Posted: 2017-10-13 08:55
It is frustrating to say the least. Maybe I come off as too independent nor am I willing to chase after men anymore. I don 8767 t want to play silly games and I am not jealous. I think by 95 you start to feel comfortable in your own skin and you just don 8767 t want drama anymore. I am not bitter I Love men It just seems like all the good ones are married, gay or not age appropriate. I am modest and do not dress or act like a sexpot nor am I promiscuous yet guys are all about the sex and want it as soon as the first date
Hi Amanda. NO need to panic! Plus, if you do, you 8767 ll likely show up as desperate, and you 8767 ll make bad decisions. The best you can do is to get to know the REAL GROWNUP YOU, and show up as her. Be in the moment. Enjoy yourself. As I say, you 8767 re looking for a great mate, not just a great date. That takes time. Give yourself that, ok? And keep learning! I 8776 m SO glad you 8767 re here!
Hi Tim. Sorry you 8767 re having trouble meeting women where you live. I understand the being alone sadness. Truth is that there are hundreds of thousand single women where you are, though. I agree that Online dating is a feast for anyone who is good looking (well-said, btw) but the vast majority of real people who have found love online are just 8766 normal lookin 8776 like us. It 8767 s how you approach it and use it as a tool. Get some help, ok? What can I tell you to help you? Bp
Being that you came in confrontational, I 8767 m happy to have given you a non-sugarcoated, blunt response. That said, I do wish you the best of luck and, most importantly, I hope you adopt a mindset where you don 8767 t blame the other person for not fulfilling your wants and instead, choose a good match and focus on giving freely to him if he gives back in the way you like, great, stay if he doesn 8767 t, leave. Easy and no hard feelings.
Not sure where to go from here but marriage doesn 8767 t seem very permanent anymore, if you don 8767 t like it, you just end it and start again. Another reason I almost think anything will fail before it even begins. I think everything in life is like a disposable society now! Sorry to sound so negative I have a few female friends and get along well, I don 8767 t regard women my problem, more society I think
Am married for the last 5months and I don 8767 t love my husband .I have a pregnancy of 6& 6/7month I really don 8767 t feel happy with him I have doubted him because he is always in need of sex whenever I go home he always comes for me and trying to tell me how he can 8767 t dare stay without me I always ask him is it the reason you usually demand for sex so u can 8767 t be able to stay without me because you need me for sex he always gets angry if I don 8767 t allow him enjoy sex with me... am now confused how to go about with this matter please advice me I feel out of words oooopps I DON 8767 T KNOW
Ya know Men got the power if we let them think they we are strong in our own right and don 8767 t need proof or passage of a man to make it this is half the battle. Why do you think you need a man to be whole and complete? God already made us whole and complete Just sayin. I own my home. bring home the bacon and feed and clothe and love my don 8767 t need a man to complete me. I 8767 m already whole and complete.
Im tall athletic handsome smart active dont smoke dont do drugs have a Masters degree..none of that matters...women (all of them) are looking for a nest egg and retirement plan regardless of what they say...they ALL want to be wined and dined and jetsetted all over the world. American women are a mans worst nitemare oh yea..ive heard and seen it all. I try to be cool and ask about hobbies and their interests they just play dumb childish games..I hate women now I loathe and despise them..what a waste of tiime and energy online dating is lmao!!!
I read a study that says women are more picky than men. They fall for the bad boys and think they can change them for the better. In the end, they get their hearts broken because they didn't change. Again, studies has proven that dating bad boy's never ever work out. By the time they get older and wiser and go after the nice guy that they blew off. They nice guys end up blow them off. Or is taken. So in the end. To me, both sexes need to relax and stop playing the games and act like mature adults if they're any more left out there
Great article. I m in the midst of a man pulling a disappearing act right now. So, I ve read both this one and Disappearing Reappearing Man: What To Do? Man, talk about hitting the nail on the head. So, since a friend shared What To Do? last night and I found The Aftermath article today, I m taking a new approach and playing his game. I m not putting myself out there anymore for him. I m not going to seek him out. I m not going to text him. I know I don t deserve his BS and can do better. However, I m inpatient and will soon want to know what he s thinking or if he s even noticed that I m not begging to see him anymore. I guess I ll want to know if he even cares a little. Maybe that s not important but it s my general nature. I ll try to keep my armor in it s best shape for the true Prince Charming that means what he says and backs up those statements with tangible actions.
I agree with this but the thing is how can you show a guy you appreciate all the things he does for you without seeming needy? that 8767 s the thing I 8767 m stuck on, as just saying that you appreciate it doesn 8767 t seem enough while to them it seems needy. it 8767 s also the little things guys do, like the cute things they say, not just necessarily them buying things and taking you out for lunch, but as soon as a girl tries to do this back to show her appreciation a man doesn 8767 t like it. It comes of to them as neediness or clingyness. but if we do nothing then thy are still mad. please someone explain that one.
