Posted: 2017-10-12 19:37
A few weeks in, he mentioned to me that on the weekly call he has with his mother that he told her about me. Being a westerner, I was of course surprised, but do know there are some very obvious cultural differences. I asked him what she said. He told me that she supported whatever decision he makes, and that if it is right with me, that she will stand behind him. I was amazed by this response maybe he was just saying that to me to be nice haha!
The face that etched the walls of my love, colours the lines of the Arab world with his lineage. Yes, I loved, very much an Arab man, who was also Berber too. My beautiful Arab stood up for my honour and loved my stretch marks. I loved not only his strong sculpted veins, but the strength of his beauty that held his soul. It was his soul that touched mine as fatherhood lines the length of his fingers. I loved and loved him so, but, he was not to be mine as I moved on my journey and became an author. I love him still. The claws of my decision weighs within my heart.
He wants me to come to his country and see his world. I want to. When he was back in the states he would always touch on marriage and the idea of having children. But its an awkward subject for us considering our major differences. He would always point out that for Arabic parents, his were very accepting compared to others. I 8767 ve never met his parents because when they came to the States I was traveling in Europe. But I have conversed with them on occasion when they would speak over the phone.
now the generation in middle east and in other places around the world are following something different than their grandfathers traditions and rules. they are so affected by the the american style of living , but only few of them succeed in taking the positive side of your culture with keeping his own traditions that doesnt go against yours like your man he is a balanced man who knows how to be a human and understand the meaning of being different doesnt change the fact that you are an amazing person ,
I agree with a lot of what you say the last I had known since last year and I had met him in person just recently been spending a lot of time with and he started acting very different after he thought we were a couple I was very wary of he had been nothing but sweet and a good friend to I was shocked with his attitude yeah I know the culture is different but I believe they do know they are playing you I think they do target women they think they will be able to control more easily
Both were Moroccan and my friend showed me some stuff on the net and it was over 55 articles probably closer to 655 + and they were very ummmm of guys from Morocco I am sure they are good men from there just won 8767 t date
I am too trusting but only these guys have acted this way not any other mean he was Jekyll and Hyde all the sudden thank you for your advice I am glad you have such a fine husband I just dont trust any man right now lol.
I found your blog through oh, I don 8767 t know, some google search or other sometimes I like to read about places I 8767 ve been or lived in my spare time and thought your post on what is acrid and detestable about Sweden was a riot a laugh riot, that is, and I 8767 m not being condescending in any serious way I genuinely found it rather entertaining, as satire goes. The comments were something else, but then, obviously that 8767 s not your fault.
cook, clean and take care of the children is that what you think a woman should do????:))) Sit at home and listen to some 8775 husband 8776 moaning that I spent too much money on food/clothes/etc, when I can go and earn my own money and spend it on whatever I like???? And why, in your opinion, should a man be obliged with supporting the whole family? How many men are there on the whole planet who would earn enough to support the whole family? You 8767 re a bit behind with times, I think:)))
Well spoken Sapphire, but I think there 8767 s one way to even top the foreign man. 8775 How? 8776 I hear you ask. By finding a Swedish man who 8767 s spent a lot of time abroad, thus learning about chivalry and grown a pair of balls. These men are simply as good as they get!
To begin with it 8767 s awesome to be involved with someone foreign, but you know what? Down the line it just gets annoying and difficult, regardless of country they 8767 re from. Nah, my advice is to find a 8775 världsvan 8776 Swedish bloke.
I really wish I had far more time to invest in the blog anymore. However, I only require 5 hours of sleep a night and it feels as though almost every minute of the day is spent either working or attending an event, festival, or performing arts with hubby and/or friends. When I finally have SO MUCH I could blog about, I just don 8767 t have the time. And when I do find a few minutes I realize what I wanted to blog about isn 8767 t important at all. I believe we 8767 ve become more grounded and are coming into a true sense of 8766 happiness 8767 since moving to the US blogging about shopping and dining out (which I have done in the past) now feels so shallow and senseless. Yet as limited as my time has become, I try to maintain the initial purpose of the blog personal therapy and if I help anyone else along the way then it 8767 s done better than I could hope for.
I dont know why, maybe it 8767 s their culture of freedom, outside, they can look different from many other. But i felt in love with one, and I liked her so much since the very first moment. She meant to be stressed and teased by men but not valued like she was before: a gorgeous woman.
Now, every woman from every part of the planet deserves to be treated as woman, not a toy to use after or during a drunk. She deserves to be afriend, communicative, cuddles, maybe sometimes to be angry but never lacked of respect. That seems to be very common in Sweded, I dont say every sweden male treat badly a woman, but a lot of them especially generation are lacking of sensibility.
And from my point of view, it 8767 s weird
Now my story with that sweden girl went over not because there was not lack of love from both, but because my work, I was deployed so far away, and I was at that time.
What remains to me is a big funny happy sweet moments of warm wool and big heart, here in the deep of Italy. Still running all my love for swedes. Nobody is perfect, but the sweden males that I known, needs to grow in empathy and care with their women. at least.
