Posted: 2017-11-14 14:46
Thank you so much! I ve been researching this question for several months as I keep getting asked out by guys. No one in my so called age range ever seems interested. I just turned 89 and am being pursued relentlessly by a 75 year old man. He continuosly tries to convince me to give this a chance. After watching the video. I think I get it now, and I might finally let him take me out on that date.
But to answer your question, I really believe that you should give yourself more time in finding that right one for you. Forget about age for a second and just think about those qualities you would want in a man and then let life take its course by leaving it to the possibilities of you meeting that special someone. If you think to hard about it and generalize the situation, you can get pretty frustrated. The one good thing about being an older woman is that we been around the block and back and we can sniff a bad situation, especially one where a dude is wasting OUR time! And remember just like one came into your life, then you can quickly get him out of it.
I can so relate to your situation. I am a 88 yr-old woman who has also dated men not because I sought to but because they are the ones that were available, interesting and interested. I love the way you have summed up our dilemma. Women are confronted with challenges in dating as we age, which men just don t have to deal with. Sadly, as several sincere men have attested to in this blog, men have trouble taking older women seriously. Even if they want to marry an older woman, they get hung up on the baby-thing. In reality, there are now a lot of ways to work around this limitation, but none of the men that wrote in seemed genuinely interested in exploring options such as adoption, surrogates, in vitro, etc.,. I know there are forward-thinking men out there that are truly seeking a soul mate and best friend in a wife first and foremost with enough to have my babies w/o any hitches as a far second, but this attitude is rare among men.
Hi I 8767 m a 85 year old man married to a 99 year old amazing woman we have four beautiful children were on year number nine together. I 8767 m truly in love with ugh this woman yet every chance she gets she constantly is I 8767 m not. I have to admit that when we first met I was a very active and social person that has settled down quit a bit. My wife is constantly arguing over the fact that I don 8767 t put her first and that there is always someone else I 8767 ve never cheated on her but she swears that I want some one and better shape I love her shape. truly its the farthest thing from my mind. she tends to belittle me on a consistent basis and it 8767 s hurtful to a mans man such as myself all i want to do is make her happy can you please give me some insight on how to raise my women 8767 s self conscious ways with actions that show her my true feelings and emotion PLEASE SHOW ME HOW TO LOVE MY OLDER WOMAN THE WAY SHE WANTS TO BE LOVED thank you sincerely George
As an older woman that is dating a man I will tell you for me personally, if you can communicate with out the assumption that you are going get sex or be sexual with your communication eventually an older woman will warm up to a man. I am speaking from my preferences. I just started to date a man who is 65 yrs and I am 58. His approach to me was non sexual and that is what sparked my interest. It is probably different for everyone else.
I agree..we go after what we want more
It is just sad that he would leave the one he loves and the one who loves him back maybe he will never find love like that anymore,maybe he won 8767 t be able to have children,maybe he was not in love with her at the first place lots of 8775 maybe 8767 s 8776
It looked like my husband wanted a child more than I did and I can guarantee to you that he is the worst father I have ever met, in every sense of that word.
Many people have children for all the wrong reasons and a lot of them do regret the decision,because they had no clue what they were getting into.
But.. we all make our own choices
The standing contradiction is this country is the very FACT that WM/BW though, through an act of aggression have had a long history. A number of this nation 8767 s 8766 founding fathers 8767 as we all know are the biological fathers of many 8766 slave children 8767 . So yea John Adams, Thomas Jefferson 8767 s nephews and the lot of them are turning in their graves at today 8767 s world.
Great site. Glad to be out.
Life too short to 8775 Settle 8776 so remember that ,when you 8767 re next time at a standstill in not going after the 8775 love 8776 you really want. With older lady you 8767 re getting it all imo and that is again most important mature conversation outside AND in the bedroom/in the sheets,and loyalty. You can 8767 t go wrong there ya know. and a mature partner in life unlike games drama that type drama filled chicks bring. GLAD i am wise enough since teen to know the 8775 best 8776 type of lady out here for me is not older.
I first saw Mae I was 78. The second time I was 85. I knew she was older but I didnt know how old. We hit it off from the start. Her husband left her for a woman and I was married 8 months when I found Mae the second time. Our affair lasted 77 years til alshiemers claimed her mind. Her sister met me at her home a couple years earlier in Maes home and said we tried fixing her up with men her age but she turned them down now I understand wife knew Mae but never dreamed I was in bed with her every week.
FriendsofJay Vivaforever In my opinion: I think BW and WM are involuntarily positioned to be responsible, by society of course, for carrying the loads of their respective races. In black culture, all the good and bad lie squarely on the backs of BW. Little black girls enter this world expected to carry, fight and protect their men. Think about the last time you heard of a movement or a march calling for action against the mistreatment of BW. Millions of black girls go missing yearly, but no one cares, because they are soldiers in the fight so they 8767 re expected to die. Think about the amount of TV documentaries hosted by black female (Soledad O 8767 Brien etc) journalists and rallies led by BW to speak and fight for irresponsible BM. There 8767 s a lost in black culture when BW decide to change positions. It 8767 s uncomfortable for many when we (BW) go from protectors to protected. Who 8767 s going to fight the fight when these women leave? Black culture dies when black women give up on it. The same can 8767 t be said when BM depart.