Well,from the starting I have asked him whether he have ex or not he told me he don 8767 t have any but yet he do have ,so what 8767 s the point hiding it from me?that 8767 s not a good reason for lying cuz it isn 8767 t a whITE lie furthermore he didn 8767 t even know whether he is truly love me or have been dating for 7months and now he told me he not sure whether he love me or not?.. that 8767 s heartache!!
After being married after 76 years, I 8767 ve known my wif for over 85 years. Raised 7 daughters and after my kids got married my wife claims that we are emotionally disconnected. I work alot plus 6 hour drive times as well as alot of work to be done around our homestead. She is leaving me to go back to Milwaukee where our oldest daughter is with her hubby and child. After she leaves me I have no intrest in marriage again after this. I 8767 m more interested in having fun. Taking dancing lessons, doing my hobbies. And perhaps finding a woman who would enjoy partaking in such activites. Nothing serious but just dancing, watching movies,TV. Gardening taking care of chickens, shooting guns, hunting, fishing and such. Plus what she may enjoy doing.
But I could never get married again or at least that 8767 s how I feel now.
Wow, makes me lol to hear women complain about OKC. Oh no, you had to sift through a bunch of messages from really gross people? Oh poor baby, the internet really just isn't for you, is it? That certainly is somehow equivocal to the disappointment a lot of men receive on these sites of getting no attention at all.. oh wait, those two aren't even remotely comparable. If you can't deal with ugly, sleazy, mediocre people, get the fuck off the internet!
The point is this - they don't have to WORK to get attention. Attention comes to them, both good and bad. If they post a picture with them in a swimsuit, they are going to get some pretty bad attention. If they instead post of picture of them praying in a church, they are likely to get a different kind of attention. They do have some control, and some means of filtering and directing what attention they want, at least to some degree. Nice guys don't have that option. We have to put our best pictures out there. The most attractive. The most interesting. Our profiles must be perfect. Our messages must be interesting, eye catching. It's pretty unfair when you really think about it.
I totally agree with the article. Those girls that get angered by it are lying to themselves. In some ways women are weaker and much more vulnrable than men which any decent man knows. And also any good man knows that this is why he should help and protect the woman. I for one find absolutely NOTHING wrong with that in fact its very attractive. Just as it is attractive to any strong and chivalrous man if a woman can show her soft fragile side to him. If somebody then uses the womans fragility against her in order to abuse and control her then that shows you he is in fact a very weak individual and not a decent human being at all. Yes things should be equal but its not equal when women act like big burly men in fact its quite chauvenistic of those women towards other women when they (wrongly) assume that women and men are entirely equal. Would they have a pregnant woman run around with a rifle in war? Would they have a heavily menstruating woman operate heavy machinery?! No! Men are built to be protectors and theu are biologically built to help us and we should be damn happy about it and encourage it otherwise we wiuld live in constant pain and agony.
I'm a 75 year old British girl who has recently come back to the UK after living abroad for four years. In that time I had a lot of boyfriends but none really stuck longer than a few months - and I thought it was because I always knew I was going to leave (I moved every year or so) and didn't really commit fully (even though I was desperate to). I thought that when I came back to England everything would fall into place and I'd settle down.
Thank you for both the article and this comment. I think you are getting negative responses because you are speaking the truth.
And any women who 8767 s been the chaser for years after years will find success in this advice.
I PERSONALLY HAVE FOUND GREAT SUCESS USING THIS KIND OF APPROACH.
If someone wants you in his life, he will put you there and if not, well why waste the. RIGHT ON, love bug. This article is the truth of the dating world we now live in.
Much love and beauty to ya
ARRGGGH! If any woman is reading this please do not believe the man like the one described by 8766 ex muse 8767 . I have known a number of women who have had affairs with married men. They all said they were unhappy in their marriage, sex starved, their wife didn 8767 t look after herself or their marriage and felt alive with their new lover. All this is very often untrue and the men are having an active sex and love life with both women. Do not be fooled and fall for men who are unfaithful to those they made a commitment to. Do you really believe that a man proving unrestrained lust will be able to refrain for your sake in the future?
I can tell you from a guy 8767 s perspective that when a woman says things like: 8775 Why didn 8767 t you call? 8776 8775 Why don 8767 t you have time for me? 8776 8775 Why don 8767 t you ever compliment me? 8776 and pretty much any sentence that begins with 8766 why didn 8767 t you , 8767 it 8767 s like nails on a chalkboard. Those kinds of statements will immediately put a guy on the defensive rather than motivating him to change and he 8767 ll probably withdraw emotionally as a result at least, for the moment.