Posted: 2017-09-30 20:13
Men reject women for small boobs, short legs, and flat butts. All these characteristics could exist in a woman of healthy body weight with a healthy body style, yet many men (not all ) act as if morbid obesity is the ONLY reason why a man rejects a woman based on her physicality, and the go on to say they are really only rejecting the lifestyle and the character flaw that obesity is a reflection of. Now THAT is total non-sense. I have no problem with men having a physical type, and if that means a woman with short legs gets rejected, so be it. BOTH genders are entitled to their own unique set of attraction triggers. An OKC study showed that men only pick the 9 8767 sand the 65 8767 s to write to. And men say that is perfectly OK. But a woman having her own attraction triggers ? Many men say 8775 not OK 8776 .
I agree there is a lack of respect for men in America but some men don 8767 t deserve respect because of their trashy or egotistical behavior.
You are a good example of that. Short men like any other men don 8767 t need anybody 8767 s sympathy. I just saw how this story points out women 8767 s shallowness because the subject is always men 8767 s shallowness. No one is arguing that either side is shallow, both men and women do basicly the same thing, which is the point I have made dumbass.
Rusty it 8767 s like you are doing a lot of talking but not understanding my point. It sucks you cannnot cut me off and mid sentence like you probably would do in your dailey life. You cannot simply dismissed my point because you feel someone who is short should not have an opinion. I will keep on responding until you finally get it.
Sigmund Freud and others in the field of psychoanalysis - in the late 6855s and early 6955s - would have had good awareness of many aspects of body language, including personal space, but they did not focus on non-verbal communications concepts or develop body language theories in their own right. Freud and similar psychoanalysts and psychologists of that time were focused on behaviour and analysis rather than the study of non-verbal communications per se.
I’ll admit it, I’m a little old-fashioned when it comes to my dating style. I open doors and like to go for drinks AND dinner on the first date. But it’s all part of what makes me a gentleman. I’m looking for someone who is always up for life’s adventures but doesn’t mind staying in and watching a movie when the weather calls for it. I’m a sucker for dogs. I rescued a lab a few years back and we’ve been best pals ever since. I try to eat healthy but I have a major weakness for pizza. Let me know if you want to go get a slice!
And no, I will not let a guy spend my weekend with my kid with us - not until I''ve gotten to know him properly and we''ve been seeing each other for a while. It''s to protect my child from getting instantly attached if there is no intention of commitment, and also just in case he is a deviant who preys on single mothers to get to their children. It happens, so I am very cautious. And also the reason why I can''t understand why anyone posts picture of children in their profile - whether it''s their own children or their niece/nephew/godchild. Dating sites are full of perverts. Keep children''s pictures off them. (Sorry, that was going off the topic).
Hey, I just wanted to say thanks for all the advice here. It was a pleasure to read. A friend of mine has been struggling with his profile, and was convinced that he was the reason he wasn 8767 t getting much interest. I 8767 m never for tricking anyone, but I told him online dating is as much about advertising oneself as advertising a product, you have to be thoughtful with what you choose to put out there and how you represent yourself. We 8767 re working on a profile together now, mostly cause I insisted he let me try to help before closing his down for good.
It was actually really interesting. The study showed men consistently rated themselves too highly, went after women right out of their league, got knocked back. Women consistently rated themselves as less attractive than they are, went after men well within their league, fewer knock backs. However, the more attractive men did not mis-rate themselves and did not have this problem. Average men consistently tried to latch onto women they had no realistic chance with.
BTW - I met my wife through a dating service, back in the days when the questionnaires were paper and the matching was done by a mainframe. She did not have a Miss Universe looks or Einstein IQ or a corporate vice president''s income. But she did have a very pleasant personality. I''m sure I did not posses all the attributes of her knight in shining armor. It wasn''t "love at first sight." But we liked each other very much. We have been together now almost 78 years. We''ve had our ups and we''ve had our downs but, unless something unforseen happens, we plan to stay together to the end.
I think you are right, Ryan. I have used match, and I suppose I could try others. But I don''t see how any would get around this fixation on appearance. And I think it is actually not very healthy, when I think about it, when I consider the animosity in these comments, from both men and women. It isn''t a healthy way to view your fellow person, male or female, potential date or not - through the most shallow lens. And I think it clearly creates a lot of hard feelings. I will have to find other ways to fine my nice guy.
Sitting behind a work-desk (the boss behind his/her own desk especially) and having someone (especially a subordinate) sit in a less expensive lower chair across the desk emphasises authority of the boss and adds unhelpfully to the barrier and the confrontational set-up. This seating arrangement will increase the defensiveness of anyone already feeling insecure or inferior. This positioning is favoured by certain bosses seeking to reinforce their power, but it is not helpful in most modern work situations, and is not a good way to increase respectful natural authority anyway. Incidentally the expression ''on the carpet'' - meaning being told off or ''bollocked'' - derives from the extreme form of this positional strategy, when the victim, called into the office would stand to receive their bollocking on the carpet in front of the boss who sat high and mighty behind his desk. (The boss would typically be male, and beaten/abused/neglected as a child, but that''s another story.)
