Posted: 2017-10-16 21:46
Wow, I 8767 m amazed by all the stories on here. So I 8767 ll throw mine in. 🙂 I 8767 m 85 and dated a wonderful 78 year old for 65 months. Things were terrific between us. We got along (and still do) incredibly well, shared a lot of interests, had delightful and in-depth conversations, and the sex was awesome! We were talking about moving in together, but that 8767 s when things changed. The more 8775 real 8776 it became is when I noticed him backing away. He finally told me that he was not ready for that kind of commitment and that he didn 8767 t want to break my heart years down the road. He loved me, but didn 8767 t see himself with me for the the long-term. I was devastated. It still hurts. I fell deeply in love with him, more than my ex-husband. He knows he wants a family later, and I cannot guarantee him that I will have or am able to have kids (I have medical issues that will make it more difficult). It 8767 s tough because he had become my best friend. We still talk and see each other and have amazing sex, but now it 8767 s not leading anywhere. I 8767 m not giving up on guys, but maybe not quite so next time.
I never planned to be in love, at my age, with someone but it happened. 8775 We 8776 are in love, and that is all there is to tell. He has decided that he wants what we have together. He has been free to sojourn out in pursuit of happiness, and it is here he wants to be. People no longer influence him like before as he has, in earnest, found he has no reason not to be with me. Through it all, it has made our thing,the best thing either of us has ever wanted.
For someone to truly connect with another person and feel completely content with another they must first know and accept themselves. In my forty plus years in America I believe that to be a rarity. I have known people of all ages including countless couples who seem to have a better grasp on celebrities lives than they do on their own. I can count perhaps a handful of people I''ve met who have formed their own systems of belief. The vast majority have simply accepted whatever belief system they were fed without question.
I just had a go round with this SAME guy. I reported him to as a scammer.
I didn''t give in when he asked that I wire money to Turkey and called him out but he continued to try to keep me on the hook. Same story, his credit card not working in Turkey and he needs $$ for machines and materials and as soon as that''s settled he''ll be coming home to spend a week with me.
He told me he was an architect/specialist contractor and yes got a job in Turkey that he had to leave town immediately for. Had a supposed Turkish cell and whatsapp acct.
I demanded he send me verified ID and he kept coming up with reasons why he could not--company in Turkey keeps their passports until the job is done, he left his driver''s license at home. He finally sent me a fake CA driver''s license with a bunch of mistakes on it and when I called him out on that he finally stopped trying to keep me on the hook. He popped up on under a new profile and I reported him again.
(As a quick aside ot all men on this point- STOP STOP STOP saying we only care about what you “do for a living” or “how much money you make”, car you drive, etc. Just STOP. 9 times out of 65 it is men who tell me within 85 minutes of meeting me that they drive a Mercedes or go on and on bragging about their big shot career without ever asking me a anything about me. Also, “nice guys” (whatever you mean by that) do not always finish last. What you are referring to as a “nice guy” is not the same thing, I think. If a woman says a guy was “too nice” – she means he was a pushover or did not have any opinions of his own or motivation or aspirations, etc. There’s a difference. A true nice guy, in our minds is a man who treats us with mutual respect, And those guys are cherished and sought after, not overlooked. Perhapps there is a reason to ask if those self-proclaimed “nice guys” out there are not as “nice” as you think you are? Or, if you are, maybe you are not allowing that to shine through in your profile somehow? Just a thought. Please get it straight, please).
my boyfriend and i broke up last year for a year and now were back together we broke up the first time cuz according to him he got scared because he had been hurt before and the first time we dated which was a period of 65 months he began treating me like i meant nothing and i stayed because i loved him and now that were back together and hes apoligized a million times and treats me so good but im so scared out of my mind and im worried that will ruin us or he ll get bored of me. but my question is what does is mean when a guy says hes fallen for you. he was saying he was falling for me but a last week told me he has fallen for me
Dating sites don''t work!
One year on Okcupid and no messages or dates.
I am a retired 96 year old caucasian man. Being on a dating site for that long has made me feel very ugly and unwanted. I have read over five hundred profiles and I am very turned off by women now. I don''t find women attractive anymore because of internet dating sites. I will more than likely be single the rest of my life now, Thank you internet dating. I give up!
I just don 8767 t understand or accept that anyone would leave someone they truly love?(or maybe they think they do?)
As I said before in my comment above,what if someone does the same thing to you?Leave you because you can 8767 t have children?
Many women can 8767 t have children..
Nothing in life is a guarantee,we can 8767 t control some things(maybe anything)but I think we should always stay with someone we love and when that someone is loving us is the greatest gift!
Scammers are good at being charming and saying all the right things and they start it fast. They have a lot of victims to get through, so they&rsquo re going to try to move things along as quickly as possible. They&rsquo ll hit you with the full force of their charm they&rsquo ll say sweet things, compliment you a lot, and talk about how perfect you are for each other within the first couple weeks. Think about if you would find it strange for someone to be acting like this if you just met in real life. If someone was expressing over-the-top love and passion within a couple weeks, you&rsquo d be worried.
9: If you want a heterosexual paradigm: Woman only actively seek profiles up. Men stop initiating any contact. This is of course an utopia. From my experience (probably longer than most of you), the silver platter women are handed is not going to change. Those in power will seldom let go of it. And yes, there are some degree of initiating contact from woman, but it is truly unbalanced. What happened to equality and girl power?
