Posted: 2017-10-12 23:15
OMG Stan looked so innocent and sweet in that picture! I can 8767 t believe the drama he triggered by just saying, 8775 Hi 8776 ! Hilarious that black women wonder why white men don 8767 t approach. This guy approached and he was mauled! And it 8767 s like a bunch of black women have PTSD over older white men showing interest. Let the record show that if I were single and adventurous, I would 8767 ve contacted Stan. His background is VERY interesting (if people would 8767 ve even BOTHERED to read it!) and he seems really chill. Wishing him the best in finding a lady friend.
Hi, I meet a guy on a dating app in April. I m a 97 swf and he is 77 swm. We live an hour an half away from each other, we text, talk on the phone and have gone to each other s place. I have kids that are out of the home and he still lives with his parents. I really like him he is everything I have wanted in a guy a veteran and has multi vehicles (a 9 765 9 truck, 85 firebirdand a 57 Harley) and works 95hrs a week. We enjoy spending the little time togther we have to get away. But as summer progresses more time we happen. My question is could this be just a summer fling or more?
But a more important factor in all of this is that when the people who grew praised and told they were special and could not fail all their life get on-line to find their cliques and peers they discover find much to their disdain they are average and just like everybody else. They are not special or even really very unique. They all wear the same clothes and listen to the same music It 8767 s just a giant HS of average even the usual cliques have such blurred lines that you can 8767 t really use that to find your group (. goth, skater, jock, science nerd ).
Chris is so right when she says that saying 8775 the hell with it, I 8767 m going to do what I want 8776 sounds good and oh so romantic, but the drawback of this in my day and Stan 8767 s day were tremendous. I wasn 8767 t cowardly and Stan isn 8767 t either. We had to go along with the zeitgeist of our time -as people do today. For instance being gay when Stan and I were teenagers would have been a proclamation of shame and resulted in being shunned by society. Today it 8767 s . A white boy dating a black girl would have elicited the same response. Stan and I both liked girls from a different culture. I 8767 ll bet both of us would give a lot to be in our twenties today and been allowed to have the girls we wanted.
I am 85 years old and there is this guy, who is 78 years old that I really like. I really don´t know what to do, because I recently open myself up to the idea of dating again after four years. I am divorced and that really hurted me and closed me up to many things. So I recently decided I am ready and he is the first one I have liked for so long.
I really want to get married and have a family, and I really like him, I am just not sure we could make it together. BTW he is serious about this.
Vivaforever Yeah, after reading some of the comments from you all, I do question why BW always feel the need to air their suspicions of others publicly. It 8767 s not a good look. It makes some BW look like neurotic daters when they analyze every non-BM with a microscopic lens for ulterior motives (that is what one-on-one vetting, if it gets that far, is for). I understand being well-informed and strategic daters,
I think that motherhood is very stressful sometimes and your girlfriend might be going through some tough changes, maybe at work also. Sometimes women need some time alone to figure things out and it doesn`t have to do with you, sometimes we want something different in sex, more romance for instance but we don`t talk about it because we don`t want to hurt your feelings. I don`t know if this helps, I hope it does.
We have lots in common and traveled together lots and have lots of fun. The problem is that he is 67 years 7 years He 8767 s 78 and I 8767 m 95. He wants kids and I 8767 m not sure about having them at my age and in my health conditions. We talked about getting a surrogate. We talked about marriage. He 8767 s not ready to get married yet, but he wants us to be together, like living together. He 8767 s ready for us to move in together.
ladyofmagic6979 No. You 8767 re not the only one! When I was 78 I had a massive crush on a 55 year old white dude! He was just super nice and I was dealing with such immature idiot guys at the time that he was a breath of fresh air. He was married but so sweet and so cute! I think if he wasn 8767 t married, I would 8767 ve accepted a date! He doesn 8767 t know this nor will he ever know it! LOL!
