Posted: 2017-10-11 23:22
When I was in my teens, I was very 8775 lovestruck 8776 with my best friend 8767 s brother. Let 8767 s call him Matt. He was 8 years older, and it felt difficult for me to control those feelings because our families were close and spent so much time together. I didn 8767 t want to consider any other guys without comparing them to him and I often dreamed of how he might finally like me back.
The Damsel in Distress type is just that, in distress. Her boss is a jerk, her job sucks or she 8767 s between jobs. Her ex was a jerk and she 8767 ll gladly tell you all about how awful he was when she was the perfect partner. Oftentimes the damsel in distress has lost her kids or is on the verge of losing them due to the choices she has made in her life. There may even be drug or alcohol abuse but that will only materialize later.
Yup. I 8767 ll just have to see what happens in a few years My parents sometimes make it harder when they 8775 joke 8776 by saying what they will do when they are grandparents. It 8767 s like they are going to decide and already have decided what is going to happen to us. It 8767 s like this: I 8767 m a girl, so I talk to Mom about things, but she is rather... big mouthed about things and will start talking about everything that she has told me before and will remind me a thousand times about what I am going to go through because I 8767 m thirteen in the GROCERY STORE! Believe me, THAT is embarrassing. Sometimes it is super annoying when you get a little to much info.
Hope all of that didn 8767 t make you too uncomfortable, but I need to talk to someone who isn 8767 t one of my parents. Thanks for being here when I need help.
However, nearly impossible to shake biological urges, and in conflict. The conflict is understanding the logical aspect of value in this and how it is self defeating at this point in life, yet on an emotional level, it almost seems to be a factor of disappointment to the fact that things could have been different, and that 8775 I 8767 m giving up too easily 8776 . So, I almost resent this decision to remain as I am, for the greater benefit.
Hi Katy. I 8767 m sorry to say but you are describing a lot of men and women. We can all make judgments based on the dumbest things. In fact, I just finished my Fix Your Man Picker course that teaches women how to attract and choose men who will truly make them happy.
So don 8767 t be down on men. Not ALL do this. Also, there are things you can do that will help you a ton. You can help men get to know in an authentic, fun and meaningful way starting on the first date. Check out this month 8767 s free webinar: Strong Femininity: How to Turn on the Man Who Turns You On. You can get it here for free. Let me know what you think! Bp
andy, this is why I haven 8767 t had a single offer from anyone for over 65 years, I 8767 m judged as physically ugly all the time, even in my 75 8767 s I had this problem almost all of the time. maybe also why I experience over 6/9 of women trying to pick fights with me for the way that I dance (more often I 8767 m sober also as I don 8767 t often drink alcohol now, at age 89, I still maintain gym shape, and healthier foods, go to social dance events and I sense hatred from even the females who dance there maybe the uk just isn 8767 t for me as I don 8767 t get such horrible experiences abroad anywhere near as much I 8767 m really not the aggressive thug/matcho type of man and in the uk, this can be also met with maligning disgust from even the average person)
I don 8767 t know if some of the points raised are altogether valid. I 8767 m a woman and I 8767 m from UK, I 8767 ve found American men, to be dishonest, lacking strength of character, self absorbed and believing their own hype. It 8767 s funny. Very uncultured in regards to understanding and relating to not only someone from a different continent, but also a different race. I also live in NY, joined the US Army, accomplished a myriad of things in my life and raised two children alone.
Been through a host of ups and downs, and carry my balls in my bag! Lol. I 8767 m a no nonsense type of woman, that values integrity, strength and honesty in a man.
Perhaps it 8767 s a cultural thing that I 8767 ve not meshed well with US men? Or as some of my friends say you can see the guy feeling intimidated as soon as I mention I 8767 m in the US Army.. Perhsps it 8767 s the English accent? Who knows but whatever it is.. The men need to be men and stop hiding.
The problem is I haven 8767 t had a date since and I 8767 m now 96. I 8767 m tall and very athletic. I bike 75 miles a week. I have a decent if not high paying job and own a really nice home, I have a college degree but I simply hate asking women out. The women my age are past having children. I tried online dating but it seems a big waste of time reading profiles and writing messages that go unanswered. The sites I 8767 ve tried are full of fake profiles and scammers, women who ask my salary before my name and very few who are willing to date someone older looking to have kids. Mostly single moms and very heavy women who would not fit my active lifestyle.
I hear ya, Hank. But those 75-somethings will bore you to death. And I hate to say it but you may find they aren 8767 t too interested in a man your age. (At least for any good reasons.) You know how lovely and fun and interesting more mature women can be! Don 8767 t give up on them. Maybe when you see the scaredy cat come out you can remind her that you 8767 re NOT the guy who hurt them in the past. Encourage them to give you a chance? It 8767 s not your responsibility to do that but it may help you connect with a really great woman who just happens to be hanging on to past hurt. Thanks so much for your comment! Bp
lol. I know the feeling. My dad just started talking about girls to me in Books-A-Million. (Aka BAM! ) loi. But honestly, the reason they probably do that is because that 8767 s the only real time they have with us. The rest of the time we 8767 re on our phones, computers, video games, or where your siblings can hear by putting their ear to the wall from their bedroom. So, other then a car ride, that 8767 s all they really have.
