Posted: 2017-12-07 14:41
I 8767 m dating a Coptic Egyptian man, and I constantly hear from my dad:
-about being beat up
-having to walk way behind him
-having to sit in the back seat of the car, not up front (it 8767 s happened, but only because his cousin was here, and I let him sit up front my dad won 8767 t listen to my reasoning)
-the smell -.-
-about being forced to convert to his Christianity (I 8767 m making the choice myself, I have reasons why, not just for marriage).
And then 8775 what if he turns Muslim, then he makes you wear that thing, can 8767 t you divorce him? 8776
It s true that independence and power is valued more highly in Western women, whereas Eastern values traditionally emphasize community and social harmony, and are unfortunately more patriarchal. This may influence the behavioral traits of some Asian women. However, men sometimes take this to feel remasculated in their interactions and perceptions of Asian women because they can experience feelings of dominance, power, and wealth (real or imagined) — especially in Asia, where some women cater to these fantasies for personal gain, or associate with Western men as a status symbol. There s fantasy built into the idea of dating a Westerner, too, which makes them appealing to Asian women the stigma goes both ways. On the other hand, there s also a common notion among more affluent Asian women that the only men who hang around chasing women in Asia are just creepy losers that can t find a girl back home.
Canada does the same thing. The snooping doing the god thing of trying to assess if our marriage is not fake. My husband is Hindu so don 8767 t think it is just the Arabs. Preparing here to move to Bombay India. Sorry Canada he did not marry you, He married me. Married couple often give gifts on marriage of lingerie etc. show evidence of gifts. Well the Canada government has on file photos of our underwear. Six months winter, rainy stuff another 8 months. Maybe 8 good month of nice weather. Life so easy in Canada? We work darn hard. Another myth of the easy life.
Even though my husband is not Arab, but a Pakistani, I can totally relate! When we got together I heard lot of concerned voices saying that he 8767 ll force me to convert to Islam, make me cover up, keep me at home as unhappy stay-at-home wife, that he 8767 ll want to take me and future kids to Pakistan and keep us there forever The list goes on and on 😉 Oh yes, and the 8775 dirty 8776 thing, just because his skin is darker than mine I don 8767 t think I 8767 ll ever quite understand this one 😉
Congrats! Love is a gift. Couples that marry from different cultures embody world peace and harmony.
May you always have the joy and richness these marriages do am a Canadian married to an Indian HIndu man. I am allowed in here because there is not the narrow mindedness. And we love the food.
It does get better with the people who love you. The rest, well have a hearing problem.
We recently found out that he literately married someone else and the very next day was bringing flowers to our daughter after she had a break down and was admitted into the psychiatric ward to get help. He saw her weaknesses and prayed upon her. As her parents we are heartbroken and trying to help her get away. She has gone to court to get a restraining order. He continues to threaten that she will not be able to every see her son again if she divorces him.
You''re so judgmental for your information we are Asians our parents taught us how to be conservative take care of ourself especially when it comes to virginity. You guys arab men, muslim many of you like virgins but even the guys on your country are not virgins pretending you''re holy but it''s not. That''s what you call hypocrissy. You are hypocrite. Some of ypur women are involved in pornography how come ypu can say your women there are pure? C''mon! Great pretender!
There is a lot of baggage that comes with marrying an Arab man. The American reference point for this part of the world is limited to what they see in movies and what is on the news. Sure there are some Americans who have been to this part of the world but they are few and far between. The media view of Arab men is less then stellar, so it shouldn 8767 t come as a big surprise that there is a lot of negativity linked to them from the general public. I really wish I would have kept a notebook with all of the comments I have received over the years. One of the most surprising facts for many Americans I 8767 ve spoken with is the fact that there are Muslim and Christian Arabs, and that Christian Arabs (shock) use Arabic for their services and in fact use the word Allah for God. Most assume all Arabs are Muslim.
We have had people call him a terrorist (not so much in Canada, but when we have gone on vacation in the USA a couple of times), and make assumptions about him wanting to convert me (he was glad that I believed in God, and had good values that was enough for him he agreed to be married by my minister after meeting with her and talking to her) also people feeling that I must be his servant, but we actually serve each other he cooks more than I do (he is a chef), and we equally clean and take care of each other. He is very attentive and considers me his queen, and I, in turn, treat him like a king. And he has turned out to be a very loving, affectionate, intelligent, funny man who cares about family and has strong values Which is what men in general should be 🙂
In my life, I''ve often encountered a certain type of Western guy who was attracted to Asian women. He tended to be older, white and yes, creepy. I wanted to know why, so I set out to make a documentary. What emerged five years later, after hundreds of hours of research, including interviews with men and women who posted ads for Asian women on sites like Craigslist and Asiafriendfinder, was "Seeking Asian Female" , an eccentric, tender and at-times uncomfortable love story between a 65-year-old American man and his 85-year-old Chinese fiancée. I''m also creating a companion project, " They''re All So Beautiful ," an online video series and forum to discuss the nuances of race, romance and " yellow fever."
