Posted: 2017-12-06 13:37
Come to think of it, I do remember seeing a woman with bright purple eyes at the credit union about a decade ago and she told me she had contacts, but I haven 8767 t seen that around here since then granted My town has only 855,555 people and is no large metropolitan trendy place to live (and I certainly don 8767 t party out a lot nowadays)! I have seen pics of that Human Barbie girl on the internet and she must use them, since her eyes look HUGE ! Well, I knew that people could look very different with make-up and effects pieces on their faces, but it always surprises me when I see such a huge variance between the before and after pics like on that web site Ken referenced.
What you don 8767 t understand is that this country, The United States of America was a European melting pot of primarily one racial group. Can you guess which racial group? Us European immigrants sailed to the new lands and had culturally so many things in common: race, history, religion, morals, etc But specifically, our MORAL STANDARDS and RELIGIOUS PRACTICES. Even as many different religions that were out there, they pretty much had the moral/ethical fundamentals in common. Another thing is, AMERICA 8767 S IDENTITY WAS NOT AN ISSUE BECAUSE WE WERE ALL WHITE EUROPEAN IMMIGRANTS. White people don 8767 t GROW OFF TREES. Europe is about the size of Texas, if that means anything to you. But what does one thing have to do with another? Regardless of any immigrant from any background they MUST YIELD TO OUR MORAL STANDARDS. And what a lot of liberals don 8767 t understand is how DIFFERENT and EXTREME the middle east is. What don 8767 t you get? SYMPATHY DOES NOT EXCUSE IGNORANCE.
I transferred schools to be near him, I moved just to be near him, I left all of my friends there, just to be with him, and now, I 8767 m lost. Three days ago, he texted me, and he told me that he loves me, he misses me, and that he 8767 s coming back (his visa came in). I asked him 8775 Are you still engaged? 8776 and he told me he is, and I told him I don 8767 t get the point of him talking to me is then. But then he told me that he wouldn 8767 t be getting married for 7-8 years, and that we wants to see me when he came back because he wants to talk to me, and I agreed.
The fact that he 8767 s lived in the UK for so long is probably an indication he 8767 s left a bit of his culture behind. This doesn 8767 t mean his mom won 8767 t continue to look for him a wife. Especially if he mentions someone he 8767 s interested in. She might feel this is an indication he 8767 s ready to be married and feels it 8767 s her place to find the right woman. Not that he will follow her suggestion and it 8767 s possible he 8767 s already had this conversation with her repeatedly. Ask him, I suspect he 8767 ll tell you.
I am a simpleton, therefore I am a uh simpleton? Anyway, I 8767 m a guy of simple tastes, at least I think I am and it doesn 8767 t take much to get my attention. Obviously a woman disrobing in front of me is a great way to get my attention, but let 8767 s face it ladies, you 8767 re not going to pony up and show me the goods right off the bat. That 8767 s okay. I like a challenge.
I also have to commend you on how you''ve dealt with a comments section that''s filled with all the vitriol that comes along with an article about women''s perspectives. While these comments have fueled a sense of misanthropy that commenters have instilled in me lately, I''m very proud to be part of a group of authors at MakeUseOf who are unafraid to put themselves out there and discuss issues that immediately bring out the worst in people (and patiently, gently, and effectively deal with the predictably disgusting responses).
Wow! Not leaning towards the troubles women go through with online dating...I''m sure they''re are plenty disgusting and immoral/sexist men online. Yes, women must be on their guard..A LOT OF BAD MEN OUT THERE! No bad women of course. I''ve had some success with some wonderful ladies, some are not so nice. Either a guy gets a reply from a gal he''s attracted to or "cricket"..or head games. If she is attractive she has the pick of the bunch. It''s a crap shoot. Not all guys are bad unfortunately bad apples can ruin many.
As for the Arab boy who wants to marry her, perhaps you should meet him. Like it or not it 8767 s possible he 8767 s going to be the father of your future grandchildren. And, if he visits at your home he might decide on his own that your traditions and culture are something he 8767 s not comfortable with. Allowing him to visit would also give you the opportunity to speak with him directly regarding your feelings, culture, traditions, and lack of desire for his money. Which is admirable by the way. Some parents don 8767 t agree with their child 8767 s choice in a partner but if he has money (even minimal because it 8767 s still more than they have) they somehow overlook their initial reasons for not agreeing to the marriage.
But let 8767 s forget that he 8767 s Arab for a moment and pretend he 8767 s just a guy down the road. Would you accept this behavior then? Cultural differences are challenges couples can overcome together but not when they result in disrespect and pain for one of the parties involved. When my husband and I encounter cultural differences now (which we still do from time to time) I explain what I am accustomed to in my life and what I consider to be acceptable. He explains to me how the same thing was handled all of his life and the reasons behind it. We often agree to meet in the middle or we decide whose reasoning makes the most sense (even if we don 8767 t necessarily agree with it 655%) and we go in that direction. But at no time would we ever force something onto the other one knowing it was causing pain or out of disrespect. You wouldn 8767 t accept that behavior from a complete stranger, so why accept it from a man who is supposed to love and protect you?
