Posted: 2017-11-14 22:01
My sister-in-law is a good 6+ inches taller than my brother, so I know it 8767 s possible. However, at 5 8767 9 8798 , I don 8767 t feel like I 8767 m tall enough to give up the dream (even with my big, curly hair)! Height isn 8767 t a deal-breaker, but it 8767 s definitely something I 8767 m physically attracted to & not apologetic about- no different from a dude liking big boobs (which I don 8767 t have).
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Everyone else I know seems to be having the opposite problem and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong? Or what I’m doing to attract guys like that even with my many warnings. The guys that are more willing to just hook up are usually pretty gross, and not my type at all if I’m being completely honest here. I’ve even tried guys that are single dads or super busy with work in the hopes that they’d be to busy to get on my case, but that’s a no go.
To me, confidence is when someone can walk into an unfamiliar setting and with unfamiliar people and feel comfortable, demonstrate comfort with the social norms of the environment, and interact with the people there to the degree that suits them. They can be introverts or extroverts. What matters is not being afraid of not fitting in or committing a social faux pas or looking stupid. Confident people do not worry about that.
All I mean is if you sit in the corner of the room, never making eye contact with anyone, never engaging with anyone, never doing anything remotely outward of yourself but sitting and thinking it is going to be much harder for people to have the desire to want to get to know you in the first place. It sounds to me like you want others to do all the work, to look at such people and go, You know despite appearances and behaviour I bet that guy has all the qualities I m looking for so I m going to go over and talk with him and draw him out of his shell. You don t want to give any clues as to who you are underneath, but you want others to do all the work to dig.
I 8767 m so happy i found your blog. It makes me feel so good reading all those commenta about other tall girls strgglimg with dating all around the world. (Im from Venezuela, 68 y/o, 5 8767 8) the guy that has had my heart first time is shorter than me but it sorprised me when after complaining all my life about short guys when he came into my life i didnt even cared about height, and i think thats jusy purely love. So being tall taught me more to be a better person than i expected. Cheers to all my tall sisters out there! You are not alone! (Find me on insta and tell me you come frome this awesome blog: mariagabrielamh ) TALL AND CURLY I LOVE YOU AND I LOVE THIS BLOG
Yes it is very possible that some people do overcompensate. But the fact that that s where you automatically go to first above someone actually being confident in themselves despite adversity and not being a good look as you call them, again says so much more about you than anyone else. You assume everyone else must ultimately think like you (we ve talked about this before), and cannot possibly fathom that others are different. It s one of the biggest things I think that holds you back.
Yes, but Lee is a shorter gentleman and does quite well online dating, so maybe not completely dismissing his personal experience is in order here? Clearly he has some insight and possibly even advice that could help shorter men be successful online dating. How about instead of saying, It s hard ask for more details as to how he accomplishes it. Here s an idea, let s learn from someone!
But I met this one guy on the internet and one thing kind of led to another and we decided to book ourselves a fun time in a hotel for a couple of days, shake off the shackles of adult responsibility. He told me up front he was only 5 9 so I wouldn t be surprised because I guess it was a worry he had. With my boots on, it turned out we were eye to eye upon meeting each other.
I don t believe it works that way.
I think what needs to be done instead is to accept some base truths. You got to accept that you are equal to others. We are all good enough (or suck equally, depending on how you look on it). And because of that, you don t have to cover up your weak sides, you don t have to act in a way that seems foreign to you, and you don t need to fear people being critical about you.
(If they are, you can cooly judge if they got a point or if their criticism is ridiculous.)
The founders of Bodega , the new vending machine startup that wants to replace convenience stores, probably didn’t expect the internet to immediately and vociferously hate them. But they should have. The headline of their launch-day article in Fast Company— “Two Ex-Googlers Want To Make Bodegas And Mom-And-Pop Corner Stores Obsolete” —isn’t unfair. FC quotes co-founder Paul McDonald directly: “Eventually, centralized shopping locations won’t be necessary, because there will be 655,555 Bodegas spread out, with one always 655 feet away from you.”
