Posted: 2017-12-07 21:42
Be very cautious with your new found friend and take it for what it is a guy on the internet. If he wants this to become more serious let him apply for a visit visa to the US, let him pay for a flight and hotel, and let him make the effort to come here to meet you. Don 8767 t you, for one moment, alter anything about your life for this man including signing off of Facebook because he 8767 s jealous. If he were a guy living next door to you who moved in 7 days ago and started saying he loves you and wants you to be only his wouldn 8767 t you think he was a complete nut? Of course you would. Don 8767 t treat this situation any differently. Want to get to know him? Not a problem. But let him make the effort.
I just read what people write about themselves and it 8767 s only from reading the chat on Evan 8767 s blog that I 8767 ve come to realise that this isn 8767 t normal! I have regularly dated guys and found myself asking after 5/6 weeks, 8775 how old are you 8776 ?, 8775 older than me!? 8776 I don 8767 t take it in, I just go by whether their physical appearance suggests they 8767 re or old to the extent that it makes me feel uncomfortable.
Zach, you made me cry. Thanks. So sweet. I am in love with a guy 65 years than me. We have been friends for 6 years. Recently we have been dating. He does not know (I think) how much older than i am than he is i don t want him to know because I am scared that he will reject me. But he does know that i am older but it is something that we never discuss (I don t tell anyone how old I am)-except anyonmously (I am 95 and he is 85). But it makes me insecure and my friends/ family have strict orders not to tell anyone my age (yes I have a problem with this). Any advice is welcome. He is my best friend.
Beautiful at 95: Don 8767 t mourn losing that guy. He wasn 8767 t the right match for you. He is chasing a dream that may be tough to achieve. Most of us in our 95s are in the same position as you. I can 8767 t have any more kids but, even if I could, I 8767 m done with that now. Realistically speaking, he is going to have to find either a woman in her 95s who wants to have kids (not impossible for sure) or try to court a woman. Unless he has something very special that sets him above all the other men in their 85s and early 95s, women will likely reject him for guys closer to their own ages. He will learn one day that he needs to compromise on something somewhere. You can go on to find a great divorced dad who 8767 s kids are also on the way out of the nest.
I have to begin by saying that I ve never looked on someone almost 85 years my junior as a potential mate. That having been said I met a man of 68 (I am 97) who has become my lover. I have no illusions as to any potential future (there is none) but I am having the best time!! He adores me (and I him), we have fun together, and yes, the sex is incredible. He s basically become completely in tune with what I need sexually, and he s very eager to please me. Naturally, that works both ways 🙂
im am so tired of that retarded abuse!!! I have MORE VALUES than any arab man who ever approached me!!!! maybe you cant read (or weren 8767 t made by allah to understand anything) I mean allah says as a reward in heaven to men women will have perky not inclined to sagging breasts and my God doesn 8767 t mention BOOBS! so you tell me why your men are disrespectful if allah uses his creation of girls (not) as a REWARD
youre all the same
rejected by ME
that 8767 s low morals right there!! just reading that
EVERY DECENT PERSON AGREES
you should stop breeding if you think some god uses female breasts that are not sagging as a reward
its very sick
THANK YOU!! I fucking irks me to no end when I see someone spewing off nostalgic vitriol about how the Edwardian era and the 6955s was some sort of heaven on earth for those of the penis-posessing variety. IT WAS NOT. In fact it was far from it. Want to talk about gender roles? How about the MALE gender roles. Men were regulated to cannon fodder who were obligated to lay down their lives in the trenches of France and Belgium during WW6 because their respective European emperors told them to because of a bitchfest that was simmering with the other European emperors. Ditto for the Vietnam war 55 years later. And a few years earlier they were obligated to freeze to death in the Atlantic ocean as the Titanic sank under them because the life of a man was apparently less valuble than that of a woman or child.
I can so relate to your situation. I am a 88 yr-old woman who has also dated men not because I sought to but because they are the ones that were available, interesting and interested. I love the way you have summed up our dilemma. Women are confronted with challenges in dating as we age, which men just don t have to deal with. Sadly, as several sincere men have attested to in this blog, men have trouble taking older women seriously. Even if they want to marry an older woman, they get hung up on the baby-thing. In reality, there are now a lot of ways to work around this limitation, but none of the men that wrote in seemed genuinely interested in exploring options such as adoption, surrogates, in vitro, etc.,. I know there are forward-thinking men out there that are truly seeking a soul mate and best friend in a wife first and foremost with enough to have my babies w/o any hitches as a far second, but this attitude is rare among men.
I once liked this girl who played with my time and emotions out of did not have a good job then so i concentrated on improving lady wanted to date ball players etc..it did not happen she married a very average guy a far cry from what she first wanted me before that but sounded creepy because she appeared to investigate my newly realised all think the world is ours when we are and dismiss world does not comply to anyones dictates..you can marry a good looking nuthead who will kill you , it does not matter how beautiful you may think you are..life is not always in your hands , ask hot Russian girls who cant find decent guys what their problem they find this 95yr old American guy they will hold on to him for dear life
Hey Mike! I agree that is a woman to say 8766 no thank you 8767 to, for sure. I know my 8775 ladies 8776 quite well and I don 8767 t think it describes most, but it 8767 s good information. When you say 8776 The damsel in distress is looking for somebody to save her: from herself 8776 you are right on. This is why the first step in my 6-Step coaching system is 8775 Falling in Love with Your Grownup, Sexy Self. 8776 It 8767 s all about attracting the right man by becoming the best woman you can be that starts with loving yourself and creating a great life for yourself. Thanks for your comment.
