Posted: 2017-10-13 09:45
Kezia is the world 8767 s leading female dating and attraction expert for men. She has helped over 655,555 men achieve real results with women. Known for her honest insight into the female mind and her direct feedback and advice, Kezia has been invited to regularly feature on a number of TV and radio programmes both in the US and in Europe, earning her the reputation for being the nation 8767 s most 8766 straight talking 8767 dating coach.
A woman who is thoroughly uncomplicated and too eager to please will not attract the love of a man who has the masculine fiber women crave. Her confidence as a woman, combined with her feminine spirit, is the magnet that consistently attracts truly good men her way. The woman who knows how to date well is very much at ease with her femininity. A worthwhile man will readily pursue a woman like her, but he is easily bored with a woman who does not provide him with any challenges whatsoever. A good man isn''t looking for a doormat to walk over. The worthwhile man respects a woman who has backbone. Only gatherer''s hate being challenged.
If only a simple Hello would suffice, because reading a dozen ENTIRE profiles every day is time consuming and a little draining on the mind. That isn''t even considering that I then need to choose which women I feel I could bond with over either similar outlooks on life or common interests and goals. If only looks were all that mattered, or better yet if looks didn''t even matter. Alas they do, and everybody is attracted to people with similar genetic markers to themselves. If the world weren''t like that though, we''d join a site and be done the next day.
Herein lies the crux of the matter: Feminists had the right idea about wanting more equality, as in equal pay, but they got a little side-tracked by the free love thing. What they didn''t realize is that most men are more than happy to accept the "No Strings Attached" philosophy of "free love." His philosophy goes something like this: "If we live together, I will enjoy the convenience of having a quasi-wife, but without any messy responsibilities or financial risk."
Online dating is ridiculous for men. My day starts with rejection and ends with rejection. Women are too worried about a mans exterior appearance that it blinds them to everything else. I''ve been doing online dating for a few years now and have met some women, but most of the messages I receive are from women I''m not physically attracted to. After talking with buddies women seem to ignore every man, so who are they talking to? Online dating isn''t just harder for men, it''s much harder. It''s men doing the vast majority of work and women sitting there filtering thru and rejecting all the nice guys that she complains about not existing.
This article is great. I 8767 m frustrated that I 8767 m 79 and I 8767 ve never had a girlfriend, or even a date. Whenever someone asks me if I have a girlfriend and I say no, they 8767 re often surprised, complimenting me on my physical attraction, but I feel like I just don 8767 t have the personality and I definitely struggle with #6 #7 and #7. I 8767 m going to try to work on these.
Also as a guy who doesn 8767 t drink or go out much where is a good place to meet other women.
Fortunately i am content with who I am as a person and recognize that at this stage of my life I am looking for a woman to connect with intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Certainly for myself physical attraction is important but it has moved from the top of my list to the bottom. I wish I could state that my shifting ideals have made it easier to find potential partners but in reality it is now immeasurably more difficult.
I am not so much about looks or status myself. Trust me, I have quickly moved on to the next page with six-pack man, successful businessman etc. I personally find it really hard to find men that write a decent profile. I''m not saying they are not out there, I am just saying I have found it hard to find. I have found just a lot of simple profiles. I guess most men on dating sites are not my type. Not that they are bad, but they are just not my type and it shows because most men don''t contact me either.
We should have taken it much slower. We had good times but i guess I wonder what "could have been". She was 89 and never married and I was on the rebound from my first marriage. One really never knows. I Guess I just have to look at the positive sides though now I''m older and very lonely.
It is tough to see what might have been. Overall though I made decisions the best I could with the knowledge and information I had at the time.
As to the creepy responses. Some may be legit creepy but a lot of them are jaded men who know that writing a well thought out response is an utter waste of time for them, especially older men. That said the older men are just living in denial about the reality the women by in large do not want them all. Same for older gay men. Yes it''s partly ageism "Ewww he could be my father". But that''s because they are an don''t understand that really what would you talk about, you pop culture connections would be so out of date for them (unless you luck out with an old soul). Also another reason for short messages is because guys HAVE ALWAYS by in large done it short and sweet. Think about the cheesy pick up lines or conversation starters at a bar. They are not deep probing question that want to know more about why you are in medieval crossbow shooting.
