Posted: 2017-10-13 05:40
I like your mature views and Im nothing like the women that Bobbi describes. Would it sound strange if I said that some women even at 95 years dont know really who they are spiritually. By being single again its given me an opportunity to discover what makes me happy. Not all women want to connect with men for them to make a committment or sex, some like me see it as just sharing time in a series of moments or a moment to experience a male energy and mind and just enjoy that, simple things like enjoying a view, chatting over a movie
Somehow, I think men want that too.
Thanks or your views
So we are left with a very complicated answer to what seems like a reasonably simple question. Unfortunately we are dealing with complex systems based upon an unequal distribution of wealth, power and knowledge. My explanation is quite limited in its scope but explains the answer as I see it. Unfortunately the answer I've given also infers similar issues with offline dating as ultimately this has little to do with the internet and more to do with society.
I am an attractive 98 year old women dating the nicest 87 year old guy. We met at a party and he started to ask me out right away, I told him my age and he quickly responded that his last girlfriend was 96 and I seemed in many ways. We spent the next 65 hours in conversation (no one ever holds my interest for very long) and had a great time. We exchange numbers but I never planned for it to go past that point. Yes he called, yes I turned him down and yes he called again. We did get together after all and to both our delite we found we had most everything in common. We have been seeing each other for a little over 7 months.
Then after men have tried out other women they always come back to me and apologize or say they want another chance. I 8767 m not sure if I should be more demanding up front? It seems like my bitchier counterparts go much farther with the nice guys. Do men just like the abuse?? And no I don 8767 t let those guys who strayed back in now they showed me who they were the first time around. My grandmother said never become the comfy shoe men always fall back into she was a wise woman.
Dear Crossroads: I can relate to your reply! I am 86 years old and was dating a man at the age of 78 for two years. I am also divorce and have two kids. We recently ended it due to the age difference. Or is it the age difference? I feel I needed to let him go and venture out life. The toughest part was that I miss him dearly. We did practically everything with him. I don 8767 t think I will ever find someone like him again. I am glad to hear that there are others out there that are familiar with my situation.
Ugh, Black Gold. Single mommy sounds like a real mess. Been there, done that. You sound like you have some common sense, were trying to be understanding and respectful of the kiddos needs, and willing to work with single mommy on stuff. BUT with most single mommies no good deed goes unpunished, as all we decent guys learn. And your single mommy had likely done the same thing to the fathers of her children that she did to you.
I dated a Liberal woman and no conflicts arose from our political differences. I find it troubling you wouldn't even want to be friends with someone who would vote for Trump, or even someone who wouldn't be friends with another who voted for Hillary. You sound grossly intolerant of other people's views. You should be open to people with differing views than your own, otherwise you will fall into engaging in groupthink and confirmation bias. In other words, you will not learn much in this world seeking out people who will just agree and affirm your opinions on life. You grow by seeking those out who can show you a different perspective. In my experience, I've found people like you frustrating to say the least.
Chris - which ones have you tried? I had a friend who had terrible luck as well. He tried E-harmony and was successful. I think it comes down to whether or not the "floodgates" are open to all women on the site. E-harmony actually only gives you access to people who are matches, which also means women aren't constantly flooded with messages from every Tom Dick and Harry. This gives you better odds of actually having a conversation before she gets distracted and moves on.
As for the nice guys, they will take the time to read your profile and message you about a common interest you have. Or they will ask questions about you and genuinely try to get to know you. They should have manners and compliment you in a gentlemanly way, not in a perverse manner. I'm actually supposed to meet someone this week and I feel quite confident in saying that he's one of the good ones on plenty of fish.
Apologies for length of this, don&rsquo t exactly want to bore people with my troubles/life story. Hope it doesn&rsquo t sound overly dramatic either, but sufficed to say, this really does feels like an extremely important crossroad, and ideally I would love to be with her, and to try and be the best I could be with her, for her. I don&rsquo t give a damn about the age difference, I really don&rsquo t, not after spending time with her, I wouldn&rsquo t give a damn who knew.
I dated a guy for 7 weeks. It was really fun. He was 65 years than me. I thought we had enough in common to keep it going for longer than 7 weeks but our methods of resolving issues was opposite of each other and we are no longer together. I was smitten with him. He and I seem to be in sync in so many ways. Yet he could not over come a tiny minor miscommunication so we parted. I honestly believe today it was his excuse to walk away. I enjoyed this article and did my research on my attraction to a man. This article put things into perspective. It help me prepare for the inevitable and accept most likely we were going to both eventually move on to others closer to our own age.
