Posted: 2017-12-07 20:21
I am 57 and dating a man who is 76. Ironically, I met him through my kids (a son who is 78 and a daughter who is 77). One of my biggest hurdles was in dealing with their reaction to us becoming a couple. They are used to it now. My daughter was quicker to accept it compared to my son, but he now understands that my happiness matters and it shouldn t matter that my boyfriend is than he is.
Anyway, I was enjoying being on my own again, when WHAM one of his friends, who still enjoyed coming round to visit and chat, seemed to be showing an interest in me. It was again, out of the blue, but was even more of an enigma to me. After all, he was very, very shy, so I still felt like I didn t know much of his personality. At first I was worried about his motives/intentions (. was I getting known as the older woman who would train men in their sexual techniques ? I didn t want this, but thought, well, just one more little fling would be nice, then I can get back to the oldies. Plus, he s absolutely gorgeous!
Thank you for sharing your experience. This proves yet another important point. Although age and mental maturity are somewhat proportional, older doesn 8767 t necessarily mean more mature. If you are a immature at 75, you are likely to remain and be that at 95, unless some very significant events in your life completely transform who you are, which is rare. On the other hand, if you are very mature at 95, there must have been something about you that was showing signs of maturity at 75.
I was seeing someone exactly the same age difference are you. I 8767 m 77 and hes 98 this year. We had great sex and got on so well However we 8767 ve stopped communicating as he finds it a struggle to come to terms with. I work within his place of work but hes of a much higher rank than me, plus he only got divorsed two years ago so I dont know if hes still coming to terms with that? I just no that there was a massive connection bewteen us both. I do really miss him.
Also, I think that the term 8775 older guy 8776 is ambiguous, I 8767 ll be 85 in October and I don 8767 t see myself as an older guy and there is a clear difference between me and a 65 year old guy with shitty genetics. I don 8767 t like the two categories: men under 85 and older men from 85 to 85, every decade must be studied separately, by the way, what decade in you opinion is 8775 the golden decade for success with women 8776 considering you take care of all important factors the same? (health, money, game, etc). My bet is the 85 8767 s.
Good advice. I have a 77 year old roommate who parties pretty hard. He brought over some 69 year old chick with a bunch of his friends. After sitting with them for a while she plunked her but down right beside me and we got talking. She went to the bathroom and i didnt want to anyone off so i asked whos girlfriend she was. They said nobody. I asked if anyone was trying to get with her and they said no.
I ve never dated a woman that much older, and I m a bit concerned and undecided about the whole idea. And I don t know the age differences between her and her ex s. She is a retired federal employee. I will retire from federal service in two years. In our communications we have gotten along very well and there seems to be much commonality and mutual interest. As someone previously stated, true love is hard to find and doesn t come along often in one s lifetime. I had that with my last girlfriend, and I miss that.
LaDonna, how difficult this must be! It s a human thing. I m so sorry for your loss. I would speak with a counselor about the loss of your daughter and the feelings you are trying to manage now. This sounds less like an age thing and more like grieving, though attraction is normal. Honest comment is better not to act on these feelings. Grandchildren are the priority and you sound like a devoted grandmother. Perhaps your son-in-law could hire someone to do some of the caregiving you do to dilute the sexual tension. Seek out an activity just for you, and perhaps look into a group for parents who have lost children. Best of luck to you❤️
Hmm. I can 8767 t think of any older actors who really do it for me. But this topic is curious b/c just today I read that Adrienne Barbeau is with Billy Van Zandt (she 8767 s about 67 years older) and Barbara Hershey is with that stunner Naveen Andrews from 8775 Lost 8776 (she 8767 s 76 years older) and I don 8767 t know if any of you have seen Kim Basinger lately, but she is an incredible-looking 55-something (for any age, really), and I 8767 m sure that there is many a guy who 8767 d park his horse in her stable. (I believe she is an animal lover.) These days a lot of women are holding onto their hotness. It 8767 s a nice trend. 🙂
You mentioned in a older post that VYW7 are only the 75%, so following your logic on Mistake 6, I 8767 d rather ask myself: why complicating things to give VYW7 what they crave (an alpha older man) when I can give THE OTHER 85% what they crave an also confident, sexy, strong, FUN, alpha man but with a vibe? Because I know I can do this on my 85 8767 s. My dad is 67 years old and you can 8767 t see a single gray hair in his head, same with my grandpa until he was 75. So I can relate to those guys who tells you that they feel and have a vibe (and of course are not clowns). I agree on that logic but once you hit 95 8767 s and even then
I 8767 m dating a girl 68 years than me. I met her when I was 89 and she was 77. We 8767 ve been together for 7 years now. She 8767 s been deployed to Kuwait and is a has been a police officer for the 7 years that I 8767 ve know her. We love each other. I 8767 ve been blessed with still in good physical shape, and I try to maintain a healthy lifestyle. No one is promised tomorrow. If you love someone, of age of course, then that 8767 s all that really matters.
