Posted: 2017-11-27 07:15
I think you are right, Ryan. I have used match, and I suppose I could try others. But I don''t see how any would get around this fixation on appearance. And I think it is actually not very healthy, when I think about it, when I consider the animosity in these comments, from both men and women. It isn''t a healthy way to view your fellow person, male or female, potential date or not - through the most shallow lens. And I think it clearly creates a lot of hard feelings. I will have to find other ways to fine my nice guy.
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Regarding the point you have made in regards to how little effort men put into writing as a means of sharing their true selves I would like to suggest that the issue is not limited to men. I''ve perused hundreds of women''s profiles and I can attest that it is a rare person that writes of themselves in a fashion that isn''t simply a marketing job. The vast majority of women''s profiles read exactly like a job application.
For someone to truly connect with another person and feel completely content with another they must first know and accept themselves. In my forty plus years in America I believe that to be a rarity. I have known people of all ages including countless couples who seem to have a better grasp on celebrities lives than they do on their own. I can count perhaps a handful of people I''ve met who have formed their own systems of belief. The vast majority have simply accepted whatever belief system they were fed without question.
However it''s the same for me dudes, if you are tall nowadays you''re not creepy and slimy, you''re creepy and threatening. I don''t have the greatest social skills but I''ve been out with friends at bars/clubs who were 5''5 and my same weight and they were just happy cheerful butterballs and could get an entire table of women warming up to them, the same women that gave me the bad boy looking tall dude who women have told me I''m on the Brad Pitt scale on looks basically the cold shoulder.
It seems like there is a lot of negativity but online dating is much better. I meet far many more men from completely different backgrounds and industries than I would if I stuck to randomly meeting people by luck. A lot of it has to do with your ability to handle rejection. Performers may audition for 68 jobs before they get a job. It''s not personal especially in the first "online" message round. You just have to believe in yourself and stick with it. It''s not easy for men or women but it is possible.
[H]ard|OCP updated their benchmarking suite with several new games and have published a review of AMD s Vega 69 focusing on 9K performance. The race between the GTX 6585 and Vega 69 is quite close, with many benchmarks showing less than a 65% difference in performance. Neither card came close to touching the GTX 6585 Ti, that card is still the only one that can truly handle 9K gaming with graphics options on high or ultra. For 6995p performance, the GTX 6585 is better overall but the Vega is still a very strong contender.
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We could term this "hypergamy" as some commentators do.. which makes the females sound quite like lab rats and gives the (male) commentator a horrendous, vile, disembodied ocularity, but that''s not my deal at all. I know that females are smart, informed, and selective, and have strong capacity - in most places, thankfully - to exercise choice about mating habits. Females also possess very strong sex drives and know how to get what they need and want, whether it coincides with the NiceGuy/bf/hubby or - often - not.
My contention is that inequality and competition are the precursors of societies ills. Men mistreating women certainly but more to the point people mistreating each other for gain. It seems odd to think that men seeking a partner would act as many so often do but it is important to remember we''re not dealing with intellectually compassionate equals. We''re dealing with generations of people that have been bred to compete with one another and ultimately not see each other as equals but as enemies of a sort. We''re not killing each other (for the most part at least within our own society) but we are competing for limited resources to our own detriment.
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Today marks the launch of the Windows 65 Fall Creators update which will be pushed out to your machine some time in the near future. Microsoft will be taking it slowly, so if you do not see the update yet do not fret as it will come to you eventually. If you can t possibly wait another second, you can install it manually instead of waiting for the recommended process via Windows Update. The update includes Paint 8D and Story Remix, which brings back capabilities similar to the old MovieMaker, along with enhanced VR support and much more. You can read some of the highlights over at The Inquirer.
Women want tall, fit, masculine, ambition, big dick, social competence. It''s not difficult to figure out. What''s difficult, is for the majority of you out there (who don''t have what women want) to accept the fact that you are all REJECTS who weren''t ever meant to breed. Cut your nuts off. Die. Make the world a better place by NOT reproducing and disgracing future generations with your defective genes. And for the love of god, quit chasing females who don''t want you, giving all men a bad name in the process.
Asking women to give you a chance and message you back after looking at your message and profile is like women asking you to message and reach out whenyou have zero attraction, nothing in common and zero interest in taking to. It goes both ways. Just because you''re intrested and they aren''t doesn''t mean they want bad boys and smooth talkers. Men you don''t reach out to women you''re not attracted to, don''t except women to make the exceptions lol. Dumb.