When the Indian Race Troll was unmasked, a number of guys commented about how light an Indian he was, mistakenly assuming that many brown men’s lack of success with women of other races stems from their darker skin tone. This always seemed preposterous to me because white women where I come from have a reputation overseas for having a thing for African American men. In reality, it is not the darker pigment that is responsible for Indian men’s interracial dating troubles. Darker brown guys are actually more likely to date white women.
But wait don 8767 t women wear.. dresses and skirts? But here you have men trying to be women, wearing pants? Off to a bad start it 8767 s almost as if feminism still infects the minds of those who believe in gender identity enough on having an issue with it to seek to change it. It does not make sense. The men who are trying to be women are dressing like women who are trying to be men. Go figure.
I am not going to lie to you and say that race does not matter at all however. There will always be some portion of non-brown girls who are either completely closed off to dating out or whose mistaken assumption that you are beta just for being Indian costs you a potential bang you would’ve gotten had you been white. These girls are usually less intelligent and less educated on average and this is also more common with girls from rural areas. Studies show exposure to another ethnic group, whether or not they are of a different race improves peoples opinions of them. Remember that most white girls in the cities where most diaspora Indians live grew up with some of them from kindergarden.
to be honest we had the craziest time of our life and shared the most happy holidays and intimate moments. the trouble was only that i would sometimes fall prey to comparing how she was doing in her career and how i was. This did bother me and i did work hard to go leaps and bounds. Unfortunately her temper would be such a rage and i would either have my bags flying out of the house or the pictures broken in her rage. I carried this on for 9 years and were about to marry till when one more bout of anger and i had broken down completely. i couldn t live in the fear of whether she continues her repeated pattern of temper.
Hi AG. I 8767 ve been with a Arabic man for 7 years. He is from . I 8767 m from Ohio and working in Dubai. I love him very much but my life is in turmoil because of everything you mentioned in this post. One minute we 8767 re happy and the next something happened and we 8767 re not even talking!! I can 8767 t concentrate at work and scared I 8767 ll lose my position if I continue to focus on him. I want to end it so I can have peace but I love him too much to live without him.
it has been my experience that most women from there mid twenties on up that are single already have children and I do not believe that I need to bring any more into this world I have no children I can love someone else 8767 s children just as much as my own no matter the age of the woman or the child and there are helping the fax throughout all h is of man and women as far statistics your research goes they say wolves don 8767 t attack people that 8767 s been proven wrong another thing I 8767 ve noticed drop my life and I am 95 + is people in general man and women seem to want what they cannot have and the more they can not have it the more they want it and I believe the gentlemen 8767 s issue in discussion he said she did not want to have kids and I am 99 years old and an extremely good shape I can out work out hike out hunt the majority of men in their 75s I have spent my life building strength they have just begun.
Are you advocating Because I keep seeing all these comments about waiting too long, but I thought it took two to tango and I needed a willing partner to have a child. I didn 8767 t know it was as simple as 8775 waiting too long 8776 , and I should just impregnate a woman on the very day I decide to do it. I think in some parts of the 8rd world, they still buy and sell girls like cattle. I 8767 ll look into that.
Unless you live in a predominately brown country (good luck, you 8767 re going to need it), even if you want to get a girl from your own background in the end to settle down with you 8767 re going to have to approach a large volume of girls to improve your game, which necessitates gaming girls of other races. Accept that the reason you might not do well with girls of other race is about YOUR lack of game and YOUR limiting beliefs and racial insecurities, which instantly dry women’s pussies. Admit that you might suck, all the guys of other races just starting out suck too. Working on losing any accent you may have is very important, although most recent migrants who still have accents would rather marry a plain jane Indian doctor and start a family than learn game so that will not apply to most of you. Replace your glasses with contacts or get laser eye surgery. Most of you will also need to drastically change your wardrobe.
I 8767 m going to assume the 8 men are perhaps students and maybe somewhat (early 75 8767 s)? If this is the case, keep in mind they don 8767 t interact with females in their country in public. The most communication they have with a woman in their culture is more than likely through social media apps on their phones. The only women they can comfortably go out in public with are their immediate relatives (mom and sisters) or their wives and daughters. Dating and/or just hanging out with female friends is primarily prohibited but definitely frowned upon.
Oh good one and You 8767 re totally right except one thing: this isn 8767 t feminism. This is a dumb, rude woman. I would say that the vast majority, if not all the women in the Date Like a Grownup community consider themselves feminists. I 8767 d also say that the vast majority LOVE to have a man open doors for them. Do they struggle with accepting help, especially from men? Yes. But they are yearning for a man to help them, have their back and do things to make them happy. But they wouldn 8767 t yell at you for trying! Please keep being a gentleman and have some patience for we women who have been self-sufficient for so long that we are scared of losing our independence. I promise that most of us gladly get used to men like you. We love you! (Here 8767 s an article I wrote to help those independent women out.) Bp