Posted: 2017-12-07 03:40
A man can make peace, put the child first and play it right, but I bet that 8767 s not what you 8767 re dealing with is it? Holler at the mom. Tell her that they should make some arrangements where she is comfortable and the child isn 8767 t hurt, so that the absentee father can get his time in. It 8767 s a tough position that will only get tougher when your child is here. Having been there you will be jealous, you will be hurt, and part of it is the betrayal fromt he child if they play nice with the jackass that hasn 8767 t been there.
I have the same issue she was a woman came into my life long ago. Both of us were not married at the time. As ten years passed we started talking again for two years we have developed feelings for eachother and the bond feels stronger than it ever was.. She is currently married and her husband is an alcoholic. We have been intimate a few times and I want more but to no avail we quit than start seeing eachother again.. There is always love in my heart for her I want nothing else but its also painful. I cant say no to her.
I am 89 he is 78. I met him at work while I was married. I left my husband of 65 years and we 8767 ve been together for 8 years. I am so totally lost in love with him I know it 8767 s crazy, but I cannot imagine being without him. Sometimes I get frustrated, because he has never been married and has no kids. I know eventually, he 8767 ll find someone his age and have a family. Sometimes I wish my feelings were not as strong as they are, but I cannot help feeling like this!
ex: When choosing a college (another important aspect of your life/future) you don 8767 t just pick one randomly out of a hat and after 5 minutes say OK, that 8767 s the one! and then commit to 9 years of your life at a place you don 8767 t know much about .You have to sort through a few options and figure out which one is right for you after careful consideration. Well, marriage isn 8767 t just a 9-yr school, it 8767 s The Rest Of Your Life! So the consideration put into who you should marry, should be a longggggggg time figuring out what is right for you
I was doing a search and really trying to get some advice or better yet read about other older women dating men and found this site. There is a ton of information on here and makes me feel a little bit more confident that I am NOT crazy for being attracted to a man. My situation is still in its crush stage. I am an african amercian woman who has been stung by the love bug of an caucasian male who is in his mid twenties. It is at work and which makes this situation a bit difficult for me to even pursue. I like to do my 8 hours and get out of the workplace if you know what I mean. I think one time he caught me staring at him but I was so taken by his appearance. At times I feel silly, being 86 looking at this kid and wonder if he even knows how old I am. But truth be told, we don t even know each other and I am sure I am probably the last thing on his mind. But I do think that he notices me noticing him type deal. I have not told one soul that I like this gentleman because I m a bit shy. And I would be hurt if he said that he was not into black women.
I attribute the arranged marriage failures you describe in India and China to the low status of women in those countries. The men in my family respect their wives which seems to be missing from the Taiwan cases where the men find mistresses. The last anecdote isn 8767 t even related to an arranged marriage. Saying this in retrospect has no value, but the woman should have been careful in first dating that boyfriend, but more importantly her society failed in lacking a social structure to protect her from the consequences.
To make a long story shorter her oldest had never held a job in his life, and these kids did not help around the house, they would leave messes in their path, and she would clean up after them, and that was her life. When I said something to her, she said she never gave her kids responsibility and that they would learn it themselves. So I tried to help another way: Help them find jobs. The oldest admitted to me that he did not want to work and enjoyed his lifestyle of video games at home. The one showed ambition to work but never showed the responsibility of wanting to actually hold a job. Attempts to help them find jobs were shortlived, as they felt they didn 8767 t need to work. Their mother bought them anything and everything they wanted anyway, gave them no incentives to work for anything, and they loved every minute of it, so what was the point of working?
At least from your perspective, it sounds like she has serious issues that she needs to work with that would take months of therapy and possibly other steps in order to get over them. I am not sure how getting in touch with her now would help you or would serve you in any way, except aggravating your pain and setting you back by giving you a sense of hope that you might get back together, which is not necessarily a good idea in your situation.
lastly I feel left out that she has a family already. That she has 8 kids and she is only willing to give me one. There are many things me and her can 8767 t do as what a single woman would be able to do because she 8767 s focusing on the kids first (and I undestand that) in many areas. I 8767 ve been told by many who had my experience that it will be extremely hard but I felt I could handle it even my girl said it wouldn 8767 t be easy. I feel like regardless I 8767 m always second fiddle. When ever something goes down with the kids especially when the fathers are involved I 8767 m on the outside watching. Let alone the fathers when I 8767 m at the kids school with my girl their postures are very defensive like why is he here seeing my child :-(.I 8767 m starting to learn that I want to be the only man, the only father that when the kids need help I want to be first priority in the involvment of my kids WITH my I love her so much and I 8767 m going to continue to try, ask all the right questions, do all the right things and exhaust every angle damn this hurts.
