Posted: 2017-09-27 09:53
Most online dating profiles have three levels of 8775 About Me 8776 details, starting with basic (usually mandatory) details such as your gender and age. Most also have 8775 tick all that apply 8776 pages covering interests, ethnicity, religion, smoking and drinking habits, height, weight and so on. Last but not least is the dreaded 8775 free style 8776 section the part that people have most trouble with.
This text belongs to a friend of mine, and he’s not totally lost when it comes to online dating. He manages to set himself apart by commenting on the way other guys tend to write profile texts at first you think he''s serious, and he seems like a douche of epic proportions, then it quickly dawns on you that he''s being ironic. It''s a way of creating an emotional build-up, like I discuss in my book.
Other guys will usually exaggerate how much they earn this guy does the opposite − he plainly states that he doesn''t have much money. However, between the lines he''s communicating that he knows he''s an attractive guy, and that he''s used to getting girls without trying to impress them. He describes himself as difficult, and he starts off by telling girls to stop reading he''s using the tried and true stay-away-from-me schtick, creating a barrier between him and the girl to make himself more exciting, as opposed to trying to persuade her to give him a chance like most guys would do.
When you find a connection that interests you, get in the habit of setting up a coffee date or exchanging phone numbers or Facebook information within the first five to ten messages. As much as it seems that you have in common with your potential partner, you’ll never really know if there’s sexual or emotional attraction until you meet them in real life. So value both of your time and get off the site as soon as possible.
It’s a profile, not therapy. Most of us have been lied to, stomped on, cheated, or in some way used or abused. Unless you’ve been living in a cave and never been on a date, you’ve probably been hurt. We get it. It’s fine to get back on the horse when you’re thrown, but keep those emotions out of the profile. Don’t request the obvious, or it becomes obvious you aren’t in a good place to be dating.
My name is Sondre and I''m an obsessive guy. I''ve spent the better part of a decade studying how attraction is kindled by text and images, and through interviews and experiments I have figured out how to create a profile that appeals to exactly the kind of women you want to meet. Through I have helped regular guys get extraordinary results, and now it''s finally your turn!
Yes, post the best picture you can. Pictures are important. You can even doctor your pictures a little bit. If you don’t have PhotoShoppe, I recommend Pic Monkey. It’s free and easy to use. We all have that one picture that’s awesome but the light was terrible, or the background was cluttered, or the angle gave us a turkey neck we really don’t have. Feel free to touch it up and put your best forward. Pic Monkey can help. Just be mindful that touching-up and completely-and-utterly-altering are two different things.
I am looking for someone with honesty and integrity. Please be who you say you are please no game players! Please show a recent photo (get out of denial, yes, you and I both have aged hopefully, gracefully, lol!) We all wish we looked and felt the way we did 65 years ago! A person with a good sense of humor A smile goes a long way make someone happy today! My profile says I am 55 Sorry, I wasn 8767 t able to change it I am .. 56!
I would highly recommend taking a few precautions to avoid overindulging in never-ending profile scanning. First, focus on your profile and make it as you-congruent as possible before looking anywhere else on the site (point #8). Next, search the site using highly-targeted filters that present you with your best possible matches. (Some dating sites charge for this feature but it is often worth the low monthly cost!) And finally, if you know that you have an addictive personality when it comes to searching through stimulation, set a limit to the number of profiles you will allow yourself to see on a daily basis.
He sounds off with the seemingly mandatory part about working out and a little section about his job. By all means, it''s expected and perfectly normal to write a few paragraphs about what you do for a living, but in this case the phrase, "I spend a lot of time working" kind of makes you feel like he''s wishing things were different. He would be better off focusing on the positive aspects of what he does − the stuff he likes about his job. Once again, the tone of the words you choose matters.
Nevertheless, this text is teetering on the edge with its heavy use of irony and comparatively harsh and negative words. Girls react differently to it some find it obnoxious and offensive, others love it for its fresh and rebellious approach. Furthermore, there are some really good tricks that it doesn’t use in my book, I discuss a lot of different techniques for writing captivating texts, and I also include an example highlighting an effective and seldom used strategy called "cracking the shell".
Are you interested in things that you think aren’t necessarily very attractive? Perhaps space travel excites you. Or maybe you really love chess. Possibly you find elephants to be the most interesting creatures. Or it might be that anime really gets you fired up. Luckily, the internet allows you access to millions of women and chances are there is someone out there who gets just as excited about those things as you do!
Then he follows up with a little callback humor, returning to the running tights and using the old sounding word “don” to create a quirky effect that probably will make some girls smirk. He starts to describe what he''s looking for, and he uses a tone that makes him seem particular and specific whereas the first guy basically said, "as long as you''re a girl, I''m interested" this guy seems to be more demanding. In reality, though, his demands aren''t all that excluding it''s the way in which he makes them, the tone he uses, that give an assertive impression.