I''m going to go a bit off track here, but you will see why. My boyfriend is the guy I had wanted since 7 years ago. He is my dream boyfriend, and the most decent guy I have EVER met. He is kind, funny, intelligent, logical, good looking and mild-tempered - pretty much everything you could ask for. Because of his excellent traits, he was chased by many women. Now here''s the main point: Before buying this book, I thought to myself that there was no chance that I would ever be with him.. but what do you know now, that guy is now in love with me!! I''m so happy and I feel so blessed. He occasionally asks me ''what did you do to make me love you so much?'', and I just reply with "I dunno" and laugh.
But the reason women always slept around is they''re wired that way. As well as the evidence accumulated by Bergner you can look at "sperm wars" and paternity testing for proof. Why do sperm fight and kill one another? They have to if they want a chance at a fertilising an egg, because women have always slept around. And there were a lot of surprised people around when DNA testing of children first became possible.
I am currently on Tinder, and have been for about a month. All of the messages I have received from men have been respectful so far. I''m not sure why, but I''m guessing it has something to do with how I wrote my profile, as well as the pictures I chose to show. My profile is pretty straight forward, without being bitchy. My pictures are tasteful, and there are also some that show I am pretty jacked. I swear that after I have become more buff, men have gotten a ton more respectful. Ridiculous, but true. And no, I don''t think I''m special because I''m fit, it is just a physicality.
I was going through the mechanics of a divorce from a VERY abusive and controlling man. Found out that he had periodically gone through my computer for the 66 years we were married and checked up on every site that I had visited. Was coming out of a very bad place, had serious anxiety issues. My situation was compounded because I was originally from an African country that treated women like second class citizens and he and his family had done this for years. Worse still, I had allowed them to do so.
My motto is: Never message a girl who you would not approach in public. I know my boundaries and I''d never even go near a supermodel-ish girl in public, so why try it online? I think that''s one of the biggest mistakes that guys make. They''re always trying to pursue outside of their league. I''d like to say that by keeping your expectations realistic, you''ll have better success. But I''m not even sure if that''s accurate anymore.
Evan, I''ve been searching for a loving partner since the end of my third marriage in 7556 and have experienced 5 years of repeating the exact same thing: attracting the wrong men (the same type I married three times), disappointed in my choices (emotionally unavailable men), and the continual wondering what am I doing wrong (why me?). Why wouldn''t any man want a vibrant, successful, loving woman, such as myself. I''m in shape. I''m cute, like a girl-next-door. Yet, I kept putting myself in the wrong position, which wasn''t doing me any favors.
I feel absolutely fantastic. There is no better feeling than knowing you are putting your best foot forward and are in control of your dating life, instead of the other way around. Using Evan''s tools, I was able to effectively show men who I am, make them comfortable and at ease around me and wanting more. The result was that I let the man of my dreams walk right into my arms. It still feels surreal, it''s so great!
In the old days,people just met partners I. School, at church or at work and found a way to make it work. Now you have a seemingly unlimited supply of partners. Even when you find one that is good enough, the current societal conditioning not to settle for anything for the best, or ''the one'' just means the search continues. The ''top '' as in the most desirable of both sexes on these sites go on dates upon dates and most of them never quite find what they are looking for. Making us all a little more shallower as a whole.
A couple of months ago I approached a guy at an event and after some conversation he asked what made me approach him and the only response I could think of was the truth, that there was just something different about him, and I wanted to find out what it was. I fought my urge to be proactive and contact him and instead went about my life as normal. Two weeks later, he called to ask me out. It was at this time that I found "Why He Disappeared" and read the whole thing in one afternoon, before my first official date with this guy.. (and when I decided to give him a "mulligan" for taking two weeks to call). Following the advice in this book has made such a huge impact! The result: we''re still dating and he is the most respectful, generous, honest, attentive and appreciative man I''ve ever dated. He seems to be strongly and unabashedly attached to me (thank you, Active Listening!), and last night he asked me to be his girlfriend! I feel like I have always been exceptionally nurturing, but it''s contradictory to the masculine energy. embracing my feminine energy has been key!
Men win you over by giving to you. We ask you out. We call you. We pay for dates. We initiate sex. We ask for commitment. We propose marriage. We give. You receive. Reverse this order by asking him out, initiating sex, asking for commitment, or proposing marriage, and a masculine guy will feel, well, emasculated. Thus, if you want a masculine guy, your greatest move is to embrace your passive feminine side.