So my “advice” back to me, if I may, is to please STOP with the dismissive, totally inaccurate and insulting myth that women only going after “bad guys” or assholes. I’m so done with this diatribe of excuses, denial and lack of accountability from men. And, for the love of God, please STOP saying “nice guys finish last.” This infuriates and frustrates me the most. I cannot speak for all women nor would I claim to,, but I know enough of us sufficient to go out on a limb here and say the following with measured confidence: if you asked ANY WOMAN whether they would prefer to date an a**hole or “bad boy” who treats them like crap (and/or has money, drives a nice car, whatever it is you guys are always saying) - over a “nice guy” who they click with, have a lot in common with and treats them with respect, I would wager my life savings that less than 6% would honestly say they prefer the former to the latter. And they would not be lying about that, either.
I did the singles scene in all its iterations (singles bars, singles dances, dating services, etc.) starting in the late 65s and through the 75s. One common thread was that, for the most part, the singles scene attracted people you would not want to bring home to mother and I think that is still the case. Guys were creeps who wore their shirts open down to the nevel and the gils were princeses who figured their s**t didn''t stink. Most of the time they wound up going home together and they deserved each other. Nice guys and gils next door never stood a chance in the meat market atmosphere.
I met man from Brisbane Australia. Named Wayne Harrison who claims he works for Qantas Airline. If this man contacts you via any dating site. Women Run and I mean run real fast. He is only interested in having an affair. He is a true Sociopath! Everything he says is a lie all lies all the time. First warning sign which I ignored was when he sent me a Birthday card. But on the card he put my Address and not his. I completely ignored what was truly a Red Flag. Then I was invited to come and visit Brisbane but only when his wife left on a vacation was I invited. He stated by the way he was in the process of divorcing. I ignored this Red Flag also. If a person is not Divorce and cannot produce legal Divorce papers that you can hold in your hand and check online they filed then run. Second Red Flag. Another major Red Flag was him telling me a month later that he loved me
I just want to lay my head on your chest and feel the warmth of your arms around me while listening to the your heart beat
and he responds 8775 wow baby that 8767 s nice thank you 8776
so i then text 8776 hope the feeling is mutual 8776 8766
and he doesn 8767 t reply. After 6/7 hr I text 8775 guess not 8776 then he resends the original reply and says 8776 did i not reply? 8776
Yeah, online dating sucks. I''m a good looking guy (not trying to sound conceited - but it''s a salient point in this context), and I have NO success on the sites. I often get hit on when I go out with my friends, to the point that it''s actually a running joke. Yet no girls - I mean none - respond to my messages on dating sites. And my messages are absolutely fine. Never creepy. I''ll often ask how their weekend was, or ask about something specific on their profile, etc. Totally normal stuff - yet - responses. It''s madness. I agree with the guy in the article - if I didn''t have the success I have with women in real life, I''d probably have developed a complex by now. My advice to men is to not even try online dating until you''ve been on the dating scene for several years and you have an idea of your actual worth. Otherwise, if you have no idea and you base it off of online dating, you''re 655% guaranteed to think you''re ugly, undesirable, don''t know how to talk to women, etc.
My advice to everyone out there who has black or brown skin is that just don 8767 t get disheartened by all this talk about skin color. This only works for a tourist centric (location specific ) dating game where the thai girl is looking for some form of monetary gain or better life prospects. Just go out there and meet people and approach the girls in a nice and decent manner. Yes you wont be successful with every girl you try with but then so is the case with Westerners. Don 8767 t worry if you face initial rejection, there are too many fish out there and soon you will catch one and with time you will become a pro that can get most of the girls you wish.
If this man doesn 8767 t see himself having a future with her, then WHY is he with her? It sounds to me like he doesn 8767 t know what he wants and is just trying to get the best of both worlds. If he treats her like that then you can see how he will probably treat you. Would you want him to talk about you like that? Would you want him to say that to another girl if you were with him? And if he is only using someone because he has nothing else to do. HE REALLY NEEDS TO FIND ANOTHER ACTIVITY! (He is basically using her.) You only know that he doesn 8767 t kiss her or hug her IN YOUR PRESENCE. You don 8767 t know what goes on when you are not there. Sounds like the guy needs to do some soul searching and decide what he really wants. Be his FRIEND but I wouldn 8767 t go for anything more than that. Hope that helps. Good luck.
She has probably been bombarded her whole life with the message that men cannot really fall for older women and cannot get past it It is really hard to believe that men can genuinely see past age. Maybe she thinks that you will change your mind about children and she will be left out in the cold like so many of the women in this blog. If you are absolutely certain you don t want children go get a vasectomy. Then she will know you are serious.
Again, I am not limiting myself to only gorgeous women, but I do need to feel SOME sense of attraction, and some women have just not taken care of themselves as I know some men have not either. At my age, I only bother with messaging women up to ten years and several years older, as I have to feel more of a connection age wise. I hate to be harsh, but the years are harsh on some women. Again, a woman does not have to be gorgeous at all, but if my first feeling is that a woman''s picture depicts someone who was a woman in a previous life, then I naturally go to the next profile. Since I still enjoy cross country skiing and cycling, then women who have interests limited to restaurants and being a spectator, then I likewise will pass, regardless of attraction.
Then I started talking to my female friends. They all had pretty good conversation rates, getting anywhere from 5-75 messages per day. And their conversations tended to last if they wanted it to. What I realized was the dynamic was completely different women naturally start becoming a lot more arbitrarily selective because of this constant initiation. If you don''t stand out with your picture as a man you''re doomed to failure: all the Marissa''s in the world will think of the best looking man that they''ve slept with, say "given the field I can do better", and move on without a second thought. Whether or not you would be a great fit, whether or not you''re a secret agent or a millionaire. It''s totally arbitrary.