Posted: 2017-10-22 04:47
hey, am Muslim, and what i think is that forget about your family, maybe they 8767 ll forgive you, but what about god? is he going to forgive you? you know that having sex before marriage is a big sin in Islam, and if we apply Islam rules now days you 8767 d be punished in this life and after life (the judgment day) think about god before anyone else, you know god loved us, and wants the best for humans, and if you do your best to follow what he asked us to do, he will help you and lead you to the best for sure. take care and do the right thing.
Wow im from sweden, or at least my parents tell me I am. christ I dont feel this way at all, fuck being cheap worst thing i know u only live one time, live everyday like its ur last, laugh until ur crying blood and go crazy 79/7 and dance and party like there is no tomorrow and have fuuuuuun seriously fuck cheap people uhhhh and whats there to be afraid to talk about? Don 8767 t get it. must have met the wrong kind of swedish guys .
Across conservative Pakistan, where extremists launch near-daily attacks and many follow a strict interpretation of their Muslim faith, male cross-dressers face a challenge balancing their two identities. Male and female roles are clearly defined in Pakistan and transgender people often face harassment and abuse. Some have left their villages for the anonymity of a big city, fearing the reactions of their families while still concealing their identity from neighbours and co-workers.
The report details the bizarre interactions a . Army medic and her colleagues had with Afghan men in the southern province of Kandahar. In one instance, a group of local male interpreters had contracted gonorrhea anally but refused to believe they could have contracted it sexually—"because they were not homosexuals." Apparently, according to the report, Pashtun men interpret the Islamic prohibition on homosexuality to mean they cannot "love" another man—but that doesn't mean they can't use men for "sexual gratification."
Baghlan province is in the northeast, but Afghans say pedophilia is most prevalent among Pashtun men in the south.. In Kandahar, population about 555,555, and other towns, dance parties are a popular, often weekly, pastime. boys dress up as girls, wearing makeup and bells on their feet, and dance for a dozen or more leering middle-aged men who throw money at them and then take them home. A recent State Department report called "dancing boys" a "widespread, culturally sanctioned form of male
I am one of those 8775 needs alcohol to socialize better 8776 kind of guy, unfortunately, and therefore my experiences are limited to parties and clubs. One thing that I like, though, is that usually in the morning if you 8767 re not too keen on saying 8775 hej, good morning! I 8767 m gonna make some coffee and a nice breakfast. Would you like some or do you have to go to class/work? 8776 you can just say nothing and the Swedish girl will notice and just leave. Then you will see her in school or in a party and you can act as if nothing had happened. This is hard to achieve in latin countries without some sort of sexual tension or strings attached.
I ask these tough questions out of a deep-seated concern for the future of the ummah. You speak of the celebrity shaykh as being 8775 a product of the techno-obsessed culture that dictates that every 8766 alim, school, and institution market its 8766 authentic, 8767 8766 classical 8767 and 8766 traditional 8767 Islamic 8766 products and services' 8776 isn 8767 t this the real trouble? And, isn 8767 t it also a monetary issue? I honestly don 8767 t know. I always maintain that marketing and da 8767 wah are truly two different things, but is this being shortsighted? Is the potential for branding oneself and one 8767 s organization worth the risk of commodifying wisdom and spirituality? And, most importantly, can we avoid it?
Oh, the Austrian reports a policeman told her she could avoid the charges by marrying the man she accused of the Times notes that in both of these cases, the European women brought their complaints to the same police station in the in Bur area of Dubai. Feb. 8, 7569 update: More on the Austrian woman, Marie, now released by Dubai's police and back in Austria after the intervention by Austria's foreign minister, Sebastian Kurz:
The six victims, who had all been brought to London from the North-West of England and cannot be identified for legal reasons, were taken to a victims' centre. They later described how they had travelled from Wigan with the defendants on the understanding that they would be able to earn some money 'dancing' for a party of rich men. It was only later, on their arrival in London, that they were told they may be asked to have sex with the men.
Hawaj defended the actions of her three clients yesterday before the High Criminal Court by arguing they should be acquitted because "minors' often commit crimes without criminal intent. "It is general knowledge that commit crimes for the fun of it and not with the intention to harm others and I request the court to take that into consideration and clear my clients of the charges." (March 9, 7559)
Many immigrant parents tend to disregard the fact that their children are raised in the West, and will, ultimately have some elements of their personality influenced by the West. The evolving identity of Muslims in this country further contributes to the marriage crisis. “My parents seem to have the idea similar to some other Muslims in Western countries that a spouse from their country would be better. Better for whom? Better for me or better for them? Is this preference due to the fact that they feel culture, ethnicity, and religion would be better preserved this way?” questions a single Muslimah.