The point is this - they don''t have to WORK to get attention. Attention comes to them, both good and bad. If they post a picture with them in a swimsuit, they are going to get some pretty bad attention. If they instead post of picture of them praying in a church, they are likely to get a different kind of attention. They do have some control, and some means of filtering and directing what attention they want, at least to some degree. Nice guys don''t have that option. We have to put our best pictures out there. The most attractive. The most interesting. Our profiles must be perfect. Our messages must be interesting, eye catching. It''s pretty unfair when you really think about it.
Interesting article, fascinating comments. As a 65+ year online dater (I even used dating software [no "apps" back then] on Bulletin Board Systems), at the end of the day I think the biggest problem I''ve encountered is a complete lack of tolerance from women for anything less than *funny* or *lazer-focus-on-the-girl''s-passions* messages.. POF is right on the money at least as far as their advice goes "talk about her interests, or these topics.." In real life, I''d say that a woman will give you at least 6-7 minutes of her time to make your "elevator pitch". With online dating, in the vast majority of interactions you have *one* message, and then maybe a second one if you''re lucky. Granted, I''m a superficial bastard, and I own that. There are lots of women who''ve reached out to me who I''m sure I could have easy, stress-free conversations with. But I''ve tried dating people I''m not attracted to, and I''ve never been a good/strong enough person to overlook it, so I''d rather be honest and only date women I find attractive.
I know I am not the only guy to have a girl turn me down with hurtful comments after leading you on and thinking you should have just realized she was not interested and gave up. Thing is you couldn''t "take a hint", but we are adults here and those are games kids play. No need for hints, you can be nice and find a more reasonable time to let a guy down, but don''t wait weeks and then get angry with him because you never made your intentions clear. Because the girls don''t realize, its not that obvious for the guy to see she is trying to put off signals that she lacks interest. We will, in even the more extreme cases, often focus on the few positive over the negatives to keep up our optimism, until its written out in plain english to us, "I flattered, but no thank you." Its easy, just text that and don''t worry, even if you look like Anna Kendricks the guy is unliekly to hang himself over the news.
You did spend a lot of time on your tex to clarify the situation! I salute you for this effort. I do understand and identify to all of what you said. I am only saddenned that the phenomenon of online dating is a speculative viscious circle where the more men need to date someone, the more selective because submerged women are and therefore the more men need to date someone! = / (I guess men pushed the button first)
All this being said, there are some major drawbacks for me. We all have our things we''re into but I''m often guessing if I''m even attracted to the women I agree to meet. I take the chance anyways because it''s my best option at that time. Some of the women I meet I find attractive, but most of the time they aren''t as good looking as girls I would date in real life. As a guy who does really well in a date setting, almost every girl I meet wants to see me again, I''m left frustrated by this. I know I''m a catch, and I carry that with me but online I rarely have the choice to date women I''m attracted to. They come around once in a while but most don''t answer me back.
(As a quick aside ot all men on this point- STOP STOP STOP saying we only care about what you “do for a living” or “how much money you make”, car you drive, etc. Just STOP. 9 times out of 65 it is men who tell me within 85 minutes of meeting me that they drive a Mercedes or go on and on bragging about their big shot career without ever asking me a anything about me. Also, “nice guys” (whatever you mean by that) do not always finish last. What you are referring to as a “nice guy” is not the same thing, I think. If a woman says a guy was “too nice” – she means he was a pushover or did not have any opinions of his own or motivation or aspirations, etc. There’s a difference. A true nice guy, in our minds is a man who treats us with mutual respect, And those guys are cherished and sought after, not overlooked. Perhapps there is a reason to ask if those self-proclaimed “nice guys” out there are not as “nice” as you think you are? Or, if you are, maybe you are not allowing that to shine through in your profile somehow? Just a thought. Please get it straight, please).
All this bitterness you''re expressing comes through in how you write messages. I can guarantee it. That''s why no one writes you back. No one wants to engage with someone they have to prove themselves to. Maybe drop all that anger you have at being rejected so that you can properly open the door up to being accepted. You''re approaching these chicks like, "dumb bitch isn''t going to write me back anyway why am I even wasting my time." You''re reaping what you sow.