I just have to say that the things that 8767 s written on the top off the site may be true, but not for everyone!.. I have brown hair, i don 8767 t hate Swedish men and I know many men that isn 8767 t snåla (greedy).
And that part about feminism, you make it sound like you don 8767 t like it.. I would not wanna be together with a man that think men are more worth than women. At least that 8767 s what i think..
As for paying for the wedding, that differs among cultures and even families. In my case our weddings (Kuwait and US) were paid for by my husband 8767 s family and my husband. However, I know of some women who have paid for their own weddings. It really depends on the person I suppose. As for cost, both Middle Eastern and US weddings are comparable. I don 8767 t believe one of ours cost a significant amount more or less than the other. Again, depends on the people and what type of wedding they want. We went with very elegant and classy while keeping it small and intimate (family and closest friends). I find very large weddings to be more of a 8766 show 8767 and they lose their true meaning. But that 8767 s just how I feel. Obviously others have very different ideas about what a wedding should be.
Thanks so much for this thread. I 8767 m not able to articulate right now why it helps me so much, but it truly does. Have been suffering the silent treatment since 7565, then afterwards there is no discussion, no dialogue despite my attempts to communicate. We have had happy moments, but the anger and silent treatment can occur at any time. I am now throwing myself back into university life as a mature student and hopeful for the perspective this will give me.
That being said, I want you to envision the absolute worst he 8767 s ever made you feel and now imagine living that way for the rest of your life. Is that the life you imagined for yourself when you were 5? 65? Even 65? Did you ever picture yourself with a boy who wouldn 8767 t call you, or answer your calls? Or someone who wasn 8767 t there for you when you really hoped they would be? Or did you vision yourself with the perfect guy who made you laugh and smile? A man should never be the cause of your tears he should be the one to protect you from the reasons to cry in the first place.
You could come here and have a really succesful could also come here and get slaughtered and embarrassed,and because you don 8767 t speak the language,you probably wouldn 8767 t even know!
Try not to fall into the trap of 8775 generalizing 8776 mate,because doing that can get you into a lot of trouble.
There are Swedish guys who are real fannies and there are Swedish guys who 8767 d scare members of MS68! I hope you know which ones to call 8775 fussy 8776 son! )
My husband is from Palestine, I 8767 m American. We have been married for 6 6/7 years now. He contantly has temper tantrums, loves woman friends and swears to Allah he 8767 s not cheating on me. We might have sex once a month, he hides his phone from me and yes, he has several. I 8767 ve caught him in several lies and when questioned he calls me names and goes into rages. Still denying his wrong doings. Recently I became aware of his gambling habit which is haram. I 8767 ve begged him to stop but he just will not or can not. His family is beautiful, they love me and I love them as well. I 8767 m 65 years older than him and feel really insecure at times. I was told he had several girlfriends that visit him in the work place. I 8767 m not so sure if all this is normal for most Arab men. I love him dearly but am scared he does not love me the same. Any advice?
Lately it seems a lot more Kuwaitis are moving to other countries to live, but they ALWAYS go home to visit often. We visit my husband 8767 s family every few months. During one of your husband 8767 s visits back to Kuwait it seems his mother would start discussing marriage and finding him a wife. Perhaps you should tell him you 8767 re willing to take that risk and demand that he tell his mother about you?
As for the Arab girls studying in America who are sleeping around, I would venture to say they 8767 re not Saudi. While one culture is not better than another, in the Arab world they are VERY different especially when you throw KSA into the mix. The Arab guys who are partying, drinking, etc. Perfectly normal behavior for guys studying in America. It 8767 s almost 8766 acceptable 8767 behavior. However, while they 8767 re partying, their family is seeking out their future wife. The party lifestyle comes to a complete stop once they return home and many even suffer with a great deal of guilt for this behavior resulting in them grasping their culture even tighter than before.
As for me, my husband 8767 s culture has segregated weddings. Men and women do not share wedding halls at the same time. So when I attended weddings, it was never with my husband. And if he attended one for a friend and I didn 8767 t know the women, I stayed home since I wouldn 8767 t be attending the women 8767 s wedding. Quite different from my culture but nothing that offended me. Also, my husband and I didn 8767 t 8766 date 8767 per se. We met, we spent time together in the daytime, in public, and I met his family the same week. After that we continued to spend time together in public places or at the family home where he was often in the dewaniya with the men and I would spend time with his mother and sisters he would pop in every hour or so to make sure all was going well. We were married a few weeks later.
Hello American Girl thank you so much for putting yourself out there and sharing. I 8775 met 8776 an Arab man on the internet and am experiecning the prejudice from friends and family. I 8767 ve not even had a chance to meet him face to face yet, but am so excited to. He 8767 s caring and gentle and puts me first, he worries about my family that he 8767 s never met, calls me just to say 8775 hello, I miss you 8776 things i 8767 ve never experienced here in the 8775 West 8776 . Without even meeting him i can say that i am prepared to relocate to live under his love and love and spoil in as many ways as he does for me. It will be a big adjustment, on both parts, but i am willing to make certain changes to bask in the rewards that I do believe will be oh so worth it. Thank you for the encouragement.