There s another prospect to consider: Asian men in Western media have the unfortunate tendency to be depicted as being nerdy, feminine, comical, and shy. That, or kung-fu masters (which I find hot, but perpetuates an annoying stereotype). Older men are portrayed as being conservative and patriarchal. They are often desexualized and portrayed as not belonging in America. Although it s changing, there simply aren t very many positive representations of Asian men in Western culture, and this negative image may very well affect the perceptions of Asian women living in the West.
I have a similar experience, although we broke up before the wedding. It is a good thing the red flags exposed themselves before the wedding or else I would 8767 ve had a troublesome marriage, he too is an Arab Christian. I know one size does not fit all, this is just my experience with one Arab man and his family. Although I do think some of the things that happened could happen from someone in any culture, I also do believe that certain cultures have a certain mindset/ traditions that differ from other cultures that can be troublesome if BOTH partners are not open minded and open for compromising. For example, arabs tend to be collectivists, while westerners tend to be individualists. This difference, from my experience, can cause a lot of issues if both partners are not willing to compromise and put themselves in the other person 8767 s shoes, have understanding and empathy.
And about beating yes im sure if i marry with him, he will beat me.. %6555 sure..Dont forget honor killings very common in arabic world (espacially in palestine )even women not guilty.. I think arabic people not suitable for european and american or girls. They are very weird very you want to destroy your life, continue. They can marry with moroccan, egyptian or sryian with us.
That being said, I still struggle with whether to say 8775 Berber 8776 or 8775 Amazigh. 8776 You can 8767 t say the latter easily in English, and it 8767 s more likely people have heard of 8775 Berbers 8776 than Amazigh. I know many people who are Amazigh who call themselves 8775 Berber, 8776 and have never been faulted for it. But the etymology is problematic, and Amazigh free people is much more representative. But I still use them interchangeably
This is so sad. My Russian mother married my South African stepfather in 6996.
Oh the comments 8775 she married him for the papers 8776
Who in their right mind wants to live in South Africa???!!!
8775 How do you cope with cultural differences? 8776
Like what do they expect for her to sacrifice chickens?
And my personal favourite 8775 Do you know what coffee is? 8776
In our interviews, we heard these sorts of comments frequently: "Asian women are better lovers." "Asian women are sexier, wilder." The truth is, sexual stereotypes abound for women of all ethnicities, yet are often more extreme for Asian women. Compared to other fetishes on the internet, such as leather, shoe or redheads, "Asian women are fetishized more than any other fetish," says Prasso. The harder truth is, the Asian sex (and trafficking) trade remains one of the largest and most lucrative in the world, making Myth No. 9 partially true. If you pay for it, sex with Asian women is "easy." This may sound obvious, but not all Asian women are prostitutes, and none of the women we interviewed believed Myth No. 9 to be true.
its really broke my heart that you women suffers from arab men. im so sorry about what happend to you girls and i feel your pain but you have to know that your fingers arent the same (arab saying) truth to be told you have to blame your self like tiny tiny blame its like 6% blame. why did you marry him at the first place. still i hope you luck change and it will and evry thing happend happend for a reson. forgive me about my funny english its really hard to me.
This doesn''t go for just Arab guys but all guys.
When looking for a good guy: look for how he treats his sister/mother.
Would you like to be treated how he treats his sister/mother?
You aren''t his sister or his mother but you will be living with him if you get serious and they both know how he is when he''s at home so get used to him at home. (Does this last sentence make sense? lol )
I''ve noticed this behavior with most Arab -rich- guys by the way. I guess all that money gets to you.
I also love how because I happen to be a hijab wearing Muslim as well as being married to an Arab Muslim man, that means that I converted for him or he made me convert and cover my hair. Never seems to cross people 8767 s minds that I actually have a mind of my own and am fully capable of making my own choices in life. Incidentally, I converted before I even met another Muslim let alone my husband and he is one of those Arabs who couldn 8767 t care less what I wear. MAJOR pet peeve, it 8767 s incredibly insulting!
Thank you so much for your insight. I will be going to meet someone from Morocco that I met online. Of course, when I read these types of posts on here it makes me very sad. Many of them are so negative. Basically, everything you have mentioned in your comments is correct. It is very sad people are so judgmental. It is poison to the rest of us who love someone regardless of racial background or religion. I could only hope to become a wife and mother of this man 8767 s children. It is natural that if you love someone, the desire to form a bond is there. We both could care less what geographical plain we live on. Take care.