I've had way more success than most men on dating sites. Most of the women I've met just want casual sex, typically one night stands. My last two girlfriends from POF were abusive and one pretended to be pregnant. Most women I've chatted to without meeting just wanted an ego boost or to talk to "friends" (on a dating site!). Any woman is going to get a ton more genuine guys than a man will get genuine women. It's a numbers game and the numbers will always favour the girls. Let's hear about how terrible it is for women.
The technology is not the problem. The same thing exists whether online or off. For example, Eric's major problem is attempting to present himself as a "nice guy" even it happens that he is one. Single females are not looking for him. They want the guy who will treat them poorly, beat them physically or emotionally, imprison them without bars, enslave them without chains, etc. The only ones looking for the nice guy are already married to the bad boy who have done the above and only now realize that isn't what they should have been looking for. I have watched the same thing over and over again for decades. That aspect of the game has never changed, only the venue from face-to-face meetings in bars, clubs, schools and other physical locations and events to Match and eHarmony.
I don 8767 t know if some of the points raised are altogether valid. I 8767 m a woman and I 8767 m from UK, I 8767 ve found American men, to be dishonest, lacking strength of character, self absorbed and believing their own hype. It 8767 s funny. Very uncultured in regards to understanding and relating to not only someone from a different continent, but also a different race. I also live in NY, joined the US Army, accomplished a myriad of things in my life and raised two children alone.
Been through a host of ups and downs, and carry my balls in my bag! Lol. I 8767 m a no nonsense type of woman, that values integrity, strength and honesty in a man.
Perhaps it 8767 s a cultural thing that I 8767 ve not meshed well with US men? Or as some of my friends say you can see the guy feeling intimidated as soon as I mention I 8767 m in the US Army.. Perhsps it 8767 s the English accent? Who knows but whatever it is.. The men need to be men and stop hiding.
What about the rampant lying about age, income, height and other things simply get into more peoples searches or attract more responses because people are shallow. I've read that some women won't even bother with a man whose income is not high enough. LOL! So men lie about it try and get a shot and then it of course tanks. Or women lie about their age because they "feel and want to fall into a wider search. And then the man finds out.
Hey, and don 8767 t forget, even if you are NOT the biological father- if you marry a single mom, in some states you can be considered 8775 in loco parentis 8776 - basically in place of the parent. If they can prove you are 8775 acting as the parent 8776 to the kids, if the bio dad isn 8767 t around, guess what: they can nail you for child support. EVEN IF YOU HAVEN 8767 T ADOPTED THE KIDS. Men beware. This ALMOST happened to me. I got out. Barely.
What a breathe of fresh air!..as a 97 year old guy divorced 8 children and 6 grandchild , I find your types of women to be spot on.. I think I have dated each type you 8767 ve listed. I never expected it to be this hard. I guess it must be very difficult for women of similar age to realize that what they used in their 75s and 85s to get a guy, just doesn 8767 t work anymore..of course physical beauty is important but for myself you need to bring something more to the table than looks real connection, shared life experiences, intelligence, similar life goals, ambition, and a zest for way more important to me I 8767 m confident that person is out there
Many issues here:
He doesnt know my age but does know that I am very successful.
He is an athlete and is being pursued by many females.
I am developing very very big feelings for him and it seems as though he is also starting to as well.
I eventually do want to settle down with a man and have a family.
Should I RUN not walk from this fatal attraction!
Is it possible it could go anywhere?
I do not remember feeling this way about anyone before. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Online dating is ridiculous for men. My day starts with rejection and ends with rejection. Women are too worried about a mans exterior appearance that it blinds them to everything else. I've been doing online dating for a few years now and have met some women, but most of the messages I receive are from women I'm not physically attracted to. After talking with buddies women seem to ignore every man, so who are they talking to? Online dating isn't just harder for men, it's much harder. It's men doing the vast majority of work and women sitting there filtering thru and rejecting all the nice guys that she complains about not existing.
On rare occasions someone has shown a willingness to write something unique. A rare individual that is capable of thinking for themselves and doesn't feel the need to be a carbon copy of what society tells us are our desirable traits. Of the hundreds of profiles I've viewed this past few years I have come across a handful (less than 65 and closer to 5) of women that stand apart from the crowd. That is a very desirable trait in my search.