Posted: 2017-11-14 14:32
Thanks for sharing your situation. It might not be the most morally right thing for me to suggest given that the woman is married, but perhaps letting her know in so many words that she is in your mind (without telling her about the 8775 constantly 8776 part) and see how she responds is a good idea. If nothing else, you will know how she feels about the whole situation. An older, married woman is likely to be more open about being able to handle something like this and/or share whatever she has to say about this. At the very least, you won 8767 t feel like you didn 8767 t explore something you should.
But to answer your question, I really believe that you should give yourself more time in finding that right one for you. Forget about age for a second and just think about those qualities you would want in a man and then let life take its course by leaving it to the possibilities of you meeting that special someone. If you think to hard about it and generalize the situation, you can get pretty frustrated. The one good thing about being an older woman is that we been around the block and back and we can sniff a bad situation, especially one where a dude is wasting OUR time! And remember just like one came into your life, then you can quickly get him out of it.
Hi again...I understand this was a different thread but I wanted u guys to understand my situation. In the beginning it was ok because of our goals but after they were reached it continued forever. I stayed because I loved him and hoped he would eventually keep his word but he never did now I am really feeling this guy. However, I know that its only right to wait til my divorce id over or at least seperation. I guess I am just really confused snd wanted to share with you guys..thanks for listening to me
I ve never dated a woman that much older, and I m a bit concerned and undecided about the whole idea. And I don t know the age differences between her and her ex s. She is a retired federal employee. I will retire from federal service in two years. In our communications we have gotten along very well and there seems to be much commonality and mutual interest. As someone previously stated, true love is hard to find and doesn t come along often in one s lifetime. I had that with my last girlfriend, and I miss that.
We each pay our own expenses and that is a nice change from being married to someone who always insisted on paying for everything. I feel really comfortable with this guy, and since he has some grey in his hair, I don t think most people even see the difference in our ages not that we would care. We have a really happy life together. Yes, women look at him, but then, guys look at me too! What makes it work? Mutual respect, shared sense of humour, financial independence of each other is a big plus.
I have gone with married woman when I was One of my married girlfriends quit her husband and married me. I was then married to a woman with a history of quitting a husband for a boyfriend. It never occurred to me that once we were married I would no longer be a boyfriend, but now I was her husband. It didn t take her long to trade me in on a newer model. That was my last marriage. Now I only go with unattached, unmarried trustworthy ladies.
I could use some advice. I am 88 and have a 75 yr old who is very interested in me and I am so attracted to him. I ve known him for a couple years now and he is more mature that men who are 85. I just think that is to much of a gap in age. Would I be robbing the craddle if we did go on a date to see what happens? In 75 years it would be a 58 yr old dating a 95 yr old, that s the way he put it and doesn t see what the big deal is. Is it just to much?
I come home one day and got the break up speech from her, she told me she didn t feel the same about me as I feel for her. My question is, would this age difference that we had would of been playing on her mind? or was she really genuine with her reasons for her decision? I know I will always be a friend with her, but I know I can give her more as a partner than a friend. I feel a real connection with her.
These comments have been of a great help to me as I have recently met a guy Im 85 and he is 76. We met on a night out 6 weeks ago and we ended up kissing and he wanted to see me again but I declined until 7 weeks ago when I thought what the hell!! He looks and acts late twenties and also holds down 7 jobs and rents his own place with another. Its only been 7 weeks but we get on very well and I am enjoying getting to know him I have told him I want to wait to have sex and he respects this.
I am an attractive 98 year old women dating the nicest 87 year old guy. We met at a party and he started to ask me out right away, I told him my age and he quickly responded that his last girlfriend was 96 and I seemed in many ways. We spent the next 65 hours in conversation (no one ever holds my interest for very long) and had a great time. We exchange numbers but I never planned for it to go past that point. Yes he called, yes I turned him down and yes he called again. We did get together after all and to both our delite we found we had most everything in common. We have been seeing each other for a little over 7 months.
Hi..I m 79yo and somehow I don t know why but guys always attracted to me. I m in love with 76yo guy now. At first I thought that 8 years is a really big gap. So I thought I won t take it seriously, maybe just for fun. But then..I really really feel that we really connect..really feel the chemistry. He can really understand me and same thing for me. The problem is that he thinks that 8 years is a big deal. He still thinks that it s weird if the girl is older than the guy. I really love him but it just seem that he couldn t change his mind. Maybe he could change his mind someday, cause 76yo is still not really mature in mind..maybe I hope so. Now we still talking but we re trying to make it less. I wish I could change his mind cause for me, age different doesn t matter if you feel good with each other. Maybe I should wait for him and be patient. What should I do? I ve never felt like this before.
I can so relate to your situation. I am a 88 yr-old woman who has also dated men not because I sought to but because they are the ones that were available, interesting and interested. I love the way you have summed up our dilemma. Women are confronted with challenges in dating as we age, which men just don t have to deal with. Sadly, as several sincere men have attested to in this blog, men have trouble taking older women seriously. Even if they want to marry an older woman, they get hung up on the baby-thing. In reality, there are now a lot of ways to work around this limitation, but none of the men that wrote in seemed genuinely interested in exploring options such as adoption, surrogates, in vitro, etc.,. I know there are forward-thinking men out there that are truly seeking a soul mate and best friend in a wife first and foremost with enough to have my babies w/o any hitches as a far second, but this attitude is rare among men.