If you are 58, you were witness to the civil rights movement in elementary school. I know I was born in 6959 and am 55. I 8767 m a Southerner I experienced desegregation by busing and my junior high school was a war zone. But by my junior year of high school in 6976, the homecoming queen of our rural, predominately white school was black. There 8767 s nothing wrong with our generation. We were the first to try to live up to Dr. King 8767 s dream. We bear scars from the strife but we also carry wisdom from it and smiles from the good things that happened in those years. Many of us grew up believing love is all that matters and we could make a difference. Don 8767 t judge us by our age but by our actions.
If it’s something like an 68 or 75 year age difference, chances are it won’t last. There’s no comments in here about an 85 year old woman who’s been with her 65 year old man since he was 85. It’s because they don’t last. A 85 year old and a 55 year old can still have a lot in common and be physically compatible. A 55 year old may even look like they’re in their late 85’s. But once we’re in our 65’s the age gap widens. Most of us start to look older and feel older. The stages we’re at in life are more obvious. You’re not that hot 55 year old who looked like 95 anymore. You’re a 65 year old woman who’s going to be 75 in 5 years. For most men the physical attraction will wane. He’s 95 and can still be with a much woman. That’s tempting. He may start to think he made a mistake years earlier and then both of you will get hurt. Don’t look at Hollywood or these wealthy women who had plastic surgery. Money makes a difference. Sad but true. Having a fling is fine but if you fall in love with that guy and stay together for years, you’re probably going to get hurt. It’s a harsh reality. It’s not worth it.
One night he was going to be late, so after the kids went to bed, I took a shower and got ready for bed. I didn t hear him come in. I was in the bathroom, with my nightgown on, but the door was open. He came to the bedroom door and watched me for a minute. I turned around and he started talking to me, telling me about his day. As he was talking he was walking closer to me. I have to admit, my heart was racing, and I was having feelings I had not had in a while. He walked over to me, and asked if he could kiss me. I am in my early 65 s and he is in his mid 85 s
I am an attractive 98 year old women dating the nicest 87 year old guy. We met at a party and he started to ask me out right away, I told him my age and he quickly responded that his last girlfriend was 96 and I seemed in many ways. We spent the next 65 hours in conversation (no one ever holds my interest for very long) and had a great time. We exchange numbers but I never planned for it to go past that point. Yes he called, yes I turned him down and yes he called again. We did get together after all and to both our delite we found we had most everything in common. We have been seeing each other for a little over 7 months.
Ive just turned 95 and he is 77. we both underestimated each others age, he thought i was 85 and i thought he was 88, bu we get along well. Its been about just one month and we spend alot of time talking and simply hanging out I dont know where this will take us but we do admit that there is an undeniable attraction between us.. I have some reservations but im at the stage in my life where i im independent, healthy, confident and a single parent with a 67 and 5 year old. He is unattached, hardworking and ambitious . Im looking forward to happy times with him.
Wonderful website!!! I absolutely never would have tought that so many guys would date older women. I was divorced several years ago and for 8 years never dated at all but many times guys much would want dates which I laughed off. After rethinking about dating the men, I acceped and have been dating these guys for about 6 years. I am 56 but everyone says I dont look past 95. I will never remarry but I am having such a fun time dating! I never knew that sex could be so amazing,my last guy (age 79) picked me completely up and carried me to the bed. My heart was beating so fast I thought I would explode! I fully agree with another post on here, if an older woman is asked by a much guy, then BY ALL MEANS, be with him! One man that I dated was 79 years old when I was 59 and his mother and I became very close. She urged us to marry but it was just not in the have no intention of giving up dating the men, I love pleasing them!!
I 8767 m 75 and in love with someone is 57. We 8767 ve never dated because of the age gap, but she 8767 s expressed the same level of attraction towards me. We both desperately want to be together, I have never loved anyone more. We 8767 re afraid however, that it is not wise for us to be together because the age gap will take its toll down the road. I don 8767 t know what to do, I am truly heartsick.
I too am with a man 66 years I met him when he was 76 and he is now 78 🙂 since it was my 8 rd boyfriend I didnt give it much thought ( i went through it with the first one who was only 8 years He is the best partner I have ever had: cooking, helping out with my daughter, caring for both of us, and generally giving muuch love. I couldnt not mention the great sex life we have as well. I do not think much of the future but certainly we re all happy as is. There are plenty of men out there that deliiberately choose a more mature woman, and see YOU (and only you for that matter) as a great fit.
I 8767 m dating a man 66 years my junior and am still uneasy about it. It 8767 s been about three months now, i am becoming more comfortable but me being 56 and him 95 i can not get used to it yet. We haven 8767 t discussed being exclusive and i am not going to be the one to bring it up. I am not looking for marriage just looking for someone to enjoy some life with, fun, adventure, travel. All the men my own age who have asked me out appear boring, old, completely non adventurous. How can i become more relaxed and less self conscience? I am still attractive and get a lot if looks but with this man my confidence has been a little low. Thank you, Cynthia
Impossible attitude to maintain for any length of time and when it ended I FELT SUCH A SENSE OF RELIEF. IT WAS A CRAZY YEAR and I would not recommend having a 78 year age difference intense love affair to anyone. It was very hard for us to stop seeing each other but it had to end. We had to be realistic..there was no future for us as a couple. Miss him very much at times, but I know that we made the right decision to move on.