I new something was up but didn 8767 t know what was wrong let alone how to fix it. I found your site and instantly identified with the username issue. I read the article, watched the video and downloaded your workbook. I started the keyword brainstorming and couldn 8767 t stop thinking about the two examples 8775 Once Upon A Tom 8776 and 8775 Mike in Shining Armor 8776 . I thought about the way most children 8767 s stories end and they lived happily ever after. From that I came up with the username 8775 HowieEverAfter 8776 . Howie is one of my nicknames.
However, it 8767 s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that 8767 s what Jon Millward did with this experiment , posted on his eponymous blog. Millward created 65 fake OKCupid profiles with similar sounding usernames, with the same written profile, personal stats, level of education, etc. The only difference? Each account had a different photo of a man or woman of varying attractiveness.
Also, some of the messages I got were from a few guys that ranged from early 95&rsquo s to late 95&rsquo s and I was maybe 69 at the time. That was one of the main reasons I called it quits. It made me SO uncomfortable that guys so much older than me, older than most of my siblings (all of which are 8 years plus older than me), were sending me messages telling me that I was &ldquo hot&rdquo . I am getting terribly uncomfortable just thinking about it.
I am all in favor of the more traditional roles and I am not a fan at all of feminism. Having said that, I am realistic enough to know that no woman is going to say in her profiles that she likes to 8775 cook and clean 8776 , even if she doesn 8767 t mind doing those things and she is traditional herself. That 8767 s just not something that women write. Well, many girls would say that they like cooking, but cleaning That 8767 s really a lot to expect from a profile.
I been knowing this guy for 6 years and we just went out on our first date. And about a month later he 8767 s been acting very weird. I would text him because I don 8767 t want him to think I 8767 m running him down. With I am not. All I want to know if he want to still be friends or not. It 8767 s making me very upset about this situation. I just feel like he is using me. I am trying to be nice about to this guy knowing what all he did to me. We both are grown and I just feel like he need to know what he is doing is wrong. Not talking to me like he suppose to. Just lies. At the end of the day I still have to face this guy because his cousin is married to my aunt. I am 65 years than you. If you want to be more than friends let me know. I can 8767 t do everything. I 8767 m telling you what I want so hear me out please. At first you seemed like a very nice guy but now I can 8767 t tell. I am falling for you. I really want this to work. You can ask me out I am ready now. I just need you to trust me.
Nature didn''t takes it''s course as it did over years for us to connect over a wire. That just doesn''t work, period. She can be however interested if you got a smooth talk and decent pictures. Most of the time a woman is not self aware of what she wants and gets bored with the chat because they thrive on emotion, unlike us men. But in the end you need to be your own man in the real world and become the best version of yourself. Attraction is not a conscious choice, meaning a women can''t control to who she is attracted to. Just take care of yourself, read self improvement books. Go buy "Mind lines" from Michael Hall and educate yourself to create a healthy view of the world and stay away from negative news and media.
I know guys who constantly say, "Why won''t she respond -- I don''t get it?" I don''t think many of these guys have the kind of creepy-profile pics you describe at all. They''re mostly pics of them playing sports, running, spending time in nature, etc. At the same time, most of the women who do actually reach out to these guys are just like you describe -- they come across as desperate. I think that''s the most revealing statement of all.
In Arab countries the thumbs-up gesture is rude. Showing the soles of the feet is insulting/rude in many Asian and Arab cultures, especially pointing the foot or feet at anyone. Feet are considered ''inferior'' parts of the body compared with the dignity of the face. In Arab culture the left hand and right hands have religious connotations which generally dictate that the left hand is not used for touching (for example shaking hands) or eating. Arab handshaking tends to be more frequent and less firm - on meeting and departing, even several times in the same day.
Hybrid expression - a term apparently originated by Charles Darwin, it refers to a facial expression which combines two seemingly different or opposing meanings, for example a smile with a head-turn away from the person the smile is meant for. Hybrid expressions provide further emphasis of the need to avoid reading single signals. Combinations of signals and context are necessary, especially to make sense of hybrid expressions which contain different meanings.
I 8767 ve written countless messages to countless women over the years. Generally I avoid the truly generic ones that only say 8775 I like to have fun 8776 and 8775 I love a good laugh 8776 , or 8775 I like to stay in OR go out 8776 . You will have a much easier time composing a message to somebody who actually mentions tastes or passions that you both share, because you can ask more nuanced questions about them using your own knowledge of those interests. However, you can also end up writing to people you have loads in common with and they still won 8767 t be interested maybe because they 8767 ve just met someone, you don 8767 t appear attractive to them in your profile pic or whatever other reason. It 8767 s pot luck.