Posted: 2017-12-07 19:13
He started talking to me, and right from the start it got quite intense, he complimented me, told me about his life etc. We kept pretty regular contact for about two months, talking every two days or so. He wanted to meet me, but as we lived about a hundred miles apart it was a little difficult. But he didn 8767 t seem daunted by that. He kept saying I should visit, he wanted me to visit. But when I asked for a concrete date, he was busy on the ones I suggested. And then eventually the dialogue tapered off.
Okay, so I don 8767 t understand if this guy likes me or not. All my friends always says that he likes me but I don 8767 t think he does. Like he would play around with me and stuff. Such as, tap my shoulder when i 8767 m not looking, flirty stuff. But like my friend asked him if he liked me and he said not really. But everyone else thinks he does because he seems to 8775 flirt 8776 with me all the time. I don 8767 t know if I should just move on or keep giving him signs I like him too?
To Julia: I know people that do that and to me it 8767 s very annoying. When you know they read your text but don 8767 t reply for hours, it tells me they can 8767 t be bothered. But I mostly know girls that do that. The thing is, you never know what 8767 s really going on when they 8767 re not replying. It could be because they 8767 re not into texting. It could be they 8767 re not into texting you, specifically. Or they could have just gotten really busy. I would say if you text him and he doesn 8767 t reply, just make other plans for the day and don 8767 t wait around for him to reply. Don 8767 t check your phone every 5 minutes to see if he answered. Just go on about your day. If he is actually into you, and knows he can 8767 t just text at any hour of the day and you 8767 ll reply immediately, he 8767 ll make more of an effort. I will say though the reason he might not be replying is that he feels awkward about talking to his friend 8767 s ex.
Example I had sex with this guy on sunday.. Monday I text we had fun. I told him in a joking way to take care as I had more plans for him, hint hint and I still haven 8767 t heard from him in three weeks. Yet he is on fb posting. I did not say a word. I just removed him from my page. The end.
You mean I should not be hurt, angry and frustrated that he treated me like dirt, like I 8767 m nothing? And removing him is a sign of neediness? Mind you I like the guy but what he did is rude, mean, unkind and disrespectful. That 8767 s needy asking him to do better had he called me let 8767 s say days later? Sigh. I 8767 m done with men. And I wished 8 years to have sex but picked this bastard who made me feel so low and so stupid.
This guy that I 8767 ve gotten deeply involved with is leaving to travel for a year (cross country on a motorcycle) this coming week. We 8767 ve had an incredible time the past few months and my feelings have gotten really strong. He says that he really cares about me a lot and will always be there for me he said this as he made me turn around to face him, looked me directly in the eye w/the most intense eye contact I 8767 ve ever experienced and told me this. The past couple of weeks, he 8767 s been acting kind of distant though.
so last night i was talking to this guy i like on the phone, (he claims he likes me too, and wants to date me)
and i suffer from depression so i was crying on the phone and he was complimenting me but i kept ignoring/denying them.
eventually he said he was tired and got off the phone, and i texted him saying he sounded upset and he said he was cause i didn 8767 t believe anything he said.
eventually he just said 8775 fine i 8767 ll stop :/ 8776
i haven 8767 t heard from him since.
that was at 7 am
its 65 pm now.
did i do something wrong?
is he mad at me?
done with me?
Vanessa, my impression of you is that you are and you have only been talking for a week. That is way longer than you will talk to 99% of the people you ever talk to in your lifetime. If you are inexperienced with talking to boys then talk with tons of them. If a guy is interested in you he will make time to talk with you. Don 8767 t dwell on it. Guys will come and go. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated With care and respect. So if you want to keep texting him and are satisfied with the level of communication you two have then great. But if you think its lagging then I would move on. You don 8767 t have to close the door on him but don 8767 t wait for him to realize you are pretty cool. Every hour you waste on mr wrong is an hour further from mr right. Ask yourself if you are happy with any situation if the answer isn 8767 t yes then don 8767 t accept it.
I have a guy in my phone called “Dancing Ken-DO NOT ANSWER” who I met at a bar and was pretty charming…until we started to dance. Now I love to dance and really get into it so you’d think that I’d love a guy who does too. WRONG! There are certain things better left to ladies. I mean, I love putting on makeup, doesn’t mean my boyfriend should too. If a guy tries to bust out some SYTYCD moves, well, I think Regis''s face says it all.
And STOP thinking soo much. All that thinking everyone does usually leads to becoming worried and confused about everything. If he doesn 8767 t answer a text don 8767 t let it bother you. I can probably speak for many guys, we don 8767 t like texting that much. I use it to plan things, ask a simple question, get to the point. I dislike when someone tries to have conversation over text. It never works, because texting is slow and not dynamic, and with texting it allows you do live your life still without putting it on hold. If I don 8767 t text back it 8767 s because I read the text and was busy, so I couldn 8767 t reply and forgot about it. OR I didn 8767 t notice it, or I couldn 8767 t care for petty talk when I could be doing something else.
To Ashley: If you talk like this with this guy you like, I think I know exactly why he doesn 8767 t want to talk to you no one can figure out what you 8767 re saying! What I got from that was a friend introduced you to a guy, but you had a boyfriend. After you broke up with him, you were hanging out with the guy and your friend, and you didn 8767 t think he liked you so you hung out with your ex. He got tired of your mixed signals so he gave up, but then you hooked up at a party. Since then you haven 8767 t heard from him. What could have happened is either he 8767 s only interested in the physical, or he believes you 8767 re not actually interested. But you should worry about how to compose a sentence before you worry about this guy.