When the time comes for you and this man to meet, please arrange to do so in America. And preferably in a place where you 8767 re safe, maybe with a group of friends or better yet, family. It wouldn 8767 t be wise for you to leave America to go visit him in his country. The laws vary all over the world and are not always in your favor. It 8767 s very important for you to protect yourself at all times. And if he loves you as much as it seems he does, he will certainly understand.
imagine if all the eastern european women lived on a single continent with all the american women. what do you think would happen? you would lose all your men. you would go from having a monopoly over american men, having them fuck you good, having them pay your bills, your alimonies, your child support payments, and entitlements, to being spinsters with nothing and no one. the entire empire and penis paradise that feminism worked so hard to create would fall apart in a day. the only advantage american women have over european or south american is that they are easier to bang.
The female you used was a doughy, 75 year old Asian/Hispanic chick in Southern California at that? I''m not surprised at your results. The men weren''t feisty with your profile because it''s not what they are lusting after. Men are only angry at profiles of the trophy girls who respond with iciness, insults or silence. She must be thin, usually blonde with light eyes, primarily Caucasian. Use that profile pic and you''ll see the firestorm of interest. With the chick you used the men will only be nice because they''re not ego invested in her at all. Also you didn''t turn any of the men down to get a response. So you didn''t give them a reason to invest in you. Just wait until you turn guys down as a blonde. That''s when you better put up your photon force fields.
Thirdly, and I guess its part of being confident, is being organized. A man loves a girl who has things planned and ready. I won 8767 t go into too much detail here, but generally a woman must all the bases covered and be punctual. If you are already living with a guy, make sure the house is well stocked with food and all the other stuff like shampoo, soap etc etc. Dinner must be on time. A man REALLY REALLY appreciates a woman who is on top of that sort of thing.
Ugh. Don 8767 t know where else to go to vent at this point. I received a message from him nearly 79 hours ago that they had to leave the city due to the danger. At that point there was nothing on the news about Tikrit so I was not sure what was going on, of course now there is. I am sick with worry. I know all he needs to focus on right now is getting to a safe place, but the selfish part of me just wants him to call. I need to know that he is ok. Has anyone had any remotely similar experiences? If so do you have any ideas to keep myself sane??
Well I thought I would update this we never met he would go quiet around anytime I planned on meeting him..I did not feel secure..he always accused me of playing games and cheating..but he seemed very controlling as well..I speak to him a little..he made me quite angry with his games and yes he played them. I have been told my other Muslim that it is weird some of what he has a temper too threatened to slap me..no way I would meet this man they is something off about him wants to call and question my friends! No way would I tolerate this I am sure many Muslim are fine men not so sure about Jamal.
Anyway, although we have been calling each other husband and wife for a few years now, with his family 8767 s blessing, we are officially tying the knot next year. We are planning a simple, spiritual ceremony with my Unitarian minister, but outside a church or mosque (renting a small hall), and then a reception for friends and family with lots of great Lebanese food. My own parents initially were worried, because he is Moslem, but they really liked him when they met him (they live in another province), and regularly talk on the phone with him. We are all spending Christmas together this year.
Just goes to show. If you 8767 re planning on marrying an Americunt, make sure she is below your perceived SMV because otherwise, in a society that makes women feel they can get away with murder, they must have dread in their heart that it is YOU that can do better. Pulling a girl above your SMV is all cool but when it comes to marriage you are really playing with fire if she is any sort of Westernized. Put simply, all the shit you used to pull her isn 8767 t going to keep her and if she views you as less than her (and in marriage this is more likely for uglier dudes), then don 8767 t say I didn 8767 t warn you. His mistake was wiring her up. Probably thought she was the best he could ever get. His mindset was all in the wrong place from the start. He may have had outer game but his inner game sucked (of course it did, look at his appearance)
As for him not telling his best friends if those are guys from college here in America, they 8767 re not his 8766 best friends 8767 . They 8767 re just some guys he hangs out with and goes to school with. His true best friends are more than likely his cousins back home. Also, it 8767 s possible even his cousins don 8767 t know he 8767 s engaged. Once a woman is supposed to be your wife or becomes your wife, you don 8767 t discuss her. Especially with other men. It 8767 s considered highly disrespectful. More than likely, none of his friends back home will ever even meet his wife once they 8767 re married. I know a handful of my husband 8767 s friends from Kuwait but haven 8767 t met 99% of them. On the other hand, I know every single one of his friends here in the US and have met all of them. The cultures dictate very different behavior.
I am an American woman married to an Iraqi man, and I can honestly say he is the most loyal, kind, romantic man I have ever met. We recently moved to Norway to work he moved before me. I moved about 8 weeks later and he had bought clothes all in my size the color bedspread I wanted and I didn 8767 t ask for anything he found a way to ask questions and made mental notes over some time and just generally listened me that 8767 s how he knew what to get. Once you find the right person it 8767 s their goal to make you happy!
I guess what I can say with confidence is that you made the right decision to end things. I can 8767 t even speculate as to why he 8767 s traveling to Europe and South America (doesn 8767 t seem likely there would be a wife there), but who knows? I do know that regardless of his background, ethnicity, culture, etc. this isn 8767 t behavior you should accept from anyone. 65 years and never met his mom? Did you ask to? Did he say why you couldn 8767 t? Or, was it really just never a topic of conversation?