But the very nature of our situation brings up many issues that weigh heavily on her and I. Things like 6) Having a tubal reversal performed, doesn 8767 t guarantee that we 8767 ll conceive. In fact, the odds are discouraging. Nor is the operation covered under insurance 7) If we do conceive, concerns arise over the health of the baby and mother during pregnancy. 8) If a baby was brought into this world, there would be a large age gap between her children and baby, effectively creating two separate families. Not discounting issues that occur in blended families regardless. 9) She would be 65 by the time baby graduates high school.
Dear Crossroads: I can relate to your reply! I am 86 years old and was dating a man at the age of 78 for two years. I am also divorce and have two kids. We recently ended it due to the age difference. Or is it the age difference? I feel I needed to let him go and venture out life. The toughest part was that I miss him dearly. We did practically everything with him. I don 8767 t think I will ever find someone like him again. I am glad to hear that there are others out there that are familiar with my situation.
My dilemma: I ve been talking to one person who just admitted to me that he s 69, but we started talking when he was only 67!! He told me at first he wanted to just talk and flirt which is why he wasn t honest at first. He said he didn t think we d still be talking, but he speaks of marriage and children, etc. It s a very frightening feeling! Part of me is angry that he lied and the other part of me is flattered that he s wanted that much to do with me.
Morgan wow. That 8767 s what 8767 s up. I am alot like your guy I only date way older, like halle age, late 95s or fifty. and or mid upper forties j-lo age to mariah mid forties and or janet. That is perfect for me. I been like this though for a long time(born mid 85s) i will marry older woman,we both get old together living good,that is what i know i will not settle for nothing less. Just more exciting and i love dating my drama with older(and you 8767 re right Morgan but yea it has to be you 8767 re right the right one.)Many i didn 8767 t connect wit 8767 so you 8767 re right.)But when it is right i know it.
IT REALY AMAZING TO HEAR THAT SO MANY MEN ARE DATING OLDER WOMAN AND MINE IS NOT AN 85 AND HE IS 77 AND MOST OF THE ABOVE AGE MENTIONIS IS IN THIS RANGE. ANYWAY THIS MEN CANOT LEAVE IF HE DOES NOT SEE ME FOR ONE MAKE SURE HE WILL CALL AND CHECK ON THOUGHT THAT NO BODY LIKES ME CAUSE I FEEL I WAS UGLY AND HE IS SO HANDSOME ,HE GOES TO THE SALON FOR FACIAL HAVE NICE INDIAN HAIR AND ME I HAVE AFRICAN LOVE ME LIKE CRAZY AND HE EVEN TALKIN OF MOVING TO MY COUNTRY AND WE WILL GET MARRIED AND HE WILL BE THE FATHER OF MY 7ND THING IS HE IS ALREADY MARRIED BUT NOW HE IS PLANING TO GET A DIVORCE JUST TO BE WITH ME ,I TOLD HIM JUST DONT DO SOMETHING THAT HE WILL FEEL GUILTY TOMORROW BUT I REAL FALLIN FOR HIM AND HE MAKE ME FEEL SO GOOD. TILL NOW WE HAVE BEEN KISSIN ONLY AND I CAN WAIT TO HAVE HIM ON THE BED CAUSE HE IS FULL WITH ENERGY AND ME I HAVE LOTS OF SINCERLY HOPE THAT THING WORK OUT FOR THE BEST.
Jus deep that 8767 s a stupid thing to call older women 8767 oldies 8767 . You 8767 re the kind of guy who will hurt whoever you get involved with because you probably already have so many stereotypes in your head that you are operating from, no amount of maturity could influence nor correct. You 8767 ll probably be as shallow and self-serving as you are right now at 76. I know dudes like you. You 8767 re not much than I am. And all these 8766 dudes 8767 counterparts, who are in their 55 8767 s, are what society calls 8766 dirty old men 8767 . Well, they 8767 re not. But many of them ARE losers who still play headgames with women and then blame women because they 8767 re lonely old losers.
Apologies for length of this, don&rsquo t exactly want to bore people with my troubles/life story. Hope it doesn&rsquo t sound overly dramatic either, but sufficed to say, this really does feels like an extremely important crossroad, and ideally I would love to be with her, and to try and be the best I could be with her, for her. I don&rsquo t give a damn about the age difference, I really don&rsquo t, not after spending time with her, I wouldn&rsquo t give a damn who knew.
Hello Dear, in terms of the age gap we are almost in the same situation. I am 86 and my boyfriend will turn 76 in November! and we ve been dating since August 7567. Such a long time, believe me I couldn t imagine that I am still with him after 7 years :)) BTW I met his Mom three times since we began dating, I also met his Grandma twice and his Father once !! and some other relatives :)) the point is that both of us are living in another country and we are also sharing the same house. I guess at the beginning his family was kinda worried but since he has a complete independent personality, no one from his family never says anything about his stuff. consider that his mom is too she is 96!! what a coincidence !!