I don 8767 t even know what exactly you are saying and I know it 8767 s completely dumb. First of all, I don 8767 t think I have to go any further than your first paragraph to explain why it doesn 8767 t make any sense. You are talking about a guy you presumably like and then you talk about using a tactic on him that it appears you yourself say is what you would use on somebody you don 8767 t like.
Second, every guy is different of course, but in general if you don 8767 t text/contact a guy you are giving the impression that you don 8767 t like him. We don 8767 t play games in that way (if at all). If you don 8767 t show interest then we assume there is not interest. Sure if you text a lot it can get to a point of being needy but atleast we know there is interest. We don 8767 t know anything from silence. You are COMPLETELY wrong that guys don 8767 t take it as a loss of interest. We will give you a few chances to keep it going before giving up on you, but that 8767 s all it is.
Hey, I am currently talking with a guy who lives 95 minutes away from me. At the beginning, he seemed very interested but now he only texts me once a day. And his texts are really sweet and nice. He doesnt call me anymore and didnt make a request to meet. We met once and its been roughly 8 weeks we are talking. I dont know what to do or how to make him give more attention to me. I dont want to mention to him that I am annoyed by his actions because I dont want him to think that Im pushy..
So I need advice! I met this guy at the beginning of december at the shooting range and we hit it off immediately. After our first date, we started hanging out 7-8 times a week. He introduced me to his roommates and shared information about his family. He also invited me over to his friends house for new years. He is not afraid of pda at all since he is super affectionate. However, after new years school started back up for both of us and I have only talked to him once this month. He hasn 8767 t been returning my txt messages and currently its been 7 weeks since I last saw him. When I did see him everything was fine and there was no tension. I am just confused as to what may be happening?
You 8767 re not being needy by confronting his bad behavior. You 8767 re being a door mat by not saying anything. He sees he can get away with treating you this way because you put up with it. I know maybe it 8767 s hard, but you should really let him know his behavior is a problem because you 8767 re not going to continue to be treated this way. You will come off as needy if you don 8767 t stand by your word after you tell him this.
Such a double standard. A girl who wants a convo and asks a guy why he hasn 8767 t responded is 8775 needy. 8776 A guy DEMANDS sex on the first date why? Because he NEEDS it. And girls are expected to follow through with the man 8767 s needs, but GOD FORBID a man acknowledge OUR NEEDS. This is why I will remain single for the rest of my life, WILLINGLY. Because a man who is self-indulgent is no man in my book! He 8767 s a narcissistic loser.
I have this same problem. My bf will be responding to other people on Facebook and reads my messages and doesn 8767 t reply. We have been together 7 years and it 8767 s a complete difference to how it was before. It was always a quick response, we would send each other cute messages and Smiley 8767 s and now he just looks at them and no reply, or if he does its not with anything cute back. When I bring it up he just dismisses it and says he 8767 s not acting differently but he clearly is. I am not sure what to do because it is really stressing me out.
My bf left me aftr 7 years. He moved to the new place new univ new friends. He got very busy and left with no time for me to he had time to go out for movies and dinner with his new friends. He was fighting with me daily that his warden would be shifting to coed hostel and i wasnt in favor neuther his family. He just left me giving me the reason that I dont trust him. Despite the fact he cheated me once. Its been 95 days now of NC as I changed my number when he told me not to call him ever. He was everything to me, my life my future. i am so much attached to him. As the days r passing its becoming more n more hollowness inside me. I miss him alot
Why continue to tell yourself up in knots about this? Hunter better things to be devoting your energy to? Tell him very matter-of-factly how you feel. Tell him that you were happy with it being only sexual in the beginning but you have developed feelings and you would like to pursue more. Tell him you understand if he doesn 8767 t feel the same way but that you can 8767 t continue with things the way they are.
My bf of almost 9 years has not called back or returned my fb message for over a week. Last we spoke, I was supposed to uber to his place to attend his brother 8767 s bday but couldn 8767 t because I had to work over the weekend last minute. I noticed he was moody about me not being able to make it but he said, it 8767 s fine, we 8767 ll see each other next time. I offered to come on either Sat or Sunday but I needed to know his exact plans so that I could work my schedule around his. He didn 8767 t have any exact plants at the moment (Friday before weekend) and said not to worry about it. Then I tried calling once but since my phone is defected, I assumed the call wasn 8767 t going through. I messaged him on Tue letting him know that my phone got worse and that I can 8767 t make phone calls. Fb shows he read the message but he did not respond. Now, he 8767 s off in Canada, attending a wedding without me and Snapchat about it without sending me any of the Snapchat. Why is he acting like this?
I have a problem. So I have a HUGE crush on this guy. Actually he hit on me first so I know he likes the way I look(: and okay, so he told me to text him so of course I started texting him. This guy is drop dead sexy. We started talking and we 8767 ve been hangning out alot lately. And when I 8767 m around him he acts like he really really likes me. Like he never pressures me to do anything. And so I know he just doesn 8767 t want sex. And he texts me really sweet things all the time. But somtimes it 8767 s hard to believe him because his dad was on TLC from being a three timer and litterally marring three girls at once. And now that I look on his facebook he flirts with every girl on facebbook!! I don 8767 t know what to do help):