditched/left her girlfriend behind and took a cab home with me (She even paid for the cab how awesome is that?) Anyways we went home and had sex, and a couple of hours later she took a cab home because she had to go to work. On the way out she gave me her number (I didn 8767 t ask for it) and she said to call her the next day for another round at her place
So the other day I met this girl who I haven 8767 t seen for about 66 years (since we were 65). We talked in the store for about 85 mins and she asked for my number I send her a text in the evening and she replies the next day apologizing for the late response and saying it was lovely to see me, she also tells me if I have any questions about University or whatever to text her and she 8767 ll be happy to help.
Also I can attest to the fact that I currently hold an account on okcupid. I am currently looking for a partner. I have also chosen to abstain from competition regarding wealth and power and instead am attempting to find a place on the fringes of society where I can be myself without harming others. I own very little, earn very little, and struggle to find women willing to get to know someone in my societal position as a potential partner.
My friend is a very obvious case of how leagues tie to all sorts of other unhelpful dating behavior, but in a less vicious way I see it all the time. Friends of mine will be dating men who are so attractive (often for a combination of job+looks) that they put up with being treated horribly. I don t know if they all actively tell themselves that they have to stay with their partner because he s so out of their league but it can often have that tone.
This past winter, after a prolonged academic career, I had finally earned my undergraduate degree and was working as a copywriter at an up-and-coming ad agency in the South End of Boston, focusing on daily, branded content for various social media outlets. And dare I say, I was pretty good at my job. The response I would receive from women upon telling them that I was working in advertising was remarkably disparate from the response I would get when I would reveal to them that I was still a student. Like, night and day. I m talking about a warm, engaged, physical response visibly piquing their interest as opposed to a roll of the eyes. And some of these women were still in school themselves!
I met this girl that was working at my gym about a year ago. I got her number and we started texting. I had been trying to get her out for a while and she stood me up 9 times without even a text. I eventually got a date with her 7 weeks ago and we went out for a drink. This turned into 68 hours together and we texted the next day and she said she would like to see me again. On Wednesday, I sent her a text saying 8775 dinner on Friday, I 8767 ll pick you up at 7 8776 . On Friday afternoon, I got a text saying sorry I thought I had text you back and wondered why you hadn 8767 t text me back. On Friday night, I finally asked her where I stand and told her I was fedup with her fucking with my head. She said we should leave things. I 8767 m in total bits here. I really liked her and I know it was only one date but we had been talking for a while. It 8767 s now been 8 days NC. Do I have much chance with this one coming back?
heh, from my experience pretty much this is the case. I get a good bit of unwanted attention from women who I d never consider sexually appealing. And who I would consider myself having to Date down dramatically in order to go out with. Am i offended? Not anymore than I am when gay guys approach me to ask me wildly inappropriate things like if I want to be their cub.. I just shudder, mutter a not interested.. and get the hell away from them.
I've had the same experience as you've said. I don't understand it. They keep ignoring everything I say to them about myself. They become fixated on the picture, even though my profile says I don't think I'm wonderful and my hair looks awful. They don't read it at all. I'm a whole person and this is wasting my time. I'm still at home on a Saturday night. If I'm that gorgeous (I don't think I am), why aren't they asking me out? I've tried to prompt them and get nowhere. Are they shy? Are they feeling inadequate? I can deal with that if the person is interested. If you can't get past that to find out, then I give up.