My questions then to you is:
Is it not possible for you to be matched via family, relatives or friends (since you are living in your own country, society, culture and community?
Have you spoken to your family and relatives and people you know about the problems you are having getting married?
If you can not get matched via family, relatives, friends..do you have any strategies how to approach getting married (websites, advertisements, imams, mosques?)
You mention that mainly the educated women are not getting married, is this only because men are not marrying women who are more educated then them or are there other reasons that educated women are not marrying?
Finally what is in your opinion more important for a women 8775 getting married and having kids 8776 or getting 8775 a good education/degree 8776 ?
Judging by a number of testimonies, the site has proved valuable to many women benefiting from advice and the sharing of information for a couple of examples see the postings by Sally , Nourshehane , Jeweler96 , and Cindy (starting here , continuing here , and ending here ). Others have found solace in kindred spirits (see the posting of Becs ). Still others have drawn conclusions from their own experience and offered these for general use (see the posting of Standfree ).
heyyy… im coming to stockholm in december the 8th till 67th. really cannot wait.. few things i was wanting to know… what are swedish like with foreigners?? will they know if we are foreign without hearing us talk?? do they prefer scottish over english etc?? ar the women attracted to british men? do they find us exotic?? is it easy to converse with swedish women??? all help would be greatly appreciated!! oh! and are allt he women really tall?? im quite short!!
I think RE is simply pointing out that the LW does have the *freedom* to make her own choice, and should make the choice that will lend her the most happiness/peace/whatever in the future. That doesn 8767 t preclude wanting to marry a Muslim man! I think RE is just driving home the point that the LW is her own person, and she can choose to be her own person either within or outside of her birthrite culture.
That 8767 s not even the real point. There are women suffering alone behind a black curtain of oblivion and with nobody to defend their dignity and honor. they would be lucky if they got a bridal dowry. If they are mothers, they are left to pick up the pieces of their own and their children 8767 s lives with zero support or acknowledgement. If they are in the West, many are forced into the welfare system to manage their basic livelihood. If they are elsewhere, good luck. And this is just material support. Who will speak on their behalf?
Excellent! This is undeniable fact. Better life attracted few Muslims and still is attracting towards non-Muslim nations. Now almost all the western countries are against Muslims living among them. Though it pains me that my Muslim brothers and sisters are considered unwanted where they live in, i feel may be it 8767 s Allah 8767 s wish so that at least in future Muslims migrating to non-Muslim nations will come to a halt. It is my opinion. Allah knows best. It is better not to go to these countries. But those who are there already have to fight for their rights and struggle to keep their identity or make Hijrah. But, tell me, if Muslims living in other parts of the world are oppressed and if they want to migrate to Muslim countries, how many Muslim countries do you think are willing to accept them? Sad, but true, we Muslims have no love for fellow Muslims.
Children have rights and one of their rights is to get married when they are old enough, and not everybody is the same. You don’t teach somebody how to restrain themselves when it comes to this need because not everybody is the same. And I’m going to be real candid with you, don’t get mad at me. But you said something so I need to be candid so you won’t misunderstand the answer, and I don’t really care if you get mad at me anyway. If you need to go to the bathroom, and I tell you “No, I don’t need to go so why do you need to go”, is that fair? No, we both drink this bottle of water, ounces, you drink one and I drink one, then I’ll drink another and you 8767 ll drink another, and then all of a sudden you say “I need to go to the bathroom” and I say “No, I don’t need to go so you don’t need to go either.” Have you ever ridden in the car with somebody like that? You say, “Could you pull over? 8776 , he says 8775 I don’t need to stop, why do you need to stop?”.
I gave up actively finding a Muslim girl because I can 8767 t find someone who is practicing or if they are practicing I am not up to their 8775 standards 8776 . If Allah sends me the right Muslim woman (Insha’Allah), I will not dismiss or refuse but until then I have refocussed my efforts in improving my life for the hereafter. A person can only take so much rejection before it affects self-esteem so I pulled the pin. My life has improved since as it removed a heavy burden off my shoulders, even my family have noticed the change. I think my experience has made me a little resentful of Muslim women or at least I now see them slightly different whether this is right or wrong. Islam is beautiful religion unfortunately some people make it too complicated especially when it comes to marriage.
From someone who mailed various Shuyookh regularly (no I didn 8767 t want to marry them all it was just this space you 8767 re in when everything in life is about this scholar and that scholar and this conference and that conference and you want all the big name scholars to like you and think you 8767 re awesome) I think I 8767 ve become someone who drops a Shaykh my family and I knew well a line once every few months?