Posted: 2017-12-07 13:52
the things you have said here could equally be said about this other option: staying single. there is nothing wrong with a Muslim woman or man staying single and having their only Beloved be Allah. Why have we made it such a bad thing and made people feel they are not whole til they marry? i have seen societies where this is a much healthier solution and the women who stay single are amazing scholars of the religion and give all their time to serving in daawah. they are far from unfulfilled.
There is also an unrealistic focus on physicality all around. Outside the ISNA Marriage banquet, Dr. Parveen Qureshi, a volunteer who has attended enough of them to comment, says that people are too picky they want someone who looks like a model. People want their ideal spouse who looks a certain way, has a certain job etc. and will not settle for anything else. Why should we compromise before the marriage. “With so many expectations and not many people lowering their expectations, it makes it much harder to find the right person,” says Malik Shabazz.
Sister, you might be speaking for yourself and a minority that agrees with you because you are most definitely wrong that jealousy within polygamy is a social construct. Rather it is a common fitra state. It is simply NATURAL. This is quickly proven by asking women in countries where it is accepted and where they 8767 ve been 8775 trained 8776 from birth to accept it. Even most women in Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan or Yemen will tell you they do not want it for themselves if they have a choice.
very interesting indeed…
i have been looking into numerous marriage bureaus to register my daughter with, she is 75 and a doctor. we require a man, 79-78, doctor, in england, uk. Im considering applying to http:// as they seem most credible from all the ones i have come across. A friend of a frienf said they have had great results from single muslims also but that single muslims are more of a dating agency than marriage bureau. I have heard a fair bit of good news about hum marriage bureau. They will be my last hope i think if nothing comes from this.
Being a virgin is nothing to be proud of in and of itself, as a male, even if Christian. All that it shows is that you lack the masculinity to attract and hold a good woman. Being one myself, it is miserable, and if dating and marriage was not such a cesspool I would have gladly wedded and bedded a wife years ago. However, remember that the the Romans used to feed us to lions, and now the ruins of the Coliseum share a city with St. Peter 8767 s Basilica. Ottoman Turkey is a shell of its former power, trying to join the European Union. We have a history of destroying empires hostile to us, and this one is no differently fated. Being hostile to Christianity has a habit of turning out poorly for those responsible.
Nothing to do with reading comprehension, I never saw the response it either wasn 8767 t there before or I just plain missed it. But I admit when I 8767 m wrong, I 8767 ve gone and rectified the situation and torn apart that guy 8767 s pathetic theory. And for the record, of course I make my views public, there 8767 s nothing to be ashamed of. The one 8767 s that should be ashamed are Creationists (the most pathetic of all christians). Me, I 8767 m happy that I 8767 m not deluded. And another thing, I don 8767 t go round preaching randomly, no, I just respond every time I hear someone quote some bullshit gospel.
actually, Islam does not permit lust. what would that entail. think about what a crazy image you are suggesting. a muslim man, who is married, but lusts after other women, scoping them out as his 7nd wife. that is just so contrary to everything that we know is right. seriously if men have a sex addiction or lust issue, that is a disease of the heart and they need to seek Allah 8767 s guidance out of that. the way to deal with it is not to just grab another female body. this is so sad.
Imagine the look on her face when that nonChritian guy poised his penis in front of her 8775 innocent 8776 Christian vagina, which she so easily gave-up to him and didn 8767 t 8775 save 8776 for her virgin Christian husband she would marry & do missionary work with.
Perhaps she considered spreading her legs for that loser in the restaurant 8775 missionary 8776 work Imagine the guy burst her hymen in the 8775 missionary 8776 position. 🙂
I dont know why, maybe it 8767 s their culture of freedom, outside, they can look different from many other. But i felt in love with one, and I liked her so much since the very first moment. She meant to be stressed and teased by men but not valued like she was before: a gorgeous woman.
Now, every woman from every part of the planet deserves to be treated as woman, not a toy to use after or during a drunk. She deserves to be afriend, communicative, cuddles, maybe sometimes to be angry but never lacked of respect. That seems to be very common in Sweded, I dont say every sweden male treat badly a woman, but a lot of them especially generation are lacking of sensibility.
And from my point of view, it 8767 s weird
Now my story with that sweden girl went over not because there was not lack of love from both, but because my work, I was deployed so far away, and I was at that time.
What remains to me is a big funny happy sweet moments of warm wool and big heart, here in the deep of Italy. Still running all my love for swedes. Nobody is perfect, but the sweden males that I known, needs to grow in empathy and care with their women. at least.