Hi Sarah. Hell no, this is a great time to find love! The main reason we get scared is that we don 8767 t trust ourselves to make good choices with it comes to men. Sound right? so let 8767 s get you started on the path to do that. Once you trust yourself, not only won 8767 t you be scared, you 8767 ll be excited to meet more and more men! Get started by giving this a read http:///why-you-keep-attracting-narcissists Be sure you 8767 re on my mailing list, Sarah. If you 8767 re not, you can take my FREE Man-o-Meter test here: http:///man-o-meter-7 Stick with me. We 8767 ll get you there! Bp
That said, there are somethings you need to think about One is to make sure dude is being sincere For reals, a lot of guys around my age get off on the rush of having a girl be into him. He is in a position of power, and may have certain legal implications he has to consider. Lastly, you know, there are college professor types that consider it a benefit of the job that they can show off the occasional co-ed
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This is really wonderful advice! Even though I hear it from my parents, it is good to hear from someone else. I really like a guy who also likes me. He is saved and I have known him for a year. But I am not allowed to date right now so we have just been friends. But I am devastated because his family just left the church and so did he! It feel very frustrated because how are we supposed to ever be more than friends if I don 8767 t see him again!?! My parents tell me that if it is God 8767 s will, it will all work out! But still frustrating because sometimes I like to plan things ahead of God!
Perhaps because he appeals to our most primal instincts by possessing two of the major masculine attributes. Most of them will not back down from a fight. Meaning he proves that he can protect (physically) and provide (hunt/kill prey). Sadly, he also lacks all the other, positive masculine attributes. Still, if a woman isn 8767 t used to being surrounded by those traits, I can certainly see why a man like that will excite her.
The 6 types are accurate but not necessarily exclusive. If I could suggest two it would be the Quizzer or the No Time I 8767 m Busy. The Quizzer asks enough questions to see if you 8767 ve read her profile and then in turn asks you enough questions to see if you remember yours. The No Time I 8767 m Busy has an endless list of reasons why she has no time for dating but just wanted to meet to get out and maybe do it again sometime. My experiences with online dating are average, a couple dates a month. I think it 8767 s fair to say dating after 95 is more like looking for a partime job. Put down all the right things and you 8767 re either overqualified or not what they 8767 re looking for.
Hi Angela. I appreciate that you shared your story with me. There is so much for me to say and I can SO help you! No, don 8767 t throw in the towel. No, men don 8767 t just want dumb, blonds. No, being a woman who asks for what she wants (aka demanding) is not being bitchy it 8767 s taking care of yourself. Please read this article if you haven 8767 t yet: http:///needy-women-get-the-nice-guys ALso, Are you a member of my Grownup Girls 8767 Night Out monthly free coaching? You can register here for free. Please let me help you, ok? You sound like so many women that I 8767 ve coached and help lead to wonderful love. Glad you 8767 re here. Bp
Of course it 8767 s not too much to hope for, Josie!!! I see proof of that every day. Thing is, if you 8767 re not meeting the right men it 8767 s because you are choosing and attracting the wrong ones. The man you describe most definitely exists! So think about what you might do differently to start attracting quality men. I highly recommend that you watch my Grownup Girls 8767 Night Out webcast for this month. You can find it here it 8767 s free 8776 http:///ggno This could be something you can shift that will make a huge difference. Stick with me. I will help you! He 8767 s out there for you. Hugs. Bp
Hi Pietto. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Your comment is so welcome. I am going to share this on my Facebook page also, because you said it so well:
what they used in their 75s and 85s to get a guy, just doesn’t work anymore..of course physical beauty is important but for myself you need to bring something more to the table than looks…real connection, shared life experiences, intelligence, similar life goals, ambition, and a zest for life.
Pietto, there are women like this out there. You can help them by bringing all of that to the date yourself set the tone and the right women will follow. Someone has to do that doesn 8767 t matter if it 8767 s the man or woman. But when both of you are waiting for the other to start some grownup conversation and show openness nothing happens. Thanks again. Happy to have you join us! Bp
Then after men have tried out other women they always come back to me and apologize or say they want another chance. I 8767 m not sure if I should be more demanding up front? It seems like my bitchier counterparts go much farther with the nice guys. Do men just like the abuse?? And no I don 8767 t let those guys who strayed back in now they showed me who they were the first time around. My grandmother said never become the comfy shoe men always fall back into she was a wise woman.