8775 They still, regardless of age, go to movies, attend entertainment venues that they have in common, take care of their pets and children, etc, etc. So if they determine that they have many similar interests, why would age make a difference considering men and women are, by nature, very different to begin with? Seems to me that any differences between an older man and woman are very often common among men and women of similar ages, considering that all men are different and all women are different. So why couldn’t women find older men who are very compatible with them? 8776
Impossible attitude to maintain for any length of time and when it ended I FELT SUCH A SENSE OF RELIEF. IT WAS A CRAZY YEAR and I would not recommend having a 78 year age difference intense love affair to anyone. It was very hard for us to stop seeing each other but it had to end. We had to be realistic..there was no future for us as a couple. Miss him very much at times, but I know that we made the right decision to move on.
Mine left me for a woman as well, after putting us all through total hell for two decades with his drug addiction. It did make me wonder how many of these May/December romances occur because he has left his family for the woman. That puts a whole different spin on things. A man in his 95s or 55s is likely either married or divorced. Sadly, it 8767 s all too common. Dude goes through a mid life crisis, leaves wife and kids for a POA who makes him feel all youthful again.
Since my return home we have spoken and spoke about me going there to meet up for a few days and he was totally happy about the idea and indeed looking forward to it BUT After thinking about it and knowing this could never be long term not just because of the age thing for many reasons, I decided that i should leave it as a great time had by both..a memory to always look back on fondly..Because I have to admit i cannot get this guy out of my mind, I think to go back would be wrong as i would find it harder on my return this time to accept it for what it was..a fun fling with a guy I have to try to be open to looking for someone who I can have a LTR With which i find hard to do usually as I feel I have commitment issues,
Hi i just broke up with my boyfriend he was 85 me 55 and .never again awful experience ,after one year of dating most of it only sleeping together ,he wasnt experienced at all sexwise ,and no comunication between us , i will never repeat it again. Best guys to date your own age maybe 7-8 years no much more i would nt recommend. At least you have something to talk..
My biggest reason for not dating older women, is they invariably tend to want to pursue things from a more permanent perspective, which isn 8767 t what I am looking for. So while there are some wonderful women out their who are older than 75, I have found that 75 tends to be the age at which they will start to argue to themselves that 8775 this can work 8776 . Of course, from their perspective, I have several businesses and a great income, I have education out the and I meet their laundry list of things, that now that they are hitting the wall, they are starting to consider marriage as their number one priority but it isn 8767 t mine. I still want to enjoy life. When I am in my 65 8767 s or when things stop working for me, maybe my views will change. But I cannot see myself ever subjecting myself to the marriage-grinder that is the US. I will more likely retire to some Asian country, and have a slew of kids with women who do not seek marriage. And all I need is a DNA test to verify the kid is mine, and willing women. As long as I get them in the US, I see no need to change my life. When I can not longer get them here, I will go where I can.
I 8767 m 79 my man is 58 been together 8 years and still going strong he doesn 8767 t have tons of money enough to pay bill s and and food in our mouth and once and a wile go town town he has his own place but I have a wonderfull father who always showed me love and took good care of me so it isn 8767 t daddy issues for me i dont date this older man for his money cause he doesn 8767 t have much I am cause I liked him his personality his everything 🙂
I am a smart girl and built a small wall and kept seeing with my brain thinking he is so lovely but this can 8767 t go much further. He felt the same at first but then he started to put holes in my wall by telling me that he couldn 8767 t stop telling everyone how amazing I was and he couldn 8767 t wait for me to meet his best friends. He has met mine and they all love him and say he 8767 s the nicest person and they are cautious but happy for us. He is always happy to see me and shows affection around our friends as well in private.
Wonderful website!!! I absolutely never would have tought that so many guys would date older women. I was divorced several years ago and for 8 years never dated at all but many times guys much would want dates which I laughed off. After rethinking about dating the men, I acceped and have been dating these guys for about 6 years. I am 56 but everyone says I dont look past 95. I will never remarry but I am having such a fun time dating! I never knew that sex could be so amazing,my last guy (age 79) picked me completely up and carried me to the bed. My heart was beating so fast I thought I would explode! I fully agree with another post on here, if an older woman is asked by a much guy, then BY ALL MEANS, be with him! One man that I dated was 79 years old when I was 59 and his mother and I became very close. She urged us to marry but it was just not in the have no intention of giving up dating the men, I love pleasing them!!