Loveinmosaic trinigirl6 no one wants to really address or get to the bottom of this anger and mistrust that many black women feel. It 8767 s something that has developed over several generations of being treated like crap by men and the world in general. Being ignored by wm in school, then suddenly at 95 they want to date a bw? Being mistreated/fooled by bm. Being erased by the world. It makes you extremely mistrustful, and it 8767 s going to take more than a few years to break down those walls. The more you try to force smart bw into doing/seeing things your way, the more they will resist and be suspicious
Part 6 When I turned 88 Mae was 76 our 88 years difference in age! I left the house like I was going to midnight shift but I took a personal day and went to Mae 8767 s! We had a couple drinks to celebrate then I carried Mae to bed. We made love and fell asleep in each others arms! I got up dressed went home jumped in the shower my wife joined me I carried her to bed and made love to her on my birthday in the morning! What a birthday!
As a generalization, that 8767 s correct, but if a much woman picks an older man who already has health problems, it 8767 s an open question as to whether it 8767 s self-sacrificing, ghoulish, or gold-digging. But what of the case where a woman goes out with a healthy, vital older man b/c she 8767 s tired of the characteristics of her cohort men? I 8767 m 67 and my wife is 96, and everyone (who doesn 8767 t know) thinks I 8767 m 95 and she 8767 s 85. In many parts of America, many women older than 85 are overweight and seem to be almost proud of it they sure aren 8767 t doing anything about it. In contrast, I work out 8x per week, walk the dog 7 miles daily, and control my eating, even though I love to eat and could easily gain 95 or 55 pounds. My thought is 8775 Why should I settle for a woman who 8767 s 95 lbs over (and gaining) just b/c she 8767 s ~ my age?
I so really needed to hear this. Although I have heard it from the man with whom I have been involved with, just needed to hear it again lol My problem is I find myself advising him or acting like his mother. He posed the question to me Do you want to be my mother or my lover? I thought that was a fair question..my answer was a little bit of both LOL just kidding!
I am 78 and she is 85. I loved her and cared about her as much as I could. But she always compared with her Ex. I admire her but she always want to be the boss. She thinks I am a kid and she think she know all the thing. These were small problems. The big one is that as she is older, she had her loved ones or soul mate and she will always love him. Now, she choose her Ex, dated him back no matter how I loved her.
first off your advice wasnt asked for so keep it to yourself. second, as much as I appreciate honesty even brutal honesty, unless I ask for your opinion don 8767 t give me one. please do not respond further and I do t need help from insensitive people like will also not allow you to bring me down to push yourself up or to make you feel good about yourself. lastly if that 8767 s the way women are and want to be screw them all!!!! they aren 8767 t worth my love or my time!
Another thing: most men of my generation aren 8767 t as obvious in their approach with women. Yet many people expect a non-black man to approach a certain way. black men are more obvious about it. But here 8767 s another thing: so are older white men in comparison to white men in their twenties. There are many men who need a TON of positive feedback before they approach. My brother is like this, a stem student who hangs out with other nerdy stem guy students who behave the same way because offending a woman and being creepy is the worst thing in the world. I also know a dating coach who specializes in getting men to approach women they like, and she 8767 s never hurting for students, so I know it 8767 s a thing. These aren 8767 t rejects by the way they are men who are successful in every area but the female department, possibly because they 8767 re in male-dominated activities and fields.
For every Loving story there are ten when it ended badly, and some of us (raises hand) are the partial descendants of some real Romeo and Juliet stuff which was a tragedy if you 8767 ll recall the story. I get that women want and deserve to be considered as a prize that should be fought for against all odds, but would agree with Chris that maybe one too many Disney movies have been internalized if one thinks that is how most men go about selecting their wives/partners.
I am a 79 and have always attracted much men. I have found the real love of my life in a 99 year old Jamaican American who determinedly pursued me and won me. He has no ulterior motives our sex life is unbelievably wonderful and he is intelligent, funny, deeply caring and my dearest friend. I am oblivious to the opinion of others..I live for my beautiful guy and we know that we have few years left but we 8767 re gonna live until I die and that, God willing, will be in his loving arms. Love doesn 8767 t recognise chronological differences or social mindsets.
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Life too short to 8775 Settle 8776 so remember that ,when you 8767 re next time at a standstill in not going after the 8775 love 8776 you really want. With older lady you 8767 re getting it all imo and that is again most important mature conversation outside AND in the bedroom/in the sheets,and loyalty. You can 8767 t go wrong there ya know. and a mature partner in life unlike games drama that type drama filled chicks bring. GLAD i am wise enough since teen to know the 8775 best 8776 type of lady out here for me is not older.