Posted: 2017-11-14 12:30
Ben, a 77-year-old Tinder user from Melbourne might not assuage their fears. ''It's an easy way to find a f---. Sometimes I'll have four or five dates lined up in the one week and when I say dates, I really mean f---s because, well, that's what it's all about. You match, arrange a time to catch up and have sex. There's less obligation to follow up with another date or call. You both know what you're there for.''
Melinda Tankard Reist, a social commentator and co-founder of Collective Shout For a World Free of Sexploitation , who has interviewed thousands of Australian teenage girls about their sexual experiences, believes ''pornified'' culture is partly fuelled by raunchy music videos, advertising and fashion. She also believes it is being exacerbated by the online hook-up space, which can accelerate, or often bypass, the traditional dating process, and encourage quick progression to sex. women, she argues, are being taught to be ''sexual service stations'' for men.
''All the research around orgasm talks about emotional connection and women feeling safe and secure, which is probably harder to achieve if you've only known the guy for seven minutes,'' Dr Rosewarne says. ''There's also research that shows women often have an expectation of doing certain things - like giving men blow jobs when men don't feel the same expectation to perform oral sex on women and that's really heightened amongst people, particularly in casual encounters.''
But for Mary, 78, it's a source of frustration. ''I expected much more from the app than just sex … Guys don't even have to buy you a drink or take you out for dinner. They just arrange meetings and get sex and f--- off. I don't want any part of that.'' Yet, as some mourn the demise of meaningful human connection, others argue the hysteria is unfounded. ''Hook-up culture'', they say, is just the modern equivalent of the decades-old one-night-stand pick-up in the pub.