8775 I think it 8767 s the biggest political scandal in 655 years. I don 8767 t have any children myself and this is the last thing I ever thought I would do is write a book about this subject, 8776 he said. 8775 I work in IT. I didn 8767 t want people to say I was trying to capitalize on this problem so I spent two years writing this book with the purpose of wanting to preserve for future generations the record of what happened.
I am one of those 8775 needs alcohol to socialize better 8776 kind of guy, unfortunately, and therefore my experiences are limited to parties and clubs. One thing that I like, though, is that usually in the morning if you 8767 re not too keen on saying 8775 hej, good morning! I 8767 m gonna make some coffee and a nice breakfast. Would you like some or do you have to go to class/work? 8776 you can just say nothing and the Swedish girl will notice and just leave. Then you will see her in school or in a party and you can act as if nothing had happened. This is hard to achieve in latin countries without some sort of sexual tension or strings attached.
When we first experience jealousy as children, we are taught to look at the bigger picture and at more important values in overcoming our jealousy for example, if we 8767 re jealous that a sibling or a friend has something nicer/ better than us, we are taught that what 8767 s most important is being happy for them, learning to share, and appreciating what we do have instead of what others have.
Why is it that as adults, we 8767 re somehow expected to forget these lessons when we are most in need of them?
An advice to the generation from a 8766 wise old man 8767 : When embarking to get married, first of all look into the mirror. Do you really think that you are 8766 oh so perfect 8767 that you can choose only the 8766 oh so perfect partner 8767 ? Realize your short-comings and accept the 8766 not-quite-perfect 8767 match. Inshallah you will both suit to each other and be happy
For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven,
And return not thither but water the earth,
Making it bring forth and sprout,
Giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater,
So shall my word be that goes forth from my mouth
It shall not return to me empty ,
But it shall accomplish that which I purpose,
And prosper in the thing for which I sent it.
You could come here and have a really succesful could also come here and get slaughtered and embarrassed,and because you don 8767 t speak the language,you probably wouldn 8767 t even know!
Try not to fall into the trap of 8775 generalizing 8776 mate,because doing that can get you into a lot of trouble.
There are Swedish guys who are real fannies and there are Swedish guys who 8767 d scare members of MS68! I hope you know which ones to call 8775 fussy 8776 son! )
Why is light skin the standard? That 8767 s the media 8767 s standard, making us think white people are the best and most beautiful people on the earth. (Nothing against white people). A dark skin person can be attractive too, and at the end of the day, a Muslim 8767 s standard of beauty is a person who fears Allah. The woman who fears Allah is beautiful, the woman who covers herself and is modest is beautiful. I 8767 m a fair skinned person (doesn 8767 t mean I 8767 m good-looking), and I prefer darker skinned girls. So don 8767 t worry sisters, there are some men out there who will marry you for who you are inshaAllah! Keep making dua to Allah.
Of the guys I got to know fairly well, none drank to excess, or at all while I was with them. They enjoyed good conversation. Some were more intellectually curious than others, some more mature than others. But most weren 8767 t the shy, repressed types that this blog promotes as typical. Nor were they obsessed with their looks. All were average-looking, one was overweight. I can only conclude that all the 8775 gorgeous 8776 men this site discusses are in Stockholm. Same regarding the women I only met average-looking women, and the ones in the north, at least, tended to be pudgy, though I didn 8767 t meet many. I 8767 m only saying there 8767 s a lot of variety of types in Sweden, as in any country.
I found your blog through oh, I don 8767 t know, some google search or other sometimes I like to read about places I 8767 ve been or lived in my spare time and thought your post on what is acrid and detestable about Sweden was a riot a laugh riot, that is, and I 8767 m not being condescending in any serious way I genuinely found it rather entertaining, as satire goes. The comments were something else, but then, obviously that 8767 s not your fault.
found this write up and the follow up comments very interesting and somewhat true in most regard I have to agree to one fact that have been stated here..I am an African that have been living and studying here in Sweden for a little 8 years now I have been with all sorts of Swedish , brunette, pretty and ugly ones..(Yea not all are good looking) I have been with more Swedish girls during my stay here than most Swedish men twice my age have. in fact I get more of them by accident than most Swedish guys do on purpose..I usually ask most of them why they end up being with me and the response is almost always the same which is that, they like the courage, audacity and balls I show by walking up to them and start chatting them up without have to wait until I am under the influence.
8775 For their entire lives these men have been taught that the women who do not wear a hijab and show skin are like whores, 8776 Akbari told WND. 8775 They also assume that only Muslim women who follow sharia rules for women’s dress and conduct, wear a hijab, lower their gaze, do not laugh or eat in public, and do not go out of house without their unmarriageable kin men escorting them deserve respect. 8776