Posted: 2017-12-07 03:35
I wanna stress that I think you re a great guy, Mikey and I like you. I just want to help because I know you re frustrated and upset. And since I think you ll think it s funny: I LOVE Louis CK and so your old avatar on the forums has merged with the newer cartoon avatar, so now I see Louis CK holding his arms/fists up at his sides and with the big eyed facial expression. I love it! 😀
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There are some, and I ve had some:
I m moving to a differen country. (Which turned out to be an excuse, the actual reason was:)
I m actually not really over my very recent ex, I m still in love with her. (I suppose this can be hurtful in some cases, but I wasn t hurt, I was pleasantly surprised to get closure and glad that it wasn t something I had done wrong.)
I have too much stuff going on in my life right now, and therefore I don t have enough headspace to be the boyfriend you deserve.
I don t see myself moving to your country and I don t want you to move country for my sake.
My hope is that the downvotes are kind of sympathetic. Like if someone upvoted your post it would seem like Yay being hurt by people just to have some kind of friends ! As if they supported the idea that it was okay that you were being hurt by these people. I think it s likely people are downvoting it because they want you to want more for yourself, that they disagree that They re all I ve got is a good enough reason to be treated badly.
I ll be honest, yes, I self-flagellate, but it s never really in front of people unless I m actually feeling *awful*. And very rarely do I say it out loud either. Usually when I do I m agitated because my mom yelled at me for not finding something in the cabinet or whatever trivial thing. It s usually in a sarcastic tone it s sort of a sick defensive mechanism for me to say Yes, I made a mistake, I know I m not perfect, thanks, mom.
For the uninitiated, chatbots are computer programs that have been designed to simulate conversation with humans—and they re everywhere. Bots now account for 66 percent of web traffic , meaning so many are crawling around the internet they re creating more traffic than humans. Odds are you ve interacted with one, perhaps while complaining to IBM s customer service department or perhaps while tweeting at someone. Perhaps without even realizing it.
So all the Hello. How are you? and What s your favorite movie? questions we ask on dating sites are pretty simple for a well-built chatbot to respond to. For instance, when I asked Mitsuku what her favorite movie is— she s accessible to anyone online —she responded, My favorite movie is Terminator, have you seen it? When I respond no, she said, I would recommend you check it out.
Thanks, Light! I ve actually had a couple of hmm not exactly arguments but guys trying to change my mind or tell me there s something wrong with me for not wanting casual sex. Usually I ve just cut them out of my life rather than deal with the pressure, but sometimes it s just a misunderstanding. My favorite reaction was the one who grinned and offered to wear a tuxedo! I didn t take him up on it, but I had to admit it was a clever reply!
By and large, a good rule of thumb is: If someone is dead-set on not communicating with you, they ve already established those limits and boundaries, and it isn t FOR YOU to redraw those lines. That s true no matter whether you ve known the person for ten years, or you just bought her a drink at the bar five minutes ago. The same rule applies. Doing otherwise is weird, creepy, and entitled.
No, I don t think it s counter-productive. The problem is that there are all kinds of communities that coddle guys who behave in this way rather than supporting the Emmas of the world, who are both sad about breakups sometimes and the victims of stalking. I would say that victims should be at the front of the line, especially since there s not exactly a lack of resources available to people of both genders who are hurting after breakups.
And your second paragraph is a very strange statement from someone who claims women with ASD have it easier than men. Women with ASD frequently have loads of trouble navigating safe ways to reject romantic interest. I have a close relative who s been diagnosed with HFA and I have watched her struggle to decode how to let guys know she s interested, how to know if they re interested, how to turn them down safely, and so on. She s put hours and hours into trying to learn the social skills she needs to navigate finding a guy who won t just demand she blow him as soon as they re alone. I m not saying guys with ASD have it easier, I m saying you re not taking into account just how damn terrifying the dating world can be to a woman with ASD.
Lee and Mikey, I think that phrasing them as double-negatives rather than as positives might actually be helpful to your understanding them better. So, Lee, do not be *disrespectful* toward anyone. Since you have a history of being disrespectful toward women here on this site, and give the strong impression that you do likewise offline, be especially mindful not to be rude, mean, discourteous, or assume that you know what women (in general or as individuals) feel. This is particularly important when they have specifically informed you that you are mistaken about them as individuals.
And you ve spent a lot of digital ink on it. Yes, we get that you think it was less than optimally executed. Your opinion is noted. I personally don t think it was worth taking this far but if you do, by all means continue. I just wanted to make it clear that I understand what you re saying, I just don t agree. I also don t think it needs to turn into a cultural post-mortem on the use of mockery in opinion pieces.
As someone upthread pointed out, casual sex does not necessarily mean casual sex with a stranger. A total stranger propositioning me is Schrodinger s One Night Stand. Maybe he s a great guy and the night will be one I look back on with pleasure. Or maybe he s got no interest in his partner s pleasure, or is the kind of guy who wants casual sex and refuses to respect the women he has it with. Not to mention the attendant safety concerns. Either way, that is a risk I would be a lot warier of running than someone I know already who s a good guy.
Seriously, if not here, where? How many good progressive spaces for men are out there? I feel like as a guy trying to figure this stuff out, your choices often boil down to swallowing a bunch of stuff you don t quite believe while knowing that bringing up your concerns (which, honestly, seem perfectly reasonable to you) is derailing without quite understanding why or seeking the company of men who, if you can ignore the palpable miasma of entitlement and misogyny surrounding them, will at least slap you on the back and tell you you re all right.
Also ignoring the experiences of lots of women whose 6955s families fell outside the trumpeted narrative. Both of my grandmothers were married mothers in the 6955s. One of them was a nurse s assistant and the other was a farmer, though she wouldn t have been counted in labor statistics (fuck the phrase farmer s wife, she did as much agricultural production as her husband, while her mother and oldest daughter took care of the housewife tasks).
none of which actually contradicts what I said, since I noted that racism was sadly alive and well outside the neo-Nazi fringe and commented on Pegida. Believe me, I m well aware of the rise of the far-right in Germany and it makes me and a lot of other people on the left furious. As does the anti-immigration sentiment. (I m kind of on the edge of the crossfire in the anti-immigration and anti-EU debate in the UK right now I m about as privileged an immigrant as you can be but I m still an immigrant so seeing the same shit back home make me furious.) And I do think a bunch of people who think their racism, xenophobia and anti-Semitism is *completely* unlike the Nazis could do to take a long, hard look at themselves in the mirror.
I have wondered with the original study how many men would have actually been up for sex with a stranger vs just saying they were. It seems to me that there is a big difference between saying, Yeah, sure, why not? and actually doing it. I wonder how many would have still agreed if there had been right here, right now, no conversation, no names follow through. Some would have still been game, I am sure, but I bet a goodly percentage would have wanted to know the person a bit better before sex
Reifman does have a tangential point, though. When someone who was a huge part of your life suddenly isn 8767 t there any more, it 8767 s totally understandable if you go into a state that 8767 s basically mourning. This isn 8767 t the ex 8767 s responsibility to handle, but it does prove massively unhelpful when other people (most notably, friends who you 8767 re turning to for support) have no response other than 8775 get over it 8776 .
One way to do this, according to Worswick, is to ask it common-sense questions like, Can I fit a car in a shoe? Is a wooden chair edible? Is a cat bigger than a mountain? Would it hurt if I stabbed you with a towel? While any adult human could answer these, a bot gets confused, not truly grasping the concept. When I asked Cleverbot Is a wooden chair edible? It responded How does it smell? Clearly a deflection. Enough deflections and you ll start to realize your date may not be real.