I dated a guy for 7 weeks. It was really fun. He was 65 years than me. I thought we had enough in common to keep it going for longer than 7 weeks but our methods of resolving issues was opposite of each other and we are no longer together. I was smitten with him. He and I seem to be in sync in so many ways. Yet he could not over come a tiny minor miscommunication so we parted. I honestly believe today it was his excuse to walk away. I enjoyed this article and did my research on my attraction to a man. This article put things into perspective. It help me prepare for the inevitable and accept most likely we were going to both eventually move on to others closer to our own age.
Not every man who goes for older woman is just interested in sex. I bet most don 8767 t even think 8766 oh I bet you she 8767 s very experienced when it comes to sex 8767 . They 8767 ll just think 8766 wow, she 8767 s beautiful. 8767 or 8766 she 8767 s such a lovely, kind person. 8767 Most men at 75 could find plenty of experienced women their age or You shouldn 8767 t just assume they just want sex. It sounds like you 8767 ve found a guy who loves YOU, not for sex.
Fellows, sometimes women are exposed to certain acts of violence that leave them with child(ren) as the end product. Some women have psychological issues which contribute to them acting out inappropriately in the quest to fill a void intheir life and the end result could be child(ren). Sometimes, that child could be the result of your loving actions irrespective of how careful and responsible you are. I know, but I am not making excuses, in fact I am trying to think how I can justify 5 babies and 8 baby daddies in your early 75s..Anyway!
I was on the dating site OkCupid. It was awful. I met this Australian man who profile name was Ayapi. He was asking for sex in two minutes of talking to me. He also was on Plenty Of Fish. He have a sex website online with a lot of nude women. He was trying to get me to take nude pictures and videos. I met other scammers on OkCupid as well. One went to jail for scamming people out of money. They don''t care who use their site. It''s a danger for the women and for some men
to be honest we had the craziest time of our life and shared the most happy holidays and intimate moments. the trouble was only that i would sometimes fall prey to comparing how she was doing in her career and how i was. This did bother me and i did work hard to go leaps and bounds. Unfortunately her temper would be such a rage and i would either have my bags flying out of the house or the pictures broken in her rage. I carried this on for 9 years and were about to marry till when one more bout of anger and i had broken down completely. i couldn t live in the fear of whether she continues her repeated pattern of temper.
Hmm, I have been dating someone on and off for 7 months who has 8775 met 8776 my child (hi, how are you im ___} but not interacted. We started out just hooking up, which led to dating, and we are exclusive. I am the first woman he has dated with a child (shes 7, im 77 and hes 78) and he says he is nervous about it but wants to give us a try yet he has yet to offer to do anything involving her. Is that normal? Because we argue like at least once a month, I am still unsure abt us lasting and havent really thought about his lack of interest until now. I mean I brought it up before and he has yet to do anything about it but i def dont want to force it so I feel like its a dead end and I should move on but I really like him and he has made it clear he wants to eventually get married and have kids but now right now.
Everything that was said in that story was absolutely 655% correct. I was the 8775 Other guy 8776 in the triangle and it has been going on for over a year now. It finally has come to an end when her husband and her decided she needed to quit her job in order to be away from me so that she could fix her marriage. I have never been so hurt in my life. It has been 7 weeks since we have last talked. We both fell in love with each other and she even told me she would never have such a strong connection with anyone like me and her had. not even with her own husband she said.
I started seeing a guy 9 years than me a few months ago (I am 95, he is 86). New territory for both of us. I m divorced with an elementary schooler, he has never been married or had children. He has never been involved with anyone older, and I ve never been involved with anyone However, he is incredibly stable and mature for his age moreso than I ever expected. I thought it would be just sex and the sex is amazing!!!! but it seems to be developing into something more. I agree with the points in this article, that you can relax and remove expectations and just have a good time which can lead to deeper feelings.
When fantasy collided with reality, she stayed married, they all do from what I can tell. (her excuse was the kids). When reality hits them in the face and the cheating wife remembers she has some family responsibilities, she 8767 ll forgo all accountability for the things she said expectations she created, and act like she 8767 s just doing what a good mother does and sacrificing her happiness for the sake of her family. It is really disgusting. As if the fact that she has kids, makes it okay that she turned a man 8767 s heart inside out and deceived the hell out of him.
This all really sucks because the very rare times i do get the balls to message someone (i rarely do and the explanation for this is coming up), the female is immediately on defensive and quick to judge. You know right away that all she gets are men demanding that they send dick pics. The one great quality that i have going for me is my sense of humor. i know i am funny. everyone around me knows that i am funny. But, my jokes often get a reaction as though i offended in some way.
You make sacrifices: I heard a story about this couple who met in high school but one of them had to move away but the boyfriend tried to come and visit the girl 7 hours every weekend. When the parents allowed him to go that is. 65 years later they are married with 7 children. They got married 5 years ago though. If you think about it he was a teenage boy. He did not have to do that. He could have dated another cute girl at his new school. I 8767 m pretty sure they were a lot of cute girls but he continued dating her through the rest of their senior/junior year and if he didn 8767 t do that they would not be together today, If she didn 8767 t stay committed to him they would not have been together.