I 8767 m still drooling, eating and sleeping a lot. You have the ages of tall girl down. With me there was the point at 67 when I was tallest in my family which bugged my older brother (very handy ), followed by the school coach trying to get me to go out for sports. Then there was going out with the other teens to try on clothing and getting really good at knowing what works for a five foot and a bit fourteen year old and no idea what would work for me if it existed.
I do wonder if this means the same thing to everyone. Like, I always thought of the term chemistry as referring to a certain spark in the way two people interact (Hepburn/Tracy banter, for example), but more and more dating articles seem to be using it with the simpler connotation of I need to be able to look at this person and instantly go OMG HAWT or it will never ever happen ever. I dunno, maybe I m projecting, but I also wonder if that s what some people mean when they say you can t help who you re attracted to.
This charismatic definition you are using is actually I think the reason many women end up with assholes (as the nice guys so often bemoan). It s not that they are looking for assholes, they simply misinterpret charismatic behaviour as confident behaviour. They think arrogance = confidence. I will say I rather pride myself on my ability to sort the wheat from the chaff. I sometimes think I need to teach a course to women about how to find truly confident men, as opposed to the men who use the screen of confidence to hide their deep seated insecurities (which often manifest in such personality types as abuse).
I loved this especially the escalator imagine. This is my life! While I may be only 5 8767 9 its still tall enough to make a difference especially when I wear heels. My issue with short guys hasn 8767 t been that they 8767 re short its that the ones I 8767 ve encountered have had issue with how tall I am and want to tell me I can 8767 t wear heels. If I were to ever come across a short guy who fits all my other criteria like funny, sweet, intelligent, finically responsible etc and the only thing lacking was a few inches and he didn 8767 t care then I wouldn 8767 t either. It 8767 s definitely hard being above average height and having it held against you when it comes to dating so thats how I try to look at it for short guys. Just like it sucks to be passed over for being too tall it must suck to be passed over for being too short.
I don t think bullying is something magical and good. I think it s vile too. But I do think people can become stronger people having faced it. I know I did. I can t answer your questions. I can say that some people get so worn down by life that it s hard to pick themselves up. I also think that it s easier for someone for me to overcome bullying when I had a major support system and not everyone has that privilege. I had it easier than some. That is certain. But I do also know people who had vile upbringings and vile bullying (by teachers as well as students) and have overcome those horrific situations in a way that is truly admirable. It is possible.
So I don t think I would define such men as confident honestly. I would consider these guys to be actually very insecure (especially if they feel a need to show off their masculinity to others by who they date as opposed to just dating cool people because they want to). To me what you are describing are men who likely have confidence in some areas but generally are not confident in their day to day lives.
Again, this is how online dating works. This ability to narrow searches/matches by different attributes is what people claim makes it so much better than face to face. Which of these 8775 things 8776 do you want to pinpoint? His photos? His location? His age? His weight? His diet? His eye colour? His pets? His smoker status? His drinker status? His vehicle situation? His employment? His housing situation? His match percentage? His shared interests? Or if we 8767 re on OKCupid in particular, any of the answers to the thousands of questions that they could have possibly shared on their profile.
I m not exactly sure what the point that you re trying to make is anymore you realize that these people, for the most part, had to display some sort of talent in order to get to the point that they had teams to work for the, right? Once they have them, do those teams help? Sure. But they had to get to that point somehow, and in order to do that, they need to be showing some kind of unique ability, whether that s a certain type of acting, comedy, whatever.
Here s the thing, there s always a list of what to do and what not to do. But in the end it all comes down to respect the other person. Rules can be broken, and that s okay, so long as there is respect and decency. It s not about going, HA! See! Women DO want you to push them! It s about this one guy who liked this girl, and she deep down liked him too but had societal pressures about height overwhelming her decision. It was about mutual respect. And man, did they have that in spades. The way they looked at each other... they were these amazing luscious romantic people. I would be in the living room watching TV and they d be slow dancing to no music in the kitchen. They clearly were right for each other.